0:00 Here's [Music] something you may not have thought about in a while. Does it even match? It does. >> Hey, you look good. >> Can I get it? >> You should wear like jewelry more. I'm a Vietnamese pin. >> You look like Anthony Lee, dude. >> I know, huh? >> Anthony, >> just not as gay. How did it tell tell me briefly how it went down the first time you were moving out of your house? The very first time you're moving away from your parents. >> So excited. >> Really? >> So excited. Bye. >> Was it college? How old were you for college? >> Oh, did your mom >> My parent my I came from a pretty strict household. So I was like, "See you later." >> Did you like not study abroad, but like did you go out of state or like did you
0:50 stayed in Fullerton? That's abroad. >> Yeah. >> From Arcadia. >> Yeah. abroad abroad in Fullerton. >> Just far enough away from home >> dorms or something >> to move out but close enough to come home. >> Oh, that's nice. >> Um, no. I I actually just stayed in a house with like five other girls. >> That sounds fun. >> Yeah. You just rented a room. >> And did your mom cry when you were leaving? >> My mom is an Asian mom. She doesn't cry in front of me. >> Oh. >> So, if she did, >> she probably lecture the crap out of you. >> Said, "You go live your own life." And Sub's mom is like, "Come home." Sub's like, "Okay." >> No, >> you couldn't wait to go. You were just like, >> "I was excited to leave." >> She probably had a checklist of things that you should be doing. >> You have to do this. You have to remember that. Have to remember this. This that >> meddal in your early life when you were by yourself. >> She meddles now. >> Oh, yeah. She's like that. Okay.
1:40 >> I feel like with uh parents, there's no bound like Asian parents, there's no boundaries of like they just keep telling you what the ████ to do. >> Yeah. And then the older you get to, the more like you're just like, "Bro, I think I'm at this level where I'm smarter than you and I make better decisions than you." And you'd be telling me some stupid ████ There was a there was probably a time where I was like, "Okay, that's that's pretty wise. I should be around on time. I should get to work on on time." Yeah, that's good advice, Mom. >> It's cold. >> Yeah. Yeah. It's like good that one. >> Yeah. But then later on, it just gets ridiculous. >> I'm just like, >> I think that's very self-destructive. I don't think that's a good idea. >> Right. >> Yeah. >> Did you ever And you never came back home after that, right? You always just were on your own. >> It's really hard to move back. At least for me, it'd be really hard to move back home after being independent.
2:30 >> Um, yeah, I wouldn't be able to do that. So, yeah, that was the last time I lived at home. >> Yeah. >> How about you, man? >> Uh, dude, my mom let me do what the ████ I wanted, so I didn't really have an issue. My mom would just try to tell me what to do and I was just like nah. She's all right. So it's really cool. Living wise was cool. It just >> it was just hard living with my brother. >> That was really that was harder because we were just we're just different people. >> Is he younger or older? >> Is it a year younger? >> At that time it was different because we're always like either scrapping or >> you guys don't see eye to eye on stuff. Is that why? >> Yeah. Just like the way we were looking at life was different. He was more like realistic and like you know this this and that. My I was just like I'mma live my dream. >> I'mma live life.
3:20 >> And he was like, >> "What did your brother do?" What was his like And then he would scrap. >> So So this is this is how my brother threw a flower pot right on my head, right? >> One day I came I came home from like a gig and I was tired >> and I just wanted to I just wanted to eat my food. >> Mhm. My mom made me a soup, kimchi soup and fried rice. And I was like, I'm about to smack this ████ Then my brother's doing laundry and I told my brother, "Yo, could you just put my can you make sure can you take my shirt off the dryer?" Cuz my brother like to put the dryer and I was like, "Don't put my ████ in the dryer." And then out of nowhere, I think he was like going through some ████ My brother goes like, "Won't you ████ wash your own clothes then?" >> Just out of nowhere. >> Out of nowhere. >> I don't think that has to do with being realistic or unrealistic. >> No, no. I'm saying like I think I think I think that time he was I that time he must have been under a stress
4:10 >> him in the middle of something. >> Yeah. But and we never talk about feelings. We don't give a we didn't give a ████ about each other's >> just you just blow up. That's all. >> We just let I let my brother do his own thing. My brother let me do my own thing. But I just remember he was like you ████ do your own ████ I was like what the ████ And then Sam came up to my my fried rice I was about to smack. >> ████ throws it off the kitchen table. Oh, with he hit your mom's cooking, >> dude. My I see the fried rice on the ground. I wasn't even mad at the fried rice anymore. I was mad at the fact that I'm going to clean that ████ >> So, I went up to my brother and just ████ >> I just s the ████ out of him. Then he started swinging on me and I give him the craziest uppercut from hell. Then my brother goes hits the table and goes, "You broke my ████ jaw." And I was just like, "You broke my jaw? You still talking?"
