0:00 chat GBT your own language to explain to your parents in a way where they're gonna it's gonna click for them. Dude, that's ████ You gonna be on Viet GPT or what? Yeah, Viet GBT called the man. What's up everybody? Yeah, that's right. You're here. JK News aka the career boy era. We're having a good time today. Mhm. So, check it. Check it. When was the last time you got into an argument with your folks or folk for some of you? I was uh last month. Oh, that was recent. How about you guys? I can't even remember the last time I argued with my parents. Oh, you know
0:51 what? It wasn't an argument. It was It was a one-sided like she pissed me off. Oh, okay. Okay. Who's doing the yelling? No, we didn't. I didn't I don't yell at my mom no more. Who's doing the anger? I hung up on her. Oh, that's pretty bad. That's like murder. So, were you were you pissed after though, right? I mean, like, well, okay. So, um I have a family member that basically had an affair with another family member and ran away. Wait, like incest? No. No. like, well, they were married, so they're both my family members. Y just wanted to clarify for the fans. Yeah, it was a question. They had an affair. They ran away, right? And then um my relationship with them became Rocky. M
1:43 so I the thing is they were great to me and I have a good relationship with them but she left and then the kids I felt horrible for and then the rest of us came in and supported where they failed. So where she failed like we came in what a good family that's awesome. Oh, because of my love for them, I have resentment for her, but also I know she's nuts and and so I forgive her because of her world is so ████ crazy. So like it's not it's it's it's it's very complex because she was great to me. She she was a part of my life and I love her for that segment and my relationship, but the other part is like, dude, like you ████ up. You ████ up. But she doesn't think she
2:33 ████ up. Yeah. How could you do this to your family? Cuz in her mind, she's doing what God told her to do. Oh, is a religious. It's ████ nuts. So, I'm like, "Okay." Well, she had an awakening from she had a vision from God. You can't blame her. Really? Yeah. And then and then she got into that whole twin flame ████ You know how everyone's like Yeah. The It's like, "Oh, we're the real like soulmates." So everything in this world that was on paper and physical is actually not real. So the marriage and all these other things that were done is not real. But the real is I found my twin flame, so I need to go with them because in the spiritual world and in the true world, that's what she's supposed to be doing. You should have her eat Taco Bell and when she has diarrhea, like this is real, ████ That's what I'm saying. This is realame. I don't care what you
3:23 think is real or not, you're going to have diarrhea. Scorch flames, dude. So, my mom knows we're not speaking right now and um I have to process and I and I and I'll probably talk to her eventually, but um my stepdad passed away recently. So, my mom was um like telling me like, "Yo, how cool is this? I didn't even know this." I think you were gone when he told us, actually, yeah, it was a couple weeks ago. They were here. Oh, it's literally recent recent. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. So my I think you were gone too. Yeah. Yeah. No, but I was here. He was here. And then Steve and then whatever. But so yeah, he passed away and then my mom's alone in Japan. Yeah. So my other family members, they're there but a different farther out. She
4:15 made her way out, helped her out in a dark time. And I'm and I'm I'm like grateful for it. Right. So I But my mom, what she did is she's like she ambushed me. She tried to use that time of crisis to force the remedy between us. Asian way, right? So, she goes, "Oh, by the way, she was there. She had my back. Uh, and she's here right now, so go talk to her." Oh. And she did this thing. So, I was like, "What the f███?" And I hung up. Oh, damn. Cuz I was like, "That's Asian therapy right there." I was like, "Bro, like it's too sudden. It's like so impulsive. You can't do that to me like And I and I and I think it's so selfish because she was in such a rush to make it right so she feels good. And it wasn't about me. It wasn't about her. It wasn't the best timing for us. It wasn't about that. She just tried to she just tried to force us, you know? And you
5:05 wouldn't have really cared if she was over there, right? Like like helping your mom out or like gave you a heads up or something. I'm grateful for it, but I think gratefulness has to be something that I do. Yeah, it can't be. It's got to be like, bro, I heard what you've done and I'm super thankful. But when it's forced upon you because your mom manufactured that situation, now you're like, well, ████ you, ████ I don't want to do it at all. And then so they would do some back door ████ My mom like that. My my cousin called her up and then my mom was like I think the first thing she told my cousin was, "I ████ up." Oh, and she and then and then so she's like, "I feel so bad that I'm so impulsive and I have no self-control." Cuz my mom's like, "I just um can't resist it." So, it's like
5:56 it's like a uh she's it's it's it's almost what do you call it? Like um you know when someone just reacts because they just their impulse control is low. Yeah. So she was she was in a vulnerable point which I I give her that pass cuz it's like and she understands what she did wrong but yeah I'm using chat GBT right now to like explain all the things and boundaries and it's like if you do this then I um it's going to pull me away from you like I can't trust you cuz if if I can't the I had to boil it down and process why I'm pissed too cuz I'm like if I can't trust that me and you have like a uh like like this this place where like you're not going to ambush me and force me into situations without me leading the charge of like
6:47 I'm ready to talk to her. I'm I have I have to I have this sorted out. Especially in a sensitive like situation like this. It's not something where it's like a small thing. It's like you know there's so much complications and emotions involved too. And it's not considered it's it's it's too um to me at the end of the day it's too selfish because she wants to see the remedy so she feels relaxed. Dude, that's like some Asian mom ████ Exactly. Why is the why why are Asian parents like this? Like they don't have the capacity to like ask you and go, "Hey, how do you want to solve this?" They just go, "Y'all are ████ Just get together and ████ make up." Yeah. Just deal with it already. Just ████ hash it out. There's no reason why you guys should be arguing. Like that's Did you find out from your cousin that your mom had told them that like she's like, "Oh, I ████ up." Did that like give you any sense of relief or anything? Yeah, I did because uh back in the day, my mom would
