0:00 [Music] welcome back to another great episode of careful boys today we have Brett over there on that side with Joe hey and we also have Gucci with us right here hey I wanted to know because like usually when you meet somebody that's like half asian half something else you always wonder if they had the kind of strict parenting that like we grew up with having like double Asian oppression but like for you did you have like the strict Style of like uh like how overbearing and how mean was your mom being the Japanese mom you know I think I had like the classic yeah like no sleepovers with friends like I had to go straight from school to home get my work done um all of that but then the older I got the more clever and cunning I got so like then I figured out like how to
0:51 sneak out the house without anybody knowing and um which is tough cuz we grew up in a one-bedroom apartment so somebody knew somebody knew um yeah but like in I I had I would say I wouldn't say like a tiger mom like I didn't do Kuman or anything like that damn yeah yeah my mom could not afford that um so it it was really like what she could afford and her you know she came down as hard as she possibly could with the time she had what were your what was your punishments for let's say if she did catch you sneaking she would beat my dog ass she would whoop my ass with whatever was around whatever she had your around the room type of ████ yes absolutely belts cord search prot search protector search protector that's when I really ████ up not the 12 Outlet one yeah the outlet not the Amazon one I literally I
1:42 remember um this is when I knew I was like oh I know my mom is like a little she's plugged in right cuz I remember this time I was like in the seventh grade oh ████ that's me my bad y'all I'm like who the ████ got their phone on stop talking ████ my that's the Tex yo let me tell you this was the time before cell phones though so this was the time before cell phones and um I I like I I met up with all my friends at a haunted house how my mom knew I was there I don't know like I snuck cuz she was she was off to work so I was like oh she's not going to be back until like 11:00 p.m. she got off early this was like after Halloween like maybe the day after Halloween and I never told my mom anything about what was happening in my life but she drove up in this GRE in the green Volkswagen uh um uh not a
2:33 hatchback what's it called the station wagon we had growing up it's piece of ████ and I knew that car was our car I walk out of I had a great time with my friends right first time ever at a haunted house ah so scary I walk out and when I tell you that was the scariest ████ I think cuz my mom is like this outside of the station wagon and how she knew I was there I could not ████ tell you and this is what she told me this is what she doing I was like I was she obviously she slapped me around a little bit get in the car I was in front of your friends yeah yeah oh no she didn't give a ████ one of those we're yeah so we're driving home and I was more shocked at how she found me so I was like Mom how did you know where I was she said she said I'm sorry I'm
3:23 done she goes she's pissed Jesus told me but yeah must what I said wa that's real Jesus told me Jesus told me how else oh my God I literally how else she never gave you the real reason how she found you that's how she told that's that's how it happened Jesus you ever ask her again no yo that's so mysterious cuz it's it's not a place that's like part of her routes or errands or anything no and it's not a place it was at a firehouse it's not a place that I went often ever right was so crazy that and she I can understand like she's you know me and my brother were all she had right so she was probably coming from a place of fear she doesn't she comes home and her kids are not there her like underage children
4:13 are not home what the ████ um and she has no idea we have no cell phone she can't get in contact with us um so I can imagine like going through those emotions at the time but then her seeing me and whooping my ass that tells you a different story as a kid you're like do you hate me how did you she finds you do you have a hunch on how she could have possibly like located you Jesus Jesus Jesus told her her you got to you got to ask her you have to ask her you got to see what she says yeah I have to she's probably driving for a while yeah that's pretty funny she just ████ go she found a church right next to the fire station ████ damn like I guess when we hear Bart's stories of him growing up with
5:03 his mom a lot of his punishments are so Buddhist based and like religious based did you have any like religious connotation type of rules or punishments that you had to deal with that were you know Jesus driven like naus to a cross no I think cuz like the Bible encourages you to beat your kids so that's yeah I think that's the main one yeah what about like uh any like superstitious beliefs that you had to ad here to because your mom believes it oh my God I remember actually I I do tell a joke about it but I remember my mom telling me that um you're not allowed to whistle at night because it can call Spirits into your home I heard that too yeah that's true that's true that's it's Japanese is it Japanese no I don't think it's particularly Japanese but I um
5:54 she's who told me so I thought it was a Japanese does any Shady Behavior at night Asians don't like you can't do she like don't don't use the knife at night too use the knife at night that's what she would say I've had people in shows like Latinos some some like native uh American people they they have similar things so um like don't open the umbrella inside the house yeah that's one that's one there's that one is that Asian or is that like I don't know did you guys can you guys open umbrellas inside the house or no I Ain never heard nothing like that really so it is an Asian thing don't ride the horse in the house no riding the steer don't laugh with your brother your brother 12 p.m. down that's so funny so I remember saying that to my babysitter my babysitter roasting the
