0:00 [Music] all right this is going to be a very serious episode okay sure um get ready guys serious face don't joke glasses we got them so there's a study by Western Michigan University and it gives really detailed explanations on how to detect and help stop uh somebody who's contemplating on suicide oh that's actually important to know huh yeah and we're going to go ahead and review those things and see if these are things that uh first guess can I take a first guess yes call the National Suicide Hotline no that's a good guess I'm say in the Family Feud I'm going to say that would be a top no that's not top five I wonder what they say in those hotlines I might
0:50 call it but I don't want to take up the line test it cuz what if I take up the line and a guy is actually trying to like do it and then it's all like it's all beep beep beep you know the whole cuz they only have one line for the for the nation because Joe's trying to test the quality hey but every business needs a secret shopper yeah but what if there's like like only 50 people right and the 49 lines are taken up and I'm the 50th one so the 51st suicide guy is like calling in and he gets a busy signal and he goes all right and he jumps off the bridge is be my fault you know I think the suicide hotline people are very helpful I think they're probably very good at their jobs I want to know what yeah what they say well the first thing is to recognize the warning sign what are some warning signs that you think that's hard man like look at my dad dude this Stone faced and ████ I don't know if he like I don't even know if he likes double doubles at
1:40 In-N-Out get past that that's a warning time right there if you don't know if they like double doubles at in- and out that's the first warning when they bite everywhere I've T I've taken them I've your Breaking Point aren't you we go to regular yeah in and out McDonald's or some crazy ass sushi place where there's gold foil or Hell's Kitchen I took them all over the place and then everything I'm like is it good he's like I think that's a sign bro maybe a sign cuz he thinks everything sucks he's numb to everything huh interesting he been giving me signs for maybe like 37 years number two is like number two is to take the statement seriously and trust your instincts it says up to 75% of all suicides they give a warning of their intentions to a friend or family you're supposed to ask do you have do you have a plan to your suicide that's
2:32 what you got to ask you got to ask that you know what though we a plan then you got to be like hey yo no for real for real for real yeah cuz like when people say that they're thinking of the suicide the next step is usually like do you have a plan that's right that is what exactly what it says really if the answer is yes to them contemplating suicide do you have a plan to take your own life cuz if they got a plan that means they're they're ████ about their business they're about that action and then you're supposed to also ask do you have the means or materials to act out the plan and it says have you ever thought thought of how you would do it ████ if you need help I can get the required tools see you don't have a ████ plan say that you have a ████ plan is this about how to assist a suicide or is it about like I don't think so it might be by the end of the video you know one of my cop friends is this is actually cultural too why like he shows up to a lot of scenes right and
3:24 Asians they like to hang and then a lot of like white people like to do the pill route and and then um a lot of Hispanics and white people also like to do the gun in the mouth route wow that's dirty it's actually very cultural wow and a lot of the the yeah it's like it's it's it's weird how there's like a cultural way of like cuz when when I when it happened to my Pops I was talking to one my friends he was just like L naming it out was it like this was it like this was like this I was like oh ████ so black people don't do suicide huh or they do it their own way he didn't explain the way he did it so he just had Asian white and Hispanic did you know um I think that's one of the biggest killers of white males right now is suicide yeah the number one I think it's like a huge huge kind of thing because they're at the top of the food chain nothing else can get them but themselves he's doing the work
4:15 for youe it's like a shark killing himself but so I guess there's nothing else to live for bored I'm putting a gun in his mouth the sand I'm the king of the ████ ocean swim I think um there needs to be another set of criteria for like middle- AG Asian men cuz they come out of nowhere I think like I don't know if the warning signs are the same so like I know another for Asians for Asians use a different strategy it's just out of nowhere they kamakazi attack you dude so like one of my ex's Uncle uh we all had dinner like a family dinner one time laughing his ass off it was awesome it was great right yeah that night um he took pills killed himself and so breaking stereotypes though with the
5:05 pills go back to the conversation and think like okay what joke did I tell a joke that was like pretty bad like did I ████ up it was so bad that he had to do it bad he's like I don't the why this middle-aged Asian guy laughing a lot is that a sign oh that's like he's too Jolly no he's always been a jolly guy it took everybody by surprise but in his like little suicide note or whatever I guess he had a a illness that he just couldn't live with and no one knew about it and also he was just thanking everybody as like that was this last dinner that he wanted to do waa it was in his mind that was a good last time he wanted that memory he wanted to pass with that can you stop that though you can't stop that that's so it's been planned dude there's a rumor that Robin Williams was having something like that going on like some kind of medical thing that he didn't want to have his family