5:00 >> Right. I was like looking at him. I was like, "Oh, ████ Did I break his jump?" He grabs a flower pot >> and just smacks my head. >> Oh, ████ Orchids or what? >> I don't know, bro. That ████ That ████ didn't break. >> If it was orchids, >> it didn't break. >> No, it's even worse. There was nothing in it. >> Oh, it was just It just It didn't even break. That's how hard it hit my head. I have a scar to this day. And I started leaking. >> Even broke. >> That's how hard it hit his head. >> It broke you. Yeah. >> Damn it, bro. Yeah, I see. >> I started leaking and you a paw patch, dude. >> Bro, I was leaking and I started feeling dazed, right? And I was like on the ground and then my my brother got around my neck and started choking me out. >> Dude, you're bleeding you, right? He didn't let you go. He just He's like trying to finish you and ████ >> Where's your mom, >> dude? But no, that's the crazy part.
5:50 >> Trying to kill you. >> Well, here here's the thing. >> Holy ████ >> Because Sam was my my little brother was so used to hanging out with like hood rats and ████ like that. They they tend to get this thing like blacking out. Like when they black out, they don't realize what the >> Oh, it's like lights out and he's just going off. >> Lights out, going off. It's like fight mode. That's what they're all used to doing. So, I was just like, "Yo, what the ████ going on?" >> I thought he's supposed to be the proper one. What the ████ >> No, he's not the No, no, but he was he's more like go to school, get a job type of guy. I was more of like the hustling hustler. Throw a paw and choke him out. >> But go to school. >> But yeah. No, that was back in the day. So, I I just had a hard time living with my brother. Oh ████ I'm going to be late for school. Got to go. >> Yeah, >> he's doing the season's watch. You just argue too much. >> Yeah, that's what it was. It was just just arguing too much. Argue too much. >> It was just argue too much. >> Did you knock out? >> No, I was just like dazed. I was like,
6:41 whoa, what the ████ >> What got him to let go when he was choking you out? >> It's cool. >> How'd you guys snap out of >> you ████ bit him or what? >> You checked the time. He said, "F███, time to go." >> Yeah. >> Cuz he's very structured. >> And then did he apologize for this? >> No, we don't apologize to each other. Oh, >> that's healthy. >> You just kiss or >> No. No. >> You know how we apologize? >> You know what happened last night? >> No, buddy. Too close. >> Too close. >> It's for the fried rice. >> ████ island twins. Island boys. >> Island boys. So, the twins. Yo, but we never apologize. We always just message each other. What up? >> Oh, that's sorry.
7:31 >> That's our sorry like, "Yo, we try to get some food." I bet that was it. >> Okay, >> that was it. >> And then after you moved out, you guys were more cool because you didn't >> We got We got closer >> because when we moved out, we got way closer. >> That's cool. >> Yo, Sam, how you doing? You checking on mom, blah, blah. We we would actually talk >> due to text. You know, it's weird cuz when we're inside the house, we don't we don't do too much talking. >> But when we do talking, it's always about >> flower pot emoji. >> No, it's about Mason. The >> what do you call those? >> Conspiracy theory. >> All conspiracy. >> That's all you guys talk about. >> Masons, >> you joined the Masons. >> Reed Mason. >> Was all all about Illuminati ████ >> But then yo, that's that's that was it. We got that's why I moved out. I was just like, you know what? I'm out >> cuz this is isn't healthy. >> That's good. So he stick around cuz he was younger.
