0:00 Have you guys ever snooped on your chick's phone? >> No. >> Not one time? >> No. >> Never snooped? >> No, let me let me try and be realistic. >> No, I've never. Why, did you recently? >> No, no, no. There's a story to this, but I I'm asking. >> Honestly, no. I've never snooped on an ex's phone or my present girlfriend's phone, but I did see my ex's email open uh back in like 2010. And that's how I found out she was still talking to her ex. >> Woah. >> It was just open in the computer? >> Laptop on in the kitchen table. And then the first name I saw >> Sounds like she wanted to get caught. >> A little bit, probably, but yeah. >> So, she was writing an email? >> Yeah, she was emailing the dude, yeah. >> Damn. >> Like, I'm not saying I ever do, but if I'm talking to an ex, I'm not leaving my laptop out open in the community area.
0:50 >> That's careless. >> And no, like it was like, I don't know. It said the email said like, "Can't wait to see you." >> Oh, that's crazy. [laughter] >> And this fool lived in Colorado. He wasn't even in LA. >> This for sure she's trying to get caught. >> Where I was like, damn. >> So, one of my first girlfriends, I remember she would keep up with her exes via email. And I always thought that was ████ up and weird. >> Yeah. >> And like, she would just explain to me that like, "They're just her friends and ████ like that." But I was always like, "I think that's actually whack." And then after we broke up, she was doing the same ████ to me. >> Oh. >> And like, emailing me and stuff. >> Like, you guys never emailed while you guys were together? >> I never emailed her back one time. But but exactly. So, like I never emailed her back one time, but she would She would email me like every 6 months or >> Is that like her version of keeping like the leads warm in case she wants to, she can have like that open door? >> That's my working theory.
1:40 >> Or is it like Dexter? Every time he like kills somebody, he keeps like one little blood fingerprint somewhere? Yeah. >> I don't think it was that. Uh good guess. I think it was Bart's thing. I think it's just more like keeping the >> I think some people just can't let go, man. >> I think you're right. >> Yeah, cuz like after we broke up, she didn't get back with him or nothing. She had a clear path to get back with the dude, but I think it's a thing where like they just can't let go of the connection they had with these people. >> Can't wait to see you sounds like I'm a ████ >> Yeah, 100%. >> Like thrown on the bed. >> I don't know if they I really don't know if they would have. I think it's one of those things where like some girls and guys too believe they have like a special connection with someone and it's like an emotional thing. And it's like a tether for them like in their life. They just can't let go of it. >> Nope, for me every single one was a lesson for the next one. >> Sure. >> 100%. You have to learn from everyone of us. >> That's the proper way to be. >> [laughter] >> So this story from Reddit I'm going to
2:31 truncate it cuz way too ████ long. People on Reddit like to write too much. It was basically like this this um guy he found out that his ex on accident I guess um was contacting her ex bef as they were engaged. They just got engaged. >> Ooh. >> Yeah, and contacted her ex and basically was like um talking ████ on >> the new guy the guy she's with now. >> the new guy but before they were together together. So like they they would take dating the dating messages the early messages and they would make fun of this cat. >> How sad. >> And so later just before the wedding >> Dang. >> the this person reads it and they're like oh my god so you were ████ on me the whole time with your ex. And then
3:22 like I guess things got better but like is that betrayal too much? Like what do you guys >> Cuz it's so early? >> It's so it was just in from the jump. >> I think it's pretty sad. >> relationship that she has with her ex where she's ragging on the guys that she's dating with her ex and they have that friendship. That already is kind of weird. >> Very weird. >> But then he must know that they're friends. >> I mean they they weren't together yet so it's like not a breach. >> Yeah, they weren't together. >> But to know that your person now was ragging on you then and like sending private messages that you guys were flirting with. >> But they're about to get married. >> They're fiancés, yeah. >> Now they are. >> Oh, they are. But at the time they weren't. >> At the time they weren't. >> It depends on personality type though. Cuz it could be one of those funny girls that just rags on everything. And and maybe they have that kind of like you and Nikki. >> if she stayed with them, they're together, and then they're about to get married.
