0:00 Okay, this is a this is a dilemma that I that I saw on Reddit I thought it'd be really interesting. If you meet someone you're interested in and are beginning to date, is it morally acceptable to Google them or do background research using their name? >> Yeah. >> Yeah, that's the thing you do before you even meet them. That's step NUMBER ONE. >> BEFORE MEETING? >> YEAH. >> OH, YEAH. >> If you're a lady, you for sure have to do that. >> Even if you're a guy, you should. Like there's that girl that went around and like scammed like like hundreds of men out of millions of dollars. She like married seven dudes at a time or something like that. >> Those are just regular stories. It's the scams the other ways that make the news though. Though that's just a regular marriage to an NBA player. What's the what's Yeah, cuz to me I'm like this is common sense, right? If the internet is available it's not like you're going on some like police database. This is >> Show the the part that would be the the
0:50 downside of that. >> Or or what's the opposing end of that? >> Opposing end is that you might spoil yourself from like reaching any other level with them because there're things that you don't like. >> Yeah. >> Perhaps you would have been okay with if you would have warmed up to that person already. >> want to fall in love with a murderer. >> What would you have Googled and saw that you're like >> On one of the things someone mentioned that they had like Googled a person they were going to go on a date with and they saw that they had been previously divorced and it made them like not be into them. >> on them though. That's their fault. >> Yeah, that that that's not a morally bad thing that they Googled them. It's just that their preference was triggered once they found out. >> would you be would you be weirded out if the person you went on a date with like just knew all this stuff about you already? Like Yeah, you know, I checked you out and uh and they're just using like kind of like using deep cuts on you of your own life. >> Yeah. If it's something I put out like out in the open like something I I
1:40 posted like on my own socials. I'd be like okay, you did your research. But yeah, if it was like something wild like hey, I found this court case about you. I'D BE LIKE >> DOCKET NUMBER 684 >> Yeah, yeah, yeah. Yeah. >> Yeah, that would be a little weird, right? >> But you have to do your research. There's even this clip right now of Taylor Tomlinson was on Drew Barrymore and Drew Barrymore was talking about how she went on a date and this guy was like crazy or whatever and Taylor Tomlinson like did you not did you not Google him like did you not look like you are Drew Barrymore you have to do this like you should absolutely Google the person before meeting up with a stranger. >> Yeah, for her? >> Oh, for Drew Barrymore but for everybody yeah but for Drew Drew Barrymore especially. >> Yeah, I think I'm Googling everybody. >> How you doing that? >> Tycho's going to go on a date like you know when he's like in his teens or whatever I'm Googling that ████ the ████ families everyone I'm Google I'm ████ I'm I got to >> my neighbors like I want to I want to know who I'm living around yeah.
2:31 >> Have you ever found out anything interesting when Googling somebody that you weren't exactly warmed up to yet? You must have right? What's on your mind? >> Yeah he's thinking of one huh? >> Look at this guy. >> No no no no I was laughing at something earlier with him. Just talking about Googling some like teenage girl that Tycho's about to like I'm sitting here I'm like really like I think that's legit though. >> Just their family I don't know what the ████ they're up >> to. Well that's true. LinkedIn you know. >> Dude that's so funny cuz there's been people I found on LinkedIn and I see their LinkedIn profile pictures and I'm like um There's something about a LinkedIn profile picture like all you're trying to look like >> Yeah I feel I feel like there's some sort of like societally understood concept of like research depth right? It's like if you post anything online that's like visible for public on the one hand everybody understands on the second hand if like that was like 8 years ago that you found that like
3:22 that's going to trigger or signal some version of weirdness >> if it's your first date. I feel like as long as everybody's on the same page with that because with now now kids in this generation like you brought up Tycho they grew up with their entire life in a digital world already. So like everything every record whereas like for us like nothing exists past like 18 right when we're younger than that. So it's like it's different. Whereas like other people later on in the future everything is in versions of public record. I feel like it's a normal thing to just like look up another human, find out a bunch of ████ and that's like the normal thing. >> So, what's the relative depth? This is the question. Is how deep are you going the first time you look someone up? >> Oh, deep. >> All the way? You go all the way deep? >> Properties they've lived at, things they've owned. >> All right. So, you So, you would you would dig all the way to the core of the earth. >> Oh, yeah. As far back as I could go.
