0:00 dude so many times I've been in that situation with Nikki where she like told me something and I just ████ answer and then I'm like because I autopilot a response right it's hard to follow am I Really Gonna triple down that I that I heard her and I'm like yeah [Music] hello and welcome back to another episode of the careful boys what's up careful boys you're currently off the record I thought we're we're currently careful that's that'd be cool currently careful that's a cool thing oh that's kind of a new cool thing you think we still gotta be that careful it's not locked down in covet and Crimson culture is pretty much dead no yeah we should never stop being here should we just change our name to the book boys and then just go full one well boys is only half of us okay it's very exclusive yeah you guys have to believe all women
0:50 walkie walks dude that's like something that you say before you get stunner bro and the huge pot from the crowd yeah so uh here's the question that I have for everybody even if you can't quantify this into a number you have to okay okay 19 mil on a scale of one to ten rate the current state of your relationship oh oh uh like what your significant with your significant other yeah with your boyfriend Bart I would say nine wow that's high yeah because you always gotta leave room for improvement very Asian I really do believe that and because she's bringing in all the dough and she's bringing all the money no uh no it's for me it's like um nine because we are I think we have a second hand that is unlike anything else like like and what I mean by that is
1:41 like we got an argument the other night over kitty litter right and I'm screaming at her about kitty litter she's breaking stuff in the house screaming and screaming no but we we have like a like so like I was just doing kitty litter oh ████ and she was like are you gonna ever do the kids literally like I'm literally doing it right now what the ████ that's your argument yeah yeah that's husband and wife stuff yeah it's just husband white bickering stuff but we we get through it so quickly and to the end of it so fast like it was like a nine minute thing damn yeah and then it's like done and like we're moved on and then also I've done this thing too where she gets um like every year I try to get a little bit better at something especially when this ████ doubts me yeah and so like when I and this is driven by pettiness oh 100 I'm very I think we all know I'm driven when he gets the wrong ████ at
2:31 the supermarket all the time exactly oh yeah one day doesn't know where the mailbox is the trash it was personal for me and and I and I and you know what it never happened since and you know what the milk thing never happened since and you know what I make her breakfast now like every ████ day what do you make I make eggs and I make toes sausage she doesn't eat the sausage because she's trying to make turkey bacon she doesn't eat the turkey bacon but I make her breakfast and then I also started making like just like I make her vegan tacos like every week like no matter what I make it every week would you do all these things if you were making more money than her no but that's that's the coolest part right I like taking care of her that was part of my wedding vows was like cool you know you don't you don't um I I don't uh I want to take care of you
3:21 not because you need to be taken care of but because I need to take care of you and I just really feel like that is like my long travel yeah with her yeah you're a sweet sweet boy oh I love this chick man so so then um so I started cooking for her right regularly and anytime she's hungry like for breakfast I make it and she expects it now which is cool because she used to make fun of me about my eggs she's to say Steve can't cook and now she can't say that ████ anymore how do you do your eggs how do you do it over easy I do over easy yeah she got you so figured out she wants breakfast she knows how to work me so she just talks ████ and you she gets breakfast every day she talks ████ about how I'm not a handyman and I installed our washer dryer she's like Steve did she still talks ████ about how it spilled water everywhere we all saw that yeah yeah she's talked ████ pretty good you love it though I love it
4:11 getting my balls busted it's ████ hilarious how I grew up but she's such a good bulb she's so good at it I know I was with the chick who couldn't bust balls and I was so bored I've never been how lucky for you that you ended up with someone that can speak that well and bust balls so hard better than anybody yeah it's no it's the best plus baller three thousand hundred percent but then um okay so then okay I cook for all that stuff I do handyman ████ and then I know that she's challenging Me by like going you can't do this and then she knows like I know that same thing about her if I say she can't do something she does the same exact ████ so so we both kind of have that with each other but that's why I give us a nine because I think I've been with her for six years of marriage this month it'll be 10 years this month that we were together and uh and I'm honest to God love her more than I ever did does that include you guys being a couple yeah 10 years oh
5:02 10 years I see six years of marriage and yeah I love her more than I ever but would you say like there's been moments of maybe the relationship's been 7 out of 10 and then it's been an eight out of ten somewhere like whatever I would say in the early days it was like a five out of ten or even lower during that time did you feel like it was a 5 out of ten or you're looking back in retrospect now and saying oh it's ████ nine felt like it was a five out of ten because I was this ████ was pissed me off so much yeah I couldn't even believe it yeah and it wasn't in like break bus balls since it was like genuinely we could not communicate correctly like you had um you were bumping heads because you were actually misunderstanding Each Other Well we were doing ████ debate class where I have my opinion she has her opinion and nobody's rooting for each other's point to win we're just cable TV yelling at each other