5:55 deal with yeah so yeah a lot of people do that because they get a d diagnosis and they just don't want to live with it they don't want to Die slow they don't want to suffer people through it like but he put the rest of the family through it by ████ you know surprise suicide is crazy especially next to his wife right waking up all ████ yeah what the f here here's some here's some really um here's some bullet points and some suggestions on bullet strong word there buddy bullet hey hang on hang on all right uh it says get involved become a available show interest and support don't dare them to do it okay we need we needed to hear that we need to shut the ████ up dude okay yeah Nick do it we need to closer to the edge closer we not going to do it over the building you don't fall through anything in your life
6:45 that's your live when a guy always uses that as a threat when a girl breaks up with them I tell all my female friends I tell them tell them ████ do it cuz those guys aren't going to do it they're not going to do it they're using it as a Hos they're using M themselves as a hostage guys are ████ that's I like when you use suicide as a threat I almost think you deserve to be gone that's exactly what I said I'm like why do we want this pathetic ████ that's an attack that's not like you're making you're using yourself hostage and you're you're using her sympathy against you're trying to ruin someone else's life I'm going to do it you're trying to show get her to show that she cares about you still which is so ████ what the what the real thing is is this suck my dick right now huh that's what they're basically doing exactly the ████ and for me I'm like so confused do it we can't afford to lose B it it and to me it's a
7:37 win-win situation because if he doesn't do it then you know he's a little ████ and if he does do it then great she could get with somebody better yeah some yeah it says offer empathy not sympathy well ████ that I don't have either or what do you have gratitude cool all you got to say is I understand where you're coming from and then it says never promise to keep the suicide a secret yeah you should tell everyone about your cuz you know some people are like don't tell anybody I've been feeling like this I'm like no I got your ass I'm going to tell everybody you know what's crazy like I I'm tell your mom I think about signs with my pops and there probably were some but it's also like it's hard to to differentiate some of them cuz he's also like crazy too MH so like there's some that I'm like oh ████ I
8:27 think that's a that was a true sign but so my dad also has like 12 Costco shoes so he's just a weird person right so his behavior is like there's no pattern he meditated shoe purchase yeah so you'll be like oh ████ like he's like I found this deal at Costco so I calculated if I change shoes like every ████ I don't know two years or whatever I'll buy these shoes is 12 Costco shoes on the list was like I'll never need to buy any other shoe ever again and so um so when my dad like I think within the last 60 days of him being alive he gave me his rooll at he goes give this to Tao one day and I'm like what I'm like you give it to my graduates high school I'm I don't want to hold on just put in your safe I'm like all right so like cuz you don't you're not thinking anything like that that is a warning sign that's a warning sign then the last day so my dad he uh lived with us and then the last thing
9:17 we're going to move out of our apartment into the house that we live in now he was going to go live with my mom right that last day he goes up to me he puts his hand on my face and he goes see you in the next life wo and then I was like okay but in my mind I'm like this ████ is always saying crazy ████ anyway I'm I don't know what the ████ I'm like I'm going to see you on Tuesday I'm going to see you next Tuesday anyway so I was like whatever yeah and then that's not just a sign that's a Vegas sign dude that's crazy veg sign what V like it's a bright bright light well I don't know that's like Arrow's Landing Strip right here but he also says crazy ████ all the time so I don't know if he's always saying something it's almost consistent but not exactly too much it's like it's consistently inconsistent right and then like you think you think before they do that though they kind of know that ████ though or maybe he's been trying what if it what if for the past 5 years he's been trying so he goes this
10:07 is the final time and he says something crazy to Bart as if it's the last and then he goes nah I ain't going to do it right so he could have been like this is the last to Bart for The Last 5 Years cuz the first time the first time I even got like even like 1% like what the ████ is that supposed to mean is when I called him and I told him hey me and Gio decided to move to Vegas and he goes oh what about me should I move to Vegas I'm like no I don't know I even know if I'm going to like it so I'm like let me live there for like maybe 2 years so I get over the honeymoon phase and if I still like it and I stay then you guys can can you you can move over and he goes okay that sounds like a good plan and then maybe 6 months in um when we're talking he goes I think I'm going to sell the house and move to Vegas and I'm like oh how come he goes I can't live by myself anymore it's it's like it feels like um my life's over I'm in jail so when he started like using words like that I'm like okay I don't immediately go Oh suicide I go oh he really doesn't like