4:13 >> At the first date? >> Oh, yeah. Because that's how you have to know you're safe. And then another thing too, let's say like you guys meet online and you're like friends on Instagram. You'll see the things that they like, too, which is even more telling, right? When it starts to >> Yeah. Oh, yeah. >> think that's like ████ ████ up for you? >> Well, in a good way, right? Like if this if this if the thing you're like >> I mean, girls though. They got They need all the intel they can get. You would scroll all the way to the bottom of this person's feed. >> I I would go so far back. I would go so far back. So far back. >> of think stalking is okay, dude. Well, the more you know, the better. >> What if you go all the way back and then like there's things that are like you're not a fan Some things are like you're not into, but all those dudes' exes are like fine. >> Mhm. That's That is a compliment. You feel good about yourself, but then it's like why are there so many hot ████ And like what Am I just another notch in
5:03 the belt? Or like >> Well, you go all the way back. This is like a high school kids like a college Yeah, yeah. It's clearly different eras of life, obviously. >> He's talking about himself here, dude. >> Oh, okay. Oh. He's dated all the hottest bro Dated all the hottest bro. >> flip side, you know, like when you end up getting caught up in something with a person and it's complicated. Then later on, if you do reach core or whatever, the first thing the lawyer's going to say it's like, "Wait, how come you didn't do your due diligence and Google them?" Then it seemed like such a duh moment. You're like, "F███, I should have." So, it's like something that could easily be prevented. Like why didn't you just do that? >> Yeah. >> I'm for sure going to Google my daughter's dates or whatever. >> Teenage boys, you mean? You're going to Google teenage boys? >> Yeah. What the hell, dude? >> Yeah, I'm doing it in her login account, though. >> Okay. Okay. Okay. Smart. Smart. smart. >> But that that being said, though, I do feel like at that point, what would I actually
5:53 care about? I would care that uh teenagers too hard. Teenagers that everybody's going to do stupid ████ and learn their way and you're trying to give them freedom. Like later on, like if it's a serious situation, I'll be I'll be curious about their family. >> Like 25? >> About like maybe like the religious values in terms of like what they're going to like potentially impress upon her. Uh I would I would be curious of like where they live, you know, where they come from. Those are the only things I would want to Google. I don't think it would be like a like a let me find out your preferences and stuff like that. >> you find. What if it's like she's dating Tony Stroblioni or whatever, right? And you Google Stroblioni and you're like, "Oh ████ this motherfucker's connected to the mob." >> Money. >> So you got to Google cuz you don't know where it can be. >> connected to the mob is just on Google?