5:52 and now we do this thing where we're rooting for each other's position because we love each other so there's the Bedrock of Love Is Right boom boom boom right trying to understand instead of fight for for the winning yeah you got into recently right you're like oh well hunt like I didn't know that so like I think most most relationships are like this where you want to be heard first and foremost you want to win when you say let's talk it really means listen to me yes it doesn't mean like like we need to come together on an agreement and also in a lot of the times it sucks when both parties have to sacrifice because no one wins right it's better to just understand each other's points but that's so ████ hard to do because for one most of us I'd say half of the population if we all grew up in a broken home we don't know what conflict
6:42 resolution looks like two if you've been in s█████ situations you carry that over from the past and you dump that on the next girl and vice versa she'll do that to you too right so no one knows how to root for each other and it's so easy to feel offended and angered that like all you care about is like oh well you don't want to listen I don't listen to you and I think that was very that's very very normal until in this relationship it was really like um I think also because she's not an aggressive person she'll stand her ground logically and she's really good at that but she's not aggressive so that the the she's frustrated but I never feel like she's frustrated at me she's frustrated that we can't solve the situation so I don't feel attacked and then so then I feel like she's got my back it's everything yeah and anything that helps because she said yeah I I'm lucky I grew up with parents that love
7:33 each other and then I watched how they would fight and scream but there was still love at the end of the day and then there was resolve and then so for me I know that like there's resolve and if for you it's like bounce divorce get the ████ out it's not working we don't have an agreement we have a disagreement this is not working out and she understood that so I think that that's what really helped my growth in how I resolve conflict with with her yeah it's you want to have each other's backs and I think that that really I wish more people had that perspective of like they still love their partner so much that they want to understand what the disconnect is and they want to fix they want to fix this so it doesn't become a bigger situation if I could just convey one thing to people it would be that like if you if you have a real relationship that's mature and strong and built with trust you can get there
8:23 quickly right and you should be always building towards that like how can I understand you and what you mean and what you need from this situation what would you say our number's at now 10. damn well I mean it can be perfect no no I would say well also I'm kind of it's a new relationship still you know it's a couple of years in it's funny because you know I would I would assume that yours would start at a peak and then reality hits because you're not infatuated anymore right where I don't even know at my age if I'm capable of infatuation so then it never started at infatuation because the intention was never let's get together yeah yeah yeah nice yeah nine and ten nice any tubes what's yours nick uh I think it's like a
9:14 seven okay interesting uh what's going on yeah I'm ready every day I've been like oh I'm gonna divorce you so hard uh I think it's on me kind of oh yeah just haven't really been um you've deflect towards her too she'd be like what's really wrong and I'll be like [Laughter] I love meta Nick so good Nick mad at Nick I think work is the thing right now lack of presence where I'm just not at home enough but dude you're working for the family too that's what I'm saying yeah when you're at home are you is it because you're not all like are you still thinking about work no I think when I'm home when I'm present for the couple hours I'm home I'm very present uh maybe just my own guilt yeah
10:06 that's probably a lot of it too like I feel like I'm not what are you doing what do you feel guilty about um just you know you look really cool but right now by the way here we go um I feel like I'm not in these puppies lives as I need to okay no no but so now that I do feel bad that I'm not like there to help out because it is a lot it's ████ two dogs and a lot of stuff and Tiff works from home and all that so I think she'll make jokes like like I'm a single mom like oh you're not you're never home and like she'll she'll complain to our like our group of friends yeah and it's like an ongoing joke but then like later in the day she'll be like hey just so you know like I feel guilty for making those jokes like I know you're working I know you're working hard I'm just messing around but at the same time I do feel like dang like I can't I know I'm working and I'm trying to do all that stuff but I there
10:57 has to be a balance and I haven't found it yet so that's been kind of challenging um but it's just not I'm not in that position yet but eventually it'll it'll even out yeah and then um next week we have Nick's why I left JK video I've been spending too much time you can't really say why I left JK's 20 minutes of him Meandering and kind of talking yeah I'm just like looking at the lights the whole time like you know I love you but uh apologizing before he even makes a point everyone's like wow I watched a 20 minute video and I still don't know why you love JK no one gets it it's kind of on brand but maybe no maybe Seven's too low maybe Seven's too low I mean if you can score yourself honestly you say it's on you you know I think I think it's on me I think it's something and also like you've had tens because you've been with her for how long yeah I feel like our
11:48 first couple years has been a 10 bro like it's been like Easy Street um so she's been yeah so that's that's been interesting I think and trying to like because I think it really is like on my own guilt yeah yeah okay like I feel kind of bad you should I should I'm a piece of ████ I should be home right now I'll see you guys later you guys got the rest of the videos right I have cancer for me yeah I think mine's probably right now I would say it's an eight and that's because like I think I find my own love language to get kind of monotone in a weird way like I think I just yeah I just find myself doing a lot of the same ████ even though I'm doing something for her sometimes I just go like why am I not trying other things I kind of feel the same way you know what I mean you ever like get tired of your own ████ yeah it's I don't know that's every day bro
