0:00 Okay, we did a video a while back about single moms. We pulled up this video of some guy who claimed that he knew all of the reasons why you shouldn't do it. >> Shouldn't be a single mom or shouldn't >> why you shouldn't date a single mom. >> There it is. >> And then um we ended up, you know, not having anyone in the room with that kind of experience. And today we have Haley Brooks with us to tell us if any of these things have any sort of validity. So I'm going to read them to you and you can go ahead and give me exactly what you think. Okay. Number one, this guy said, "When you're dating a single mom, you're expected to take on responsibility, but you have no authority." >> No. >> Oh, really? Already? >> Already? Right off the bat. Cuz here's the thing. If you're going to date a single mom and like someone who is actively pro like proactively doing the right things to keep their kids safe and this, that, and the other, you're probably not going to meet the kids for a while, for a long time. It's not like,
0:51 "Hey, come on my first date and ████ help me change diapers and s███." Like if you're doing if you are being a protective parent, you're not going to bring e xyz dudes through like once every 3 months. Like >> I think you might be a good mom cuz I knew a mom that would introduce the kids. >> Might be [music] >> I think you're a good mom. >> Thank you. >> Because I knew some moms that would introduce dudes to their kids after like the third date. >> Yeah. I call them unhealed. >> That's Oh, okay. >> Yeah. Yeah. I've met a few of So, how long do you have to date someone before your kids or they get to meet your kids? >> M that's I think that would go on an individual basis, but you would have to like I would have to know you in a dating aspect for at least 6 months before I brought you around them. >> How long before you tell them you have kids? >> Uh immediately. [laughter] Right off the bat. Yeah. First thing. There are people
1:41 that don't though. There's people that don't and then they'll be like, "Hey, by the way, I have kids." But like, no. I'm like, "This is first of all, my top priority in life. You have to know this right away. I would tell you right off the bat." >> Yeah. You don't slow roll it out. example, the guy was talking about how he had the daddy expectations but not the authority. So like he would pay for them, he would take them to school, he would do all the the work that it takes to be like a like a husband, but then when it comes down to hey like I have to put some authority over them cuz they're being they're misbehaving and then that's when >> they the the his girlfriend would turn on him. >> Now how is that different than a regular dad? >> H I don't know. I'm not a dad yet. Did you ever do that? Did you ever get, I guess, uh, more committed to a guy and then they did all the daddy duties and then when it came time to like I guess maybe disciplining or just being a dad, you're like, "Hey, hands off. That's off
2:32 limits." >> No. Well, me personally, I haven't gotten to a point with like a dude to bring them around my kids. So, I haven't I haven't had that part yet. That's what I'm saying. You have to like really >> You're a good screener then. >> Well, cuz also too like the number one person that's most likely to abuse a child is a steparent. So, like you also have to factor in that. And then I also follow it up with like, okay, certain people like go for women with children. I'm like, why? >> Huh? >> Why? >> Who's doing why are they doing that? >> That's a kink or what? >> I wouldn't call it like a maybe a kink. I don't know. I wouldn't call that a kink cuz you're not we're not talking in like a sexual way. >> Or is it like a dependency thing where they want you to like feel like you need them? >> To feel like you need them. Yeah. Like I'm I'm the hero here. I'm saving. There's a lot of that. There's a lot of hope savers. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. There's a lot of that. >> What What do you think? What do you think you would need for a guy to demonstrate before? Like, let's say you
3:23 guys were dating for three years and you think it's really going somewhere. What do you think you would need a guy to demonstrate that you're like, okay, you know what, you can be a parent to my kids. >> And you actually tell your pull your kids aside, hey, when this person tells you something, like you got to listen. >> Yeah. The dude would have to be extremely emotionally stable [laughter] and like you would have to show through your actions. Like there's other ways like people start to reveal their character and stuff, right? And you know, you have a sense, your gut knows. So, it's really your gut you got to listen to and be like, I think this is ready. You know, >> some people got bad guts, though. >> Yeah. IBS is a ████ isn't it? >> Yeah. [laughter] All right. Number two. Uh, this guy said, "They're not looking for love. They're looking for help." >> NO. [laughter] NO. NO. IF I WANT HELP, NO. I'M GOING TO, DUDE, IF I WANT HELP WITH MY KIDS, I'M GOING TO GO to a woman to help me, first of all. And like, yeah, it would
