0:05 Welcome back to another triggering episode of Careful Boys. Today we have the OUTCASTS WITH US. I'M VERY SORRY IF THIS REMINDS you of something that hurt your feelings a lot, but what is the meanest thing an old person has said to you or a kid has said to you that actually hurt your feelings? Oh, dude, this is recent. Okay, whatever. So, as you guys know, I've been like really focusing on like jiu-jitsu this last year. So, I've been training really hard and I feel like I try to like my a couple of priorities is one, I try to be a good student. So, I I treat like everyone like my coach. So, even if it's another white belt, if they like give me any advice, cuz some people try to big brother you because they want to like be a ego like they have that ego trip, right? I take that with a grain of salt. I just go cool like I listen intently and I go
0:55 okay, how do I apply that to my arsenal? And the other one is I try really hard to be a good athlete where everything that I learn, I try to execute to the highest of my ability. So, I'm really trying to be the sponge. And um at the around 6 or 7 month mark, I thought I was getting pretty good. There's this old school like Filipino or Guamanian um black belt. He's like maybe 60 and he's like this tough dude. Uh we were rolling after rolling uh usually like the higher belts will like give you maybe like like a compliment or whatever or constructive criticism. He was like you should be better than this by now. And I was like Yo, whoa. What the I was like what the Bro.
1:46 I was like that's Bro. Why, dude? He didn't say anything. I was like I was like oh like what do you mean? He goes, what are you doing? What he said? And I was like what do you mean what am I doing? He goes grab me here, grab me here, grab me here. Like he's like what did what did you do? And he's like you're trying to dance? And he goes get a game plan, stick to it. And he goes Good advice. Stop moving around everywhere. Like pick and you're like That's good advice. Yeah, yeah, yeah. It's like try to It's really good advice. Cuz I think I'm I'm trying to be such a good sponge. I'm trying to learn all styles. to many people. Oh, no, no, no, no, no, grab that and then they're grabbing I see. I see. versus like you need to find a pathway from Being like overly receptive. Yeah, and get really good from A to Z that that and just keep rinsing and repeating. And then I was like dude, this ████ said I should be better than this by now. You
2:36 You know what's funny? It's like While I'm teaching class, it's funny cuz like all the white belts, they try to tell each other what's right and wrong. And I'm listening. That's both you're both wrong. Like that's absolutely wrong. They're both wrong. Yeah, so it's like so it's like you you probably shouldn't take advice from too many people, especially white belts. That guy's a black belt. No, black belt's different. That's good advice. But I'm just being like white belts Oh, like people you're rolling Yeah, cuz they'll be like oh, next time you try doing that and I'm like that's wrong. That's actually actually not like that's half right, but you know, that's actually dangerous sometimes, you know. I'mma come to Lionheart and teach everybody. You can. You're Joe Jitsukawa. You have jiu-jitsu in your name. Just postures though. Yeah, that was the last time where I was like it really affected me cuz I was really trying to be good. such an earnest sentence. It's not a burn. It's just straight up what you're doing. Yeah, and I was like what what
3:26 what am I doing? Hey, cancel my membership. I'm done. I give up. I'm done. Do you guys have anything like that? Like a either a kid or an old person has like said to you that was like scathing? I I can think of something. Yeah, I mean like I think when I when I was younger like sometimes I'd bully my younger sister or like the my my character wasn't so likable. Oh. And so like I'd hear stuff like you're not going to have friends when you grow up. Like you're not you're not going to you're going to be not going to make friends you that? Mm. Uh relatives. Older relatives are like yeah, you're not going to you're you're not going to have good friends or things like that. So, like I feel like that kind of carried out like like oh, like no one's going to like me. Um They tell you in English or
4:17 Yeah. Or Yeah, we speak English at home. What hurts more to hear it in English or Chinese? Uh well, that's a good question. Or Portuguese? I'm not Portuguese. Or in a Miley Funk song? In song. Actually, I I didn't really learn to express myself deeply Mhm. with Cantonese. Oh. Like it's it was only after I left uh home, went for gap year and spoke more English, that's when I really learned to express myself. So, English would hurt more. Oh. So, that really stayed with you. The Yeah, I mean that was yeah, one of what an example I could think of. Yeah. Um Like I guess like this one time um my niece and nephew like in law um they're like they're like really big kids. Like they're really strong. They're very
5:08 sporty. And one time cuz they're brothers and sisters and they were like fighting, arguing. Um one's eight and one's four and they were like using their hands, right? So, I'm trying to break them up. I'm like guys, stop it. And then one of them like hit me and I'm like Ow, that really hurt. But it's a child, YOU KNOW? AND I'M LIKE DAMN, I'm weak as ████ I'm weak as child. That's when I was like I feel so bad. I'm like ooh and they're like I'm sorry. And I'm just there like want to cry because it's like I can't believe I feel hurt by this kid. that you're like injured? No, I was trying so hard not to like react from this. I'm like All right, guys, just go. And I'm like You hurt so much. I was like damn. That is pretty hard, yeah. kids say Yeah, American kids.