6:44 ████ out of me they were young whistling yeah they're like that's a ████ tr ████ my mom said it yeah I can't whistle did you ever get caught whistling at night no they were whistling like while they were driving and I was like you can't do that because there were going to be spirits and they like no you idiot that's not true ████ what about growing up in a Pentecostal Church what was that oh my God The Dramatics it's so dramatic drama yeah yeah it's theater every single week it's improv oh man that ass though yeah it's music there's like praise and worship most of the service was music really it's very musical growing up in a black Pentecostal Church like you know sanctify Holy Ghost fil yes God like that's the church that I went to um and for whatever reason my mom only went to mega churches with only
7:34 like celebrity pastors so yeah so they got good ads yeah yeah was she always like the only Japanese person in yeah literally yeah that's that's the best part probably you know what we find out she's actually black so whole time she goes I need to be with my people I need to be with my people that probably is the best Church to go to right for sure yeah Pentecostal black I think so if I had to pick one that' be to I've been to Japanese churches yeah pretty boring boring Japanese churches is nothing but like who want Japanese Church Japanese churches as you walk in it's like how do I make you suffer more by giving you way more rules and fearmonger you into into going to heaven that's very that's all it is oh you ████ up here you ████ up there you I already had to deal with that five times like 5 days a week
8:25 There's no music well there is but you're like singing hymns that are like from 1920 yeah it's like Great Depression era s█████ era old school HS with a pipe ass organ and ████ like Count Dracula lives there dude himn book a heavy book 100 Pages sounds lovely pretty hard what about like so in that church like we were talking about they were doing the uh speaking in songs and stuff you never you never achieved that power I never achieved it no you never got to that level huh no man I never reached the level 10 level you got to go back you got to find one out here more Holy Ghost continue your studies that as a kid like growing up seeing all that I guess because I was around it my entire life it was normal and then I find out later that it's not normal that's not everybody's upbringing I was like oh
9:16 really like when people said that they go to church I was like oh yeah you know when you speak of tugs and stuff and they're like we don't do that and I'm like what that's off shoot one too yeah what level you on then what level you on that yeah it was you know I would I was like also a really rebellious kid like I I think the idea of God I I I think if any I don't really like identify with a religion now you know I believe that there is God because if you look at all the religions they're all the ████ same really um do I believe in Jesus Christ yes I do but um I I think what religion does to people is like it gives them this weird complex that they think that all of a sudden they're better and so I would like get in fights with the elders at the church a lot it was just like 15 16year old me like my biggest
10:07 Ops at the time were 70y old women wow biggest op how do how did they respond to you questioning stuff hey what's up guys just in case you have seen some of these lovely pieces on some of our gentlemen here these awesome Jade pendants or you may have seen the recent JK Adventure where we went to J Jewelers just remember that the sale is on now if you want to visit the j.co you can even find some of the stuff that our guys have had and way way more the selection is huge so make sure to visit the J Jewelers and check out what they've got check it out let's go um they just thought I was really disrespectful being rude they wouldn't give you like real answers for the things you asking exactly cuz I was really inquisitive I wanted to know answers and like nobody was giving me answers um and I think I was the way that I was because in my household my mom although she was the authoritative
10:58 figure like we were still kind of we were kind of on the same level if you will like we were like I said we were growing up with each other right so my idea of um Authority was really skewed at that age yeah what was the biggest thing you got in trouble for with her though with uh my mom yeah the biggest thing I've gotten in trouble with her did you ever get like did you ever get busted for like doing something legal and she had to come pick you up anything like that or like o I've had a few real bad oh I think like uh oh yeah maybe fighting once I did fight yeah I had a fight yeah and I was 15 years old and 15 or 16 I can't remember new this is in New York yeah this is in high school and that was like the only fight I've ever been in was about it was some girl like some girls there was a guy that liked her but he liked me and I was like I don't give a ████ and she
11:49 just I really didn't I did not care um and she like kept talking ████ and kept talking ████ I said okay well you want to talk ████ like let's do something about it so she waited for me Friday this was a Friday after school but I was like my outfit is too fly I can't fight you today so I literally I was like I was like No And she waited with like a group of her friends so I was like nah no no I'll see you Monday on my terms cuz now I see you about it right so over the weekend I bought myself Vaseline and a doag and I came my fighting fit yeah I came in a white T-shirt and some blue jeans and some Tims and I waited for her after school I was ready yes got the Vaseline for the slip for the yeah exactly hey that's smart though dude exactly smart exactly um and then like I
