0:05 Welcome back to another episode of Careful Boys. Today we got The Outcasts with us. Hey. I think like you guys know how to do a lot of things. You know how to fight, which is very cool, but I Do all of you guys have a way that you would diffuse a fight? How do you stop random people from fighting? Like fighting each other or like fighting you? You don't want to fight. How do you get out of it? How do you calm that person down? What would you do? Oh, like I'm in the middle of the conflict? Yeah. They're The conflict is them trying to fight you.
0:55 "Don't want trouble." But what do you do to get out of it? What do you do to diffuse? That's our trick of trying to get away from creepy guys when walking alone on the street. You just look crazy. Yeah, yeah. Just look crazy. You act crazy on them. Yeah, yeah. That's pretty good. But uh yeah, I would do that. I'd do that. good. Yeah, and my car would be out like super late. So But what do you How do you diffuse that if that's coming at you? It's like in New York City? YOU JUST PRETEND TO BE ONE OF THEM. YOU JUST mirror You mirror their every thing, huh? Um I would just be like, "I got to ████ man." It's like, "What? You're going to fight me when I'M S███████?"
1:45 THAT IS PRETTY SICK. How would you do it, Anthony? Someone wants to fight you. You don't want anything to do with it. Just ████ sprint. Yeah, that's a good one. Run the other Run the other direction. Yeah, just ████ run away. Like so ████ fast. Juke them like crazy. Let's say you're with your lady at a nice restaurant. You ordered the food, and you know she's hungry, and then for some reason this guy like he was like, "Hey, man, you you got to cut me off in the parking lot." And he's standing there next to your booth. What do you do? Probably just like play dumb. Don't speak English. Damn. Really? Wow. Cuz like diffusing a conflict is way more important than my pride in that moment, if especially if I'm with my wife. Yeah, you're trying to have a dinner or whatever. Yeah. Versus like needing to be like, "Dude, like let me explain myself." Like you're already mad. You need to get it out of you. That's tight. But if it's just play dumb
2:35 and like catch you off guard type stuff. Dude. I speak Mandarin. THAT'S NOT MANDARIN. HE'S LIKE, "I KNOW ████ MANDARIN." WHAT IF he stutters? I I I I I I I I I I I I I I I I I I I I I I Really? Maybe if you just completely go, "Oh, I'm so sorry. Please." Maybe that they'll feel like, "Oh, I don't I can't beat this guy up." Or like go behind my wife. Oh god, I'M SO SORRY. YOU APOLOGIZE A BUNCH. I THINK THAT'LL HELP. I'm so sorry, sir. You're right. LIKE THAT. ACCEPT IT. LIKE, "YEAH, YOU'RE RIGHT. YOU'RE RIGHT. Oh my god. That's so true. That's so true. Do whatever you want to me. Do whatever you want. Come on. DO
3:26 WHATEVER YOU WANT." THAT DIFFUSES IT. LET'S DO IT ALREADY. RIGHT HERE, BABY. YEAH. Or start recording. Like they wouldn't want to. That's realistic. Okay. That's a real answer. That's pretty true. I can't wait till AI and robots come out, cuz if I get confronted, I'm just going to be like, "Yes, sir." Oh ████ that was a good robot. You don't have to wait till they come out. If you did that, he'd probably go, "Woah, they're out already?" Yeah, I'll be like, "Hey, you cut ME OFF." "WHERE?" THIS ROBOT HAS A LOT OF weird extra movements. What you can do? "Where?" Pretty Siri sounds better than that. "Where?" "Where?"
4:18 If someone comes up to you and then they're like ████ shaking their finger at you. They're like, "You ████ b████." And And then you just ████ catch that finger, and then you just catch the wave, and you're just like And you go When you go And then you ████ pass it back to them and see what happens. And they're like, "What the ████ dude?" I love it. Your wife's on the side "Where?" These ████ are tripping. He's like, "What the ████ IS GOING ON?" "WHERE DID I CUT YOU?"
5:10 That's ████ crazy. All right. What if you can't do that? What if they know for sure you're not a robot? And if I can't break out into dance? Yeah, you can't do that either. Well, can I beat this person up or not? That's the biggest question. I guess you you can diffuse it with If I Cuz clearly What if it has to be verbal? If it's someone that I just cannot ████ up. Yes. Please, I'm sorry. I don't know. I did I don't know what I did wrong. Please. But it But how about this? It's not somebody that that you're confident could even beat you up. You just want to diffuse it. You could probably destroy them. Damn. But you just don't want to create that kind of a scene. Don't get sued. Verbally, how do you like talk this down? Well, first, I'd say, "Did you have a troubled childhood?" Dude, your psych Your psychology degree is coming in, man. It's coming in hot. They'll be like, "Hey, man, you motherfucker." Or like, "What is the reason why they're mad at me?" you know?
