0:00 I would put him at a at like a work station that you could sign up for work and then let him sign up that's what I would do take it to staffing center do today [Music] girl okay when you guys are in a relationship what do you think uh is appropriate for the girl to pay for everything anyway I knew something start strong come on what is appropriate for the girls to pay yeah what should like okay like let's go through the list appropriate let's just list them out and then you guys just say yes or no would you pay for it as the girl okay as a girls God obviously we'd be like great uh would you pay for his car his car like whole car a whole car yeah which by the way I'm
0:52 using that example because I know a lot of girls whove done that for like his car payments like his car payment straight up paid for the car no I'm not that's your son that's your son no no okay what about would you pay for a vacation for you guys sure depends yeah maybe it's his birthday and I want to take him out yeah maybe yeah yeah I'm not like that's not a yeah okay would you pay for his PlayStation Plus subscription no yes well yeah you're a gamer you know oh good point good point keep him in that for his subscription how much is it like one what is it 100 bucks yeah it's kind of expensive yeah it's like it's like 129 a year sometimes oh it's a year so it's like one time gift that's kind of okay per year that's kind that's kind of okay killing yeah I
1:43 wouldn't do a monthly installment of anything but like one time little gift like oh okay yeah would you pay for dinner yeah yes what if he had a friend with him would you pay for his friend's dinner the ████ no yeah I should he should expect to like they should they should work that out amongst themselves yeah I mean it depends friend is yeah if we're all paying for each other our own stuff you know but like I'm not going to pay for your if the unless it's like one other friend though if the friend is my friend then maybe yeah the friend is is not someone you've ever met until if it's a random dude then hell no he's not a random guy but it's it's a friend you've you just met like no oh this is your friend maybe if we had like a great dinner like if it was like this is so awesome like I got it you know what I mean but like unlike that does happen with guys where like
2:33 your your girl has a friend there and then you just pay for both of them yeah I mean that yeah what happened no for me at that point you know she's already the wife and then I don't mind taking care of the whole thing if I had to if I could you know mean at that time I wouldn't mind taking care of the friends and stuff like that I but like just one friend like you bring another friend I'm like hey bro it depends on like too like the context of like the relationship of like are we all like freelance artist cuz I think at that point like you kind of it's like a mutual understanding at that point versus like if someone was like a professional right and then they it's just a different lifestyle so I would I think amongst like like I said like the free freelance like dancer actor pursuing stuff it's like we kind of all have like a SE check SE check SE Che I feel like that's like kind of like
3:23 a natural go to but like maybe if my world was different and like I was with like professional people I could see that like happening more often yeah like CEOs and ████ yeah like people with like they know they're getting a paycheck next time for sure but like ours is like this week good next week no good maybe we don't eat yeah we'll find out well sometimes my wife would like just talk you know throughout the time she would just talk to me about her friend's story her friend's Financial system and and then and when we end up eating together and I remember the story from what the wife told me about her specifically and I would just be like oh don't even worry about we just pay for for everything I mean that's what I want it's like circumstantial yeah just like oh I remember your story so I was like don't even got to say nothing I'll just take we'll take care of it that's what I like to do what's the story that sounds dramatic broke ass ████ man ████
4:13 struggling artist DM D what's your story okay um how about parking tickets no no what the f no what if he's like babe I need you to pay this or else I'm going to get my it's going to go up the the fin is going to go up I just can't pay ATT they like a oh you know what I do I would pick him up in my car like let's go babe get some money and then I would put him at a at like a work station that you could sign up for work and then let him sign up that's what I would do take it to a staffing center do today bro the check won't come in until next week help me out bro oh that's his way he paid you back yeah a parking ticket I mean that's your fault I mean if he could pay me back like right away you know what I mean if it's like you need it right now like quick little I need it now money
5:04 thing you know maybe but also like if you're in a situation where I need it now and I don't have it now you're not going to see that money for a substantial period of time that's true too so they might not I mean $60 $70 you need it down that you're never if you're that down bad then like right there's other areas of a problematic that I foresee that's not just Financial I see that those things you just depend who you ask at that moment if you can't ask your man you got to ask somebody else ask another person like total really like just outside it depends how how bad are you like you you took her out that night she doesn't know you spent all your ████ money on that dinner for her friend right and her friend and ████ dude I don't even want to say I'm broke because of the dinner
