0:00 Okay, this one is I'm going to have to get all you guys' opinions on it because a friend of mine had a falling out with another friend over a comment that he had made on his uh notes. You know, like on a You know, like on Instagram you could put those little notes at the top of like there's like little bubbles. >> Oh, yeah. Yeah. >> Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. So >> Like the daily [laughter] notes? >> Yeah. So he wrote something on there and this other friend who's a girl got really upset with him about it. >> Did he write like maggot or something? >> No. >> [laughter] >> That's why I'm going to I'm going to tell you exactly what happened and I want you to tell me if this truly was like a misogyny moment. So So he's uh >> Who Who Who had the note? The guy had the note? >> The guy had the note, yeah. So this guy he's currently
0:50 flirting back and forth with this one girl who uh is a is a single mom. And they're like, you know, they they have a friendly little flirtation thing going. They you know, they both like say little quips to each other online and stuff. And so like he posts on his uh on his notes thing he writes uh "Hmm, might have to become a stepdad." Like just as like a joking way like cuz you know, he likes this girl. >> He really likes her. Really likes her. No one wants to be a stepdad. >> And then so >> What? >> [laughter] >> Yeah, so that's him like just joking like oh, I really like her. I might have to you know, >> So the the little words were I might have to become a stepdad. The little words. >> It's exactly as I said it, yeah. Hmm, might have to be a stepdad. Yeah, it's it's exactly that. >> Wait. Wait. That exact girl got mad or another girl got mad?
1:40 >> No, another girl. A total different girl got mad. >> Oh my god. >> So this total different girl >> Well, you lost five >> Is he friends with her or >> Yes. Yeah, they're friends. Yeah. >> Can we call her ████ face? >> Stop. >> Well, you might want to wait. I don't know if you'll feel that way. Um so >> [laughter] >> So she basically just asks him first of all, she's like like who is that? What are you trying to say? Like what are you talking about? And then he's like, oh no, he goes um He goes, yeah, there's just this girl that I'm chatting with has a 2-year-old daughter. Uh, baby dad left when she was pregnant. And he's like just giving her context. And then uh, she goes, what the heck? Leave that poor girl alone. If she's a mom and you're just going to use her, that's horrible. The child doesn't deserve that either. Damn, I didn't know you were this gross. >> Why did ████ face jump to conclusions? >> This is insulting to all women. Cuz I think she thinks that he's just like
2:31 using it as like a sexual joke. >> Is that his reputation? Like he doesn't stick around? >> Like he's just going to hook up? >> He doesn't always not stick around. >> [laughter] >> What the >> So, his track record is like kind of wishy-washy. >> So, is that why the girl went straight to like, don't just use her? >> Well, she doesn't know First of all, she doesn't know his reputation anyway. So, it doesn't matter. She doesn't really know that. She's just mad that he made a comment about like um about a single mom in a sexualizing manner. That felt like, you know >> Is she a single mom? >> Yeah. >> That's why. >> But it doesn't seem like it's a sexual It seems more like he's actually like in love. >> I can tell you he actually likes this girl. Like he actually likes her, right? But And he tried to explain that. So, he says >> Cuz it'd be the same thing if like let's say I'm a known vegetarian and then this
3:21 new girl I'm talking to loves ████ meat or whatever and I write like, I guess I'm going to be a carnivore now. It's like, wow, like this guy is going to change change his values. He likes this girl so much he's willing to change his values because no guy wants to be a stepdad. >> Right. >> No, guys. >> [laughter] >> Right. So, then he goes on to say, haha, it's not that serious, lol. Like he's trying to tell this friend like, dude, chill, it's not It's And then she goes, the fact that you think talking about a mother like she's a sex toy for you is disgusting. It is serious and I feel embarrassed for you and your mother. >> Where did he even say that, ████ face? >> Stop. >> [laughter] >> Hey, uh don't you guys at this point in life have like friends that understand you enough >> Yeah. >> to where they don't need to correct you?
