0:00 dude my dad cussed out like the ████ Bellman at the last cousin's wedding at the hotel because they're like trying to Usher people out and he's like God damn it we spent thousands of dollars you ████ kick us out you ████ human like my dad goes crazy that's ████ right he's absolutely right yeah it's true [Music] welcome back careful boys we are very careful boys and today we're talking about one of the careful boys got married who is it who is it yes yes take it away Anthony you guys Joe thank you okay so uh yeah I mean um hi Nina don't get mad at me for talking about this she doesn't watch this ████ show wait it's Nina the spoiler alert I know her mom watches this how
0:51 come you how can you tell us you weren't invited um why did you only look at me do you look at anyone else because we were there Ryan were you there I was there I'm the only one that didn't go I was in there the can go Candles there he was he was filming and then deleting everything can you walk through what letter becoming uh yeah so um so we eloped we went to Maui and when I say elope like I'm talking like we didn't even tell our parents so it's really just us like if it wasn't for the uh hair and makeup Lady the photographer the videographers like um and then the uh kuya who ordains us of the island type thing in Hawaii like we didn't have relationships with any of them there they're like was that people who work for the industry so it's really just us was it weird yeah I think so did it feel
1:43 rebellious to be like oh ████ we're gonna do this in secret I don't think rebellious was like the uh intention yeah you know what I mean it wasn't born out of that so I feel like uh we didn't feel that but it just felt um it felt a different version of surreal did you guys go were you guys on the plane going to Hawaii knowing you're going to elope or what was it yeah yeah so uh I guess to to take it back a little bit um so we uh I proposed her I think early 2021 early last year uh and uh you know it wasn't ever very clear like when exactly when exactly is going to be the wedding how we're going to do it all I know is that her her family and Sylvia is not very large whereas my extended family is like a lot like I got this whole chinese vietnamese like giant family yeah Lee yeah yeah there's a lot of leaves out there
2:33 there's a million leaves and uh Bruce there's a lot of leaves out there even though they're different leads they're all they're all in the same man same thing Robert E Robert you're gone there's a lot of them um and um uh uh and then also just like in terms of like when I really think about like uh wedding I started thinking about like oh I gotta invite like all the kendras I got like the whole JK fan everybody's got A plus one I got like friends for like High School from College from like this from that there's just a lot of different social groups as well kids is alone dude I know they just let anybody in
3:25 that's gonna be honestly with maybe 500 to a thousand people like if you were to invite everyone that's really in your life it's probably gonna be like 500 definitely a few hundred that's like an Indian wedding that's like when you're at your wedding and you're not you don't even see your chick because you're both you're all working crowds the whole time yeah yeah yeah shaking hands um but then once I like got there I was like man I straight up I'm not even finding like you know our lunar year wasn't exactly healthy for us um so like I didn't exactly you know feel like like it was a financially responsible move and then let alone like just like with all the the business things that are going on like the entering the recession like obviously there's you know as a business owner you're seeing a lot of different things especially in like marketing budgets and all the stuff get cut so just My overall sentiment during the year was not like getting more
4:15 confident um and then next thing you know too like we had always dreamed about certain things like we we dreamed about getting married in Hawaii right but then um to be transparent it's uh even for like our own like family financial background it's not like um we would get a lot of support we would probably have to like fund basically all of it as well even for like a lot of our extended family um ████ no-go yeah that was just the pressure that I was feeling just to be completely honest yeah yeah yeah yeah um and then next thing you know you start compromising things right we're like all right let's not do a Destination type thing so do you have an estimate for what for what you thought it would take to achieve your dream was it like it was like I don't know 50 G's or something or 100 G's or something I I never allowed myself to get there honestly I I we would like talk about trying to be like let's let's keep it under like 30 grand and in my mind being
5:06 like okay with it going to like 45 yeah because like you know there's always going to be things that pop up out of nowhere right um so just like allowing myself to try and think there but then the second you start like thinking about like how much we were venue shopping both in LA and in Hawaii you know what I mean at one different uh time um but once you start getting that you start adding these numbers up you start thinking about how much different things start costing but it's all compromising you know I mean it's like we cut out like the destination because it doesn't cost you much uh we gotta invite like these types of people because like for my parents like very Asian style it's like I don't even really know these people but we most likely have to invite them hopefully they're going to bring us ████ red envelopes and we can cut you know what I mean you start like doing this whole thing and then uh halfway through the process you're like adding a bunch of Stress and Anxiety over like the experience like I think it's unavoidable when you're like trying to
