0:00 You know what they don't tell you when you have a kid, which is like a duh, but one of the worst parts of fatherhood is you just like don't have any time for your friends anymore. >> Oh ████ >> Dang, that feels real. >> And you just can't hang out. And then people are like trying to hang out and then you're like, "Oh, I can't make it." And then you say that two or three times and then they stop hitting you up. >> Then you're then your phone gets dry. That's how you know nobody wants to hang out. >> And then you start you you ████ start spiraling. You start going on IG and stuff. start watching what people better men have. You know, >> you look at the stories, >> they're just they're just going out and like there's like things like freedom and like there's just like drinks and there's >> Do you feel FOMO? Do you go like ████ >> I'm not going to lie. >> Why did I do this? >> The baby sleeping. >> I'm not going to lie. More more than >> you ruined my life.
0:50 >> It's been a conscious put down the phone. You know when you like kind of like doom scroll and it's like almost subconscious now. Yeah. >> Now there's a conscious like uh >> Oh, this isn't going to make me feel good. >> Oh, >> because I'm just watching people just like >> do stuff like go watch a movie. >> Oh, like No, like that. I thought you meant like Oh, they're in the beef getting ████ straight up earded. >> No, I mean anything. >> But now you see why I don't watch a movie for like 3 years. >> Why? Cuz I was in his shoes. >> I think he's watching hella movies though. >> But that's different from social life. No, the movie in theaters. He's a movie. Remember you guys were like, "How come you haven't seen this? It's the biggest movie ever." I'm like, "Because I can't bring a baby to a movie theater." >> Yeah, but Bart, you also don't sail the high seas, my friend. There's ways to watch those movies at home. >> Yeah. No, but you're asking me about movies in the theater. I understand. I
1:41 understand. Yes. Yeah. Now, not going to the theater now. Just being at like Ryan's wedding, right? and and just uh having to finagle the exact way I'm going to incept the idea that maybe Nina should drive home and I'll Uber by myself. >> Yeah. How do you do that? >> To kind of squeeze a little bit more of the friend timeout. >> Yeah. You know, and so like cuz if I suggested that's like very selfish. >> So how did you intercept it? That's the qu that's the juicy. >> How you how'd you how'd you convince this dumb ████ >> Advice for men with kids out there. Anthony is going to give you some solid stuff. In the comments below, let us know how you wiggle away. >> How do you get out of the house, dude? >> Honestly, I think when it comes to like those very case by case specific decisions, right, when you got to like incept it, I really hope Nah's not watching this. Uh cuz she's going to know all my tactics. >> First four are not good for you. First four is not good. >> But to get your back, Nina, the conflict
2:32 starts within the father first, >> right? >> What's that mean? >> Yeah. What does that mean? >> Did you just have his back? >> No. No, I did have it back. So like I think it's kind of like you're blaming them. >> No, no, no. Cuz like I think how moms view it, moms or or wives or whatever, how they view it is like let's say you finally do get your outing, right? They're you're like, "See, you did this all day and I'm home at night, blah blah blah." You just wanted to go out. But before that conflict even reaches your wife, you already have the guilt. You're like, "F███, should I even like is this that important for me to leave my kid to go do this?" You have that. And you have to beat yourself first. before you even present it to your wife and your wife doesn't know that she's already like the the manager. You already pass the assistant manager before you pass that on. And then when she slaps you down, you're like, "F███, I actually got beat by two managers, but
3:22 you think I just got beat by one, right?" Like, yes. And I think that only comes from the mentality of people that would like to consider themselves good fathers, though. I I can't I can't speak for everybody. I think there's definitely a generation of people that are like, I'm trying to get the ████ out the house, you know, but uh but there's definitely the like like, oh, okay, but like, you know, Lana's probably going to be at this at this hour. Like, what are we going to do? And it's like, I don't know, you know, it's like it's Ryan's wedding. Are you like, "Hey babe, like you look tired. You should go home right now. You look really tired. I'm looking out for you." >> Why don't you take the car, babe? You should take the car. Actually, >> she is the best gas lighter. Huh. >> Hey, and babe, I'm just going to stay here at the open bar and chill. >> I'm just trying to stay open for the conversation to go wherever she wants it to go. That's all. You know, wherever she wants to lead, I want to just support and follow.