4:14 be nice to have some help, but like, no, they're looking for they're looking to show their kids a healthy relationship that they didn't end up with themselves the first go around, right? So, now I have to show you better because the relationship I'm putting on in front of you is the relationship that you're going to end up with when you're a grown adult. Yeah. >> All right. >> I hate this guy. [laughter] >> Keep going. >> What's next? Fruit snacks. >> ████ hate the fruit snacks thing. Dingle mom, they come with fruit snacks. Fruit snacks are ████ expensive. Don't touch my fruit snacks. Anyway, >> number three. He said, "When the kids are misbehaving, she will always side with them over you." >> Yes. >> Oh, that's a yes. >> You're always going to side with the kids. >> I mean, >> what if the kids are being dicks? >> What if they're being like ████ >> No. I'm like, now that I was saying, yeah, there's definitely going to be a situ like my kids are wrong all the time. ████ yeah. >> But yeah, if it comes down to like a questionable This could go 50/50 though,
5:04 I'm always going to lean the sides of my >> tiebreaker goes to the kids. >> Tiebreaker goes to the kids. Yeah, they're number one. That's something you got to understand, too. If you are going to date a single parent, you're never going to be number one. You're never going to be number one. Kids are number one. You are just a helpful addition. >> That's true. >> You're going to like this one. Then number four, he said there are no tens among single moms. Every kid she has reduces her value by 10%. >> I got hotter after kids. I got hotter AFTER KIDS. NOW, I'M NOT SAYING THAT MEANS you're like mentally stable or anything, [laughter] BUT IT HAPPENS. It happens. So, >> how many kids do you have? two. >> So the top you can be as a eight >> apparently. And that's fairly [laughter] >> for this guy. Yeah. >> Yep. >> All right. Number five. He said you're volunteering your own humiliation by being a cuck.
5:54 >> Anybody who says that is a ████ cuck themselves. Anybody who calls anybody else a cuck is a cuck. And also, what's wrong with being a cuck? People are into that. Why does every single hotel room have a CUCK CHAIR? BECAUSE EVERY SINGLE PERSON IS GOING TO USE IT. I hate the whole cuck thing. I hate the whole you're such a cuck. You're such a cuck. I'm sorry. I'm a good ████ person. I care about other people's feelings and emotions. My bad. [laughter] >> I guess that's cucking. >> That's cucking. >> Call me a cuck then. >> Number six is he said the kids will always be ungrateful for the effort you put into the relationship. >> Always. Always. Kids are always going to be ungrateful. >> Well, cuz I guess what he was trying to say is that kids already have like an ungratefulness to them cuz they don't understand how to appreciate everything. But now that you're not even you're not even the real dad, so they're even more ungrateful that you're there in the family. No. Have you ever seen those videos of where like uh uh two people get married and like the stepdad walks
6:44 them down the aisle or like they at their graduation announcement they use the stepdad's last name and like things like that. Kids are definitely grateful when they're young and in their teens. They probably won't be grateful, but as they're older, but me as a as a I grew up with two parents together that shouldn't have been together, but like I was ungrateful and then I grew up and I'm like, "Oh, we were all ungrateful." >> Yeah, we're all ungrateful, dude. Like Yeah. What about the opposite where you're grateful because you don't know any better and then you you grow up and then you're ungrateful because you know better. >> Is that what happened to you? >> Yeah. [laughter] >> EVERYTHING IS SO GREAT AND THEN YOU GROW UP YOU'RE LIKE, "OH NO, THAT WAS TERRIBLE." [laughter] >> Cuz then you learned you looked back and went, "Oh, that actually sucked." Like it could have been better. >> Wait, so no one gets their asses beat? Oh, what? >> No, we do. >> So with your stepdad, what was that relationship like for you and him? I was already a grandpa by the time my m So I
7:35 think yeah I think the difference might be like when my parents separated my mom was much older and then so um I don't know maybe I mean she had suitors and stuff but she didn't get with anyone until my 20s. >> Okay. >> I think it was different but yeah when I hear this what when this guy was making that video it seemed like >> he was getting with like troubled people. >> Yeah. Sounds like a personal problem. like he's talking about single women as if it's like true all across the >> And what's crazy about the internet is when you like Google or YouTube or whatever single mom, these are the first things that come up. It's nothing about like how to handle being a single mom or like do this, DO THAT. IT'S WHY YOU SHOULDN'T DATE SINGLE MOMS. IT'S EVERYWHERE, DUDE. And it's all dudes. Like, it is so much easier to find dudes talking about single moms than moms talking about single moms. >> That's true. Yeah. Here's his um his seventh one, which I think he'll love.
