0:00 like the way my mind works I need it to be the same thing so if you go B floors on Monday that's easier for me versus Monday you got floors next week Thursday you have counters and then too very much it was too crazy too much I like that you were talking about yeah he had a schedule is dope I like that I never did the [Music] CH welcome back to a highly useful episode of careful boys where we help you live your life have you ever had a situation where you were dating somebody or you had an ex-girlfriend or anything and their friends did not like you wife yep my current one what do you mean I don't know what happened but uh
0:50 when me and Gio first got together she was living in a house with a bunch of like newly graduated single independent ladies so think like everyone in their like mid 20s this person's a chemist this person's a chef like they're all just graduated college so they're like 2 three years into their like single lady Independence pH uhhuh and then uh the main person that owned the house her fiance lived there so uh I think they inherited the house from the parents so they're just renting out all the rooms to make income but it was cool cuz it felt like a very like Friends the TV show Vibe you know everyone's independent whatever me and Gio started dating so I started sleeping over and then and I ended up moving in and then when I moved in I don't know what happened but it was a string of like the ████ worst luck ever I broke their
1:43 washer great yeah and then like I I my ADD was way worse before so they had like a communal schedule that this guy like cuz a the the dude he was an accountant so he's very very organized like he would go like I'll do the Costco run and then I'll divide up all the whatever and I'll send it to you guys you guys just like Veno me or whatever so I really appreciated that so when it comes to taking care of the house he did the same thing Monday uh Debbie does the the the floors Bart does the kitchen counter whatever and he made like a whole schedule that's rotating every time it hit my my ████ I never did it and they would come back like oh how come the floor is so ████ up it's like I don't know why it's a string of bad luck and then also he's like the s█████ roommate that didn't clean yeah yeah I was s█████ roommate and then uh well of course I'm not going to like you and
2:33 then the one time I did the laundry like one of like broke it J's ████ underwear came out of the spin cycle in the dryer and got caught on the motor and so the whole dryer started smoking the one time I touched the AC the ████ AC overheated that's that's like a comedy show dude and it was crazy cuz like I think they end up having like a um what are those things called Intervention intervention with like like yo you know this dude you're your boyfriend's ████ obnoxious I don't know man like everything's ████ exploding he touches something and it just ████ explodes and he does be breaking ████ though did you pay to fix everything yeah yeah yeah oh that's nice that's super nice after the intervention where they forced him and invoiced him yeah that excuse me but what was cool was uh I think J was like hey I think we need
3:24 to move out of here so it was cool that she stuck by me cuz we were we were still new and it could have just been hey I really like my room you might just need to just not come by anymore but she was like I think we need to get out of here she really loves you dude yeah yeah I was okay fine let's let's let's move so she always had my back even though I broke everything wait why what were the reasons why you weren't doing the chores I think it was like like the way my mind works I need it to be the same thing so if you go Bart floors on Monday that's easier for me versus Monday you got floors next week Thursday you have counters and then two crazy I need to be like yo Monday what is it is it ████ leg day okay I hit legs every Monday but if it's like yo shoulders on Monday and then biceps on the next Monday you're like what the ████ that's not a ████ split I can follow dude except if it's Fitness you
4:15 can for sure follow it I like that you were talking about yeah he had a schedule is dope I like that I never did the CH it was hard to understand I don't know why they don't like me it's like you never clean so funny I was not expecting that yeah that's hilarious cuz he he did everything right like if I look back at it like and like he did what you would probably like he did a ████ spreadsheet and I'm like dude how clear is this like you can tell don't schedule something 3 Mondays from now because you're in charge of cleaning the kitchen you know so it's like you can see what's coming but then my dumb ass was probably I got this yeah and then I'm just I'll do it and I just go living my life and I come back and everyone's like in the couch like oh and I'm like what's going on guys my so in the end you never won them over
5:06 you just moved out I just moved out so so they probably their impression of you probably still that you're just like an ass yeah yeah I breaks everything and me and Joe would also have Jam sessions too so probably during the day when everyone's out at work me and Joe I'm playing drum he's ████ playing the guitar and probably when they come home the neighbor's like hey you guys are having like a rock show during the day and they're probably like what do you mean a rock show rock what are you talking about where all that work who the ████ yeah who who would it be who's at home having a ████ rock show I remember the neighbor this old man goes today is not a holiday and we're like I know it's like Wednesday they're like no it's not the holiday cuz
5:56 I think we're jamming out at like 3:00 p.m. and then the next door neighbor's window he just opens his old man hey today is not a holiday and then me and Joel's like I know it's not and just Clos it's a it's a work day it's it probably his nap time or something take an afternoon nap I was like wait does he does he mean that we can come back on like Martin Luther King day and we can like jam out yeah which one which day can you do Labor Day maybe he's like today is not a holiday I celebrate a Martin Luther King what is it that you were saying that like every time you're dating someone their friends don't like you are you used to this it's like like I'm thinking about my exes but they we were in our teens okay most of we're in my in our teens and everyone's just partying like
6:46 people were cheating on each other and there's just like your friends weren't really your friends at that point and I've always been like this even when I was a teen like I'll say whatever it is if I don't like you I don't ████ like you yeah I didn't care if my boyfriend then has like part of a group there's a girl and I don't like her I'll be looking at her at the party like like I don't give a ████ so then there's always drama oh okay you're always stiring there's always not me there just always ████ um but like for the other guys that I've been kind of dating or seeing the last couple of years it's never really made it to the point where then I see their friends oh really yeah dang that's very early I haven't yeah like I haven't really got to the point where I've been like meeting their friends or anything but it happens more the other way around so my friends won't like a lot of the guys and I'm starting to trust that now
