0:00 Yeah. The only thing I can do is like let's say I have to do something like that. I I drink a double shot of espresso in a venti mocha frappuccino and it makes me so insanely social that I I'm moving too fast to even criticize myself. >> It crashes after. [laughter] >> Yeah. And then afterwards I'm like you idiot. [clears throat] >> Welcome everybody to another amazing episode of Careful Boys. Allow me to introduce everyone in the room. This is Joseph Jitsukawa. >> We have uh Mr. Barton Quan. >> Barton. [screaming] >> Wow. >> Today we are We are just so lucky. Oh my lord. We're so lucky. [laughter] >> Don't do that. >> How do I talk about you? >> We have the honor We have the honor of having with us in here in the room
0:51 today, Mr. Nicholas Dunn from NTE Training. >> Grace us with your presence. Ho everybody. Hoor. Thank you to be here. >> Obviously, like you realize you're everyone's favorite JK member. >> Pick the bun. >> Nah, you guys are tripping. It's not me. There's no favorites here. It's the collection of all of us, right? >> You're the funniest one here. >> You are the funniest one. >> It's cuz I'm not here all the time. So, I get to pop in and uh >> not the best jokes. >> Not even. I don't got to come back week after week. I'll run out of material. Dude, [laughter] if I come back next week, I'm going to sit on the couch silent. Can you take us through your process and how you gather material? [laughter] >> He has a note of jokes. >> He just keeps Oh, I'm going to save this for later. >> Ryan's going to say something about like I don't know. Actually, I'm not really good at writing. >> Mentions pumpkins. I got a good one.
1:41 [laughter] >> If he says I look like a pumpkin, I'm going to come back at him. >> Have you ever like like uh full vulnerability here? Have you ever looked in the mirror and like tested out a line? >> No. >> No ████ way. >> You done that? You're wait your whole life you've never been like let me see how this sounds and they just talk to yourself in the mirror a little bit. >> It's usually mean being like you're a piece of ████ [laughter] >> Honestly full transparity transparency. >> You're a piece of and he has the three of them too goes like this. You're a ████ [laughter] >> the trifold mirror. >> ████ you. >> You're at the Target. Can you not be in the fitting room right now? [laughter] >> Can you not wash your face in the fitting room? >> Sir, there's a three item limit. I always figured since you were always like the the only boy in the house like you got so bored. I figured you would have just like talked to yourself and ████
2:31 >> No, I definitely I definitely just did stuff by myself, but I never like talked to myself. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. It's all going on in here, brother. The voices won't stop. I'm trying to get them to stop. >> What about like when you do like, you know, when you record your lectures about like health and ████ >> I probably should practice that more. [laughter] >> Those are all cold one takes. Man, you're a genius. The problem. They're not. [laughter] And over time you realize, oh, I got to just do this more. No, but like for stuff like that, when I did do it, I would write it out, but I wouldn't ████ like look in the That's crazy, dude. >> You know, you know how ████ people do that? They just read lines in the mirror. >> You know how ████ I am? I used to like when I was in uh I think when I was in middle school, I used to act out being arrested cuz I thought it would look so cool. >> What the hell? Like you throw yourself on a car hood. >> I used to be like, "No, go me." [laughter] And it was just being by
3:21 myself in my room. >> I did my own version of that when I was in middle school >> cuz I'm like, dude, I would look so tight getting arrested. [laughter] >> But you got to sell it. >> GIVE HIM MY LAWYER. GIVE HIM MY LAWYER, MAN. >> Cuz what? And then and then when Ryan gets arrested, he freezes. He's like, ah, ████ What was [laughter] I supposed to do? >> Do you practice this, too? You're like, [laughter] >> the whole escape. [laughter] >> You're like, wait, wait, wait. Go. There [laughter] it is. >> Oh my god. >> That's a Deep Magic reference right there, dude. That's a deep cut. >> Yeah. No, I really thought like like when I was a kid, I'm like, "Dude, getting arrested looks so tight. I better be ready for that. I don't want to look like an idiot." Well, you got to do something to get arrested first. When I actually did get arrested and they walked me through the ████ block at Orange, I was like so embarrassed.