6:01 Like, are they mad cuz I cut them off? They're mad for no discernible reason. Yeah, you don't know why they're mad. I'll be like, "I hear you, and I feel your pain." Oh, wow. "I empathize with you. I understand, brother." Yeah, that's nice. "My dad hates me." "My dad hates me, too, Christian." I'll be like, "You see this?" Bam. I'm like, "I'll hit myself." Oh. And I go, "I deserve that." Oh. Okay. Yeah. No, but you know, I think actually when people are doing that to you, and then when you immediately go like, "I'm sorry. Please don't hurt me." I think it actually makes them madder. Oh, yeah. Yeah, yeah, yeah. Cuz now they're like, "I CAN DOMINATE." YEAH, YEAH, YEAH. RIGHT? Do you think blowing him a kiss would help or make it worse? I think that would piss him off.
6:52 They're close enough you don't have to blow it, by the way. He's like, "YOU ████ B████." I KNOW. DO YOU HAVE ANY verbal verbal ways to talk down a confrontation? I think it's pretty easy, to be honest. Really? I don't think people are going up to fight. Do it. Show them how easy it is. "Hey, man, I'm going to beat your ████ ass." Like that. Hey. Hey. WOAH, WOAH, WOAH. YOU GO STRAIGHT TO SEXUAL HARASSMENT? I've seen videos where guys start like the bit that they do where they try to fight somebody, and as soon as they're like, "Oh, you want to fight?" they'll start fighting, and then they'll take
7:42 their clothes off. And the guy is like, "Hey, yo, what the f███?" The pants first one. And they're like, you know. That works, yeah. I think that'll for sure work. Very weird. Yeah. Yeah. Cuz you got to touch them if you want to fight, right? Somebody's like really mad at me cuz I cut them off. I might just be like, "I'm sorry, dude. I had to take the biggest ████ Like it was coming down my pants." Yeah. I don't think I've ever like, "Prove it." I'm taking off my pants anyway. ████ right now. Have you guys ever had to diffuse something? Like when someone was trying to come at you? Yeah, a little bit. Really? I think it's You know what it it was? Most of the time they're drunk. So it's easy to confuse them. If you just change the subject, they just go with it. They yes and really well. How would you
8:33 do that? There was a There was one time in in Chicago there was a guy that like I think he thought I was Japanese, and he was like, "Oh, we ████ bombed you at Pearl Like we He's like trying to say something like Yeah, we bombed you Hiroshima and Nagasaki or whatever." I was like, "That wasn't me. I think that's someone else." And then I just started talking about other ████ and he's just like, "Oh, okay." Yeah, I just started saying random ████ Yeah, that's it. I was just like, "No, that wasn't me. I wasn't I wasn't there." Like you were Captain America or not? Haven't seen you yet, but turns No, I just I don't remember saying anything We struck first. It's just I would just kept talking to him. But then like that's drunk. That's different. Deranged or like heightened anger, I don't I've never run into that. I feel like I always see drunk fights becoming like friendships afterwards. Yeah, exactly. Yeah.
9:28 Yeah, I've seen other people do it, and it's like really they'll just be friendly, and then the other person just gets confused by it. They're just like, "Oh, okay." I don't remember the last time I got into like a real conflict like that. I feel like I did I heard something Maybe David So was telling the story about you one time when you weren't here. Me? Yeah, he said that you were like It was at a parking lot, and then some guy was like leaning on the car, and then you had to be like, "Oh, could you not lean on the car? We just got it waxed." or something. Do you remember that? All right, it was right here. And then the guy told you ████ you. And then you said I'll kill you. He was like or something like that. And then he That's one way to diffuse He was like, "OH MY GOD." AND THEN HE HE IMMEDIATELY IT WAS SOMETHING like that. No, that's a crazy way to diffuse. How do you diffuse a fight? I'll kill you.