12:38 but then also like you want to like beat yourself like do different things yeah like you want to blow the socks off for different ways every single time yeah like just how you express your love for someone you kind of start noticing your own repetition in a way yeah your own patterns now and that might just be me and my own head but also uh we had we had a lot of problems for a little bit about like I always felt like it was hard for us to build she she kind of has like a not as great of a memory as I do for just remembering random ████ uh and so it's hard to build inside jokes with her sometimes because she'll just be like when did that happen and like I'll do callbacks to ████ and she's like huh like when was that and I felt like to get a shot of the sky yeah yeah I started to feel like ████ man like can't you just and then she actually actively worked on practicing like how to
13:29 remember like and she got better at how do you do that like you gotta put shapes on the table and cover the blanket you have 30 seconds brain teasers every day I think that's what it's like notebook dude I thought it was really adorable is that she actually did look up how to like how to remember that's ████ awesome looked up methods on how to like improve that and how do you know if you're staying over a shoulder typing it in for it highly creative people are daydreamers and they're like always in the blend of reality and dreaming a little bit Yeah I also this one's gonna make me look really ████ up but like I felt we also had a problem with like sometimes we'll
14:20 just have conversations and then she just won't hear what I'm saying and then like she'll just be like Oh I thought you said this and we'd spend most of the conversation clarifying what I was really saying she has a mind of it she's the guy she's the guy I would get really pissed off like I'll get actually mad because I'm like lose my temper a lot and then turns out if you're thinking about the NFL the whole time turns out she actually has like she actually uh has like she got her ears tested and she has like a massive deficitors so she can't actually hear you so it was literally she couldn't hear she literally could not he's not tasting good stuff like Bart yeah so you're probably talking and she's all like when did you say that exactly so it's not it wasn't so much that she can't remember
15:10 or hear it or that she just didn't hear in the first place just can't she doesn't know a lot of ████ she doesn't know she's not listening to you she's a ████ dude I think she's trying she paid the doctor to get the report that's a dude she paid the doctor that's a guy can you just tell him I have a ear deficit please dude so many times I've been in that situation with Nikki where she like told me something and I just been bullshitting an answer and then I'm like because I autopilot response right it's hard to follow yeah and she knows that autopilot responds she's gonna talk on a straight line and then I'm like am I Really Gonna triple down that I that I heard her and I'm like yeah yeah [Laughter] yeah why not I do the same ████ and then later on they're like we talked about this and I'm like when and she goes remember we're in the car and we're like oh yeah but you were talking about five
16:01 stories at once I couldn't catch that ████ uh I was listening to you so hard on the first story and I was like and then I got distracted by the left turn let's go guys oh listen down I'm gonna use that one I need more like hall passes babe I was so absorbed by the first story it's so rich and touchy she not only so she has a hearing aid now no what is this a what the doctor had to prescribe her hearing how old is she because her hearing is so it's so low like it's drastically how does she listen to music it hears it wax build up yes because my brother has oh no it's like an actual like um so like you know as people get older their hearing goes yeah hers is happening way the ████ earlier than a normal person just one of them I I I think it might be both so she's like the
16:52 uh the Tessa Thompson in Creed exclusion Creed I've seen Creed the chick that was making music right yeah she literally it was like a degenerative hearing yeah she kind of has that so but you know on the upside to that randomly um randomly also absorbed in the first story a hearing aid company did a brand deal with it because of that and now she's benefiting from it entirely so yeah that's cool dude she does nothing but wins yeah that was one of our biggest things was like the communication was hard because of your ears yeah and the whole time you're just like she couldn't hear yeah whole time I'm getting mad that like you're not even ████ paying attention she's like so Earnest and she's like I am I swear I felt so bad crying all right dude her brand is so clean does she ever give you ████ because you're on JK no because
17:42 like she's her brand is clean but I mean she like when she talks to you guys in person like she talks like I do yeah that's cool yeah she's a dude in the relationship does it ever yeah it never gives you no she doesn't give a ████ she does not she couldn't give less of ████ of what I'm doing really doesn't care he doesn't trip about all like the Dan ex-girlfriends you have yeah she's catching on the pattern she's still alive it's been a long time so you're saying you don't do the memorization test with the blanket how long have you guys been together it's been almost eight almost eight years yeah whoa damn that's not like a long time what's your number right what are you talking about dude what's your number I can't remember bird dog in that clock stop trying to run the clock out man and he's like we might have to part two this one boys I'm so absorbed in the first story go ahead ready