4:12 >> But like wouldn't >> And you found out now. >> Wouldn't you disclose like man, I got to tell you something. You know what I mean? Like >> I used to do this with you blah blah blah. >> And like it's ████ up and I love you and I I was >> Why? If it's unproductive like does it matter? >> It's a little immature, but but but here's the thing. It all came back right to the surface cuz this cat was doing wedding invites. And so his uh you know, chick was sleeping. And he's going through the phone. Or no, I'm sorry. Her dude's sleeping and she's going through the his phone cuz he's like, "Hey look, you you deal with it to wedding invites. I got to go to bed." And and he's going through all the way back cuz like aunties and uncles you don't text them much. And so he's going all the way back and then he sees, "Oh my god, from the ex." And the whole dating history that they had of making fun of this person. So it's like it's pretty ████ >> Probably got uploaded cuz of the fact >> of detail It's unfortunate to find that
5:04 out, but that person does have every right to react however they want. >> I agree. >> It's not really but it just sucks to find it. >> How far back did this guy go in text message? If it's like 3 years ago, it's like at the same time you're reading a bunch of details from something that's like years ago and since then that person's been like sucking your dick for a long time. You know >> No, totally. But like but isn't it like doesn't it ████ with your story a little bit? >> I think what I think the thing to do then is you do bring it up and then how she handles it is how it's going to get handled. >> Yeah, yeah, yeah. >> So you bring it up yo, I didn't I didn't mean to see this blah blah blah. This is what happened. Dude, I can't help but feel a certain way. If she gets defensive right off the bat, that's a red flag. >> If she doesn't go to sorry city right away. >> If she goes to sorry city, she's like, "Oh, you know what? I was such an idiot I since then I fell in love whatever. I think how she handled it is how it's going to get handled. I think it's his fault. >> You really do?
5:54 >> Cuz that wasn't for his eyes and he wasn't supposed to be snooping in her phone. >> Well, no, but he's not snooping cuz he's I mean, maybe maybe maybe he is and he's giving us his Reddit story. >> Yeah, but it that that that to me is like, did you would did she allow you to open up the phone? Okay. >> So, she's going to bed and and and he's like, I need I need your aunt's and uncle's numbers and so he's like she she so she's like, look, I I'm going to bed so like here unlocks her phone and gives it to him and then he he's scrolling. >> But where it becomes snooping is clearly she's talking to her ex and then he starts scrolling backwards and backwards and backwards. >> No, no, no, cuz he finds it randomly while looking for aunties and uncs. >> No, but to Joe's point what I'm saying though, if you find it and you and you know it yeah, exactly. >> Stop right stop right away. >> I got it. I got it. I got it. >> He's the one that violated it and on top of that, I expect everybody to talk
6:44 ████ Like >> Okay, yeah. >> It's not for your eyes and ears. How they feel about you today, what they've been doing action wise, that's what matters. Cuz people do it all the time. Like no there no one doesn't talk ████ behind your back. That's just natural. But the thing that makes it weird is the whole boyfriend ex-girlfriend thing. That's what makes it ████ weird. Cuz if she did that with her homegirls, it doesn't ████ matter. But that part is the >> girls chat? >> Yeah, cuz they're going to talk ████ They're all girls do it, right? >> Sure. >> But it for me I'm like, okay, I think the violation is oh ████ so they were looking down on me and that's competition. That's her ex she he already ████ her and then like he feels smaller. >> Mhm, I can see that. I can see that. >> non like compete to like you know, even to like Nina the not another girl. She just stumbled upon like one of my like boys chats. I'm sure there's something I
7:36 should get in trouble for in there. >> Of course, yeah. >> That's just boy banter. >> But what if it was foundational? Like you We're talking your relationship. >> rocks >> the foundation. >> Do your relationship just started? You're in that flirty zone, and then she's tense She's sending the flirty text to her ex, and they're clowning on your ass. Hardcore. >> So, what you're saying it's it's at the beginning of the relationship you're receiving this relationship this way, but she's taking it another way. So, you're like, "Are Did we start on false terms almost?" >> Totally. It just It just shakes the foundation, I think. Shakes it. Doesn't destroy it. Shakes it. Shakes it. >> But at the same time, like, you know, that's your fiance. >> You have to have some big boy conversations. >> Yeah, that's all. >> What if um while you were talking to your your your your wife now, right? What if in the very early stages she was also talking to someone, but they're
8:26 ████ And then And then like, well, I mean, that happens all the time, right? Like, they're dating around, but you just meet someone, you start talking to them, but they're already ████ somebody else. >> Yeah. >> Is that the same thing? Or is it different cuz it's Is it Is it >> Cuz it's ████ talking? >> It's different cuz it's ████ talking. >> Because I think you're sharing a vulnerable part of you with her, and you didn't know that she was going to share that with someone else. That just happens to be their ex, too. >> And share it mockingly. >> Oh. >> She's screen capping these flirty messages. Hey, look at this ████ loser. >> Yeah. >> And he's like, "Haha, what a ████ loser." >> preferable that she just ████ somebody then then she made fun of how you were recording her. >> Especially you being vulnerable and sentimental. >> Cuz you might look back at those memories and feel good. >> How you It redefines your genesis. >> It robs you of that of the early ████ >> heartbroken if I found that.