7:40 be too proud and it would be like I don't know what's wrong with him. Oh, but for her, she realiz I think there's hella growth in the realization where she was like, "Yeah, I ████ up because um I acted impulsively and I didn't think it through." So, I don't know. She I don't think she know because she didn't apologize to me. So, for her, I think she would just keep sending me pictures and update as if nothing's wrong. Yeah. But then also a very mom thing, too. Ah, but my cousin telling me that, I was like, "Okay, cool." So, right now I'm like constructing what I want to say, but I don't want to like kick her while she's down because she just went through this like when someone's mourning like, you know, like like I ain't trying to like Yeah. See, you're being respectful of her
8:30 boundaries and you're being considerate of her feelings and stuff, which is what she can learn from. Yeah. And then so I ain't going to ████ lecture during that time. So, I just I'm giving her that support. But I'm also telling her that we we can't talk right now cuz I'mma yell at you. So for to for my self-control, I would start yelling at her and um lecturing her and then I don't think that's going to help her actually learn anything. She's just going to feel guilty and start crying, right? So I was like, "All right, how do I like actually solve a problem and like we can grow from this?" So I had to kind of figure out, all right, what do I want out of this? And it's like, okay, one is um I need to establish like some type of boundaries so she knows what's wrong. She doesn't know how to go by it next time. I think that's what it is. So I had to create like a list of like here's the reason why this is wrong. Here's how
9:22 you got to handle it next time. And it's and it's hard cuz I can't communicate like that in Japanese. So on chat GBT, it's ████ crazy, dude. I'll write a complex, you know, thing. Yeah. Yeah. Like in psychology like like we talk about self-awareness and we talk about like being able to um maybe consider the other person's thoughts and ask them first before. I can't say that in Japanese. So I'll sound like an idiot trying to say it and then she'll try to figure out what I'm saying. So I was like, "No, ████ that." When I wrote it on ShajiBT in English and I told him to uh do this in Japanese, I sent that to my cousin. I'm like, "Does this make any sense?" And she goes, "That sounds like really highle Japanese." And she's perfect. And she goes, "It it it communicates exactly what you want to say." So I was like, "All right, cool."
10:13 So I'm going to send that in. What up, guys? Come join our Patreon because there's hundreds of videos dating all the way back to 2019. That's right. If you click on the link down below, you can join our Patreon, join us on the Discord, come chat with us directly, have a fun conversation, and this will help support the channel's growth and new ideas. and also tap into our closer community by joining our Discord and get the opportunity to suggest video ideas like the ones you've seen. Thank you guys. Join our Patreon. Help us out. Thanks. See you guys there. Say hi to me. And then your mom's like, "Wow, I didn't know you could speak Japanese like that." You're um So your mom's like in Japan just alone right now or your cousin still? No, no, my um so her sister's there now. Like they they're all together. So she has people there. Yeah. But uh yeah, I just think there's like a
11:04 lot of emotions going on. So like I don't want to like Yeah. I And I also don't want to be angry at her while she's sad. This is like less than a month ago. Yeah. It's like several weeks ago. Yeah. I mean, that's the worst thing, right? And then like I I wish that I just kind of bit my tongue in the moment and I didn't hang up and I and I and I had the patience to, but I hung up because I think I would have just started screaming at my cousin and I would have been screaming at uh my mom and then like it just wouldn't be good for anybody. Yeah, it was sprung on you, dude. When stuff like that happens, it's really hard to control that stuff. But then you hanging up was like your reaction to that situation instead of like cuz now when you look back, you're like maybe maybe I shouldn't have hung up and just like kind of like you know go through it because but the thing is you can't
11:54 control it just like how your mom can't control the impulse to like here you go like I think him hanging up is actually the fire extinguisher and not the fire get out of the get out of the situation if you stay on the phone I think that would have been the fire the fire but now you have to learn how to prevent the fire and I think as I think in the future I'd probably be able to stay on the phone and work it out but I don't I I think I I know myself enough now to to don't do that yet when you're not ready. You know, it's like I know I'm not ready. So like Asian parents, it's like decades worth of triggering. Mhm. So it's zero to like a thousand. Yeah. That's all it takes. I think what makes me more frustrated is that I can't um express myself to the fullest ability. So then like I'm trying to explain
12:44 concept like psychological concepts, self-awareness concepts, all these things that are like advanced. How do you even say those words? You got to watch more anime, dude. Bro, maybe maybe cuz then one, you have to explain it and teach them. And then two, cuz my mom's not educated in that sense. Yeah. She grew up hella sheltered Christian and they didn't study psychology and things like that. Yeah. I think the key is to just make her aware of the situation which she is. But now the next part is like how does she how is she going to put that into practice? Yeah. You know like she's not what is the next time she's going to be in this type of situation again. You know that's another thing. She I mean to be honest she hasn't done anything ████ up. I just think that like she was in a heightened emotional state and it drove
13:35 her to do something desperate. Yeah. And how often does that happen between rarely? Like she's she's awesome. So that's the thing. It's hard to practice something that just comes like once in a while like you know what I mean? I I also wonder like the uh intensity of what like death does to you. Yeah, that's true. Because like that I can't truly fathom your partner. Yeah. Your partner. It's like when you are faced with like death, I wonder how like the waste of time gets magnified on things that are like seemingly petty. That's some family ████ though. For real. That's some family ████ Consider you're absolutely right because you have your own experience. But I'm just saying conceptually like you might be like death is can be tomorrow. Like what is this separate like you know? Yeah, that's true. Cuz that's a mom ████ to be like why are we all fighting about this?
