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Off The Record: Things We Would NOT Have if We Didn't Get Into a Relationship

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0:00 but like that's why I rent right now they just fix everything they're not putting up my shelves I installed my washer dryer rabbit which one I installed my washer dryer did you really yeah myself damn dog yeah dude I flooded I flooded a room for [Music] a welcome back to careful boys today we are talking about things that we simply would not have if we were not in relationship with other people at some point see how I included you yeah yeah good job thank you also we don't we don't know you know you don't if we weren't in a relationship right now or like in the past think about like you dat even if you're dating some chick or something like that and she's like you got to get a bed that's what Nikki did to me he like you got to get a bed and I was like God damn it oh I learned a lot

0:50 you got a bed from women mhm about grooming oh yeah about facial care about having more than just a mattress on the floor yeah in a bedroom air mattress but off the floor from me oh really you had it with frame on the you're fancy dude well no it unpacked itself you plug it in the wall you press a button it unpacks itself and lifts itself up on its own legs okay out of like air mattress that's that's heightened luxury dude it's like Sky Mall pretty I don't know man I bet you that oh I you know how there's that photo sometimes that pops up of like they'll be like uh if if there's a single millionaire guy he would like live like this and it's like a TV and a mattress on the ground and I it's so relatable absolutely one of my roommates uh at the time he was making

1:41 the most out of all of us he was making like 130k as like a as a pharmacist and he had a ████ sleeping bag and a standup table and that was it sleeping bag on he slept on the ground he had a sleeping bag did he was he on carpet at least is he a paint slip was it was a carpet it's kind of nice maybe he's not that hardcore dude and I'm like you make ████ six figures dude and he goes I'm just trying to pay my debt exactly that's how we are we don't I don't even think about yeah he's not buying things to impress people he's just being smart about the money but he's not even he's not buying he's not even buying like the bare minimum like not even a blow up match so you saying when a girl steps into his life or your life they're like you need a bed do you think that's like they're just teaching

2:31 you how to be materialistic yeah who ████ are materialis was that too extreme what it's like cuz most guys don't care about that stuff until uh somebody walks into their life and introduces them to the nice things in life you know what I mean dude it's it's like this office when you walk in it's like it feels different it's beautiful in here right and I think guys don't know what that possibility is until someone does it so now let's reverse it if you meet a guy that has all these material things do you think he's doing it just to attract a woman into his life because no I just think he's gay stuff I got okay that's what I think no no I I I don't think it's material I think some guys understand like the environment and

3:22 they're artistic and they're creative and they get like how psychologically they can feel better from being in a nice space that's decorated whereas like most guys I think we have like this tunnel vision and we have super low standards and then we're very like I just go home to sleep cuz we're more practical right we don't think about yeah but we can also live in filth I think guys can live like we could be practical but I'm I'm talking about the guys that are messy cuz they're like it's like practical but there's guys that are like clean I'm talking about guys that are absolute ████ messes mhm and then women would be like why don't you ████ clean that ████ up well absolutely I don't think it even matters if you're a guy or a girl cuz I've met girls that are way messier than me and I'm like see it's not it's not just a guy thing you know yeah but in most cases I think the stereotype is

4:13 like girl comes over and civilizes a guy yeah girls are definitely more I think generally speaking more organized and cleaner you're right there are disgusting girls but they're not the ones that are civilizing their boyfriend dude my homie is going through a divorce right now and he told me I was like oh well you know cuz his his ex took all his ████ basically like a lot of the ████ in the house cuz she decorated the ████ out of the house of course and I was like what are you going to do down here you going to get another bar and stuff he's like and the next girl I get I'll just let her figure it out dude cuz it means more to them that's what it really is I don't care look I we could have holes in the wall in our house like I don't give a ████ but my wife likes to put up painting she likes to have dude the Aesthetics matter the amount of ████ things we have on the glass coffee table that we just don't use I'm like what is this tray that we there's got to be a line between

5:04 like I got a TR on theot of my bed for no reason hold handle in aook there's no point the pillows pillows how many pillows would you have on your bed if it was just you oh if it was just Nikki forget about it dude it be my whole house would be pillows you open the door pillows fall like I'm the opposite she don't really put anything up I'm the one that likes to put the you know put up frames you're the art guy on the walls what kind of art do you put up no I just grab her art and I just put it up yeah and then oh so she buys the art and she leaves It On The Ground I don't know how to uh design it and I'm like okay well you know what I mean I put it up and then I do all the cleaning I do all everything yeah cuz she doesn't have time I do that too cuz most of my relationships I always feel like I'm the one like doing the cleaning cooking everything and then there's probably only like one relationship where I felt like oh ████ she's got her ████ together

