0:05 Welcome back to Careful Boys. Today, there's an interesting situation that has occurred upon the internet and we are going to decipher and solve it. So, there's a woman who says that her husband is making us fly home from from our honeymoon after one day. She says in all caps, because he found out I sent my ex a simple goodbye text on the morning of our wedding. >> That's so whack, dude. >> It was a goodbye texture >> on the morning of our wedding. ever wedding. It was a goodbye text for goodness sake. Not an I will always love you text. Not I drop everything and meet me at the altar text. I need to say goodbye to have closure on the unmarried part of my life. Please tell me my sensitive/nostalgic girlies understand. >> Are is that common for people to move on to an entirely new relationship without closure from the last? >> Like you have to have closure and and why did you wait until your wedding day?
0:56 >> Yeah. Say goodbye. Why don't you get closure before you're with someone? >> You know damn well she was waiting for him to go. Actually, I I want you. She was I do too. Let's I'm I'm calling it off. >> Yeah. I I would give her a pass if she wrote goodbye to the other ████ 73 other dudes that she ████ >> And you're just like, "Whoa, you ████ 73 dudes." >> But I'll be like, "Okay, you're saying goodbye to everyone. Text chain." I know you're kidding. >> But you're also opening a text chain with these people and that's a problem. Yeah, that's pretty >> cuz I'm like that's something you do months in advance. >> Or after >> or you just forget about it. ████ the closure, you dumb ████ You got a new ████ relationship. >> Ultra girls understand. >> How about maybe when like the dude puts a ring on it? >> Yeah. >> Like make an engagement. >> You say yes to them. >> Yeah. When you say yes forever, maybe
1:47 that's the like for sure closure. >> It's weird to me that you're thinking about your ex on your wedding day. >> Agreed. Male or female, it doesn't ████ matter. >> I think some people do love having romantically complicated situations though. >> That's true. >> Like that's like a fantasy. >> No, they they do because they watch all these shows. >> You got to do that on an encrypted telegram or signal. You can't be doing that in your iMessage that gets sent to your iPad. >> Goes and like tries to do a shout out like the who run the world girls type ████ like come on who's with me and then the girl's like girl I saw this one video, right? Um I want you I want your guys' take on this. So this I didn't know that this was such a common thing what this girl was talking about how like all you miserable ████ out there I know you know you all do this like you um you have that guy that you still keep thinking about but you
2:37 settle and then like you go through the whole relationship it's not fair for that guy cuz you know damn well you want your ex and you want him to come rescue you. Um, but he's never coming for that. But you still in a heartbeat would drop the guy that you're with now, but you keep like because of the convenience, you keep holding on to them >> or he's safe or whatever. >> Yeah. But then they build resentment in the relationship and all that stuff cuz that's not who they actually want to be with. And I was like, damn. So, is it that common? And I looked at the comments and a lot of women are like, oh my god, yes, this is ████ up. Like, they do this. And I'm all like, "What the f███?" So, there's a lot of settlers out there. >> But that's also like everybody who comments and agrees with that or likes that post like flagged like any one of you who ████ who are in a
3:27 relationship, those guys need to be put on on game to just drop them. >> And I think a lot of those people, they're not real with themselves. So, they got with someone that they are not even they didn't didn't really like and they're just trying to look for safety or convenience or whatever, >> which I don't think that makes them a bad person. I just I I think there's, you know, there's enough people and there's 8 billion people in the world like some people are in emotionally complicated situations and timing plays a factor on certain things. So, >> saying goodbye on your wedding day to your ex, >> the action of that is whack. >> Actually, so whack attack from the back that it makes no sense to me. Like it's basically like you're you're almost letting them know that you miss them >> as you're about to go down the aisle or whatever. That's crazy. >> It's really stupid to make that person a part of this moment. >> Exactly. >> Wow. But just >> do it in a private signal chat, right,
4:18 Anthony? >> No, no, no, no. I'm not I'm not I'm not trying to see the other side of her. I'm trying to see the other side of like how much did this gentleman potentially fork out for this honeymoon that he >> ████ so hard >> that he totally had to fly to come back and cancel it. It's like would you forgive her if it's just like hey look >> that was an absolutely whack attack from the back like you said >> but just give me like a a ████ every day for the rest of this honeymoon. I'll forgive you >> negotiator. >> Yeah, >> I'm not I'm like deals off. deals off for the rest of your life like your our marriage is done. >> I think so. I think that's crazy. >> I think because you know what the intention is like >> day of is pretty crazy. >> What if it's two week honeymoon? You got to ████ every day for two weeks. >> Whenever you're going to think about your own wedding and your own marriage as that being an element of it, that's
