0:00 All right, imagine your friend, like a good friend, starts dating somebody that you hooked up with a while back. >> Highest chances of that is Anthony. >> Oh my gosh. >> I'm just kidding. Keep going. Imagine that. Like, uh, they're really, really excited about dating this person and you're the you only you know that like, oh yeah, I hooked up with them. Do you say anything? Do you mention it? >> I did. >> You did? >> This actually happened. But so the this is the story. It's uh um it's very close. It might be a couple degrees off. >> So uh when I was in the military, I was in North Carolina. And back in those days, this was 200 probably four, not very many Asians in the military. There was me, this guy, my other buddy Richard, who I met, and this other guy
0:52 named I'll say his nickname. His name is the friendly ghost. Casper, that's his name. because I don't want to say his real name. Um, we there's like a bunch of Asians and we immediately go, "What the hell?" Like that Spider-Man, right? So I talked to Richard and Richard's like, "Oh, oh, dude, where are you from?" And he's like, "Oh, I'm from Alhamra." I'm like, "What the ████ I'm from Monterey Park." So it's crazy that like we're both from the 626 and we're in the middle of butt ████ nowhere, North Carolina. >> Then I think along the way we meet this guy named Casper and then I was like, "Yo, where are you from?" He goes, "S Gabriel." And I'm like, "What in the f███?" So, it's crazy. There's four So, there's four Asian guys now that all just hang out cuz the SUV is the only downest group of Asians that's willing to go to the Marines. >> Yeah. So, we're all hanging out and we become friends during our time in North
1:43 Carolina. Um, and then I still stayed in contact with the Casper guy here and there. We still talk. And uh one day I see him post a picture of uh his wife I believe at the time now. And I was like what the ████ That was a person I lost my virginity to. >> The the the one that it was me, my cousin's bed, and my dad's bed in that room. >> Oh my gosh. >> And I was like, "No ████ way. That's crazy." Oh, do you remember one time we went to a club in LA and then uh I I I think I I think I was with you and I told you we went upstairs and my my ex was with her her >> Yeah. So I was I think I was laughing
2:33 cuz I was like my ex saw me and immediately hugged her new man extra tight. >> Um and I was like dude that's so funny cuz it feels like she's like super insecure like I'm taken now. And I'm like, this is already like however many years after high school. It's that chick. So, >> oh wow. Why you got to do that? That's so funny. >> And you don't even care at that point. >> I don't even care. I'm like, dude, what the hell? This is like I don't know this now. We're like 23 maybe and I was like 16, you know? >> Yeah. Yeah. >> Well, anyways, this guy is with her after after and I'm like and they're married and I'm like cuz it's way later now and I'm like damn, should I say something like if I'm I'm like maybe I should. So, I messaged him. Hey yo, dude. How's it been? Blah blah blah blah. But why? I don't know. I just felt like it probably would have came up. Like you'd want to know if it was you. I don't know. It just felt like this doing
3:24 proper like respect. >> I don't know. I feel like marriage is a big deal. >> Okay. >> So, if it was just someone he was just like >> a fleeing or whatever. But what what was your intention of telling him like he's going to go I'mma definitely get a divorce now? ████ Bart seconds. >> Oh, I don't know. like what? I don't even know if I had those attention cuz I'm also still young. I'm older now, but I'm like maybe I'm 27 now, but I'm still young, you know? >> So, I just felt like I don't know, maybe I had to it was my duty to let him. I don't know what it was, but but I was just like, "Hey, I was like, "Hey, uh uh long time no talk or whatever." And then I was like, "Um, hey, uh by any chance did her uh ever like mention anything or mention me or anything?" He goes, "Oh, dude, I know." I'm like, "Oh, okay. Okay, that's cool.
4:14 That's cool. That's cool." Yeah. But it was it was just a ████ trip to see like way different parts of real world. >> Oh, that worked out nice, though. >> That could have been really bad, right? >> But wasn't she from Orange County or something? >> No, she's from St. Gabriel. >> Okay. >> Which makes sense. They're both from St. Gabriel. Most people like date people in the neighborhood. Like it's not. >> But it is a crazy coincidence to run into them in some other state for some other reason and then that's your ex. Yeah. >> Oh, you know what the other crazy co-inka dink is? The other crazy one is she went to San Gabriel, but she actually lived in Almani >> and how we ended up getting together was uh when I first got kicked out of uh Critos to go to Keell. Uh-huh. >> Um, I guess all my homies from Critos were tired of all the yucky girls at
5:06 Cerritos. So, they were like, "Hey, are there any chicks that you could like hook all of us up with and we'll come to your guys' dance?" >> Ew. >> And I'm like, "Okay, maybe I'll try to like, you know, maybe see if I could like get a bunch of chicks together and then I'll pair all of you guys up." >> What the hell? Were you with a matchmaker? >> It's like grazing for a new herd. That's what everyone's trying to do. Everyone's trying to meet everyone's friends. You never did that where you're like, "Hey, we're going to go hang out with a group of guys and then you have a group of girls and then you guys hang out like it's a group date." >> No, never. >> We did all We always did that. >> I didn't do that. >> I remember even on AIM people would do that. Like, hey, randomly just give me one of your friends screen names and you would just like talk and you don't even know what each other looks like. You're just like, "Oh." You just chat, right? You remember that? Like, hey, is there anyone? I'm like, "I'm tired of my buddy list. Is there anybody >> I'm tired of my buddy list?" Yeah.