4:12 >> Yeah, I don't >> I think this is what blows my mind here is that like no one needs to confront me cuz they know I'm ████ nuts. >> Or they know where you're coming from. >> Yeah, I don't know if she's like I I don't know if she's really there for that, but uh so he ends up saying like >> Oh. >> he goes, "The ████ Like you you take it so serious." He goes, "But her, the girl I'm talking about, and myself, we're not taking it serious. I told her straight up how it is for me and she's cool with it. So is it still disgusting now that she's cool with it and still down for it?" And so he's like, "At least I'm not one of those guys that are in an actual relationship and cheating." Cuz he's single. And he goes, uh and he says, "Nah, bro, I'm single and I tell women my intentions straight up. I'm respectful about it and if they're not down, then I leave them alone." And
5:02 he goes, "Who the ████ are you to bring my mom into this ████ Rest in peace to her." Cuz his mom's passed. >> [gasps] >> STOP. >> YEAH. >> YEAH. So then she ends up saying, "You're still gross and low value. Sad your mom is dead and you talk about life like it's trash." >> Woah. >> And then he goes, she goes, "She gave you life and you're just embarrassing her. Yeah, rest in peace to her. Thank goodness she doesn't have to see how horrible you turned out." >> WOAH. >> SHE'S DOUBLE ████ face. Why is she so mean? >> Damn. >> She came for a fight, though. >> Bro, yeah. [laughter] So So this dude So my friend sends me that and he goes, "Hey, you want to see something funny?" And he sends me this whole conversation. I'm like, "What the ████ happened there?" Like it just jumped to such a crazy and he's trying to give her the context like, "Hey, we banter like this. This is our thing. It's funny. Like it's
5:52 >> Well, I think she's already made up her mind. >> She's got some like chip on her shoulder, right? >> I think with that first confrontational message of this is disgusting, she's already made up her mind. She's not going She's not there to be like, "Oh, that's your point of view." She's there to go, "Stop that. You're being ████ inappropriate." >> Yeah. >> So, I I I I don't think there's any what do you call it? Like there's no point trying to be a friend. >> I mean, I think I when I initially heard it, I really didn't think that much of it. I don't think it's a big deal. >> Yeah. >> On that same note, if they're friends, I think it's good that he was trying to explain himself. I think that's positive, but he could you could also be offending someone else. Like it's So, you the same thing might offend one and might not offend the other. So, if you were a
6:43 friend and you care about this friend, the girl, then you can say I think there's room to say, "I'm sorry if that offended you cuz I that's not my intention, right?" >> Oh, like he can de-escalate it a little bit. >> Yeah, like I'm sorry if that offended you, but also here's how the other like here's the person that we're talking about and this is how she feels about it and this is what our banter is. But at the same time, I'm sorry if I offended you cuz that could still very actually much offend her because she's a single mom, too. >> Okay, yeah, yeah, it could. But that doesn't make single moms look good. Now they're like, "Oh, they're crazy. I definitely don't want to I definitely don't want to be a step dad." >> That is people who would jump to conclusions. >> [laughter] >> Yeah, it was weird because it's not like he was even addressing it to her specifically. It's not like he was saying, "Oh, single moms out there." Like he was just talking about one specific girl.
7:33 >> to stand up for for people who are like her, right? But that doesn't also mean that you like because you're offended about something doesn't mean someone else is. I think what she's trying to do has good intentions, but it's not it didn't fit here because the person wasn't offended. >> Cuz he said it like he had heart in his eyes. Like I get his anatomy is that there. >> That is the context. Yeah, this Yeah. >> I think she could have said, "Hey, what you said on there was really offensive to me." >> Cuz I'm a ████ face. >> I think this the problem is that she's not taking ownership of it. She's She's basically trying to be like a like a martyr for something. It's like It's almost like, you know, like those white Karens that are like like trying to fight racism, but it's like you're fighting the wrong people. You're misdirecting your anger. And I think this is that situation where she's not taking ownership of like, "Hey, you hurt me." She's like, "You're wrong because
8:25 you're being you're being you're being inappropriate." Versus And I'm like Yeah, if she did that approach, I think the conversation would be different. Same with him, too. If he if he was just like, "Oh, yeah, we're friends. Like why why you coming at me with this energy? This is weird." >> Yeah, cuz that's dismissive, too. With him being saying that is dismissive to how it made her feel. >> Maybe she's actually horny for him and she just doesn't know how to channel it correctly. And she got mad. She got jealous. >> I can definitely tell you that she's not horny for him. But but the funny thing is that it's uh So, you know, with her her perspective of this of like how he's like shaming making women look bad, okay? All that whole thing. Does your opinion of this change if you know the context that she herself is a prostitute? >> Who's a prostitute? >> The girl that's The girl that's pissed off, yeah. >> She's a prostitute? >> She's an actual like escort, like