10:59 this so I'm like okay let's sell your house and just move in with us so we did that so you would think that like okay cool like whatever problem he has there kind of like this like a cure if you will or some sort of resolve and um then he lives with us and then there was one time where I think I had to come shoot JK news and for some reason I think like maybe like taica had to check up on a seizure so the whole family came here and so he was just in our Vegas house by himself for like like a week or something when I came back he goes don't ever do that again like I felt like my life was over but he always speaks like that and it just seems so exaggerated Dr dramatic sounding yeah so you're just like what are you talking about like I know you're route I showed you a place where you get like the stuff he only only cares about is Chinese food and we buy Chinese newspaper that's what he does in Alman that's what he does wherever the ████ he lives I show him the route in Vegas he knows exactly what to do so all all of those you just kind
11:50 of go okay like um is this just him being him cuz I've been hearing them say crazy ████ like this ever since I was 5 or does it even mean anything but obviously things are clear in retrospect so in retrospect you numb to it over time cuz you did crazy ████ like that all the time I got while you're living your own regular ████ life and then so in retrospect then you start chasing back oh see you the next life give Tao my watch and then you know then you're like oh ████ maybe those were signs but I just didn't see them because that was numb I get it damn dude that sucks thanks for telling us that yeah seriously I mean I want to help other people too cuz happens quite often it seems like yeah yeah it does a part of me though feels like sometimes their suffer so much that who am I to tell him no yeah that's another that's at least for me I don't know many cases of youthful you know um suicide
12:42 it's it's usually older guys that are like I I I have an illness or or I I remember uh toward you know toward the end of your father's life but like he it seemed like he was suffering with Dementia or some kind of deafness and some issues right health problems so I'm like thinking what if they're just like waking up confused and like whatever's happening they don't understand they don't have what like they don't have coping mechanisms they're constantly in pain so I'm like maybe it's the way they're going to go out that's scary or like sudden or whatever but at the same time I'm like I can't change their suffering and help them and who am might to say like now you need to spend the next 15 years until you you you die peacefully peace they're not even dying in peace you know they're dying in agony so I'm like and he's he was lonely so
13:33 lonely that he went back with Bart's mom he tried to force ████ that situation yeah damn so it's it's kind of a confusing I would I would see like maybe if a young person was like my life is over and it's like dude you're 22 like a lot of things are going to change don't worry about it I would say that to them but if they're in their 70s and on and they have major health problems it's hard for me to be like there's there's still a chance you know what I mean like I can't that conversation to shame them for it cuz it's like you have no right to almost yeah but I think anyone younger than that I don't know I think there's still a lot to love in about life but that's also my perspective yeah it's true it is like unique to everybody cuz one person that I do think should kill himself is my father but you know a lot of people
14:23 that should they don't right and then someone that probably like dad that has family that has grandchildren that has like a chance like he doesn't you know but my my dad's like a lonely narcissist and then he's just like I'm still ████ fighting and it's like why everyone wants you dead already you're a burden to society you just ████ like he's never going to stop yeah never going to stop you can read this list and just try the opposite on check uh let's hope he does this that that those guys live forever though you know what mean those guys are Highlanders for sure you got CHP off their head roaches dude get rid of them well I mean if you guys want to check this out for yourself it's a pretty useful list it's got a lot of things on it that I even I didn't realize like says don't ask why apparently that's a pretty big trigger
15:13 to get people to start to think of more reasons and get defensive so you kind of aren't supposed to prod and to be like why would you want to do this not even top three list I also think the worst thing you could do look like a '90s agent when you I think the worst thing you could do is give advice yeah it really says not to there give advice you should give advice try to help them out of their situation we have you know a community group that continues to check in on that's what we're always going to check in with Nick you know what I mean Nick checkins every every we got Nick check check so stay tuned for that tell me what you would do in my situation you got to just give space for people you know and check in before the signs get too crazy cuz they feel like they have a space you know before things get crazy Nick then too many check-ins will make me commit suicide and just as and we knew Nick was joking when he
16:03 said that so we just kept kep doing also as a reminder if anybody ever uses suicide as a weapon or any kind of way to Blackmail you into doing something just leave just block them leave Anthony if you keep talking to me I'm going to kill myself dude please hey you know what I don't have sympathy for you but I have empathy for you and what I would love to do is not dare you to do it he read the article ████ this guy the article dude all right I'm not going to do Joe's got nothing but gratitude for you but tell me your plan [Laughter] also if someone's suicidal don't show them C what do short-term plans it's a bad movie shortterm you didn't any supplies you what do you see yourself in 5
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