4:12 >> Hey, babe. Do you have any ones for the open bar? >> Do you Did you go like, "Oh, I'm getting tired." And she goes, "Me, too." And you're like, "Oh, great. THEN YOU CAN GO HOME AND I can chill." >> No, she knows. She knows. I think at the end of the day now, now we're obviously just discovering this because we have to. Everything is just a compromise. It's a trade-off. If I get this, I'm going to give you that later. If you give me this, I'm going to give you that, you know, like it's just constantly going to be that. She just had a bachelorette thing and I had to take care of the baby where she was at Disneyland and stuff like that. And I'm like, you know what? Like, this is difficult as ████ This is super super difficult. Mad respect to women who have to like deal with this. Granted, they do have the ultimate saving weapon, which is the nipple. Yes, that is no matter what, no matter how many times I shove my nipple in my daughter's mouth, it just doesn't work, you know? So, it's like, but I did that and I was like,
5:02 this one, this one's on me. This like Ryan's my she knows that. It's very clear. Like, Ryan's my boy forever. Like, I'm not uh I'm not going to go home unless like we really need me to go home, >> you know, >> like on I stayed extra late, too. >> Cut to Ryan flipping chairs on the top of the table and Anony's like, "We're partying, baby." And he's like, "We should get the ████ Can you just get the ████ out of here?" >> And he's the only one still trying to >> go home, Anthony. >> Like, please, please, let's just party one more hour. >> I'm going hard for you. I'm going hard for you. There was one moment I do remember I like drank something. I looked around. All you guys were gone. Looked around. All the Kindles was gone except for Ace. Then I was like, I think I should go. >> Do you even remember I drank with you? >> Yes. >> I drank a lot. >> Yeah, you did.
5:52 >> Yeah. I I remember you drink with me because because I went up to him and he had some and I was like, "What?" And then he's like, "Joe's drinking too." He had a whole glass already. >> And then you you passed me your cup and then I took a nice little chug of that and then I said, "I'm not going to refuse any alcohol today." >> Dude, Subin came up to me cuz I got seriously ultra sunburned. I got torched before I showed up. >> Yes, you did. >> And Subin comes up to me. He's like, "Oh, ████ You've been drinking already." And I'm like, "I don't have Asian glow, dude. ████ sunburn. You were drinking all >> Sufi's the >> And I remember you had to get the shirt the day of, so you were hella cripped out in this bandana print. >> Yeah, dude. I had this band that match Nikki's dress at least. But that's all I had. >> I was like, damn, Steve, you're crying today. >> Do you remember Nikki begging me to go take you shopping? >> Yeah, she wants you to. She wants She wants >> She's like, I will give you a budget.
6:43 I'll give you a budget. You could do just anything. >> She's like, just get him out of his ████ jerseys and ████ >> Poor guy. So, uh, all right, let's get to the fun stuff, right? What would you rather be doing than hanging out with your daughter? Like, what is what is the thing you go >> that you haven't done in a while that you miss? >> Obviously, that's uh >> I get it though. She's like a worm right now. Like, >> she's a worm right now, dude. >> It's uh Dude, this sounds so selfish. Any any ████ mom watching right now, it's like, "F███ this guy." Any any dad who tries to make a request of things during this >> sounds like a scumbag. >> Well, you're with the boys. You're with the boys. You're with the boys ████ >> Hey, there's a lot of guys that know >> the girls are girls. Click away right now. Click away. >> Click away. >> Okay, I know this is >> Let's set the bar. Okay, you ████ judgmental chick. >> Yeah, >> there's some guys that are just they just leave.
7:33 >> They're not. >> They never come back. >> This is better than that. >> Just know that that exists and you don't know where the ████ Andre went for ████ eight months. >> Why is his name Andre? >> I don't know. >> This is close to Anthony. >> Just know that guys always have that option, too, girls. So chill out there. >> Oh ████ >> Anthony Cleave whenever he wants. He's a good guy for staying. All right. I don't want to I don't want to. >> All right. Now that we made you look really good. Go ahead. >> Honestly, we needed that. >> But now we got Anthony to Tam Lee. You go. >> You got to back up Mark too, bro. Because now Ta's fun. But >> I just backed him up right now. >> When he wasn't when he wasn't fun. What would What was T? Top five things you'd rather be doing. >> Yeah. >> Instead of holding a crying ass baby. >> Top five things. >> Five time. You You too. Top five things. Not watching Not watching the new Marvel movie >> then watching my kid >> get roasted everything. >> I think if you had a genie it'd be like
8:23 how do I freeze time? I'm going to go do my old life ████ and then freeze time and I didn't miss out any time with my kid. >> Eating click >> click. >> Anything is better. >> Anything. >> Well, it's not it's not a matter of better. >> Anything. No, no. Anything is any you know anything is dude. >> Yes. Anything is better. But let me tell you, it's not that I want to be away from her. is that I want her to be with me while I'm doing the things that I want to do. So I >> But even that's worse. >> Cuz I want to go like let's say like I want to go I want to go work out. >> I want to work out, but I just want you to be there watching me and I want you to go Yeah. while I'm like >> But even that's worse cuz you go let's say even McDonald's, right? You go with your your lady >> before it's the you could eat as long as you want, an hour or two, whatever. This even if you arrive at McDonald's and the baby's sleeping, you know it's a little ticking time bomb. So you're like