8:26 >> Seven? How many are there? >> This is the last one. And and maybe this would be like the one that he thinks is the coolest. Single moms are the most promiscuous women in the sexual marketplace. >> They are. >> They don't have the time to be a hoe. I don't think so. I don't think so. I don't know, man. I don't agree with that one. No, there ain't no time. I was definitely way more of a hoe prekids than I am post kids. Abso ████ lutely. Abs. Cuz also you were like, "Oh ████ I can get pregnant off of this. I should let it go now." >> Yeah. The consequences are real. >> Yeah. Would you say now you're like way more I guess strict with who you date versus before? >> Yeah, even friends, anything. Anyone who I let within my sphere, I am so much more. You got to be a good person. You got to be high vibe. Like I'm You got to be a good influence. We can't >> see. But you sound kind of responsible,
9:17 >> you know? Tell that to the judge. [laughter] >> Character witnesses sought this out. Right. So, like when this guy's talking, it sounds like he's dating with like the lowest of the low. >> It sounds like dating gripes. It doesn't sound like single mom, >> but he also sounds like a like beta ████ himself, though. >> He lets it happen. >> Yeah. >> Anyone who makes this video, >> like they just want to take advantage of me and my money or whatever. I'm like, what the >> Yeah. What money, bro? What money? What goal do you have to dig? [laughter] >> Yeah. >> With your kids, has have your kids ever told you straight up? Like let's say you have a friend, just a friend that's around. Have your kids ever been like, "Mom, I don't like this guy >> or he's weird." >> No, there's been nobody in particular. My kids are still so young that like everyone is great. You know what I mean? Yeah. There's never been anyone that they're like, "I don't like this energy. I don't like this this vibe." Um, but I will say though, if I'm like out at the
10:07 park, like I've had this guy come up to me and he was like, "Your daughter is beautiful." I'm like, "I'm going to stay the ████ away from you." >> Yeah. See what I mean? I don't like that. >> Yeah. It's easily misconstrued. But is your daughter actually beautiful? >> Yeah, she's gorgeous. [laughter] >> We was just telling the truth. >> My daughter and my son are there. You're not going to say anything about my son. >> What if he's a talent agent? >> Never. Never. No, no, no, no. >> I discovered you. >> Yeah, he's scouting. >> Yeah. >> Do you think he'd be thrown off if you go Why you want to ████ her? >> Wait, what? >> And I will. And I will. I will. >> My friend did that to me. Who? Alec, what the Baldwin? [laughter] >> And I was like, "Hey, how's your daughter been?" Right. And he goes, "She's doing great. You want to ████ her?" And I'm like, "No, what the f███?" That's his humor. [laughter] Yeah. And he goes, "You got to wait till she's 18, though."
10:57 >> E. [screaming] >> That's just his humor. >> No, he's been crazy. He's been crazy since >> or he's testing the water. [laughter] >> No, he hasn't even met my buddy. He comes over. >> Mhm. >> And he's visiting um our our friend's house. And then he gets on his motorcycle. Doesn't even ask, right? He just gets on. My friend is a hotthead. He's like, "I'm going to stab your friend." Like, "What the hell is he doing?" And he takes a puff of cigarette and he goes, "Hey, how much you selling your bike for?" He goes, "It's not for sale." And he goes, "How about I suck your dick for it?" >> I like this guy. [laughter] >> His whole family is like >> also never straddle another man's motorcycle without asking. That's >> he's And he's in there with flipflops, smoking a cigarette, getting ashes all over the bike, and he's just [laughter] there. Has this guy done prison time? >> No. >> No. But his his uh his parents are like that, too. So, I knew this guy since we were in high school