5:59 strong. I distinctly remember this one like stayed with me cuz I thought it was so funny. But like um I think this was when I was like 19 or 20 and I used to have like huge gigantic emo hair. I had to go to my friend's aunt's funeral. And afterwards, you know that after Filipino funerals they go eat and it's all loud and crazy. It's not like a sad time at all. So, everyone we're all just hanging out and then this one grandma, I do not know who she is, comes up to me and she just goes like What is why why? What is all this? Yeah. And I was like what do you mean what? And she goes Ah, it's such a waste of face. Oh my god. Such a waste of face. She called me a waste of face. That's crazy. I mean that's also a compliment. Yeah, yeah, yeah. That's what I'm saying. Mostly a compliment. You are look good.
6:49 But isn't that such a funny line that you probably will never hear anywhere? I took calling someone a waste of face. She was like 85. Wow. She And then she just walked away. And I was like and I was like dude, one of your grandmas just called me a waste of face. That sounds like a good band name. A waste of face. Waste of face. Yeah, Ace Ace of Base opening for them. A waste of face. Yeah, that I never forgot. I was like damn, maybe I should tone it down. What? Such a waste of social security number. You're like such a waste of DNA. You're like damn, that's ████ crazy. She probably had a lot of wisdom. Waste of face. How about you? Any kids? I feel like the stuff kids say to you can be pretty like Kids can be brutal. Yeah, because they just straight up say whatever, man. I think it's so funny cuz of how honest it
7:40 is. Like my little nephew had this whole thing where he would just randomly ask things that's on his mind. And we'll just be out of no like and I remember I was like in my 20s and then he looks over and he goes why are you so old? And I'm like 22. But he had this thing where he would ask everybody that. Because of my date of birth. But he was so innocent. Like I think he was like four or five at the time. He goes, why are you so old? That hurts even more that he's like innocent and not trying to hurt you. Yeah. It's actual question. What's your answer What's your answer to that? I didn't know how to answer it. I just thought it was so funny. Yeah. And then he would ask his everybody that. So, I remember he was saying bye to his grandparents and we were at the door. We're saying bye and he goes Bye,
8:30 grandma grandpa. And he's like, why are you so old? You're like old. Like old old. His clothes were the same as your clothes. He doubled down on it. Old old. And we're like cracking up. intelligent to know old old. Like older than us, you know? Yeah, yeah, yeah. You're like old old. And then um just recently when I got my haircut my friend and and I mean his wife was like oh, that's so cool. And then they're telling their kids, hey look, uncle got a haircut. And then their daughter was like I don't like it. That's great, dude. Yeah. She was just looking at me and shaking her head like I don't like it.
9:21 Okay. And then just I just think it's hilarious. That's like when Joe and Hannah got married and as soon as they they kissed, Tyko's like Yeah. He jumped on top of a chair to go like this in my face and go It's so innocent to do that. Kissing, gross. Yeah. And Tyka has a lot of that, huh? When you go out with him and he observes stuff. Does he say mean stuff like where it's not mean, but like Yeah. Like he'll ask a like talk about a disabled person be what's up with his legs or something. No, he'll be like oh my god he's so fat. Like you know like We were getting tacos with this one guy he was like that guy is so tall and he was literally pointing at him looking I
10:12 was like Tyga stop dude. He's like that guy is so he could probably touch this sign. He's like he look at why is he so big though? He just kept asking. I was like I don't know dude. Once we go meet up for food in Vegas right my hands get dry in Vegas so Nina had just given me some of her hand lotion remember? And I I walked out and then Tyga like I walked right by him and he's like ew you smell like perfume. Ew are you trying? Yeah. Had nothing to say I was just like damn. You're like damn what the ████ Yeah, there was nothing you can say. Tyga was he was roasting me dude. He was roasting me. Oh there's a there's one that like a lot of the Quest guys make fun of me about because they were all there but we went to the Philippines where Boracay
11:02 and then this was like 2010 when like a lot of our videos were like seen in the Philippines so like you could go to random beach there and the kids would like go oh we know you guys. So we were like used to like running into the kids and then being all excited and then this one time we ran into a group of kids and they were like oh please dance for us like show us some cool stuff and then so like I was like okay yeah I guess I'll just do some stuff. So like I start literally there's no music or anything I just start breaking I do a bunch of like what I think are my best moves. I don't hear a single thing I get up and they just go Oh. Oh my gosh. Just that that's all you need. And then all the guys are like trying so hard not to laugh. Ouch. Because it's all these kids are just not impressed. Oh my gosh. They're like I already seen these moves. Yeah, they were just like this they were like Oh okay. Oh my gosh.