5:56 start planning stuff things get a little bit stressful and I just remember thinking to myself I was like maybe I'm overly practical sometimes or logical and it's like it's like why are we doing this like why are we spending like this much money for this type of thing that we're like kind of okay with because we think we're supposed to do it a certain way and you know and of course like I have my own pride and ego and Glitz and Glam that I want to bring to the table if you know let alone like what she wants to Envision for her perfect type of experience um and it was just a lot you know and then I think one time we were just like driving uh and you know I didn't want to like complain about it so then we ended up just like started like having fun romantically talking about like the in this ████ mood like what if we just said ████ it what if we just like win ourselves and what we just went back to our original idea I mean he just went to Mali and we were like you know kind of riffing off of this like ████ it mentality for a second and I remember
6:47 this like slight pause and just being like that sounds kind of tight it's like wait should we just do that and then that ball just the second that like idea started catching wind like all the green signs like the green lights were like yeah this makes sense this makes sense and all these other things that we're kind of trying to work around and stuff which again um you also like get what you pay for right like whether it be like the investment of time and planning to like literally what you pay for like there's also a lot of things that we didn't get by like making this decision that you know I would still love to someday hopefully receive but something you didn't get like for example um uh with Nina uh she's the only uh daughter of her father uh so even though she has like half sisters from like a different dude
7:37 um so the mom remarried uh so that means that father has uh even though he is like four daughters uh that's his real one daughter so he's never really gotten a chance to like walk somebody down an aisle and just to think of like that for for like my stepdad and being like okay that's invaluable that's probably an experience he wants to have yeah potentially right we didn't exactly talk about that but just thinking about like that feeling you just took it from or like um like a family photo like her family and my family in one photo yeah like how valuable is that yeah yeah for sure for sure maybe we can like formally concoction sort of like dinner or something we got Adobe suite you can make that happen yeah Ryan knows how to get it for free and he could put other people in celebrities he's really gonna Photoshop
8:27 you can make your nephews like six feet tall you know we give you a big dick oh thank you you know family photos dude yeah it's a little cartoonish actually thank you for the big I want to get that photo back and go why is my dick look small yeah yeah exactly my ball just too weak they don't do that for you at Sears uh maybe like um outside of even like a day of the wedding the idea of like a bachelor party or you know oh yeah just the whole thing huh you know where like you you get to hand pick you know some of the the gentlemen to help you become the man you are and then I was only a 30 minute playing right away dude you know I mean like I'm always right there kind of ████ up dude so just things like that like worse
9:18 sacrifice you know what I mean but then what was gained other than the fact that like one I'm not like in debt and broken out of pocket for a bunch of ████ it's a big deal thank God yeah dude huge now you're just in Denton broke because of crypto double down not the bottom I mean there's so many people that start a marriage in debt like in the deficit you know in like a backwards place face that's tough can you imagine how many people out there actually succumb to the social pressure and they end up doing it because it's for the family and they don't want to feel the shame and embarrassment so then they blow like 70 grand that they don't have on the wedding because you guys almost did that yeah yeah and then while you suffered through it and you're just like oh I had to do it for my family but you're just you know some people would do it because they're just afraid of judgment and all
10:08 that I picture like Graham Stefan doing like a for-profit wedding that's something I probably made of work we managed to figure out that if every guest contributes cash you know we only spend this amount on on you know overhead and you know there are some weddings that are like that straight up I've heard of like certain like Asian weddings and stuff where um you know uh because they got that rich Encore Auntie from Hong Kong or because they blah blah blah you know what I mean it's like yeah I made money on my wedding I'm like that is amazing how did they make money on their wedding some Filipino weddings are like that where do you have sponsors so like they'll be like 20 different family members or church members and they get to run ads at your wedding yeah together and then all those people spend the money to for you to have your