6:43 >> It's a big deal, dude. >> Connected to the mob, yeah. >> So people know about this guy. >> The website? >> Yeah, he's a made man. >> If she ever brings somebody home, I want to know how old he is. That's important to me, I think. So a Google will probably help me find out. If that fool is like, you know, like 10 years older and she's like younger, I might be like, "Hey, this is a problem to me." >> Yeah. >> Yeah, no, yeah, yeah. >> Not that he's connected to the mob. >> Pretty reasonable, this guy. >> First he's like, "Yo, I saw in Facebook in 2007 when you did You know what I mean? I don't think I would do that." >> you do with the information is the weird part. >> Cuz I think a lot of times it sounds like what you want is just peace of mind, right? Like you just want to know whether what whatever you do with the information is up to you, but you just want to know, right? >> You know what it is too, though? It's desensitizing the work, right? If I had to sit at like my computer and like actually do all this work and try to put a dossier, I'd be like, "I'm a ████ up
7:33 parent, right?" But if I had a homie or something like that was like, "Hey, can you do a background check on this kid real quick?" >> All right. >> And you know what I'm saying? >> Somebody else. >> It's so easy. It's like it just happens and here's the information. I'd be like, "Yeah, yeah, give me this info." But I just had an epiphany. What if So, back uh little context for you. My mom ████ loves getting her fortune read. >> Ooh, same. >> And and I hate it. I ████ hate that she always does this. >> Yeah. >> like, she doesn't have Google. Maybe this is her Google back in the day. Let me do some research of the future. >> realm, dude. >> What did you do back then, you know? >> Let me let me do some due diligence on his future. >> But you would always ask people like, "Hey, DO YOU KNOW ABOUT SO-AND-SO? LIKE, can you tell me about them?" Like, that was always a thing. >> I've I've taken it a step further and not even look up the person, but like when you find their Yeah, the mutuals or
8:23 like if you find their exes, go to their exes' page. Cuz is their ex posting them or is their ex posting like, "Oh my god, this horrific thing happened." Like, you got it you got to do your research. >> women find everything, dude. >> The ex could >> Put US IN THE FBI ALREADY, GOD DAMMIT. >> BE crazy and then now you're going, "Oh, I got to deal with the crazy ex." >> Exactly. >> cut that off. >> Either she's Yeah, either she's the crazy one or she's posting things that are like she's clearly on a healing journey of some kind. Like, did this Did this induce it somehow, right? >> Nina be doing that. Nina will randomly be like, "Hey, these people break up?" And I'm like, "What?" And I swear like a week later I'll find out that they broke up. >> What? >> Like three, four times. >> Cuz she could just read the signs. >> Just read the signs. Intuition on how they post. >> Yeah, it's it always starts with the chicks. >> Oh, really? >> Yeah, it's like there's this language with the chicks. >> coldness they display on their feed. >> No. >> It's the memes that they post is what it
9:13 is. The like heartfelt like It's not about the battle, it's about the wins or whatever. Yeah. >> I'm going through a breakup classic. >> Maybe, I don't know. She knows. >> There's such a funny thing though where like we we all agree this is like a permissible thing and you should do it. But the odd thing is I feel like if I was single and and I went on a first date and and that girl had told me, "Hey, I looked you up." I would feel weird. Even though it's something you should do. >> Cuz I think you're just putting her under a microscope. So the reaction is that you feel like, "Well, what the ████ did you find?" >> You know. >> I don't think it's a matter of you feel weird. I think you just appreciate it when somebody has no idea who you are because you also are a public figure. >> I'm not a public figure. That's >> Yeah, pretty public. >> What if they find like I think it's like if they find odd odd things it's it's hard to you can't give context on so much you don't know what they saw. >> you enjoy it more the other way, but it's totally not wrong for that person to look you up is all I'm saying.