12:40 pressed her I was like I was like oh so you wanted to wait for me after school what's good um and she was just you know at that point she was like backing down and I was like no no no I didn't know you going to bring Vaseline I know you're going to wear Tim why you so shiny why you so shiny yeah I was like I was like I'll let you get first hit she hit me yeah yeah she hit me I was like I I immediately knew I was going to whoop her ass cuz the only person I've been fighting at that point was my brother oh good training yeah good training yeah yeah he wasn't letting up on me too like we've had some pretty nasty fight like fist fights yeah yeah yeah so the first hit you let her have was on your face um yeah she I think she like slapped me the poor girl she had no idea what she was walking into amateur so how' you hit her how'd you ████ her ass up just W yuck yuck and she was like really fair so she turned black and blue so quick so I think it looked like I did more damage
13:31 than I actually did yeah the poor baby she didn't deserve that poor baby so did you guys figure it out did you guys figure out your love triangle afterwards did you guys like work it out yo her parents actually tried to press charges on me really yeah yeah so did you get with them just a spider yeah what did you get with them just a spider no no he was you didn't even care about that no I didn't care I didn't care about that at all but like I had street cred now at that point I was like in 10th Grade I was like yeah and so they had to call your mom right yeah yeah so we had to go to the police station and like the police station yeah yeah they serious mhm yeah they they sponged my record but um yeah I did probation at my church yeah but like they mapped it out the way the the location of the fight didn't make sense for her story because it looks like she went out of her way to fight me so that's why they forgave W so
14:24 you're just defending yourself basically yeah exactly mom taking it she whooped her ass at home yeah what was her first reaction um I think she was just really disappointed she called my older brother um my oldest brother who's now has pasted but he was like the closest thing to a father figure at the time she's like I need you to talk to her I don't know what to do with her anymore that was like part she part she broke down she's the going to go to J I created that must for real that's your mom yo I really feel like we all had the same mom low key oh sometimes these stories I'm like did we have the same up so you have to do community service at the church you have to do like hours right and clean windows and toilets and ████ yeah that's tell that you were able to do it for your church though yeah yeah so I would just hang out with the old black
15:14 dudes at the church and just crack jokes like like hey you beat her ass huh level up for your comedy game I'm like 15 years old yeah I'm doing that wow that's pretty tight that's good so your mom didn't add any other punishment on top of like what you already had to deal with no cuz we didn't even have much so she couldn't take anything away so was just you know at that point I think she had had enough of me cuz that's around the time that her and my relationship started to get really Rocky like it was like we were really butting heads yeah I don't know if like I don't know if everybody has that story but like for me it was really tough like at that point we're like throwing ████ like it was that like a bad relationship for a while boy yeah yeah he was body slamming his mom I
16:04 think what she had a coming though yeah I forgot what the incident was but it was uh my mom she came at me with like you know the Chinese Cleaver the one that they chopped ducks in like oh my God the big square one yeah she came at me I was like 15 to roughly around that age she came at me and then I was like what the ████ ████ you crazy so I was like I ducked I picked her up and then I I slammed her on the couch and then I walked out and then um yeah yeah she was in a robe she had like face cream on my friend came and then I came back home at 2: a.m. and my mom was sitting on the front lawn like this like cross-legged in the same robe going yo and then my homies were like yo your mom's tripping I'm like I know she be like that every day no literally literally The Dramatics
16:55 they're so dramatic my mom will like I don't know we could be talking about some regular ████ like like oh Mom I'm sorry I couldn't like go pick up your dry cleaning you don't love me I'm going to kill myself how did we get here ask the service that's that's her love language that's her love language disrespect in the act of service no literally my best friend told me a story about TJ you know come on suicide be crazy happen often often to this day I think that's a Japanese day it's a very Japan they're all comicazi yeah literally they are willing to end it any minor my mom crash out that was that was like the first go it's not even the last resort it's the first goto it's the first thing
17:47 yeah I don't want to find out what what could be bigger than that world domination I don't moms are really good at Guild tripping though good as hell that's their number one ████ super super power the way my mom would always be like why I have these kids that do this to me huh I I get burn I lost you how much blood I lost from you and this what you do to me I give you everything I give you my everything oh my ████ I guess what how much me that my mom had a C-section and she used to tell me like that uh after she got cut open like she she couldn't even she needed a pee and she could even get up cuz she had all these crazy stitches so she had to like crawl and then like my my grandpa came in I was like oh my God my poor baby and I had to help her up to go just to use the restroom she's like I did all that for you and I was like no you were just horny what the ████ yeah put that on me