8:21 >> Yeah, he's younger but he didn't really know what too much was going on. But you know that was back in the day but now now we chat all the time. Now we now we hella close. >> That's dope. >> I heard that happens a lot though with siblings, you know. >> What was it what was it like for you back in Cuz you moved out like when you started working with uh in wardrobe and stuff. >> Kind of. I was in I didn't have like a clean break where I was like okay I'm done. I'm gone. So I like had like a I was in and out. Go for a few months, come back, go for a few months, come back. And that was like the base cuz it was easier to >> Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. >> When I moved out to where like I didn't come back was weird because I was moving for a job. So I was going to work at a theater in Liverpool. So I had to get a a place in Liverpool, but like pretty speedy. >> So I found this room. It looked reasonable, whatever. I just said yes. Went and saw it. There was like uh it
9:13 was in Toxith, which if I think Yeah. No, Kensington, which if anyone knows Liverpool is a ████ ████ hole. >> And then the back wall had like glass stuck in it, you know, like glass shards, so you couldn't climb over it. >> Oh ████ >> And then >> they would spike it like barb wire. >> Yeah. But with shards of glass. >> That's smart. >> Yeah. It I mean it worked, you know. And then I was in there and then there was two foreign exchange students who didn't speak English and two professors from the the university and then me. >> What the? >> And I never spoke to any of them, never saw any of them cuz I was working nights at the theater. >> Wow. >> So I was just like this ghost in the house and the room smelt like damp. >> Ew. >> Like what? >> Smell like damp. >> Yeah. >> Damp. >> The one. Yeah. And then I moved to London and I sublet a room semi, you know, from this girl. She didn't tell
10:03 the land lady. >> Oh no. >> So I'm I've moved in. I sleep naked. I'm just chilling. I'm like in my room, sleep, knocked out, right? This woman's knocking on the door, like banging on the door. She's like, "Who are you? What are you doing here? I don't know what's going on." She lets herself in. She's got a baby strap to the front of her Polish lady at the end of my bed. I haven't got bed sheets or anything. like cuz I'm like just moved. So I've got like a single piece of fabric, you know, like the just the >> Yeah, you look like a You look like a sheet. >> You look like that. You look like a paint with >> just a tiny little sheet. And I look up and she's just like stood at the end of the bed like knees touching the end of the bed yelling at me like, "Who are you? What are you doing here?" I have I don't know who she is. Do >> you know what I mean? I've never met her. >> Like who are you? Had anything to do? And I'm just like half awake like what the ████ is going on? I have no like
10:54 lease, no nothing. The only thing I had was a post-it note from the girl I was subleting the room from that had the wife Wi-Fi password and like enjoy your stay, love, and then whatever her name was. I can't remember. So, I literally just handed her the post-it note >> and was like, I sublet the room and she read it and went and left. >> What? And that was the entire it took. >> She just needed a code. >> She was so angry and all she needed was a post-it note. >> Yo, imagine she just wanted the Wi-Fi. Oh, thank you. >> Her English wasn't great. She might have just been out to the point. >> Yeah, that was my second place. >> The hell? Damn. >> Madness. >> You You were in the You were in the boonies. >> I don't know what I was doing to be honest with you. I think it was just like ████ You know, when you're that young, you don't care. >> You're like, "That's cheap. That looks reasonable. I'll survive it." Like, >> but when did you up and leave? Like, you just decided I'm going to go to London.
11:44 Did you just like pack your bags and then go, "Okay, I'm gone." >> I didn't even have a place. I stayed at um it's like a hostel which sounds bad but in Europe there's like >> hostel always sounds bad. >> No, in Europe there's like backpacking culture so you have all these like like young people hostels. Yeah, >> I love hostels. >> Yeah, they're fun. Right. So I stayed in one of those for like 2 weeks and then moved into the Polish lady's house. >> Oh, >> but you're but with like for for your actual like home with your family, did >> you didn't care about like it wasn't like I got to get out of here. It was like >> Oh, no. I love my family. They're chill. I get on with my parents. get on with everyone else. >> They're really cool. >> Yeah, I would go back now. I don't >> I would I would live with them. >> Wow. >> Like they're >> uh they're very like >> I think it's because I just feel like Asians don't got boundaries, bro. >> Yeah. >> Like white folks, they kind of have this
12:34 thing where you're like an adult at a certain age and then they let you >> separate a little bit and then there's this like >> balance of like, all right, >> you're your own person. Yeah. >> But like I think for us it's like you're a property of your parents until you're like 60 years old. As long as they're alive, you're their property. >> White people culture then that's a culture for them. >> Uh it depends. I mean >> maybe Well, at least her family is more like I'll come back whenever. But they're but they we have conversations. I think the difference is we're not being lectured all day. Like when you have Asian parents like our kind of Asian parents, I think they just lecture us all day and there's they don't know how to have a conversation. So it's always this advice of like and you know what you should be doing with your life is this this and this. Like I chat with her dad like I chat with you guys.