9:15 >> I don't understand it. Like why would she be mad? >> I don't think it changes the equation to me. >> It doesn't, but it it makes me understand the sensitivity to the comment. >> Really? How so? >> Because she's sexualized constantly. It's her job. >> And she's a single mom. >> And she's a >> So, that's why she's >> So, it's very personal. That comment could be very That's a very touchy subject. No pun intended. >> [laughter] >> Okay. If >> But it doesn't change anything from I agree. It just gives me more. >> Like what if the killer liked velvet gloves? I'm like I don't know. >> What? >> [laughter] >> She's also a stripper and so like the whole time that she's like chewing my friend out he just keeps texting back over and over, "Aren't you a stripper?" >> [laughter] >> And she'll say she says this whole thing
10:05 still mad at him and he goes, "So like aren't you a stripper?" [laughter] >> That's so bad. >> And she's not addressing that. She just keeps like getting mad at him. >> Well, cuz it makes sense cuz it'd be like um >> God, this conversation. >> If I were to paint a parallel of it, this is what it would feel like. It would feel like like let's say um my non-Asian friend like wrote ching chong bing bing bong bong, whatever, right? And then >> [laughter] >> me as a Asian person uh because they're my friend, I know where they're coming from, I won't even take offense to it. >> yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. >> But like let's say someone else took offense to it like an his other Asian friend but then that Asian friend is a comedian. >> Oh. >> So I think the non-Asian friend, that's why they're saying like, "But aren't you a stripper? Like you of all people like
10:55 should understand I'm not sexualizing. Like you're literally in the sexual industry. Like you know what I mean? That's how it's like what like where Yeah. Like that's sexualizing. You're a stripper. >> Yeah. >> And so I would see why he would keep repeating that because he's like, "What the f███?" >> Because he's being accused of talking about a woman like she's a sex object and he's like, "You are a sex object." He's like, "What are you talking about?" [laughter] >> You make money off of being a sex sex object. You have a career. >> That was his point and I and I told him I'm like, "Okay, I agree with that sentiment being like yeah, it should be easier to listen to a person say like, 'No, I wasn't doing that. I actually like this girl and just go okay, good. But it got weird where like they're like no longer like friends now because of that. >> I mean they both had low blows. I think saying are you a stripper over and over
11:45 again is a low blow and I think bringing his mom into it and like calling that shameful. Like I think that's a low blow. >> I think that's the lowest blow. [laughter] >> I'm unlike Bono's. I think stripper is a high occupation. >> Not the occupation. I'm saying the comment is a low blow. >> Oh, to like derogatorily say that? >> Yeah. Aren't you a stripper? Aren't you a stripper? Like that's a low blow. >> But then that's coming after the mom blow, which I think was way worse. >> I think they're both s█████ and you don't need to meet low with low. >> Oh, okay. So what >> This whole thing could have been prevented in like 10 sentences ago. >> Yeah. >> Yeah, it makes me go like are they actually even friends? >> It doesn't sound like it. >> Dude, this came out of nowhere. Like they've never had any type of disagreement like this at all. Like >> ever. >> The only way if I could try to like understand is maybe
12:35 she just had some sort of traumatizing thing and then so she blew this out of proportion. >> I think she's projecting whatever the hell's going on with her. >> A thousand percent. >> That's what it sounds like. >> Maybe she has a custody battle. Maybe there's like a yeah. >> Or like if she is a single mom and you know it's hard for strippers to date, right? So there was a potential stepdaddy that was about to happen or whatever and then she lost the guy and she's taking out that anger on him. >> Or it could be something that happens to her all the time where like she thinks it's a legitimate relationship, but it's like oh no, he just saw you as a sex object. Like whoops. Yeah, so maybe she's sensitive about that. >> I like having self-aware friends because the more these examples do happen, right? And the more I have to ████ sit down and teach and like be like the bigger person, it makes me go ████
13:25 you, man. I'm running out of patience. I don't want to deal with this ████ >> It's hella funny because I told him, I'm like, "Hey, like cuz we were having to talk about this." And I was like, "Hey, I'm going to I'm going to put this on JK and like get some opinions." I'm like, "But I won't I won't name you guys." And he goes, "No, ████ that. Put both our names." >> [laughter] >> I love this guy. He's ████ awesome. >> He's so mad. >> I don't need her name, but can you show HER TITTIES? >> [laughter] >> STOP. >> BUT SHE'S a stripper. >> Go pay for it then. >> [laughter]
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