18:32 and give us another [Laughter] number he was listening eight yeah I'll go eight right I don't see it is bad though I'm impressed with you as nine yeah it's good I would have done 10 but I didn't want to outshine you guys I won't change my answer ten you're more than welcome now shy this truck uh I'll say I also think we're all like we got married late last year I still think we're like on a on a high of just life is very new in that committal space even though we're now officially uh nine years in together does it feel like a reset when it happened like it's something new it does it feels like a new flavor even if it's like the same meat it's like you've been eating a burger with ketchup your whole life and now you didn't take away the ketchup you just added Mayo as well you
19:22 tell her that after you eat this changes the entire thing go ahead go ahead the relationships like we added mayonnaise isn't it amazing anyways um I think that's amazing I think that we're in like just a very good spot in general but I think similar to Nick I've just been so consumed by work uh they're really really busy yeah and then you feel like a piece of ████ like me a little bit but I'm like I also feel like a piece of ████ sometimes when I have to like fight for the idea that I'm busy because I'm fighting for the house but again just like you said I think you articulated well like there's also still a balance but I don't know if I've necessarily found it but you know like I'm also not in like consistent work I'm in like gig work so when a gig comes in I'm like I gotta run with that gig and that gig might take everything from me for a
20:12 short period of Time Versus like this is my career for the next five years I might be homeless on a month you know yeah you know like I definitely know what it feels like to have like you know pockets of times where I don't have big gigs or anything like that so like when something does come in I'm like I'm moving ████ mountains to try and make that thing work which is why even sometimes I gotta bounce on JK because I'm like I don't know if I'm gonna get this up again even though if you zoom out I I'm always gonna get an opportunity yeah you always get something yeah you know you just you never know what it is when it's going to come but you want to knock it out the Park yeah and you know so I just also feel like I haven't been around as much whereas conversely you she has a consistent job from Monday to Friday yeah so her weekends are weekends yeah my weekends are oftentimes work time you know what I mean so our off schedule hours are like very very not consistent with each other so when she's
21:03 coming home you know from work she's already tired but maybe that's like this is our time together because when the weekend hits I gotta go to work yep you know what I mean so I think we're trying to still find like a life balance that it's not super complimentary but we're in a good spot what we're cool man that was very articular that was way better than what I said but yeah it took and it took less time the Barton Geo number dude it's probably low look at the time did you did she talk to you about how she found out about how you dropped she tagged me in in the JK one where she goes this is what happened when Bart watched Titan it's a kid falling off
21:56 yeah I feel like we're like like 9.5 or close to 10. hey we're in we're all in good healthy loving this is ████ I don't want to be the last one it took us a long time to get here but kind of like uh Steve's like second hand thing like this is probably the busiest I've ever been like you know back and forth from Vegas in here yeah you gotta make appearances of powerless enough appearances do different things uh we have a kid now so that's like a third person that we're like oh it's constantly tag teaming into like WWE wrestling ring like taking hit this who's taking a kid to school who's picking up who's taking the Jiu Jitsu I heard that um meanwhile balancing the same working in the same company with the pugs huh while trying to like balance uh okay
22:47 like it's this mom's birthday this mom's birthday and so it feels like we this is the business we've been and there's like all kinds of ████ going on and sometimes we're physically apart geographically apart but our hearts are so like in sync it doesn't matter if like I'm in Austin Texas she's here or I'm in Vegas or bouncing around or she's bringing taika to go see a doctor because he has seizures and ████ to see a doctor at UCLA but I'm not there it just feels like we're so like our we're above the the busy mess and our hearts are just together so it always feels like we're on the same team trying to take care of the same ████ even though there's like 5 000 everyone has 5 000 spinning plates and we never have this feeling of like oh you're spinning too many plates you're not away from me because we have the same Mission so you're taking a dig at me in it don't include me in your seven dude
23:38 assault him yeah I'm just taking this personally right now but it's all like you guys are blaming work but I don't I've been training a lot of people I've been training a lot of people what time do you train from like six to eight I came from like five to nine slam dunk bro I recently got three pugs but it took a it's I think it took a lot a long time to get there and also like um yeah we've I mean we've been we've had twos and ones before and we came up from there and then like wow you've been as bad as damn yeah I'm either way out huh yeah and we wanted to get here and when you have a kid you see a whole nother Dimension out of yourself and your partner stupid ass yeah you see like a whole different side and you're just like wow
24:29 that's that's from father to father huh yeah let's see that other side yeah me and Bart we talk all the time man and talk about that this bit is so stupid so stupid it's because there really are people who believe their cat or dog is like makes them apparent yeah and they try to relate with real parents with that ████ dude and the real pants are just like and they try to move on to the conversation but then they keep bringing it up so I guess this table is the winner for having the highest average you get a one dude I don't know it was a competition guys yeah it was it was sorry foreign
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