5:56 >> Remember um the group when they had the group calling was like they were trying to promote it so there was hella it was cheap. >> Talking about party lines. >> Yeah. Like you could you could call one person and then it's like free like connecting and then we were able to like just jump on hella calls. >> Yeah. You go on three-way and then just they go on three-way and then they go on three-way. Yeah. >> And then you had a huge chat with like 10 people >> and you can't even understand any word. >> I've never done that one time. You're good, girl. >> So, I met a girl I met a girl at Keo and then she was like, "Oh, okay. Yeah, I might have some friends. I might be down to hang out with whatever guys." So, she introduced me to her friend and then through text I'm like, "Oh, hey, what school do you go to?" "I go to San Gabriel." I'm sick. And we just started talking, you know, just being friendly. And then uh then I was like, "Oh, like where do you live?" And then she was
6:47 like, "Oh, I live on uh I live in Almani." And I'm like, "What the ████ I live in Almani." So, you're both that's both no, right? like if you live go to St. Gabriel, you should go to live in St. Gabriel. If you go to Keell, you should probably live in Monterey Park or Hamra. And we're like, "What the ████ You live in Omani?" And then um and I was like, "What street do you live on?" And she was like, "Oh, I live on Adelia." I'm like, "What the ████ I live on Adelia." And then so that's how we ended up uh meeting up. Were you like walkable? Walkable. >> Do you remember from my dad's house, if you head towards the liquor store? >> Yeah. If you head towards the liquor store, as you get closer to liquor store, there's like those apartment complexes on the right. Yeah, my friend used to live there. What the hell? >> Yeah. >> Was she your friend? >> She lived in there. The one on the corner. Does her name start with a T? >> No. >> It's a guy. Oh, but it's on the corner, right? >> Yeah. >> Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. >> Yeah. Yeah. So, we >> Her name was Testosterone.
7:38 >> And the first condom I ever bought was from that liquor store. >> Cuz you know how you're always like, "Oh, we're going to wait till we get married or whatever." Oh yeah, you were like that >> cuz we're going to save our virginity. And then the one day she was like, "I'm ready to f███." >> Then I was like, "Oh s███." So I got on my bike. I was I'm going to go ████ cuz she wasn't down to do it raw. So I was like, >> "Oh, >> let me hope there's some ████ condoms in this motherfucker." >> But she was down to do it in front of your cousin and and dad. >> I know. >> No, only at during that time was only >> That's worse than raw. >> It was only hand jobs. It was only hand jobs. Oh, >> when I got my room with my cousin. >> Ah, >> so gross. Anything next to your dad. >> But you so horny. >> Yeah, dude. You don't even care at that point. That liquor store, too, was like
8:28 someone's house that they just converted into a store. >> Oh, it was one of those ones. >> Yeah. So, it looks like a house on the corner. It has like a stoop and everything. >> Yeah. And then when you walk up to it, there's like beer advertisements and like popsicle stickers. Yeah. And then you would see like if you go to the back there's a door and then on the from the outside it looks like the back of the house and there's like cars parked. >> It was like ████ ghetto, dude. >> That's where you bought your condom, huh? >> Yeah. And I rode back. >> Dude, that's So then this guy who ended up marrying her, >> they got like two kids now. >> Did you ever when he said like, "Oh, don't worry. I know." Did you confirm like what exactly do you know? No. Did you go like >> You don't need to go that far. >> Yeah. Cuz I'm like I just wanted cuz like
9:18 >> what's between two people is between two people. So she can talk all the ████ she wants. >> That's not I don't need to know. I just wanted to I just wanted >> the connection. You needed to know the connection. >> What if he had said, "Don't worry, I know you used to have a crush on her." >> Would you correct him and be like, >> "No, no, no, no, no." >> It was a little more than that, sir. >> No. It was just whatever if if he says he knows, he knows whatever version he needs to know. That's all. >> I know you tried to hook up with her and she said no. >> I don't think I You know what? You know what you should have done? >> What if What if they hadn't been married yet and he was going to go after her? Like if he was he was he was going to want to hook up with her, then would you have told her the then would you have told him the truth >> of the extent? >> Yeah. He's like I'm trying to get with her. >> Yeah. Like he's trying to get with her. Like he's not married. >> He likes her.