9:16 >> be heartbroken. >> agree with Joe, though. Like, when you find that email, it is up to you to have So, it'd be like, let's say your chick's going to move in with you, and then you're like, "Oh, she's going to I'll just go upstairs and help grab all my stuff, and then and then we'll we'll go meet at the ████ the new house." You go upstairs, and you're grabbing all her stuff, and you see a box from her ex. This to me would be like she you actually open the box when the contents of inside the box >> What if what if you're what if you're moving stuff and then you drop the box and the box opens and the letters boom and it's on caps locks. All caps lock and then you just have magnifying glasses and you're like oh so I can read everything? >> [laughter] >> Then that's a different conversation. But but then the email popping up it is up to you whether you click it or not, you know. >> I don't want to know that ████ I don't like stuff like >> your situation you had no choice really.
10:06 You walked by and it was on it was open. It's not like you dug and then you ████ omicron'd it. >> And this is 2010 email and like you could see right away what the hell the thing's about. >> Did the subject say we uh >> Yeah, it said can't wait to see you, yeah. >> That's the subject? >> And then I oh I opened it because I saw that ████ and it was like it was like discussing the next time she was going to be in Colorado. >> But that to me is different too cuz it's happening. >> And it comes so also to give context I've told the story before. This came after she accidentally called me his name two times. So I it was already fresh. >> In the bang bang times? >> Yeah. There was one time there was one time in bed she said his name and then one time when we were fighting she called me his name. >> Okay, what's his name Josh? >> And I was like what? >> What's his name Brian? >> It's Josh. >> Oh. >> Oh that's far off. >> It was closer than >> ████ >> Yeah. >> She was like sorry I forgot your name I thought it was Brian. >> That would have been nice.
10:56 >> Yeah. >> I think there's a statue of limitations. >> You think? >> Like think about it. >> Yeah. >> If you've been together for seven or eight years this was like very early and then let's say you went through the messages and for the past seven years after that they've been keeping it like just casual platonic. There's no more, right? But that was the early stage before anything happened we're just flirting. I'd ████ pass it cuz it's seven years of new memories of like we're like she would change her mind. Like you're going to ████ punish her for something that happened in that moment when she barely knew who the ████ you were and she knew this ex like he was along. So, it's like to me, yeah. But if it was fresh, like you guys just got ████ engaged 6 months ago, this ████ has just been talking ████ about you, then I get that I get out of there cuz that clearly
11:46 states that she wasn't over there. They have a special connection that's stronger than ours. >> I would have to be honest that I'm absolutely heartbroken about this though. Do you know what I mean? >> Yeah, it's like Bart said, the reaction is everything. If they're like immediately devastated and sorry about it, >> I think then you can talk about statute of limitations. But if she's like, "Nah, statute of limitations, that was forever ago." Then you'd be like, "Excuse me, what the f███?" >> she was like, "I wish it didn't start that way." >> Because the rest of your life you're going to have to answer the question of how did you guys meet? That's going to be a lingering dark feeling >> every time you talk about it. >> I used to be so like excited to share this. Now I'd rather not talk about it. >> Yeah. >> Damn. I need a trust tree. >> Yeah, she like hated me like actually and was making fun of me with her ex. God damn, that's a hard one, man. I would be really hurt. >> What if, okay, if you got the timelines of that exact moment and right after she
12:38 made fun of you, if you trace back in history 5 minutes later, she was sucking the ████ out of your dick. And then you're like, "Well, >> after I know that I'm still going to be sad. >> Oh, really? >> I'm still going to be sad. >> It's just sad to think of your girl talking to another person badly about you. That's a >> No, I mean like in the past though. In the past she was talking ████ Like that's what she was doing. >> Yeah. >> But you're sitting next to the couch and after she took the phone out, she started sucking you off like a ████ But you didn't know that. But if you look but you go back and >> Suck back clause is very powerful. That's all I'm saying. >> I'm not saying it happens in the moment. I'm saying like back then. I would be like, >> Yeah. >> "Why was she so crazy?" >> [laughter] >> Cuz she's she's so disloyal and then she sucked me off. >> Those two things don't don't feel connected for me. >> [laughter] >> I think it would also matter if she's still in conversations with that guy. Like if they like if they stopped talking completely
13:29 >> They did by the way. This is old combo. >> was Like I'm going to throw up after I suck his ████ dick one more time. >> Okay, that that's ████ up. >> hot. THAT'S JUST HOT. >> [laughter] >> SHE'S LIKE I'M GOING TO THROW UP ON HIS DICK, I THINK. >> ████ it. >> I'd be like did I have smegma or what? [laughter] >> What if she like dude, his dick is nothing compared to yours.
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