5:55 I need to catch up like it I've only ever felt that like once well it's not like she doesn't have a ████ to get it just that's what you said well don't don't take shots bro no no no like like like I'm talking about organization not yeah like we're just specifically just organization and stuff I think she just doesn't want to do it which is fine okay but like she has her schedule together finances together I'm like that's great I'll do all the stuff you don't have time for or you don't want to do that's fine with help out where you can yeah yeah that's just how I look at it I do think like well sometimes it's not even gender specific but your partner just does ████ cuz they about something and then they teach you 100% also I don't know if I learned anything but like like when I walk through my house I'm like damn this looks so nice I'm like wow she did a really good job and I'm like I

6:46 would not have any of this ████ if it was just me for real not not any of it I would have my office with my my battle station for crypto and that's about it dude I would have a ████ I would probably still have I would have one of these chairs you know in my living room yeah for your guest to come over and like you know my 55 inch t flat screen that's about it brother but I I think what guys would do is they'll blow money on their Hobbies but then everything else is like nothing like they'll they'll ████ customize the ████ out of their car or gun or whatever make that ████ beautiful as ████ yeah and then they'll live in like a undecorated house I would have done that like that's 100% like a a rug and a and a couch and that's it a rug if you're lucky if you're lucky yeah yeah and I'm not by the way I am appreciative

7:38 that she has brought all that to my life but it is fascinating when I look at all this stuff and I'm like wow I couldn't have done any of this ████ AB I wouldn't have had the mental capacity to go that should go there and that picture palette way are there any like are there any habits you guys picked up from dating people like habits like oh ████ like characteristics like oh for one for example example when I was in like my early 20s I dated this girl and she would always floss like every single time and I'm like I rarely floss I maybe I should start doing that and then boom I carried that habit to the rest of what about terrible habits what about bad oh yeah I learned how to not be a cheating whor from my I learned how to ████ order Postmates all the time I learned that and how it's like oh I should I should just go drive and go get it like something you picked up and you actually use now you know like oh uh just putting

8:30 things where it needs to be oh okay like that's what I picked up from Sasha so funny it's like regular I know is that funny yeah using deodorant we don't our brains don't progress past Earth you know what it is because when you by yourself and when you have a partner it's like they're reflecting your ████ onto you so you're like oh I could see like what this person is doing what I should be doing for myself but when you're by yourself you don't think about that that's true yeah yeah I'm always just like putting remotes here put you know shoes over over there but you know now it's just like put the remote where the TV's at because you never you never because if I say babe where's the remote and she goes where it should be so stop bothering me I'm like yeah okay that's true let's just put it by the TV where

9:20 it needs to be what also helps to if if they yeah when Nikki made like everything have a place that was crazy blew my mind but I'll never forget our first our second apartment together no matter what if you cleaned it up it wasn't rewarding because it's just like a s█████ little apartment but once we got like our condo once like you cleaned it up it's like oh it's nice to clean up and then I started to like cleaning up more because it's rewarding the feeling afterwards yeah making your space your space and the and the way it looks well clean you just want to maintain that ████ agreed so that's yeah and it's actually not a lot of work if you're just maintaining a little bit here and there because when we're young we just let things pile up and we're like oh I hate I don't want to clean this cuz it's too much you know my family would let things pile up and then it's my job to do the chore yep yep I

10:11 think I would just light a match and burn the whole house down and move into an next house wow my ████ guy huh I like that idea actually it's all the it's like well some people they get the rug put the dust in I just burn the whole carpet off I like that what up guys thank you for watching us for so long if you like what we do please support our patreon Joe tell them what we have to offer so every week you get two videos one never released director's cut and another one too hot for YouTube patreon only every freaking week you get that and you get access to our Discord where you can come chat with us and ask us questions that become episodes here cuz we're going to answer them and we're going to take it seriously and we want to give you the responses that you want so come stay connected with us join our patreon click the description below for

11:02 full details does Hannah decorate yeah I think um I mean she's visually super just gifted with everything but we've been living in three cities and so everything's been scattered and like we sat down and we're like man I feel like so chaotic and she was like it's probably because we live in so much clutter it's like a reflection of our brain and she's like I've always had a space where like I can have everything but it's like for the last 3 years almost we've been living in boxes meaning like like moving from one place to another we never really fully made a home MH and then I didn't realize how much um that can take a toll on you psychologically cuz I never thought about those things right until well cuz we're dudes I wake up and I'm the same way every day but if Nikki wakes up and