10:20 Like you're watching a show about someone else. He's talking about you. You know, it was one of those like guys like I'm on the phone like a douchebag. And he was just he was just like, "F███ you." Like one of those. And I think it threw Bart off so like I was trying to be nice. But his immediate reaction was I'll ████ kill you. And then I think that guy was like, "Oh my god. Hold on. I'll call you back." And then he just left. Yeah. I'll ████ kill you is different. I don't remember. It sounds kind of familiar though, but There was a guy on the phone, yeah. It's when you it's when you had Barbell. Like over here, right? And that guy was leaning on Gio's car. Or something like that. Yeah. He was leaning on your car or Gio's car. And then Gio was watching. And then you went out cuz you were just like, "Hey sir, can you please move your car?" Yeah. Or or or can you please not like
11:10 you know, he's nice the way he he comes at it. But like I think it was like that. You don't expect someone to be like F you when you when you ask them politely. So when that happened, I think it just made Bart respond even higher. You know what? I I don't remember what I said, but I do remember the incident now. It was someone uh on the phone take on the phone and they were taking notes on Gio's car. You know you know as you're writing on paper like I'm like, "Oh dude, you're going to scratch your car." Like you know like take notes there. And I think and then I don't remember that what happened. It just like blacked out you turned Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. Yeah, he turned into Bart. But but he was like writing on a piece of paper on like Heavy hand too. on the clear coat like this. He's not Bart now. He's Bart.
12:02 But to me I think the guy deserved it. Hell yeah. Who says that? What a ████ ████ Cuz like for me if I'm writing and then some I'm like, "You know what? My bad. Like I didn't know I was doing that." touched a stranger's car. That's wild. That's spicy. Yeah, they're just taking notes. But there's like people out there that think that nothing will happen to them. And they just they're ████ and bullies. Yeah. Do you remember what Bart said he was? I don't remember. Dude, I'll ████ kill you is crazy. And to calmly say it, too. Yeah. You know when But the funny thing is so I Well, Gio I think Gio is telling this where immediately that guy just dropped everything ran into this car drove off. He scared him. YEAH, HE MUST HAVE sounded very serious, yeah. He doesn't even have his note. But I mean what do you expect? Like you
12:53 know what though? Like bullies like that is like how many people have they done that to? Yeah. That's that's really just Can't be the first if you really thought of Yeah, like come on. That's really mean. Like Like going up as a people pleaser I'd be too scared to say anything to that guy. Excuse me, that's my car. And then if he says ████ you, I'm like, "Okay, bye." You can have it. That has worked. HERE'S THE TITLE. BUT USUALLY I'M SUPER NICE THOUGH. LIKE if I accidentally cut someone off they drive by me and they're like, "F███ you." And I'm like, "I'm so sorry. I didn't I'm usually like that. I would laugh at That's that's what he says he blacks out every time. He just turns into Bart every time. Rolls down the window, "I'll ████ kill you." Maybe you think you're saying "I'm
13:44 sorry." Because it's your wife's car. That's why. Yeah, then you're like it's like I'll kill you. NO, IS THAT GUY CRAZY? IT IS MIGHTY THINKS HE'S PASSIVE. ARE YOU HIS YEAH. It's all fogged up. YOU LIKE THE FOG? YOU HISSED at them? That'd be ████ crazy. Dude, that'd be great, dude, if that was a reveal in your mind. You're like, "Oh dude, I didn't say that. I said I'd kill him." It was a while ago though. I think that was like 20 10 or 11. Barbell was back there. It's like 10 years ago. It's funny cuz when you ask the prompt he's like, "This is easy. You just tell him just tell him you're going to ████ KILL HIM."