5:08 weird. >> Get to text all your ex-girlfriends. Hello. >> What if you don't want to? What if you're like over them? >> You're a negotiator, I think. >> Yeah. You've been in business. You make it work. You know how to take it. >> You have sales experience. That's why you're doing that. >> You guys are mind. There's a difference. >> You're like the Grant Cardone of relationships. >> Look at me when you're talking to me or dissing. >> I'm trying to I'm really trying to >> I don't I don't do this like >> like, "Hey, hey, what's up, Ryan?" >> Grant Cardone of relationships. >> Yeah, he knows how to negotiate really good. >> Well, I mean, look, I'm just saying he probably spent a lot on the honeymoon. >> I mean, I I would also agree that it's just like she's adding up to her delusion. She doesn't know. So, this is why she's trying to get validation because Yeah. Like some people do want to live in their facade cuz they they they go this is a better choice, right? So I'm going to say bye. So she's like
5:58 playing this thing up as if like, oh yeah, I just got to say bye. What's what's wrong with that? And everyone sees it. Everyone sees what she's doing. She they see Yeah, exactly. >> Well, that's what happens. Some people really look at their lives like they're the main character of a romance novel and they don't understand that that's another human that's really ████ hurt by that. >> It's so stupid. Like they just look at it like what a magical life I have. And for the guy, if you don't want to get dragged into this, I'd ████ divorce immediately. >> I'm serious about >> because that she's self-centered. She doesn't give a ████ about how you feel. She's not considerate. >> Like Ryan's saying, she cares where her little story and making it as interesting. >> Yeah. She wants her little fairy tale >> is highlighted and more defined when you go on there and like, yo, other people feel me, right? >> Versus like, yo, we went through this and like I ████ up. >> That's like asking for, can I get more horrible people to reinforce my already bad behavior? That's not a right opinion you're getting. You're just asking to
6:49 like am I the worst person in the room or they're >> she could take this back to see they agree. The internet agrees your ████ also horrible people agree with me. >> That's not good. >> Or your ex like way even before you're planning your wedding. Like what are you talking about? Like your ex ████ should never be involved with anything. >> I honestly don't even think I have any of my ex's numbers the minute I get into the next relationship. >> What? >> Smart. >> Well, I mean I also don't know how to like >> psychopath >> to not What do you mean? >> What if what if you've remembered you have like a Xbox game over at their house or some ████ >> No, like if I break up if I break and I've never had like break up and stayed friends. >> If I break up then and I have a new person, I just delete the number. So, here's a thought, right? So, some people like the older you become like you got um you got baby mamas, you maybe started a business with someone. It's just
7:40 there's just ti things that tie you together, but you're not together anymore. So, in that case, like what would what's the right thing to do? Cuz like, yeah, you're supposed to say bye, but I think you're supposed to say that like way before you get with the next person and you keep it professional or you keep it you just have new boundaries, right? But like >> saying goodbye on your wedding day is such an emotional >> it's melodramatic, >> right? So, it's it doesn't make any sense to me. >> It's not even the normal goodbye. It's like she's watching third person her own body playing out this movie that she thinks is so interesting and so insanely romantic and it's like shut up dude. The best reason to keep the phone number in your phone so that if they try to call you you know it's them and you don't pick up. >> That's not bad. >> No cry so I don't >> otherwise you get in trouble for answering.
8:31 >> I had an ex call me early early days with Nikki. I had an ex call me and she was like hey like I just moved out of the old place. do you want the, you know, payment for like the the deposit? And I was like, keep it. Got to go. Bye. Like, that was it. You just have to like >> We don't talk. >> How much was the payment for the money? >> It's like 1,200 bucks. Who cares? >> But that's just per like she's being normal. >> No, but it doesn't mound. Like, it's just setting that boundary for >> Hey, I owe you HALF A MILLION DOLLARS. GET THE ████ OUT OF HERE, JEZEBEL. We're over. >> We don't talk. No, no, no. It's just It's being very clear. We don't We're not cool >> at the door, though. We're not cool. We don't talk. That's the message. Like we're not we're not cool. We don't talk. >> A lot of money can make me accept an amount of money. >> No. The thing thing that sucked about it is we shared like dogs together. So that was that was the toughest part. You >> guys not have amicable relationships with your ex? I do.