11:47 >> and uh like we'd be upstairs playing and then his his mom would be like like food's ready. Come downstairs, YOU SMALL DICK ████ >> SO, IT'S like they all talk to each other like that. >> Family is ████ crazy. >> I love that. >> Yeah, >> I love that >> in Chinese. >> Yeah, in Chinese. >> Say it in Chinese. >> No, I don't even know how to say it. [laughter] I don't even know those words. >> It probably sounds really cool in Chinese. Here. This is so just to give you a visual from this uh dialogue I've been feeding to you. This is what the guy looks like. Okay. >> Oh, there's a picture. >> Well, it was a video. >> We reviewed this whole video. >> Oh my ████ god. Dude, >> you don't like it, >> dude? >> He looks like a stud. Zoom in. >> He looks like a stud. >> You zoom in. >> Do you think >> he's the usual suspects? That's what gets me. Like, >> doesn't he look like a ████ stud? >> Mad cuz he's bald. >> That's the the stereotypical guy that gripes about this type of thing. >> First of all, why are you doing this video while you're driving? That's so irresponsible, sir. You don't think he's
12:38 AN ALPHA MALE? >> NO. NO. ABSOLUTELY NOT. OH, I'm alone in my car. How shocking, dude. Get the ████ out of here. I hate this guy. I want to punch his face so hard. He has such a punchable face. He He looks like a like a old retired Buzz Lightyear. He's ████ [laughter] I hate this guy. He's horrible. What? >> That's him. >> What kind of facial hair is that? Also, why he's so old? It's always old guys, too, that are the ones b███████ and moaning. It's like, look inward. Look in the mirror. Maybe you'll find the problem. >> He's a single dad, too. Okay. >> Shocked. [laughter] >> Oh, really? He's a single dad? >> He has kids, too. Yeah. >> What age did he leave those children? >> Oh, I don't know. But I think they're young. A young He has like one young kid. >> I do think though there are super simp guys that just get with the wrong person that walk all over them and then they
13:28 just blow up and then they turn into this. It's like, I got to tell you guys the truth of what what it's like and then they just generalize. >> Yeah. >> Yeah. Like I don't know. Like most people that are doing these videos, they're not dating the best people. >> You could have ended the sentence right there. They're not dating. >> I like his title. The truth about dating single mothers from someone who did it. >> Watch in that search bar. Type single moms. Let me I want I'm just curious as to what happens. >> And it's just all hot girls in bikinis. >> Single moms are down bad. >> Wow. >> What's next? >> Single moms don't look for love. >> WOW. WHAT'S NEXT? OH, THAT GUY. HATE [snorts] THAT GUY. >> OH, YOU LIKE THIS GUY? >> NO. ████ THAT GUY. [laughter] The brutal ████ Another guy in his car. >> Oh my god. No way. >> Why is it always dudes in their cars? >> Oh my god. Another one. Oh my god. Keep going. Another one. >> To be fair, it might also be skewed towards my own algo because >> No, cuz mine does the same thing. >> Really? Even for you?
14:18 >> That's what I'm telling you. I realized it one time cuz I like I forget exactly what I was LOOKING FOR. >> TOO MUCH ENTITLEMENT. >> Is that's not even the same guy. That's a total That's a different dude. >> But it's the same video, right? >> Yeah. Rich Cooper. It's a different account. >> Oh, wait. Is that the same or he looks like him? >> Maybe. Maybe he has two accounts. >> He looks like the other guy, though. >> Maybe he has two accounts. Who knows? >> Wow. >> See? >> Oh, that's the guy. See, that's the dude. >> It's a humiliation ritual. >> Can you do me a favor? Can you do me a favor, Ryan? Go on chat GPT >> and go, >> "Is it safe to date a single mom?" >> Even AI's hating on single mom. >> WAIT, AFTER THAT, TYPE IS IT SAFE to date A MAN? TRY [laughter] THAT ONE. >> Any man. any man. >> A bear. Is it safe to date a bear? >> Yeah, absolutely. Yeah. >> Okay. Is it safe to date a single mom?
15:09 Okay. >> And does it do moms really get hotter after they have kids? >> All right. It says yes. >> Wow. Don't even need it anymore. Ask it about a man. >> It says yes. Oh ████ [laughter] >> He thinks I'm joking. >> Yes. >> He goes, I like this joke you just thought of. It says being a single mom by itself doesn't make someone a safer or less safe person to date. What matters are the same things that matter in any relationship. Character compatibility, communication on PC ████ [laughter] >> Yeah. Yeah. It's all PC. But if this is your trusted source, it's safe. >> It's not the mom you have to worry about. It's her children. Cuz if my mom was dating a guy during the time I was a troubled teen, >> I feel bad for the guy that dated her. >> Yeah. >> Oh, really? >> Yeah. >> Joe probably would have stabbed that dude. >> It said yes. In general, it's safe to date men
15:59 >> in general. See? [laughter] Yeah.
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