4:12 [laughter] >> The hell you get arrested for? For freaking tagging, man. >> Oh, >> me and you, dude. taggers, right? >> Tagging over each other's tags. [laughter] >> I I practiced Uncle Sam gets jacked in a mirror. >> Oh, that's cool. >> It wasn't a intentional practice. It was like I was literally putting on my contacts that morning >> and I and I saw the tears coming down my eyes like this and I was like [laughter] and then and I was like, "Oh, you know, be hilarious." And then I went to go uh put on the the hat and then I recorded the video. >> Well, that's at least like a productive thing. Yeah. >> Yeah. I was putting in the contest and the the solution was coming down. I just started crying like [laughter] >> so maybe there is something to saying stuff in the mirror and then practicing it. >> You never practiced like talking to girls when you were a kid [snorts] >> talking to girls. N >> the mirror dude >> like how you what are you going to say? You know
5:02 >> you would have a situation in your head but then it would obviously never ████ play out the way it would. >> Really do everything internally. >> You have a you have a nice brain. >> Hey, do you talk to yourself in your head or do you visualize yourself in your head? I do both. >> You could do it. You know, 40% of people can't hear their voice. No internal dialogue. Yeah. >> Get this ████ thing to shut up. >> You know who doesn't have internal dialogue? David. >> Really? >> I've asked him. He goes, "What do you mean?" >> Like, he can't talk. >> Yeah. He has to say it out loud to hear the thoughts. He has >> I believe it though. I believe it. >> That's why he works out his thoughts talking. >> Yeah. And then he's like, "Man, I probably shouldn't have said that actually." [laughter] >> Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Are you like me where like like I still to this day if I'm in a social situation, let's say that I have to go to this event and I don't know one other person there and I have to cold meet everybody. The whole time in my head I'm like that was a
5:53 ████ stupid thing you said >> really dude I watch one video here I'm like who the ████ laughs like who sits like that whatever I'm just criticizing everything >> say is so dumb when to strangers I'm like why would you say that? What is that? You know what the thing was too is like as a kid and I've realized this as I've gotten older is I would with my sisters or with my family I would say something and they would all just look at me and be like what the and they would just dunk on me and I'd just be like [laughter] never ████ say anything again. You know what I mean? So then as I got older I realized like how to weave the pocket a little bit and how to just like throw some in and they'd be like, "Oh, that was actually kind of funny and not like I'm not going to make fun of you now." Yeah. >> You know, so that was like my And I think that's where I kind of learned how to >> just shut the ████ up a lot. >> Damn. >> And just be like this like
6:43 >> how did you know if like a networking event or interview or like a audition or whatever. How would you know if something went well? >> I think that's the thing like we're probably the same where like even if it did, I feel like it didn't. >> Exactly. >> Like I just have a default like I said the dumbest ████ I could have thought of. You think everything went bad and then it's not until you get the response later you're like, "Oh, ████ actually went good." >> Yeah. The only thing I can do is like, let's say I have to do something like that. I I drink a double shot of espresso in a venti mocha frappuccino and it makes me so insanely social that I I'm moving too fast to even criticize myself. >> It crashes after. [laughter] >> Yeah. And then afterwards I'm like, "You idiot." >> Is it like everyone there you don't know? Is that Is it Is it like one of those where you go in, you're like, "F███." Yeah, like if someone invited me to a screening and there's a freaking thing at the end where everyone's like
7:34 mingling, it's like my worst nightmare because I'm not I I like have a social battery that I have to like I have to physically turn on. I feel like I'm churning it. You know what I mean? Like some people have it automatically, you know? >> I'm like that, too. >> Yeah. I feel like I'm I'm like I'm the power plant. I'm like, ████ I got to be social. >> I've realized I'm really bad at small talk. >> It's that's the most difficult. Yeah. >> Sitting with somebody and we start talking about something. I will let the conversation die. [laughter] Bro, and and once was it dead, bro? I can't bring it back. I start looking at my shoes. I start If I'm talking to you and we just finished a conversation. Oh, that's cool, man. Dope. >> It's >> I just start looking the [laughter] opposite way, dude. I don't know what's wrong with you. >> Getting notifications on my watch. Actually, >> I'm like, oh. You know what's a cool thing though that you also probably have? I think you develop the trait of conversational clemency, which is that