10:04 >> it might be that delivery. Like let's say if she looked you up and she just kept it to herself it's cool, but the fact that she brought it up at the first date. >> Those are the only two scenarios. The person looked you up. They're either telling you or not telling you. >> But also also that's not fair though. >> Nobody's not looking anyone up. >> So you got to also think about the randomness of this. Let's say you want to look somebody up. What are you looking them up for? You're looking them for basic information. But what happens if you stumble across the fact that you looked them up and they have an entire online personality and all this work and amazing stuff. And now you're down a rabbit hole cuz you're interested in this person. You're just like, "What the ████ they did?" >> Yeah, that's true. >> That's different. Yeah. >> And then you're going to show up the next day and you're like, "Let me be fake about this and pretend I didn't watch 3 hours of your videos." >> Yeah. >> That's hard, too. >> Or you go, "Stop being obsessed with me." And then you leave. >> I'm curious on the the Reddit thread. Is it all men against it? Like all the people that were against it or was it all men? I'm just just for food for
10:55 thought. >> Well, I guess generally women are saying like, "Hey, I actually did the same thing. I looked up a guy I was going to go on a date on. Turned out 66 criminal convictions, 27 arrests." And it's it's something like >> We're married now. >> That's their whole thing about like >> Happily ever after. >> That's their whole thing is like safety. >> Yeah. >> And I think like for guys it's just I don't think anyone's really against it. They're just more like when it's on the receiving end and someone's telling you they did it. I think for a lot of these men it feels uncomfortable. >> Yeah. >> Cuz they're not like famous guys that do something of note. They're just you're just looking up their work history and like >> It's for sure what have you found? Like that's >> Yeah, it might be that too. >> Go worst case scenario. And it's just kind of a crazy pretense, you know, a little bit. >> A little bit, yeah, it is. >> But it's like that's out of your control. You got to expect that now. >> I I experienced on a I experienced this
11:46 like on a small end. >> How? >> From a more parental side of things, which is kind of interesting. Cuz you know, like we'll just sign up Taika to like do sports, just regular. And then like and then you just think you're like just being regular and then they'll be like a parent that comes up to you and then they'll be like "Hey, so I found out you guys are kind of famous." >> Oh, that's weird, dude. >> And I'm like "Not really." And then they'll be like, "Yeah, >> She starts out drinking. >> You guys got lots of views on stuff." And I'm like, "Yeah, I don't watch any of it." But it's crazy then like >> Parent to parent. >> Yeah, because it's not even you're not even dating each other. >> Right. >> But it's like, "Oh, you know so much about me." Mhm. >> Yeah. >> Well, your kids are kind of uh dating but not dating. It's not romantic, but like the you know >> They're getting to know each other. >> you're in the circle. This is like the little community and you're like, "Okay, I guess we're going to be in this ████ community together."
12:36 >> Yeah. >> Or that happen where like a viral video will pop off and like a mom will come up to me and she's like, "I found your Instagram." AND I'M LIKE, "OH, NO." >> OH, GOD. >> PLEASE, NO. YEAH. >> you know like that, too. I found something. >> Yeah, that's the thing, yeah. >> Oh, yeah, that is weird. I don't really like that, really. Yeah, I guess those are the downsides are always when you're on the receiving end of the >> Yeah. >> Yeah. I think that's what it is. It just you just feel kind of creepy for no reason. >> did you see? >> Yeah. I've had it happen on like job interviews. Like people where they're in the job interview process when they're trying to hire you, they want to know a little bit more about you and then they'll spout out information and I'm like, "Oh, how'd you know that?" >> Worst one was when we were at we were seeing Tiff's surgeon in Cleveland. And he goes, "Hey, >> Wait, the Chinese guy who's really, really good at this ████ >> Bro, he's like >> the world. >> Yeah, this ████ looks at me and goes, "Hey, my kids was like watching a video and we saw you in there." And bro,
13:26 my I swear to god, my heart fell out of my ████ I felt so like Oh, really? I just fell over. No, it was the perfect time. I think I'm feeling a little woozy, doctor. >> That is a really unexpected place to have that happen. >> I saw him later that year, he brings up the same story over again. >> Oh, man. >> Then we relived it twice. You didn't have to pretend like >> heart to correct him and be like, we had this conversation. >> I was like, oh, cool. But it it hurt less the second time though. That's the that's the good news. >> What if it's a different video? What if this kid just subscribed? >> No, I think he just he wanted to tell me that he saw me twice on the ████ thing. And I go, okay. >> Yeah. >> Well, let us know in the comments, is it weird? Is nothing wrong with that? Should you research someone you're dating or someone you're interested in to the bottom of the dry well? Or is it
14:18 something where you'd rather be pleasantly surprised, criminal convictions and all? >> Please do your due diligence. >> Always Google the lady's name and then write OnlyFans and then search. >> See if you get it for free first.
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