5:54 so you ask your buddy up like yo yo G not for like a parking ticket but like I have like my friend he was like talking to this girl and he there was a cover charge in the club and it was like $30 and it's not a lot but it's a lot it was like 30 and then he was with this that's big bro so is a lot right but then okay so then he was with this girl and he was just barely talking to her and then I knew I kind of like know the situation that he's a little like down bad with money and then he's like I could just see him like standing there like are we going to go in I was like oh I L was like I got you and then he was like for real and I was like and I pay for him and his girl and myself damn $90 he definitely paid me back for sure but like you know he paid me back within like a week but like for you know he was just barely talking to this girl and I was like you know and they were together
6:44 for a long time they were for like two years so oh such if I'm in the position to do it I'll do it yeah like it'll come back yeah that's like my friend that not like yeah exact it's not like a random person that you don't know but even then it's just like I wouldn't be covering a random person coverage charge for the club or something oh hell no I think when I was uh yeah when I was 20 I I went like on a date with this girl was trying to she ended up being my girlfriend later but then uh one of our first dates she was like how cute would it be if we took the train uh to like I'm like I think we're going to go to Hollywood or downtown or something and I was like oh she wants to take the train that's dope that means we're probably not going to spend that much money cuz I had no money at this time I think I think total I had like 100 something bucks total like that all my money and so like I was like we're not going to spend that much she wants to take the
7:34 train that is so cheap and so we took the train and we took it and went to the sushi restaurant she's like let's go to this like I heard the sushi restaurant's really famous or something I was like God damn famous equals price yeah and it was like it was this place called matsua in like Hollywood and I'd never even been to a place that nice ever and uh I I ended up paying for our meal and it was like it was over $100 and I I had that well up feeling where you want to cry I was like what the ████ why do I want to cry right now when I saw the bill I was like God damn I never want a guy to spend money that he doesn't have on a dinner a lot of people do though a lot of men do it's cuz it's that mentality I get it but like I just don't want to want to be in that position for for him and like and I would I never
8:24 told her I never told her that that's what like she has no idea but it's that long game of like all suffer now and then later when I have money like it'll be stable and she'll never know I was almost homeless here yeah I don't really think like yeah it's like the same thing it's like it's not like oh he spent all this money on me it's like I don't know I can still have a good time without you spending money yeah like I don't care we can just like and then I had the opposite the opposite effect happened to me later when I was like I think this like 20 I want to say 2012 and uh another girl that I was trying to date and we end up ended up uh being together for a while I I really wanted to impress her and I for some reason I got I think every guy goes through this point where like you start having money so then you start to want to see what it's like to have the image of a person with money and so uh she was
9:15 like oh I want to see you when your show comes to uh back to LA and I was like oh yeah I got you and then um it was going to be in San Diego she's like can I go to your San Diego show I was like yeah and then um she had two friends with her and then uh the show that like I guess we were staying at the W Hotel and she was like I want to stay with you and I was like okay cool and she's like what about what my friends should they just get like another spot and I was like I'll get them both rooms don't even worry about it like I wanted to be that guy which is ████ dumb damn the cost of booking a hotel at the W the night of two separate rooms for two friends of hers that I didn't even know bro that's a dumb idea just to feel like like you had that juice you know what I mean and it really didn't I I thought it would be like really cool and awesome but it was nothing it was
10:06 there's no feeling it was just well I'm down a lot of money for no reason you just got G yeah and it's like that's hard earned money like even though I had it it was still like the what it took to earn it was like more to just blow it like that you know and uh yeah and then she never I think like what I I ended up it end up backfiring pretty bad because everything that I did with her in the beginning was really like flexed like that I'm like oh you want to go to like a resort yeah you want to do this yeah and then I remember that came back at me later in the relationship when we started we had like one of our first fights or something and she was like you know what we need we just need like a weekend away why don't we go to this one place that we went to before and I was like yeah why don't we go there that's ████ expensive bro like just to not fight I'll not fight right now yeah yeah that's crazy like and then I
10:57 had to have a talk with her I'm like yo like to be honest like that I don't normally do ████ like that like that's not at all like it's not your style it's not my normal thing I just thought that I wanted to live that image for a bit and it it screwed me that's not me you know so we had to like cut back on stuff like that finally which was after like I think 6 months being together it a weird transition yeah that's a long time to be balling out constantly yeah and I and then like I really thought that that was there was a value in it there's not unless unless that's your life but bro that ████ I would love to have that money back bro yeah I don't think it's smart no it's not smart is there any more like on what the girls would say no that's I just made all these up oh really parking tickets vacation cars bills I was just listing ████ so if you have any yeah