14:35 DUDE, HE'S LIKE HE'S LIKE HOW UH grabs your nipples? Yeah, yeah, this is what I would do. Like tickle tickle tickle. Gucci goo. I'll ████ kill you. to anybody seriously. That's what was coming next. As soon as he got your nipples he pull you close and go Your life's going to end. Tonight. I do remember Another incident that happened in our parking lot. So um Here comes the stories. She she parked um in one of the the like these drive like parking places for someone else, right? So he so they came to our office banging on the door. Yeah. And then we were back here. So I think one of the girls opened up the door. And then we just hear some screaming. And we're like, "What the hell is that?" And then so I think
15:25 he was telling her, "You got to move your car or whatever." So they went out started moving the car. And then all of us guys just came out. And then we were like hearing the he was like talking ████ to her. And then when we all came out and we're like, "What's the problem?" His voice got smaller and smaller and smaller and smaller. And then he was JUST LIKE, "YEAH. IT WENT FROM "DON'T ████ park here, b████." to "Please. I NEED THIS SPACE." I THINK IT WAS DAVID, BUT IT WAS ALL OF us here. It was Gina's car. And we went outside. And I was like, "What a little b████." Like It's like you're so gangster when it's a
16:17 girl. And then when it's like other guys coming out and they're like, "What's going on?" It's like people at JuneBee when they're yelling at the girls that make their drinks. That's a big one. I didn't realize how horrible people were to teenage girls. Yeah. Cuz like when it's only girls in in my little boba shop, right? We have um delivery guys that's actually harassing them that are grown ████ men. Yeah, I had to like What are those girls wearing? They asked for it. I'm telling you that. But but it's STILL NOT OKAY. TAKE THE PICTURE JOE. AND IT'S NOT just guys, dude. There's like Karens that they come up like delivery like Uber Eats drivers. They get mad cuz they couldn't ████ read. Like And then
17:07 they didn't understand directions. They couldn't find the location. And they're ████ screaming at the 16-year-old. And then I'm like that never happens when I'm there. And then I didn't understand that like when a guy's there they just don't ████ do it. Yeah. But then when it's a teenage girl and they can get away with it. I didn't realize how despicable people were. Cuz to me when I see a teenage girl it's like, "Oh so cute. I want to protect them." Right? It's not it's like little baby girl. I don't think, "Oh here's my chance to ████ power trip on this little b████." You know? Cuz they see you as helpless and they're like Yeah. And then they're like crying in the back. And I'm like she's only ████ like a teenager. But it's this is like 40-year-old like 50-year-old grown people like yelling screaming. Dude, I was like that is crazy. But when there's guys in
17:59 the store, people behave. Oh, take my time. I've only been here an hour. It's okay. I'll wait longer. It is crazy. It's not the right drink, but it's really good. Never happens with Bart before. Yeah, I'm kind of glad that you got it wrong. It's that's tasty. And I and I need to go on the phone. I would let my husband speak instead of Oh really? Cuz you know they're going to Yeah. Like especially on the phone. Or like if I'm in the business meetings, they don't take me seriously cuz I'm a girl. They're like, "Can we can we talk to your boss?" I'm like, "No, I make the decision here." I mean now I know how to do that, but when I was a teenager I definitely didn't know how to do that or say no or you know like that takes a while to learn. I actually suck at any phone negotiation whatever. Like when you do you're buying a car? I always have Gio talk for me cuz she's a straight ████
18:50 Like she'll get what needs to happen. She'll make it ████ happen. And I'm like that's what I get at home. You just got it right now. You're on their side. Dude, this is what I get at home, man. I'm sorry, brother. I'm sorry. Same. I I like when we buy a car I'm the one who negotiate. And my husband's like, "You do you tell them." Oh yeah? Did you get a good deal? Oh, I got a few thousand dollars off. How'd you do it? What'd you say? Um you just got to stick to what you what you want. So like cuz they always do this, right? They're like, "I'm going to check with my manager." So they go in, right? And then ask for like like pretend to ask their manager. I'm like they came back with a new person. I'm like, "Actually I think it's better if it's closer to this amount." And then they go back. And then they and they're like, "Let me bring my manager." So the manager came like came. And then she's
19:40 like, "Oh, the best we could do is this." And I'm They draw the four square and they put the things. Yeah. Yeah. So I only accepted it until like after they brought the manager like after two three times. Oh. How long did that take? Not long. I mean, maybe 10-15 minutes. They kind of make you wait. They go in and they make you wait. That is pretty fast. That's really That's really fast. Cuz I've been at car dealerships for hours before. Hours? Yeah, I'm just like, what the They'll take like 30 minutes each time or an hour, yeah. It's changing cuz everyone knows online now you can you can get what the price is. Back then, like they couldn't tell. Yeah, that's true. In Thailand I would like negotiate and then like my husband would be like, "Can you not be here?" Cuz my face would be like All your tells.
20:33 And then I left, right? I had to leave early for something and then they they up-sold my husband and he's like, "Yes, yes." And so we actually paid like for some like some chain gas thing. She's out of the room. How about a THIRD CLEAR COAT? SHE IS. But to buy car you always have to get it at the end of the month, right? Cuz that's that's when they want So they're always going to negotiate. They're trying to get those cars off the lot. Yeah, yeah, yeah.
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