18:40 dude what a thing to hear from your kid dies right I was dad just left it in yeah that's what happened and you were happen to be ovulating it was a perfect circumstances you have a two-day window feel like this crazy bir bur on you like I did all this for you I'm like I don't even know what the hell is going on I was like a ████ swimming sperm and ████ you just chilling man you you just happen to win the race yeah what's your relationship like with your mom now that you're on your own and stuff um so uh it's the same I think it's still really turbulent yeah like I try to keep it real copesthetic I just like learn how to be around her she's not going to change my mom's 62 years old like yeah that's right and she's not I I had to accept that this is who she is this is how going to and this is how it's going
19:30 to be and I think I cuz I also empathize with her story I think I know so much about her like my mom is like didn't have a regular upbringing herself she was also the result of an affair so she has the last name which is the last name I carry now of a man who disowned her like literally wrote her a letter and was like I don't want I'm not your father I will never be a part of your life she found that when she was like 8 years old so she deals with like her own abandonment issues That's Heavy bro yeah so she can literally tell me stories of like because her her name is different than um her mom my grandma's name her last name is Sao right and so she she uh enrolls her into school she has a different last name komaguchi and so they know okay she's born at a wedlock so like the treat teachers would treat her so bad and this is like back in the 60s and 70s so they treat her bad they threw books at her apparent she told me
20:21 yeah I people are rough they were yeah they would like really treat you like ████ yeah so like imagine that your entire life right so you're going to have some issues you're going to have some issues yeah um and their generation does not believe in therapy so I just got to accept her for who she is there might be hope my mom changed in her 60s you think so yeah just depends on how much she chills out yeah you said what you said your mom recently started chilling out her her relapse is like 3 days though yes like it'll feel like it'll be like we don't talk for 2 or 3 weeks so she misses me she softens up and then we talk and she finds and we try to like work through some of the stuff that we had and she's like yeah you know what you're right we changed and then cool we start talking again and then the Third Day always relaps back to her crazy ass self and I'm like okay I
21:11 need to take another 3 week break and then softens up again it's just the same out your do same cycle cuz I I recently had a fight with her she um I was a part of a pilot and that dropped and my mom called me she goes Tachi what's this about right I said oh actually do you remember the day that you dropped me off at set and you told me I was desperate and I didn't I take any job that comes to me um you remember that day yeah that's what that was she goes you just always thinking about the past that's what my mom they don't like being C down no they don't like why you got to bring that ████ up so long ago she goes she literally said I make changes for no reason I she literally goes I'm going to just
22:02 kill myself I said oh my God she goes I'm standing in the middle of the month and I'm going to hang up goodbye there's a bu coming my way does she think it's really for go-to huh it's the go-to every time I didn't know that I didn't know that that was the go-to for your I'm like cuz we didn't work through it yet we we're trying to work through it and then as soon as it gets to a I got to bring that up the subject or do whatever I'm like well then it's keep coming back like come on man can we just bury that ████ what about I Gave You Peaches does she think does she think it's really cool that you're doing something for the Japanese Community she's black remember or she like yeah she abanded the Japanese Community years ago or is she like why not the black no I think she me I'm an African she I think recently she
22:54 realized um some of the the feeds I've taken on like I uh was an MC at the Japan Fair the OC Fair um Japan dat best yeah that was really cool to be able to uh do something like that cuz I I mean I think I've I didn't really grow up in a very Japanese Community but I did have a Japanese upbringing so I have that as my identity but also not really feeling like a part of that Community um just purely based on how I look nobody looks at me and like oh that's a Japanese woman never um so I think elements of that made me feel like disconnected with my identity but the more up and I'm like I get to tell my story it's like oh yeah this is my experience do you speak Japanese a little bit like I speak like a child oh okay but you spoke to your mom in in Japanese like growing up my mom spoke to me in Japanese really because my mom and my dad did not get along and she needed someone to talk to
23:45 so that's how I know Japanese but like I learned it from a parent speaking to a child so that's like how I speak and that's not respectful you can't do that to Strangers Like condescending yeah yeah um so but yeah so um that she she saw a flyer my mom works at a Japanese company and so the flyer went around she's like she goes this is you my my cker told me she was yeah she was really excited she felt like really proud That's So Dope that's cool yeah that's cool full circle yeah and I think like parts of us do want our parents approval I think you know not me D he wants it the most obviously I don't give a ████ take it or leave it yeah whatever think that's dope that you're in with the community out here because you have a more unique voice and more unique things to share yeah and I think it's a there's a lot more
24:35 asian-americans out here too cuz like where I was growing up if there were Asians it would be like sprinkles of Filipino and but like really spread out or um like Fresh Off thebat Chinese immigrants and I can't talk to them they're my favorite you heard it here folks my favorite guy um it'd be really funny like the Chinese immigrants will have their Chinese accent but a New York accent on top of it it's like that's the Swang SW yeah yeah it real cool that's tight thanks for sharing all that thank you guys
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