14:26 Yeah, let's all move forward as a family. When you explain it to people, they're like, "Well, you're minimizing my situation now, and that's the hard part to get through." How do you find that middle ground? Well, I think it's it's because they're seeing it from their point of view, right? So, like the the way that my mom sees me and then my cousin is she sees us as kids and babies and cute. She doesn't see the other side of it. So, she just sees like, "Why can't we all get along and be like the good old days? She's failing to go what's what happened in your situation and let me hear that side of the story. She doesn't even care about it. And I think that's the issue with their generation is everybody in their generation, they think they ████ know already and they don't even have a question. They don't even care about your story. They have an image and an expectation of what they want and
15:18 that's all they're fixated on. And I think that's one of the biggest detriments to uh Asian boomer culture, right? like they don't have it in their mind to qu to ask you first what your perspective is. They already create the narrative and then act upon that. Mhm. Yeah. And then I think that's too complex of a self-awareness thing where like it's really ████ rare and if you have that in a boomer generation Asian, you're lucky as ████ But the default is nobody does that. Yeah. That's why, dude, that's such a good uh hack chat GBT your own language to explain to your parents in a way where they're going to it's going to click for them. Dude, that's ████ You going to be on Viet GPT or what? Yeah, Viet GBT. It's called DPT.
16:10 the man. I didn't have an argument with my parents really, but I did I do get into arguments with my brother sometimes cuz he's like very stubborn. And he grows up like him and I grew up in the same like way, same uh parenting, everything. But we're just two completely different people. And then when he does something that upsets my parents, I get upset cuz it's like, "Dude, you should know better." So I would uh lecture him in a way where I'm like dude like what are you doing? You know this is wrong blah blah blah. And then he would get pissed and then think thinking like like how come you're not taking my side? You're supposed to be my brother blah blah blah. But I'm like dude because we're family I get to say these things to you cuz nobody else can say these things to you cuz they don't know you like I know you know. And then so once he kind of realized like, "Oh
17:00 ████ like my little brother's trying to look out for me, once the emotions like move aside, then he's like, "Okay, cool." Immediately after our argument, he texts my parents like, "Yo, I'm sorry I upset you guys." I'm like, "That's what I'm looking for." You know, like just like some sort of acknowledgement. I'm like, it's okay to be wrong and it's okay to like have emotions, but like you can't just be doing the same ████ to like, you know, disrupt the family and like you're supposed to come over for dinner and like we're all supposed to have a good time, but then if you're like making people like feel a certain way, it's like, dude, there's something wrong that needs to be addressed, you know? And I I just straight up I I don't usually do this, but like lately I've just been like, dude, you're ████ up. like you I just call him out straight up because I'm like if you're surrounding yourself with people that are always like yes mans like you're not gonna who's going to call you out cuz they're
17:51 scared of him right but for me even though I'm younger I'm like dude our parents they're not going to like be able to change your mind so I have to say something you know so that's currently like my dynamic with them but I'm trying to also find a way where I'm like how can I explain and lecture in a way where like it's going to get through to them without pissing them off. That's the hard part. Like managing the emotion with the like this is what you need to hear, you know. Wait till they are done getting pissed off. That's the best. Yeah. No, he wasn't. It's me telling him was like pissing him off Molly's with them. Yeah. Yeah. Popollies have a convers. Yeah. Because nobody's going to say these things to him. Like who's going to like try to step up to the scary looking guy and say like, "Hey, you're ████
18:41 up, dude." Like nobody wants to say that. Yeah. Ken will though, huh?
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