13:24 >> Like he just tells me about sports and like this and that and like the this you know Liverpool's winning and then we're talking about business cuz he has experience in like business and he just asks me so we have conversations. So it doesn't feel like I'm going into like a space and then like they're just >> trying to tell me how to live my life all day. >> Yeah, that's true. There there are no conversations. I was just talking to my cousin. We were like joking about our grandma cuz uh when she was dying, we took turns to go up there and like say our goodbyes. And then when I went there, uh her her last words to me was she was like could barely talk. She goes, "Please don't do music." That's what she cared about. >> Damn.
14:15 >> What the ████ >> Her last words. >> That's the last thing that I that I heard my >> a nurse. >> And it was so obvious that like my my family had like asked her to say that like >> don't don't dress like that. >> Yeah. >> And then that was it. And then like I went back downstairs and then she passed and that was it. The last words was don't do this. >> My cousin was like they my whole family was there. They all like heard her and I was like, >> "Were you laughing or what?" >> No, I was just like I was like I had that reaction of like you know like if you had a ████ talking doll toy and it said something it doesn't have like in its program. I was like what the ████ Like what why' you say that? >> Do break dancing. >> Please don't break dance. >> Yeah. She literally was just like please don't do music. And then just like went like this. >> Oh my god. Like it was like a movie.
15:05 Yeah. >> When I was a kid, my mom would be like, "Oh, you know, white people when you turn 18, they just kick you out." >> She would say that. And I was a kid, I'm like, "Damn, that's ████ up. My Asians are tight." And then when I got older, I was like, "It's because they respect you enough that you're your own person now." >> Yeah. >> Now I would tell my mom like, "When I was 18, you should have just kicked me out cuz at least I'll be a grown person." >> Versus till this day, she's like, "Oh, when you come home, you sleep in this bed like I'm a baby." Cuz didn't you say that even today she'll still talk to you like you're >> so like we're at ████ like at a restaurant and she'll like stand up real quick like she'll be at the restaurant like ready to get seated. She was like oh pee pe like what the ████ bro? And my mom's extra crazy so she's Asian lady plus crazy. >> Yeah that's true.
15:55 There's something cool about it though because I think Asian you're right where they don't respect us but they will take care of us forever. Like they will they will ████ take care of us until the day they die and they will do everything. >> Well, that's how I feel like looking at the kid. My kid right now is I'm going to take care of you. >> Cuz you're an Asian parent. >> I am. >> Yeah. >> Yeah, I am. I'm not I'm not going to lie. I look at my kid like >> I got you. >> It's also a firstgen Asian-American thing, too. >> Yeah. I I don't know if it'll be like that for the second gen. >> Oh, probably. I don't know. Um I mean, I think there's a lot of Japanese Americans that are like five generations. That's true. Yeah. >> And they kind of still the same. I think but then there's more like >> boundaries I think like they're not really at least when I see their families operate >> like
16:45 >> I don't know. There's still >> there's still like a hierarchy, but I think it's it's less of a distance. >> Yeah. >> Like it's not like you're talking to God. It's like, okay, you know, it's your pops. You got to respect them. >> You can't call him by his first name still, but then it's like your dad's also not going to be a dick in the same way his dad was, you know? >> Yeah. Not in the same way. Yeah. >> No. Yeah. I think it's a it's a little bit different. And then like cuz for example like um you know our buddy Brownie I would say he's pretty Americanized you know he's like an Okinawan Japanese >> four fifth generation Hawaiian you know Japanese but like >> I think they're they're very Americanized but then they still operate like a pretty >> big unit. I love their ████ family >> like 100 people or something and they're like a crime family without the crime.
17:36 >> Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. It's my cousin-in-law,
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