11:52 like the kitchen sink is crowded with a bunch of ples or something like that she can't think about anything except for that and so I didn't know that I'm sure it does take a toll but like I'm unaware that that's the thing like I'm just probably like cuz you shoving it into the back of your mind yeah but then later you do clean it up and you're like oh ████ like this is way better yeah it's like ████ Mari cond condo you know getting rid of all dude actually that documentary or that show was what started it all for me I was like oh dude her Concepts make sense even though I already knew this but then she breaks it down to like the reason why this should be here the reason why you should give away things and all this I was like dude I'm going to just take that with me do you do you say goodbye to the things you love no I just you say goodbye you you you give a kiss yeah I don't thank you thank you thank you thank you thank you for everything thank you thank you thank

12:42 you thank you thank you Dro it in a river you dropp it in a lake you pollute the ocean you just litter no but I do you know what I do a lot I I try to get into the habit of donating like every so often cuz I always have ████ and not enough space and it's either I get a bigger space which is like easier said than done or I just keep donating stuff like somebody needs it more than I do and then the more you do that it feels so much lighter me and Nikki donate stuff to our trunk the trunk of our car and so like then when we're driving around there's like bags and bags and bags and bags and bags of stuff that we never take to the donation center same and so then like when I'm picking up Nikki's parents from the airport I'm like oh no we can't fit your bags cuz we have all this Goodwill stuff at the trunk you you have to sit with your luggage in your lap I'm so sorry bro we go to

13:33 Goodwill every ████ 2 weeks dude the guy at Goodwill ████ sees me and he's like oh hey what's up always giving him ████ dude you know what's cool not cuz we're good people just we have a lot of junk it's like the more I do it too I I'm looking at I'm like ████ dude I need to stop spending so much on just random clothes or just whatever it just reminds you you know the more you consume you just be like oh now I need a thing for the thing that needs also thing and then it just it's Domino but you know what is cool is uh Daiso dude all their little storage things at Daiso it's like a dollar and you just get a box for whatever you need the Japanese got organization figured out that's my favorite place to get St they're so good at like using small spaces because that's all they have no no I'm I'm so opposite D I don't I failed the people I donate a lot of my stuff to like mechanics like my mechanics like my old

14:25 Mac laptop or anything that's cool I like homies with your mechanics hell yeah my bike mechanic my car mechanic what mechanic was the first you have a bike mechanic oh motorcycle motor yeah so that way every time I need something they're always like yeah I got you I'm like hey that's pretty cool hey that's Goodwill you know yeah that's very good that's what it is that's what I do I like that instead of Goodwill cuz who knows where that where the ████ that goes to they say oh we we're sending it to Africa like no you're not they sell it in their store they just sell it my grandma used to used to um work at the the church Goodwill or what whatever the ████ and they all just picked through everything before it got to the floor yeah so they're all just like getting all the good ████ out of there but that's what I'm saying that's why I just gave it to my mechanic I think sometimes when you couple up too you stop you forget how to do certain things cuz some people take over certain tasks right MH

15:17 so then um Hannah was telling me the other day she's like you know when I was living alone like I did all these things by myself and then like she's like and now it's just I it's like I you're taking care of it I don't even have to think about it and I was like that's right I haven't done laundry in a couple years nice wow that's awesome dude so clutch I wish that's that's what happens when you have real teamwork when I'm in LA or like whatever but yeah cuz you know but yeah I don't even have to think about it my ████ wife would never yeah but I'm sure there's tasks that you don't do 50/50 on everything you just like start taking over things because it's more convenient or makes more sense you guys all do the trash we all do the trash right trash KY litter that's a boy job that's a boy job a boy job you do trash I do trash I do because I live by myself but yeah like when I live alone

16:08 too I did everything by myself and then somehow you just start kind of gravitating toward like okay well I'll just fix ████ when it breaks and or you know what I mean that's what's nice is having a a guy that can fix ████ Nikki says I can't fix it and I constantly fix ████ yeah I hate the brand to the wall put some shelves up like build my cabinet thank you so much like I can do it I just don't want to do it that's her Duty it's like Ping's ████ up something's clogged you know like yeah just fix it I fix the garbage many times that's why I rent right now they just fix everything they're not putting up my shelves I installed my washer dryer ████ that's rabbit which one I installed my washer dryer did you really yeah myself damn dog yeah dude I flooded I flooded a room for a second wait did you really oh yeah and

16:58 Nikki called me on Instagram chorus yeah wait how did you FL what happened well I didn't I didn't cut the water oh no step whatever you know you have to disconnect so you have to disconnect right and I did that but I didn't turn the water and it just went yeah so I was like oh God damn it water going everywhere there was like this much water probably an inch of water on the ground yeah so then you know I hooked a bunch of fans in there it smelled like mold for a couple days and then I I hey but good thing Vegas is dry cuz it evaporates very quickly I shut that ████ up cuz I I installed it and then I moved all the other ones and I did all by myself but they never give you credit when you do it well give you credit they bust your balls all time they just go they don't even know that it happened yeah yep like oh you got the dryer up cool yeah oh oh do you like using the washer that's