11:52 But they were like sarcastic that's their Genuine reaction. They were authentically just like oh we were waiting for something cool. Oh my gosh. And I was like you ████ ████ Damn. That was that hurt so bad. And then and then I think either me or one of my other friends did some like whack level one basic thing and they were like that's what we want to learn. And I was like what the hell man? It's a different generation. Yeah, it was it was really that was an ego bruiser for sure. Um there there's one time also cuz like when we went when I moved to America people always like careful don't get fat don't gain weight like that's that's what people would tell you. And like because of the food or Yeah. Yeah yeah cuz that's the impression That's the impression people get you go to America you get fat like at least But it's true. Everybody here gets bigger.
12:43 That's like saying have a nice trip you just say that instead. Don't get too fat. And then I think like two three years after moving here like I sent pictures of me like whatever doing something. And then my dad My dear daddy he said he's like hoy there's two of Yasmeen now. Oh no. He's like there's wow. They're like you grew there's two of Yasmeen there's two of you now. Damn. Hey dad and then I mean Damn. Okay to be honest it didn't hurt me that that much cuz I know like he doesn't care he's just going to say whatever. And I'm like papa yeah yeah yeah that's a high amount. I'm like papa you don't say that to girls okay? You don't say that. He's like but there's two of you like Doubles down.
13:33 But what am I looking at? I did the math. Asians are the best at body shaming. Asians are black belts. Honestly when he asked us that was the first story that came to mind too but I've told it here so I wasn't going to say it but Um my dad I'll never not forget this. Um when I was getting fat when I was a kid there's this one moment that I sleep and think about every single night where he sits at like the head of the dinner table and then like this is the doorway to like the living room right so we sit at the table like you got to walk past him to get you know I so I put my plate away and then as I like put it in the sink and I start walking away he like takes his hand out he puts it on my belly and he stops me. He says Anthony you know I eat whatever I want I don't get fat it's cuz I know when to stop eating. OH MY GOSH. GOES back to his meal. Brutal.
14:28 I'll never forget that ████ Just stab me now dad. Yeah and then the stoic go back to eating. Hand on the belly is crazy work. Brutal. I'M BULKING DAD. I'M I'M CULTIVATING MASS RIGHT NOW. The fact that he said it like that too. Ouch. Yeah. Your dad is still like really trimmed to this day? No. No but like he it's because now he drives now he drives Uber. So he's like Uber so he sits down all day. He don't know when to stop eating stop hitting up the drive through is that? give him ████ now because I like who I want to give ████ to is my mom but it's not just cuz she's like fat ass but even though she mom but it's because she could be
15:18 complaining about her gout and her knee and all that stuff and it's like dude if you just eat better and like exercise and he's the one who's like trying to force her to go to 24 hour fitness he got like a membership and stuff so he'd be like swimming and trying to walk and she complains every time and he like has to drag her and stuff but he like you know he can only bear so much. your mom dude for free I'll train her. Then she'll choke you out. I'm going to train your mom. But yeah it's a it's a thing so I can't give him ████ cuz he's trying to get my mom better but you know one of these days I'll get him back. But that worked right? What he said to you? Yeah yeah it worked you know but I think on weaker minds it would have just Yeah broken. That's true it could have like the adverse effect where they just go crazy yeah. It worked because like I at least I have that relationship with him again he I've never I don't know what it sounds like for him to go like I love
16:08 you so like that's it but I'm okay with it. though what he said. Yeah yeah that was that's as good as it gets. It's just like an acknowledgement of something oh you seen me today you know. What if was this after the basketball incident where you didn't know you or before? Uh that was that's that era. He had an argument with another fat kid when he was playing basketball and they were calling each other fat and he didn't know that he actually was fat. But then he lost the weight and drove him to lose the weight. You don't know you know what I mean and somebody calls you fat you're like well you're fat and then everybody's confused but you think you think you're right. At least you're confident you know like He saw the photo of himself and was LIKE OH DAMN. THERE'S TWO ANTHONYS THERE. WELL THAT'S how all short kings should be like you know just not see their
16:58 height and Yeah don't see your height yeah. Just get dunked on. See see the photo later oh. Dude dads oh man a dad that never says I love you but can point out your weight yeah that's pretty good. And then like Joe's haircut thing I saw my father-in-law recently and he said oh you cut your hair? And I was like oh no I'm I mean it's been a a little bit he said oh I like this better than when you like cut close. Cut close? Yeah. I'm like What does that mean? I was like wait you mean when it's like fresh like Like like a fade yeah I like it. Yeah I was like wait you just you just didn't even like it when I clean hair? Like fresh out of the barber shop he hates it? Well not hates but it's just like you know you think you're getting a compliment but it's like Right. You look better with with this hairstyle you look better with better short hair than I had. I definitely got that a lot. That that
17:50 can happen I think when when you lose weight and everyone's just like dude you look good. It's like it's a compliment but also it's like I didn't know it was that bad. But you lost a lot of weight.
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