10:58 wedding and then on top of the gifts you get you can walk away with profit I think my parents had health sponsors I'm I could go that route which I might still have a family maybe wedding next year you know because renew your vows yeah exactly I definitely still want to have like and share something with my family and her family as well um but in order for me to like go that route uh would involve like one it's like very Asian style two it's like uh probably a bunch of people my parents would invite that I don't really remember or know anything in order for like that you know yeah you're already down this whole Lane of compromise where you're like okay I gotta uh hopefully get my money back but I'm gonna spend 12 000 for like these guests to you know what I'm saying so that was something that I was like uh me and you know we just weren't really there how did that feel though at the end of it all were you relieved like you know what's crazy yeah absolutely I
11:48 think like the amount of stress is like this is so weird I've been in it to so many weddings and supported people I've been on so many like you know Bridal parties and been the best man and so like I've really like seen and experienced like all those things um and so for my own the idea of like my wedding day it's like it was just her by herself in like one area we were at this uh ████ sick-ass suite at hotel wildlands beautiful Resort right but she was like in one side just getting ready with the hair and makeup just mad chill and for me because it's not going to take me hella long and there's no crazy like oh there's not an insane schedule I don't have to like host all these guests and families I literally was like all right uh I'm gonna take a nap yeah that's sick you know what I mean so I took a nap and I got up and I was like I'm gonna be good for like later in the night whatever and then it's like once we got to like doing our thing and stuff like that
12:38 um did you have the nervies like heading up leading up to it yeah were you nervous it wasn't nervous but it was like excited Jitters just the you know what I mean like it just felt yeah the Thrills yeah it's thrilling exactly um and then I remember when we went to go actually do uh the and get ordained and everything like that and we were just private uh area of the island it was really just us and kuya comes down he blows his ████ giant seashell in all directions and he's doing like this whole thing yeah that's dope and uh and that was huge for us because she's got a connection to Hawaii with like you know her family uh some of her some of her family lives there my parents got married in Hawaii when they like met there you know in the 70s and stuff like that after the war so um I just like always envisioned and wanted to like be in that space and feel the energy so that was like amazing and then when that was done we were done
13:30 there was no other commitments to anybody else other than ourselves that's the best it's so weird it was really weird but it was it was over and then we got to start our vacation interesting yeah we're on the water slide I've been to the Grand Wailea it wasn't a grand while it was Hotel Wiley oh wait that's good water slide yeah dude the Grand Wailea has like ████ three water slides in it way less and it was funny because uh when we were driving back uh we were you know still took us like 30 minutes the area of the island we were on to like where we ended uh going back to our hotel it was we're driving back and we're like should we tell someone oh yeah so then we just decided to like you know it's like who do we want to call we just like called Charlie uh you know if you were just like hey dude check it out and
14:21 she's in her wedding dress ugh that's a crazy ass visual yeah yeah just like crazy man that's so crazy like I didn't get a call did you did you guys get a I didn't not even the careful boys group chat like not even saying not even a sneak peek or nothing nothing right not even a first look but I don't even we didn't get to roast them first yeah interesting I was trying to have like a happy time I think that's why you wouldn't even remember dude we love love okay yeah we love love marriage you know what's crazy uh like that was obviously amazing and peaceful in its own way it really was peaceful I think that when there's like no stress about a million other thoughts too and you're really so focused I'm sure too yeah because like for example like I know who I am in terms of like the ████ guy like if I had a 400 people if I had an audience My Vow was my vows would probably be different oh true yeah yeah I would just
15:13 I would probably subconsciously entertain because it's like for everybody yeah yeah but then because I knew I was in there just I think but just knowing it was just her suddenly my valves just felt so much like simpler and like you know in a different room it's truer um and then it was when we got home that we're like all right now we got to tell our parents uh but we had told them all year that we would legally get married we would go to court and we would do it you know I had all these other reasons whether it be like loan credit this and that so your vows nobody's ever heard what they were huh no can you like give us can you get some Greatest Hits yeah yeah yeah can you give us a gif can you give us a pun For You Greatest Hits yeah it was like 16 bucks or her ears only no no we we haven't we haven't written somewhere but um but