10:08 >> He likes her. He's interested. >> Um, we weren't as close then, so I probably wouldn't. Maybe >> you just let it be, huh? >> Yeah. But >> yeah, but if we were like closer like cuz we used to hang on base. We would hang out every day. Uh, then I probably would. I'm Oh, like actually like And then I would still let him make up I don't make up his mind if he wants to or not. >> You missed a really good opportunity cuz when he said that I knew like you could have been like, "Oh, what does she say about me? Does she still think about me? Does she still miss me?" Oh my gosh. >> Am I still the biggest? >> She told me that. You know, >> do girls do this type of thing for each other? Like when girls realize that that a girl likes someone that they've hooked up with, do they even care to like say anything or are they just really good at letting things be how they are? >> Girl code. >> Yeah. What's girl code like?
10:58 >> I feel like girls would want to It's I think every girl's different. Some girls would want to know and some girls wouldn't. But I also feel like it depends on the status of the relationship and how close you are to that friend, too. >> What if you had a close friend that you haven't talked to in a long, like a close college friend, let's say, and then uh and then she posted a picture. So, you were super close in college. She posted a picture with a dude and that dude was who you lost your doggy style virginity to. >> Why? Why? Then would you bring that up or no? >> Um, and they're already in a relationship. They're already together. >> They're about to get married. They're about to get married. Yeah. Like, oh, she he just proposed. Yay.
11:49 >> But why would I tell her so late? Like, if we're active friends, I would have told her in the beginning. >> Maybe she kept them a secret. She didn't really post about him. You got really close really quickly. Yeah, she didn't post about him. She didn't post about them for a long time. >> I don't think I would have to say anything. >> No. Yeah. >> Cuz what is it going to change in the relationship? >> Yeah, that's true. >> They're already established. And like, do you judge someone based on their like does a history really matter at that stage? It wasn't anything bad or you know, >> I would have been mad. I'll be like, "Ah, you should have told me. I would have never married her." Cuz don't girls care more about the situation that could arise if she finds out later that you did hook up and you didn't say nothing when you guys were friends? >> And would she get mad at you? >> I know. See, that's a tough one >> cuz like guys sometimes care about that. But I would think girls are way more empathetic about like, "Oh, I should tell you this so you don't find out."
12:40 >> I think guys Yeah. care way less about it. >> Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. You know, girls are like, "I want you to find out through me." >> Agree with that. But on the other side, so there are some people who would say, "Damn, like I wish I didn't know that cuz now I can't unsee it even though it's in the past." >> Um, and it doesn't change anything about our relationship. So, I really think it depends on the friend and how you think they would whether or not they you think they would want to know. >> If you had a roommate that was a girl and she started dating somebody that you had hooked up with in the past, which means he's going to start coming around, do you say something in that situation? >> A roommate? Yeah. cuz we're going to be together all the time. I think out of respect someone they should know. >> Oh, okay. Like would you be like he likes when I ████ this way? So make sure you do it like that and then like give her advice. So then >> No. >> Oh, what do you mean? Like it's not
13:31 >> I think they could figure that out on their own. >> No, but like if I was hooking a homie up, what I would be like, make sure you ████ eat her out and put your finger in a bubble. She really likes that. She ████ amaz It didn't work out between me and her. It's all good. I don't have any issues, but just letting you know, just hooking a brother up, you know? >> You know what? Honestly, it's already like a not demeaning, but it's already like a uh to the gut, right? And then you're going to give tips. That's worse. Way worse. >> Yeah, but wouldn't she high-five you? Like, thanks, dude. Like, >> we're going to high-five each other. No, we're not. We don't do that. >> Girls don't behave like that. Huh? >> Yeah, but what Okay, what if it was more like not sexual? Maybe I ruined it by What if they like you chopped? Maybe they like chop cucumbers or some ████ Be like, "Hey, make sure like they really like chopped cucumbers. Make sure >> that's condescending." I feel like No, no, no, you don't do that.
14:21 >> Well, it would help me out because guys are clueless, right? So, you're just like, first you're dating her. I don't know what the ████ to buy her. I don't know what she wants. And then and then if you've been in the relationship for so long, you could have been like, "Oh, yeah. You know what she likes? She likes ████ cinnamon rolls." And I'm like, "No ████ really? Okay. Okay. I'll get cinnamon rolls with like candles and ████ >> So, if Hannah's ex wanted to give you tips on stuff Hannah likes, you would be rece you'd receive it. >> He's giving me the fast forward button and then cuz you know it's hard to observe. You're just like I got to pay attention to what I got to what are these things. >> That's true. >> Wouldn't that make you feel like like wow I really don't know Hannah the way I should? >> No. You're going to be like now I double Hannah. Double. No. Cuz imagine you already mastered your car and then someone gave you the manual. You're like, "Oh, I double." No.
15:11 >> I don't think he mastered ████ >> No, no, no. It's not like I'm asking him. He just um it's a new relationship and the ex is just like giving me a fast track. >> Giving you hints. >> I don't know. That would personally that probably make me a little self-conscious. >> Oh, that's cool. >> Yeah. I wouldn't want to know somebody got my girl's doggy style virginity. >> Yeah. I mean, I get it. Well, Jill told me one of her ex-boyfriends, she could put two hands and it still popped out. And I was like, "Thank you for letting me know.
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