17:50 cool wonder wonder house she just because the carpet's just soaking wet no the carpet was not wet it was just it was TI ground you have to complain about it so they know you can't just like fix it cuz they won't even know that the sprinkler was broken or anything he going to be like oh my God the freaking sprinkler is broken I got to go to Home Depot and get the part you go get the you fix it you go I did it and then they know that you did something that day I I've been learning that too I've been learning that or else they never knew that the sprinkler was broken and you have to tell them that okay I've been doing this and around the house you got like check in them and let them know otherwise she's like we don't get credit like you're not doing ████ bro yeah I just show I just show my lady I'm like wait look what I did grab her hand I'm going to start doing that yeah you yell at the and you're like look at a sprinklers can

18:41 I show something can I show you something I fixed AC in the car that ████ was talking ████ to saying I couldn't fix how'd you do that just put the free on in yeah you do yourself put on it's like a quick fixon hell yeah hey don't laugh at me I don't know how to do that dude can you teach me you just Googy it dude go googie fix it yeah so easy and it's safe you're telling me it's safe it's just Freon yeah you just apply you get the freon that has a sealer in it and then it patches the little whatever is going on in there quick tip can you can you're no help dude they call me Mr Fix It they don't they would never do that but yeah I feel good about it I learned I I have I matched the art of uh plunging toilets like I'm I'm pretty ████ sick at plunging that's pretty good you're Super Mario you know what I actually don't clog him my are pretty good who's clogging those things

19:31 up I won't say dude I won't say someone's giving your toyss a tough time in there someone is destroy toilets like I got that ████ down to a science where I was like you know what I used to think this was really hard once you get the right touch and the right angle dude you should be a plumber honestly I've been snaking drains and I'm like I think I could do this you can if if I ever lost a job I could just you know plumbers make a ████ T dude I would love to have a racket like that Nikki's brother was a plumber really yeah he was crushing it it's satisfying unclogging the pipes and stuff I think I'm just made to do physical labor let's do a PL business I have a few tasks for you I can't nah dude I don't go to that side of town I hear it's a little spotty over there dud little dodgy I would not recommend my community constantly giving me ████ cuz I have a lawn and they don't cuz they all decided to have they wanted to have golf grass or whatever you know ho yeah

20:21 the HOA busts your balls and you if you have like a dead dying spot they'll get on your ass big time so I've been fixing in grass all summer all summer patch you become that neighbor you get the yeah there's a patch kit that you can get you pour it's like a sod you pour on top of the the spot you till the land you put it in there you flatten it out you water it like three times a day if you can honestly like this is actually very um like helpful conversation to have cuz I'm learning a lot about the things you do around the house tell cuz most people don't know how to do this ████ take look you know what's funny homeowner stuff I didn't understand like the proud of your lawn thing until I became a homeowner yep same cuz whenever I rented I just didn't give a ████ and then there was a landscaper and then like whatever you guys love my I think we should get a pressure washer I

21:11 would love a press let's go in on a pressure washer I've been looking at them and I really want to get pressure like water yeah dude are we old or what bro I've been bro I've been watching pressure washer videos that's the Splurge I love those videosl gear dude Nick let's start the ████ pressure I to I'm thinking about it I'm like personal training I'm out of the game dude hey can we pressure wash your driveway for free we're just going to film a little video my friend's dad owned a truck washing company so we would go to sparklets and Arrowhead and all that as kids he would child labor us and we would just be spraying that ████ that's a kid's dream and then we're kids right so then somehow that started aiming at each other yeah and then I remember one time he came what the ████ are you doing we're drench

22:01 spraying the ████ he goes we got all these trucks to finish and I was like oh ████ n guy scary this guy scary you spray him too yeah I had to do uh concrete I learned how to do a you can pour concrete no I can't pour it cuz it was coming out of the truck but I had to get it in a little wheelie and then you know dump it dump it but we had to do the crowbars and everything we had to tie it up I think we have all the tools necessary to start a contract business hell no you guys want to build a house together we'll throw a can on the roof garage is going to be bigger than our house this week let's build Colleen's house J builds Colleen's house although you know you want a house or not the new JK adventure and she opens up the door and then everything goes we can turn into the new ████ JK

22:51 Homemaker I'll use words like cozy when I like sell it oh yeah Charming Charming Charming a Charming roof my open air the roof the roof should not be termin

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