0:00 [Music] and in another episode of am I the beeple I love these am I the beeple for hiding my child's savings account from my ex and not letting him contribute here we go wait what my ex and I divorced 8 years ago we have a 12-year-old son together we don't discuss finances other than child support I don't care for any money he may or may not give to our child directly okay years ago I opened a savings account for my kid I religiously transfer a set amount plus child benefit into every single month wow I also put some loose change in there whenever I can my kid knows of this account and gets to decide if any monetary gifts from family and friends are to be spent immediately or added to his growing savings he doesn't keep tabs on the account but has a rough idea of how much he gets every month and how much he's
0:51 got already that's pretty cool my son must have told my ex about the account because my ex approached me about it he asked to see the account I refused the he he asked to at least know the exact amount he has a rough idea I refused I don't see the point he asked to contribute and become a co-owner as in the account is to be from Mom and Dad I asked if he'd like to make a big initial payment he doesn't as he doesn't have that kind of money to just throw into the account nobody can access for years he just wants to join in now and throw in some cash here and there but the uh but the amount that's already in there is to be overlooked I refused let me see how much like hey come on let me see put on this piece of paper hey how much how much that sounds so shady with the shades and that jacket is in there he told me that I can
1:43 only afford that thanks to his child support contributions I told him that the child support is his duty and is spent on our son's current needs not for him to hold it over my head he called me a jerk for not telling him about the account when I first opened it because now he's 8 years behind and won't be able to match it and it will look bad when oh when my kid grows up and only gets my support damn I told him that it's up to him whether or not he invests in our child child's future he still has a long time to save something if he so wishes he told me I was a jerk for purposefully making him look like a bad dad for not having thought of something like this I don't think it's fair to ask him to jump in and claim to have contributed to the savings I've worked hard for years but now I wonder if I actually acted like an A Beat pole for creating a situation in which I look like the better and more caring parent one one thing that raises a red flag for me is why can't you just contribute why
2:33 do you have to have why do you have to be a part of the account yeah like that's shady if you can withdraw money that makes me feel like and why do you know why didn't need to know the total like if you contribute like I don't know 50 bucks a month or whatever like just do that I think he's insecure at the idea that even if he only starts contributing 50 bucks a month now but she's already been doing it for eight years and then his stance is I've been paying child support yeah he was been TR child child support so it's okay no I think it's the idea of like this one account that somehow got leaked to him by the kid oh your mom give you this whole thing but also I've been paying for your things every month no yeah couldn't some of that go be the money she's putting in no she is she she is putting some of the benefits into it the kid will know like yeah dad put the thing give us every month no I'd say I
3:24 mean I guess he's just worried about the Optics of when he gets to like age 18 and gets the account and it's like mom did account for me he might not necessarily compute that it's like oh like that was only also possible cuz Dad always paid child support I think he's afraid that the dad's afraid that like my name's not a coowner of the account so there's not like a giant gift at the end when the kid turns 18 but if the mom is nice enough maybe she'll be like oh um your dad also pay child board every month and I I kind of like got a AE Head Start I think there's I think there's a lot of weird things I think the first one is being a a another account holder on the account that's weird especially if he doesn't have that kind of money to match it so if he has less money I see that more of a threat and he's focused on the wrong thing like it's he's focused on how he looks which is a
4:14 selfish goal rather than how much the kid actually has later on yeah that's the bigger thing cuz it's like I think if you're if he's like a like a dope Dad it's like okay I if you can Comm uh Commit This Much I'll just Commit This Much it's not as much but ultimately I want the person that reap the rewards to be my kid and not how much praise I have and then the other thing is I don't know if he has that good of a relationship with his kid cuz most kids just want the relationship even way more than the money that's true so if you and your dad are tight as and you gave him zero bucks the kid will be like dude my dad was so ████ cool to me like yeah I got this account from my mom but she's a ████ actually like my my dad or whatever you know but the dad is I think focused on like yo I want to give 50/50 like imagine if I'm just going to imagine that he he doesn't want to steal from