11:49 it's crazy too cuz like even like food is like $20 for like a meal I'm like this is like if you're making $20 an hour roughly right minimum wage like approximately around there it's like just eating is like that's an hour of my life just to eat this I'm going to be hungry later like man yeah that's why you can't be you know what I mean yeah but D $20 for a meal go ████ take that ████ to McDonald's bro that ████ $20 meal right there for real McDonald's is $20 it don't go that far McDonald's no more I was paying premium gym membership for my ex and she wasn't even using it oh no why premium gym membership I don't know I was I don't know I just I was just she she said she wanted like cuz she wanted like the fancy ████ like the body scan and whatever and then dude she was she wasn't even using it and then when we broke up I asked her to cancel her membership because it was under her name and she wouldn't she wouldn't ████ do it so I would kep owing money forever so
12:41 you just cancel your card that's that's exactly what I you had to do that you had to go that far to oh my God bro that's straight up ceiling yeah it is especially if you already told her dude you should have kept it going over like 10,000 and then just ████ sue her can you sue over that I don't know I'll just just saying ████ I just saying ████ damn cuz you said does anyone owe you money like ex's you already know the answer I know but I thought you just mentioned it a while ago no yeah cuz I know that's ex owes you money a lot he broke my car that's why he broke your car he literally broke my car what car you have I don't know if you know the brand Fiat Punto F girl a Fiat that ████ will break by itself you sure you're mad you sure your man broke
13:32 it just saying that's his argument probably fat dog that means you just Fe the best feet you have ever seen in your life it looks like a cat that has his face like this oh that's nice yeah ni cuz a lot of I think it's pretty common though that a lot of girls got like exes that owe the money yeah but I technically already paid for like everything and he would always say yeah let's go there that's fun yeah let's go there we never went there and I always took him took him to stuff because I wanted to eat somewhere because I was hungry and then I ended up paying because he didn't have money so yeah it's kind of like that but I don't even care about where I took him to it's about he broke something that belongs to me and it didn't pay me back yeah that sucks you know that's so annoying yeah
14:23 is it cuz you guys ended it in a bad note maybe what if you guys ended it in such a sweet note no sweet not pay me back sweet note no he he always said even to my mom he texted my mom like after he broke up he's like oh I'm going to I'm going to give her all her money back blah blah blah and he ended never did oh okay with the axe it was it was toxic like that it's kind of weird fat texting your mom texting even even bring my mom into it your mom we didn't talk that's that kind of crazy oh wow yeah yeah yeah I knew the answer to that so most of my answers to this questions are no I wouldn't pay anything because because of that lesson okay I feel like I wouldn't want to pay for I don't mind paying for stuff but it's more like i' really just it as long as we're like
15:15 getting to know each other for real you know what I mean like it's more like that like why are we going to pay to go do this expensive thing when I don't even know you like that relation not be a place where you can talk yeah like if he can't tell me that he can't afford that then we probably you know what I mean like that's a good point that's a good point yeah if you're not even at the level to say yeah there's already a barrier there like and I I I think most reasonable people are not like he needs tell like wh and Dy me and whatever I think most people are like they if they're looking for a relationship they want like a connection you know or like it's that's why that's why they get with broke guys in the first place cuz they like the connection and then later it kind of like starts to stack up and like add that's if he gets too comfortable yes yeah right he has to be willing to be you know that was the mistake I made is that she the girl I was dating wasn't even fancy like that either she just thought I like that like oh he's like
16:05 that so that's his world I'm like no I I was trying to present that to you so crazy so stupid yeah peacocking gone wrong like crazy what okay let's say that you're on um second date with a guy right you guys are driving along in his car all four of his tires bust and he's like you don't way I can get some tires I'm like Dad yeah Dad did you hook him up up or would you be like oh you got AA or what do you yeah I think I would have to Triple A that yeah there's no way too close of a hook family hookup is for boyfriends and husbands yeah like you can't meet my that's not my dad's meeting you like this like he would be like you didn't know to check your tires before you couldn't see that they were bald like yo but what how funny though if you didn't help him and he like goes and buys four tires rolls them to the car all this ████ you guys end up together and a year later he finds out
16:55 he's like your dad had a tire shop like man I was testing you baby if you love me for me that's a pretty funny ass scenario it's like my secret Princess or something yeah secret Princess I couldn't tell you I needed to know our love was pure cuz isn't that interesting when you have a hookup in some way that that would help a person but you're not close enough to offer it either yeah cuz like you want help but then also it's like ah you know you don't want to like have that relationship or now this person is like leveraging you right away yeah cuz it doesn't cost you money but it's like a weird it's too close intimate me you know what I mean it's kind of like it's like oh we're not there yet you know what I mean like you can't skip steps also you're like technically vouching for this person that you don't know to your dad if that was a situation so I can't vouge for people I don't know completely that's true that part too is weird how about