8:25 you allow people to if if the other person said something dumb, you're probably really good at not making them feel like what they said was >> No, I won't do that. >> Yeah, I don't either. I try to like make everything valid because I have the fear of someone doing that to me and I'm like, don't know, please. >> Or if I if I meet somebody and then afterwards in my head like somebody would be like, oh, that went well. I'll be like, you don't know that. >> Oh my god. Because sometimes too, bro, you know, like we've done that where you meet somebody and you're like, "Oh, cool, cool, cool." And then that person leaves and you go, "What a ████ asshole." >> So in my head, I'm that guy. I'm the what an ████ guy to everybody. >> So it's a projection cuz you're afraid to be treated how you treat people, you ████ >> 10,000%. 1000. That's why I'm trying really hard in my in my 30s to like not be judgmental at all. One of my fears too is when because I'm always trying to
9:15 give clemency when someone's talking to me and I feel bad to say I don't know what they're talking about. So if they're like making some kind of a remark about I don't know bioluminescence and I don't know what that is and I'll be like yeah [laughter] my fear is that they go you know what that is. >> You're like dude come on >> what do what do you know about do we know the same thing? >> Yeah. >> What's your you define it? [laughter] Worst is when someone's referencing a film and before I can think I just say, "Yeah." And then they're like, "Oh, dude, you like that movie? Like, what else do you like about it?" And I'm like, "Oh, ████ I'm going to just shoot myself." [laughter] >> Yeah. That's the worst. >> Okay. >> Now I just I just go like, "No." Yeah. I don't I've never seen it, actually. >> No, I never seen it. [laughter] >> See, you just shut it down. Well, no. Well, like I'll be like, when they're referencing it, I go, "Yeah." Uhhuh. And they're like, "Oh, have you seen it?" I go, "No.
10:05 >> [laughter] >> And but then but honestly though cuz it cuz it cuz it shuts it down immed like I cuz I've been the other guy where I go like like oh yeah yeah and they'll be like oh you know it. I'm like yeah. But sometimes that works too if you just say yeah and they just talk about it you're like yeah totally >> lovely Bones. >> Don't bring that up around me dude. I've never seen that movie. >> Yeah that is you know sometimes you're just moving too fast. You just say yes to ████ and you're like a ████ man. >> Or like I know what you mean but I haven't seen it. I don't really know anything about it. >> What about when people invite you to something? >> I won't go. >> Has [laughter] it ever have they ever hit you with an invitation too fast that you're just like, "Oh, yeah, that sounds cool." But then in your mind, you're like, "There's a 0% chance you'd ever go." >> Thousand. Like, it happens a lot. I think [laughter] it happens a lot. It happens a lot. Um, actually, not recently anymore. Or actually, no. If if
10:57 if someone I I really do like to spend time with and I do enjoy and they invite me somewhere, I will make effort to go. Oh, that's cool. ████ you, >> bro. I went to I went to cigar lounge yesterday. >> That's tight. >> It was on the way from the airport. >> I mean, those are I mean, that's your friends inviting you, though. [laughter] >> He barely >> Oh, you mean like someone random? You act like it's a networking event. It's us. >> It's us. I went to the Sakar Lounge. It's like, yeah, cuz we're there. And I killed it there. I ████ killed it. >> Do you think that went well though? Do you think that went well? >> Not really. I think I could have done better. I think I could have made my entrance on my egg. >> I should have held the drink in my left hand. I had it in my right hand. I had it in the wrong hand. >> Should have had a cigar. I would have The waitress was judging me for not getting a cigar. She's like, "What are you ████ lame, dude? You come to cigar lounge, don't get a cigar. What's wrong with you?" >> I just get a coke. >> Weirdest kind of like out of place uh kind of event that I've been to was uh
11:48 my buddy who is a tattoo artist, his neighbor was like, "Hey, we're having a little like housewarming party. It's an apartment." So, she's like, "Just come on over." So, he was in the middle of tattooing a client. We're hanging out and we're like, "Hey, let's go check it out." So, it was him, his girlfriend, the tattoo client, me. When we walked in, it was like a steampunk goth thing, >> right? But they were like, they really thought they were cool. So, everybody there was like in character. >> Are they not cool, >> dude? I think they're pretty cool, actually. >> But you know what the weird thing is? Like, she's cool. The neighbor's cool, but when we came in, >> it just felt like we were from one world and these guys are from a It's like orcs and humans, >> right? Right. >> We were the orcs, you know what I mean? Like >> Yeah. >> So, like when we walked in, like we were just trying to be normal and just meet
12:38 everybody and we're just cool. And then she's like, "Oh, yeah. He's an artist, too. Check it out." And then this guy with this girl, right? Like he goes, "Oh, what do you do? Tattoos?" And then Joe's like, "Yeah, man. I'm working on this right now." And we're just um um we're just uh working on this piece right here and then and then I do this kind of art and then we're just talking about and he goes, "Oh." [snorts] And then he just turns around and starts talking to his girl and making out with her and we're just >> that's a cool movie. >> We're just looking at that from Zoolander. Literally, it felt like these ████ imagine like if a bunch of rich kids thought they were just way too cool. >> Yeah. >> But they're trying to be like hella in the in the uh element, right? >> And we we looked out of place cuz it was like a themed birthday party that everybody got the memo for but us.