9:13 and then you're like, "Oh ████ actually no crying. That's awesome." But the next time could be completely different. You go in McDonald's. Okay. No McDonald's. Go home. Go home. It's like everything. >> Yeah. That that that's for sure how it >> That's what you get for That's what you get for your old life spending an hour at McDonald's. >> We're dining in today. >> He's like an hour or two at McDonald's. >> Your finest table, please. For sure it's not going to be close, but like when I hear the boot camp stories that they tell about just like having 10 seconds to eat, that that joke comes to my mind because like >> it's pretty close, dude. >> Yeah. Because because there's literally times where it's like you hear the crying and then you see the death stare and you're there and you're like, >> THAT'S FUNNY, >> DUDE. cuz like otherwise like dude this
10:05 place just going to go cold and then I'm just going to go and I don't know if that's going to be a 5minute fix or a ████ 40-minute fix or you've also like maybe you haven't ate out for 30 days. So you're like okay cool I've been missing dy fun. I want to eat dye fun. You go there everything is prepped. You you you made sure the baby pooped already. You did your walk. You did you set the whole scene. Everything is good. You go there. A freakout happens and then you're like ████ I'm not about to waste like a $100 worth of food. So you're still like Like you just you want to savor the moment and then you're like, "Was that good, babe?" "Yeah, that was so good. Talking to a lie to yourself." >> You just want to be outside, though. >> Yeah. Yeah. You just want to be cuz one of my worst moments was I was like cabin fever and I like to do like I like to go out and do stuff, right? And I'm like, "F███, I've been ████ home for ████ so long. Holy ████ s███." And
10:57 I'm like, "What can I do that kind of checks all the boxes?" I'm like, "I know. I miss off-roading, camping a little bit, whatever. Why don't we go off-road? You know, the Isusa off-road uh uh off-road ████ park or whatever. I'm like, I'm gonna go off-roading with the baby. We go We go there. We p We pull up. Gio's like, I don't know if this is a good idea. The baby can't even hold his neck up that well cuz he's still like like this, you know, like >> and so let's go off-roading. And the ████ baby's like I'm like and I'm like we're going to go we're going to do the small trails that's going to be chill and what it's actually going to be it's like you're thinking off-road I'm thinking family picnic. She's like all right that seems like a compromise. So we go we offroad. We go over a creek whatever. Then we go off to the side. I set up like a a half-doome tent. The kind that's like a tent on one side and the other side is just open. So you have
11:47 shade. Ta's there with his like little milk bottle on his mouth. And then we're chilling like see isn't this nice? It's like, "Yeah, this is nice." Out of nowhere, ████ 70 dune buggies drive by and dirt bikes like this. And then like you can't even see the air anymore. And we're like, and she's like, "See, babe?" And I'm like, "What? It's all right. It's all right. This will be good." Just a little dust. >> That's a little dust. It's good for the lungs. Taikup takes his sippy cup out of his mouth and there's a black ring around his whole mouth because his whole face is covered in dirt. >> Oh my god. >> Oh ████ >> That sucks, dude. Damn. >> And I'm like, "Okay, I guess I'm never going off with the baby ever again." But you try to make everything fit, you know? You're like, "How can I make
12:38 everything back time?" Gio's like, "We shouldn't do this." >> Yeah. How do I get some me time? be a good dad, good husband, you know, try to get it all and then I call that a successful day. >> That's what I call it, too. >> A little dirt is fine. Immune system, you know, >> we lived like that every day in the past anyway. >> That's what I'm saying. Sticks and ████ >> Sticks and ████ >> Back in Vietnam. >> Honestly, you guys should have kids. It's really, really fun. Uh, you know, ████ >> He's in it. That's why he can't say anything. We got to wait five years from now. And you'll be like, "Motherfucker, >> you can wait ████ 5 months from now." >> Oh, dude. >> Well, she's 5 months old now, right? >> Four. >> Oh, you're in it, dude. You're in the trenches. >> In the thick of it. 123 days in. >> You're in the food scarfing phase. >> Let's just go see a movie. Let's just stop filming. Let's go see a movie,
13:28 >> dude. Neo's like, "Hey, for Father's Day, you can go watch any movie you want." I'm like, "For ████ Father's Day, I'm going to spend it without my family. That's how you think I want to spend my >> Just by yourself." >> That's how crazy it is. >> Let me just do that Monday through Sunday on a regular day. Pre-life is movie any ████ day, anytime, whatever. Now you got to wait once a year to watch a movie without without your wife. >> That's why I got to save it up for GTA 6. That's like 12 movies in one go. >> Keep pushing for GTA 6. You're like, "Hey, this is my father's day." >> Roll it. >> Roll it over. Roll it over.
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