16:04 what was crazy is telling our parents and I think this is uh I think I was nervous for that that was that was a nervous thing to tell my parents telling her parents she took it away from her pops thank you well the first thing her dad the first question her dad asked was like so you're gonna change your last name to you or to her and she was like she's like yeah he's like okay and then after that I was like what's your life what's your last name no why did he ask that curious that's a good question what's what's your family name his name you know what I mean so it's like oh when you think about that when they don't change it oh I told you because I was like what's her name and see so and see so Nina Lee sounds tight yeah he's ████ dope she keep that did she keep her change her middle name oh yeah I think so
16:54 um because it was her mother demanding name before but that's a great that's a great name yeah yeah her first name company her first name is actually Anita Dominique that whole her whole thing that's a hot name honestly I call her Dominique when she starts getting mad at me I'm like hey yo Dominique yeah I do that to Nikki all the time yeah Nicole Alexandria oh really when she's mad at you no one I'm mad at her oh or if she's just not listening that's really what it is because that then she'll listen up and she's like why are you doing that ████ dad ████ to me and then she's like come on Stephen Paul Green well yeah it gives her that chill parents are mad at her or whatever yeah Stephen Paul I'm like you weren't hearing me and I think after telling them they're so like cool and chill about it though yeah it's cool and my dad was literally like you're you guys are old like do your thing you know what I mean it's about time and uh but uh after just reflecting it's like also like me and Ian are both like the uh the babies of the family right so our parents have already have older uh
17:46 siblings that have done the full thing yeah you know so it's not like they're they're losing something in a sense they've already been through it many times uh so I feel like it was a lot easier even for like you know parents like I don't care I want to watch Walking Dead get away yeah walking or if anything it's like make some children or some ████ you know what I mean hurry up and make a baby well it gets it does get hacked if you bed but if you have like three kids it's like holy ████ I gotta do this again I know my dad too my dad gets pissed at certain weddings especially family weddings you know because because even for like there's a lot of Saving Face that has to happen in that like culture as well dude I get pissed Church weddings ████ suck a Catholic Church oh no those are the worst you gotta do Mass dude my dad cussed out like the ████ Bellman at the last cousin's wedding at the hotel because they're like trying to Usher people out and he's like God damn it we spent thousands of dollars here you ████ kick us out you ████ you man
18:36 like my dad goes crazy that's ████ right he's absolutely right yeah that's true and I'm always laughing in the corner because like I'm that's funny like are they trying to Usher people out it's just like people like all the times here and you only rented this section of the blah blah blah for that so you know you everybody but you know when you got a bunch of old Asian people that are kind of loitering you know what I mean when they're kind of getting ushered out by a younger kid and it's like you just spent like 40 Grand on the hotel you don't want that ████ you're just like dude you know how good could your vows be if there's no witness because then who's holding the fire the kuya at the at the oh they heard it the spirits of the island and my GoPro we have it all on footage oh nice I was wearing a lot of Mike too you know what I mean really yeah it was because you have to have someone observing right yeah and we signed it there yeah the makeup artist observing no no not the
19:27 makeup artist there but we have the photographer the two videographers and the kuya the cool yes all right dude well congrats man congrats bro we're happy for you Anita and I only told you guys late because I wanted to have all of you here at the same time to tell but like for whatever reason since the end of September until now we haven't had a single time where all of us were here oh yeah that's true since September yeah it's either I'm gone I told Ryan earlier because like by the time we were at The Quest group party which was a month later random people who I hadn't seen you know what I mean with like either notice my ring or like you know what's like nonchalant it's like hey did you get married it's like yeah yeah got married and I'm like some of my closest friends don't even know because I haven't got a chance to tell them that's your actual ring yeah that's my actual wedding you told me when we were having a little crypto session I did I did because I wanted I wanted
20:17 people to know I wanted you know I wanted to tell my close friends especially if like random still friends but just like randomly they would find out I want to tell my close friends but you want to tell people face to face you know what I mean and then they were not fighting out through Lord's cow or some ████ yeah I didn't even tell Nikki though because I didn't know if you wanted to like known at all so now I can tell her well yeah now I gotta ask Nina if she's cool with this video and then uh she'll be fine she'll love it you told me sometime don't know man but are we just co-workers too you told me sometime hey to be fair I think everybody did find out except for Nick um that's about right because he doesn't know about marriage yeah but that's because that's the goal is never tell Nick Nick deflects wait wait what's going on guys what are you doing and by the way that's a deeper joke than people know yep I don't deflect it did you play
21:08 this though [Music] this ████ makes me cry dude I know it's a good song [Music]
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