13:28 >> So the house looks a certain aesthetic. They all act a certain way. So it's almost like we came into Burning Man looking like Old Navy. What if the theme What if the theme was to act snoody though? [laughter] >> It's on the invitation. >> Snoody steampunk and everyone we talked to was like that. Like they were looking at us like, "Oh, >> you do that art." [snorts] >> It's like, "F███ you, ████ You got your outfit at Hot Topic." You know what's crazy? That's how I feel almost at every event. >> Every every day. Yeah. >> Every Wow. >> Every situation I go to that's >> I don't already know them. It feels like I'm entering into a different world. It's like it it it feels like I'm going into some something and everyone's already like, "Hey, how's it going?" "All right, Tommy." Like everyone has this, "Oh, yeah. Oh, say hi to the Mrs. Forman." Everyone's like that, right?
14:19 Corporate bar. >> I feel like everywhere I go, it feels like that. And I have to find a way to like gel into it. And then I'm like, "Okay, if you have a rhythm, that's how I feel everywhere I go." >> You should just match their energy with that voice [laughter] and see what happens. Is that even how it is when you go to like a fitness event where you don't know everybody? >> Wow. >> Allot all of them are have a certain language and energy >> and it always feels like I have to get myself to match wherever there are. >> Yeah. Yeah. >> Dude, that's so weird to me. Like cuz you know I'm extroverted, right? >> So like to me going it's like going to the San Diego Zoo. >> I'm going to see giraffes. I'm going to see some ████ monkeys. Like that's how I see these humans. I agree. >> Yeah. It's like, >> "Oh, let's go visit the cockatos." Because every person to me is like a
15:10 different animal. >> Aren't you trying to make friends with the animals? And what if like the giraffes reject you? >> I don't give a ████ >> Yeah. >> You don't want no friends with no giraffe, bro? >> So, you're not going there to like be entertained. >> So, so for me, it's like, "Oh, this guy's boring now. I don't care." Or like or or it's like, "YOU REJECT ME, I REJECT YOU." You know? >> [laughter] >> like >> but it's never that bad. I think it's because um I mean like >> if it was up to me then I'd be like I'm just going to stay home so the giraffe doesn't have to reject me and I don't have to reject the giraffe. [laughter] >> Maybe I I get rejected to my face but it it doesn't affect me. I think that's the thing. It just doesn't I don't I've never get rejected in my mind >> cuz I think cuz I I I am trying to go into these events to find common ground. >> Yeah. Yeah. >> So, I think because I'm trying to go
16:00 there to establish like the olive branch, >> to me, it matters if that gets established. And if it doesn't, >> it hurts when they spit on you. >> Then when I go home, I'm like, why did I even go to Why did I go to ████ VidCon to try to collaborate with people if everyone's going to not want to collaborate? I'm I might as well stay home, you know? [laughter] >> That's how it feels like. >> Haven't we done it so much to where you do f get connects, right? Like there hasn't been where we don't. I mean, I'm the guy that hates roller coasters and still goes on them. Yeah. >> But I till this day, I still hate them. And I know it's a necessary evil. So, I still do it. >> It's not even evil to me. That's why. >> Yeah. >> So, I think that's the difference where like I'm just excited to go cuz I'm like, "Oh, hell yeah." Like, I'm going to meet all these new characters. >> Yeah. It is really fun. >> And then the next stage is like I hope I
16:50 find someone I vibe with cuz then we can work on stuff. But then I'm going there with like no expectation of like I need to get this person's number or whatever. Yeah. >> Well, I hope uh you guys feel a lot more uh comforted that a person like Nick has insecurities. >> A confident man like him. >> Nah, dude. I'm probably the least confident one on this group. >> ████ SHUT UP, ████ SHUT UP. >> [laughter]
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