17:45 the homies the the homies the homies the homies on the day hom yeah yeah yeah the homies no you got a 275 9515 Mich Continentals uh I need 34 tires toyot TI and he pictures a SPID them out of my desk by Monday yeah hookups are are pretty it's almost the same to me as like money it's like or it's even worse I think cuz that's letting him into your Social Circle too to be like oh you can trust this guy yeah I think that is like it's like the hardest thing is like recommending friends for anything cuz you're like no trust me and then you're like don't screw me like there's been definitely times for like I've needed like a sub or something for like a class I'm teaching and I I can't make it or whatever and like you put your friend on and then like man that's back on whole other topic let's talk about that like next
18:36 yeah that's a big one too but yeah it is that like feeling of uh like he might go back to that hookup without you yeah yeah you know he might go visit your shop with his friend to your dad and be like hey yeah my he'll be like oh didn't you give it to me at this price can't you hook up my homie and then it gets messy yeah that's weird it's interesting like how long it takes for people to show who they are you know like you think like a but would you pay for uh a medical procedure for your procedure like he was hurt okay yeah hurt he was hurt hurt how like he um make up something uh broken bone broken bone yeah broke his arm broke his arm I mean don't you just go and get it casted I think what what are you paying for what is this guy unemployed how does America work BS BS I think I would be
19:29 open to helping but I don't know if I would like sugar mama and like that's crazy what if it's cosmetic and he's like I don't like my lip I think it's open on the top your journey and he you got the C you got the cleff lip the CLE lip that's actually really medical I think right like don't they like take care of that isn't it it's like a luxury to not have a c he thinks he has a CLE lip but his lips are fine how about that we're actually paying for your col he has he has a clef dysmorphia horrible yeah I think like that he that's on him then that's personal would you pay for a a a therapist if he's like I would split it I would help him I would definitely help him cuz I think like that's already like a like a very V vulnerable thing for guys in general that like it's like man
20:19 I'm paying 250 or whatever and like it's already it's like kind of like I would be down to like help e what if he found out that he was margining the payment so the therapist only charging him and he charged you three this guy is literally an evil mastermind guy is horrible we're through this guy and I are done that's why he's going to therapy cuz he has a problem he a grifter that's what I wanted to say if he had therapy it would like be red flag breakup yeah but you're sending him to therapy maybe red flag by breaking up yeah yeah you're like I'm going to give you this money for therapy but that's a red flag but you need to go you need to go okay would you how about this would you pay for uh if he had a family emergency and the money needed to go to his like Mom
21:11 like you and we're like locked in we're we like we're we we are like we're like basically like going to get married like um we're just two years in two years in how about that two years in yeah a lot of things I would help I would help if it's for the family or for the mom for sure like if I it was within my means yeah yeah that's that's my guy like I got to help what's the most money that you guys have spent for somebody else at one time oop at one time or or like in total if it's a cumulative thing total yeah can I include resources as if you were to pay for them yes yeah you can price your your services if you need to but yeah it's like where where it's not for you at all and you're just you're spotting them definitely more than th a few thousand damn jeez I I don't think I
22:03 have I don't maybe you're not at that point yet I think like more maybe like gifts or something like but not like where I'm like covering somebody Mone something no no no I I'm I have pretty good like Yeah Christmas gifts yeah yeah I think gifts like not don't cuz that's like that's on that's you doing it I've never thankfully none of my friends have put me in that position or guys have put me in that position when they're like I need this you know or maybe they just know that I don't have the money and they would not ask I would not be the person to ask that's also good reason to I was paid back yeah I covered oh that's nice yeah I covered a weekend trip knowing that he was going to pay me back yeah I I I no no no my ████ that I did something like that too my homie was out with the with his
22:53 kid and his wife and then he was just short that whole week in Florida and then uh I just knew he's a good guy but I knew he he told me his check's coming in but you know when he get sent in from sag after you just never know when it yeah sure so he assumed it was going to come in that week but he had no idea good luck yeah so I was like oh I know how you feel but at least the money's coming in so I just I just gave him a couple like you know 600 bucks and I told him like hopefully that gives you enough for food gas and come back to LA so yeah he paid back after all I've been in the position where I've like offered but it it hasn't been taken like there was this job I was on and like it was this flight to New York York and somebody had to drop out cuz he he was like oh I can't like afford to be there dayto day but it's like well they're taking care of everything you know but he's like I still can't afford to be there dayto day so I was like dude I'll send you money right now and he wouldn't take it so like I think like a lot of the people I'm around right it's like we
23:44 don't want any no smoke you know it's kind of like you know like pretty solid so yeah it's hard because there are so many dancers that are like Master freeloaders yeah that ████ will go Circle to Circle till everybody like had it yeah where at though but I think also maybe if I had more money maybe it' be different you know what I mean like I I think I'm just like in a I'm in my own little like isolated thing where I'm like don't ask me I'm not even going to I mean even if you if you were stacked you should still maintain that same Vibe for your own protection that's a good strategy yeah good habit
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