9:21 >> No, I don't. I don't. >> I don't. >> Yeah. But I think it's >> So I think that's case by case, but yeah. Oh, really? >> Case by case by case. >> I think it says a lot about me and Bart. >> I think we're bad dudes. >> I think he I think you guys are the main characters of your >> I think we're like biker boys. I think we're kind of bad guys. But also it's like >> biker boys >> if just if there's no reason right and there's no like common thing to ever tie you together and it also depends on how it went out how it finished. So like yeah there's a lot of people there's no reason to stay friends is what I'm saying >> exactly >> but like let's say you have the same friends circle and it and you can be amicable about it then yeah you're going to be in contact right but then like if there's absolutely no reason >> it is weird to stay >> around >> you're not friends anymore right you're not like hey I just wanted to bounce something off of you real quick like
10:11 you're not doing any of that >> but you could be peaceful and acquaint >> totally totally >> not like you don't hate each other you're not at war you don't even the best situ situation, you don't even think about it. It doesn't mean anything. >> That's why you don't have to say goodbye. >> Yeah. But then also, I think what happens that becomes a bad thing is let's say that your partner has a friend that's their ex. It's it's not a big deal. Neither of them give a ████ whatever. But if you make them give a ████ by giving them ████ over it, then it becomes something. You know what I mean? Like I think it can have that reverse effect where jealousy can make that person go, >> "Huh, I I didn't think about that." and make them think about their ex more. >> By the way, I respect all my my exes and stuff like that with appreciation because I'm glad that I went through what I went through with them to get back. >> Yeah. It's just memories. Yeah. That's all it is. >> There's no resentment or hatred or anything. It's just like it's just I
11:01 don't talk to them anymore. >> Yeah. But you don't have to tie you guys together anymore. What's the point? >> You know how like you're like king petty though, right? >> Yeah. Very petty. So like what if there's like an essence of pettiness to like this particular person's situation where it's like you know at the end of the relationship maybe her ex is just like you'll never ████ get married you single ████ forever. You're a piece of ████ It's like yeah you don't think I'm going to get married day of her wedding. She like goodbye. >> Oh see that's actually sick >> you know. But the fact that he still gets under your skin >> shows that you shouldn't even care. Still a cell in her body that >> cares petty, dude. But you know when you're petty, you're like, I'll I'll risk my current marriage. >> But then true true petty true petty is if that let's let's say those emotions are real, right? True petty is you just get married. You don't even tell the person. They can find out on their own and that person will go, "Wow, they
11:52 really didn't give a ████ to even tell me." >> Sure. This sucks. Sucks. Edit that out. But that is an actual better part >> because because that that is a way >> that feels more like that feels more like when people go on Jerry Springer and they're like I want to show my ex how hot I am now. >> Why Ryan is dumb. So we're watching we're watching an NFL game, right? And touchdown end zone and Ryan's like I don't like it when they celebrate. I don't like that. There's like hand the ball to the ref. Hand the ball to the ref. >> Are you talking about other Ryan? >> That No, that's you. >> That's you. >> I didn't say that. >> Well, no. What he's saying is >> spike the football. >> Yeah. When you're petty, >> do the gritty, brother >> on the ████ So that's why the the goodbye is ████ you. I did get married. Someone did want me. You I'm not going to be single. Like you said, >> do the gritty. >> If someone called me and grittied like that, I know they care. >> No, no, no. You're handing the ball to the ref. It's boring. >> They're still thinking of me. They're still branding them. You're you're
12:42 stabbing deep like Yeah. >> They give the ball back to the ref. >> No, I don't. He just made that up as an analogy. >> No, but he likes that though, too. disappointed in you. I'm disappointed in you. >> I've never not seen I die with you until today. >> He's like that should be on sportsman like on sportsman like >> my >> excessive celebration >> say I'm getting married now but you know you and I've never even thought about her. I would go what's wrong with you like >> so uncool. You go goodbye sick. >> I don't even know who this is. That that's like horrible for them. They look like an idiot. >> No. And then what they do is they sit you go oh you don't know who this is? And you send a picture of yourself. Petty petty angle's good. >> You like that? >> That's not being highminded either. That's not highminded. Thank you. >> That situation so hard. >> I'm not even see I'm looking at you like Bart from now on. >> You know what it you know what it looks like? It's like when you celebrate your
13:32 touchdown that hard. It's like you never make them. So you really want to savor it. >> He's like we need excessive celebration. Why you doing back flips in the end zone? That's so that's so weird. It's so dis just disrespectful to the other team and all the effort they put in. >> Where did you make that up? >> You're gay, dude.
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