5:04 his kid and whatever right yeah so he just wants to look at the account and go oh ████ all right there's like 30 Grand in there all right ████ well um that means I got to like try to match that and then at the end of it it's like yo I gave 50502 you know and I'm doing my part if he's coming at it that way I can see that but my ████ spider sensus tells me that um this guy wants to steal some of that whether manipulate their son or whatever and if he doesn't have that kind of money and if the kid has more money in his savings and if he's Aigner on it and he can withdraw at any given time he can pull that money out cuz the bank is not going to stop him I don't know who this guy is but dude that just sounds like it seems like he it's dangerous or if the lady is being a ████ and you really cared about your
5:54 kid just start another account and you create another account and yeah maybe it'll be less but if you really cared about the kid getting the money at the end it might be half of whatever has already been saved up but then now the kid will end up with two savings accounts when he's 18 or whatever right that's pretty cool yeah or just ████ buy like a house all this stuff and as you grow whatever and then just ████ you know write your write your will off to your kid and send that off like why it's just a weird kind of petty ass yeah it's so mentality yeah that's tough man it's probably also just like packaged with an insecurity of already like not being the main caregiver to the child and only having to just pay child support and then finding out that like oh here's another thing that when the kid turns 18 is going to be like you weren't good enough yeah cuz this is actually my exact situation my parents
6:44 got divorced when I was six and uh my mom had a savings account for me all my red envelopes went into there and uh my Dad paid my mom child support it was like 500 bucks a month and up to when I was 18 I knew there was way more money in the savings account because on my mom's side but I never held that against my dad because I knew my mom's job paid more than my dad my dad's a dealer at a casino my mom worked like an actual like 9 to-5 corporate job so she was making like maybe 70 or 80 GS a year by the time I was 18 and then you know if you're a dealer at a casino you don't really make that much and so I never held that against my dad do you feel like your Dad held that against himself maybe I'm not sure I I I don't know if he if he did as a kid I never you just want a relationship with your parent and
7:35 that relationship isn't really tied to the money you know this guy is probably if he cares about even just like competing he's already a good dad cuz like my dad was like Mom was like Hey can you spare like 200 bucks a month just for like school supplies and clothes and ████ and he was like you trying to rob me dryw woman like these ████ gold diggers after you get a divorce you try to ████ take all the man's wealth and I'm like ████ it's 200 bucks a month and I know this is like 200 ████ three or whatever but that's 200 bucks a month bro and but this guy he wants to put money in and it's like I don't know that's still good even if it's a petty like desire it's like it's like he's not thinking about it in a way where it's like um I don't want to do it cuz there's a lot of fathers out there that don't want to do ████ I also wonder
8:25 if he's thinking like like I pay child support you take this child support you put it into this account that looks like it comes from you when he's 18 that's that's how I'm seeing it I'm seeing like oh here's money you gave me I'm going to make an account that's I'm putting it here and I'm giving to this guy it's like you say 80,000 that's a lot though we don't know right yeah no I said eight years okay yeah cuz that is he's contributing it's just now his name's not on it I think where they both ████ up is this is a savings account bro every year you're losing money like the inflation ████ Bitcoin Bitcoin you could be going to come on man sh to the Moon you know she ████ up dude so she is the ████ Yeah by putting it in a savings account what would you do if you were the if
9:15 Bitcoin all the way ████ I don't know find a good ETF or some ████ at least get something that has 5% returns man don't be a dodo bird doo bird doo if you can't pull out until these 18 we could give her the benefit of doubt it's one of those kids investment college funds nah man they're ████ putting it in a CD certificate of deposit with a 2% Return Man but you know what though like maybe after when the kid grows up maybe 15 or 18 he could if he's a good father he would if he had a good relationship with a kid that he could still explain himself like hey I did pay the CH more then but it's just that your mom took the things but I think it does go back to what you're saying like it is the relationship relationship is more than the rest will fall by the wayside you know the like when I got kicked out of
10:05 school and I went to live with my dad more than all the money that he had to start raising me at 15 was I saw him uh work graveyard shift he goes to work at 5:00 comes back home at 2:00 every morning he woke he still woke up at 7:00 to take me to school wow so that commitment I was like this Fool's committed like more than like money or ████ Buy F or anything just seeing his ACS and being trying to be as involved in my life as he could at the time I'm like dude this fo's committed do you feel like that's set an example for you of like how you lived your life and how you raised ta even at that time I felt like I I'm not going to admit it I'm trying to be hard damn I'm a ████ ████ I can't even wake up I can't even wake up if I slept at midnight this W went to sleep at 2:00 he just wakes up at 6:00 just to take me to school at 7:00 I'm like this is crazy that's cool that's true love right there for a whole
10:57 year he did that until I could drive was your dad always do when you were younger no my parents got divorced when I was six so but you live with Mom I live with my mom and I only saw him on uh Tuesdays and Wednesdays and he would take you to school on those days but but every Tuesday and Wednesday I also felt from him that I'm the priority wow where like I'll hear like some of my other friends you know they had like a split up or whatever and then like you know you're hanging out with your friend you're like oh isn't like your kids supposed to be over there n that Dad going to a Dodgers game or whatever I never had that every Tuesday and Wednesday I felt from my Pops that that was his most cherished day and there was never a day where he would be like oh yeah my friend came in from town I have to go see him so I'm not going to see you this week wow it was every Tuesday and Wednesday I do yeah I do think like up until being a teenager you want to be with your parents a lot and that's worth more than
11:48 like knowing you got a savings account yeah you I I had yeah I had my father I had a father till I was like 14 which is a good age of like being like oh ████ this fool I don't want to be around him cuz around by that time too you're like oh my parents are so lame like I don't want to I don't want to see them like they're embarrassing so it was like a good kind of moment but if that happened to me when I was like four or five I think that would that would be different yeah plus like when you're like 182 you don't even think about money like that on average so it's like You' be like damn my mom like she did the savings account now it's like 50 Grand but my dad he got me a motorcycle true you can't tell yeah you can't tell it's like a $2,000 thing yeah yeah so it's just you know this guy still has a chance to make a very lasting impact if I wanted to be an involved father like him right and let's
12:39 say like your visitation rights is only like once a week and you're known as like the guy you're you're you're paying child support but the kid doesn't ████ see that and feel that right and then like how else can you make an impact and how else can you contribute how else can you father and then you you feel like she has so much impact and control over like her image of everything and then you're just like ████ dude like now I feel like even more of a loser cuz I want to do more but I can't you think he's just projecting or some ████ yeah it's just it's just but you're already in a more insecure mindset because you don't have the time you want to spend with your kid or maybe he has to work hella far away so he can't even see him you know like so if if if I if I put myself in those shoes yeah I'd feel like ████ like I I don't wna raise a kid where you know when
13:31 they're 18 they go oh you didn't do enough you could have done more look at what Mom did she did all this ████ yeah the emotion might be justified but the action is is petty so yeah not the ████ I guess your father you said Tuesday Wednesday but you said he also beat your ass though no yeah those are the days he beat my ass too he was very involved so those those days if they're good Tuesdays and Wednesdays but he cherished those on Tuesday Wednesday those two days I'm driving over to beat a bar those two days are good is Happy Meal and yoso wow there's a Yos place right next to my Kung Fu spot yeah and if those days aren't good then it's beating my ass all over the house and then in my mind I'm like ████ you don't even live here get the ████ out of my house and I locked the bathroom
14:23 door he would beat your ass at your mom's house yeah cuz he drops me off oh my God and then he would go inside beat my ass and inside I'm like what are you doing and you don't live me anymore bro
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