7:36 because they usually see something that I don't see cuz like I'm so in love or whatever and I'm only seeing what I want to see like a tunnel vision and then your friends are watching out for you I see like back then I'll be like no no no I'll give them excuses but now when my best friend if my best friend meets them was like oh like it was pretty nice so just be careful go slow like okay yeah what about the other way like their friends telling them don't like you get to that point I see it's usually me inviting him over for like a dinner or something or we go out with like with my girlfriends first I feel like and it never gets to the point where it goes to him but then my best friends were like well that's red flag he hasn't want to introduce you to his friends yet well yeah I can't they think a certain point where I'm like this is going ████ nowhere and we always ended by then it's always that 3 month Mark when you're
8:26 like the secret thing that he does that's not a good sign it's always 3 months always ████ 3 months this is trial girls girls tend to tell each other straight up like where guys would be like man she's a ████ ████ but we have to ████ be a homie and like oh that's true and then guys would just like yeah ah he's with her again but like you know he's the homie let's just deal with it let's just ████ deal with it and then like later on they're just like well I guess they're ████ getting married all right whatever it's true yeah you do yeah you just go with it but like it's unless it's like severe like I caught that ████ ████ cheating I think guys would put up with a lot cuz it's like ████ I don't want you to bring her around but you love her so like we're down let's do it or unless the guy like for real like hey man what do you honestly think about her you know
9:16 what I mean they open it up like that if they're the ones that are trying to get your advice you're ████ and you just hope they have good nights yeah that's true like I've been with guys where they don't even like really have a friend like a real bro that's a red flag for me now straight off the bat if they just like I hang around on my own all the time um I'm like is it because you can't keep a friend you are you a liar are you a I don't know what there's always just something that's at Le age as well at least over 30 years old if you're 30 to 40 and you don't have a bro at least that's not actually like your brother like an actual friend I don't know I found that weird that is that's weird and it's dangerous cuz like even when I was dating girls that didn't have like a group of girls as as a social life it's it's dangerous because you end up taking on more of the burdens yeah like rather
10:07 than just enjoying a facet of a person now you're also the friend you're also they're going to be cuz you don't want to talk about horoscopes with their I don't want to talk about everything be with them 24/7 if you're not like where are you what are you doing why aren't you with me or whatever like sh yeah I a trying to talk about Crystal and horoscope yeah n not yeah what up guys thank you for watching us for so long if you like what we do please please support our patreon Joe tell them what we have to offer so every week you get two videos one never relased director's cut and another one too hot for YouTube patreon only every freaking week you get that and you get access to our Discord where you can come chat with us and ask us questions that become episodes here cuz we're going to answer them and we're going to take it seriously and we want to give you the responses that you want so come stay connected with us join our
10:57 patreon click the description below for full details so everybody you dated their friends always liked you no um I don't think so but most i' I yeah I think I've always um dated girls where their family was cool like in in general like there's been times where I like their family more than the girl yeah especially when you're breaking up that's the hard part too I know I'm sorry but I do think one of my exes like I do think that you know how when people vent right they're like giving all this information out to their group of friends and then they think you're just all negative CU they're just saying negative things and then there's no like followup to say hey we made up this way this way right so like over the over time I felt like their her friend group
11:47 was so nice and then later like they would give me these looks and then like I would just be like joking around engaging in conversation and I just felt this energy of like they don't like me as much anymore and I didn't say anything and I didn't change but I think that there's that thing going on where they're like telling each other and then later she'll be like you know my friend said they should they said that you should we shouldn't be together this and that and I'm like that's because you're probably feeding them the information that they're responding to so like just painting a picture of you to them exactly so it's like well what about all the other things that aren't negative if you're just always complaining to your girlfriends they're going to say of course leave them yeah because they're not saying you're not talking about any of the good things that are happening so it's like how would they see me in any other light than the than than what
12:37 you're saying so I think from that kind of experience I was like man I don't know if I want to be with a person that shares all of our negative stuff you can't and then yeah that's true I've only learned that recently too um like not telling all your problems to your friends cuz your friends will always have your back like of course yeah yeah yeah um and then they feed you certain scenarios and then it gets in your ████ head and then it's a whole another world down like to deal with yeah while the guys just sitting there like you even know what the ████ happened it's always the girls and I know that too like I have like one best friend jasine um yeah like I'll tell her cuz she's so level minded she sided with the guys before too and I'm like what the ████ but it's true like that's I'll only tell her I won't tell anyone else like I literally keep most ████ now like
13:27 just private except I really need her then I'll ask her then she's very very logical I feel like good friends are objective with like advice right but yeah and she'll tell me like straight up like this is your fault I was like ████ yeah I remember a really strange effect that happened to me from this particular type of thing and I I only think I experienced this once but there was just like one point where I think this was like 2009 and I was at like a a meet and greet at a dance event and then this one girl I just like caught eyes with her I thought she was really cool she was this this really pretty Mexican girl and then uh I thought I wanted to date her I thought that might be a cool idea I started inviting her to little things and we would go out and stuff or I would do like dance events and invite her so she would just be there and then um and then I noticed her friends had that look
14:19 of like like oh like warning her like that I was like basically that I was like a ████ boy which I hadn't this is still like pre that term but like I could feel the energy of like didn't want to count me as a real person like they're like oh it's it's just temporary like he's going to just do this with some other girl he jumping around I just I could just I knew they were doing that and the funny thing is that that made me do that is that weird it made me angry Double Jeopardy yeah it made me upset that I wasn't being accepted as a real possibility that I could possibly like really date her I'm out that I was like okay fine then ████ it I'm not going to so then like it made me sort of like disqualify her as a possibility too so we would I would invite her to things but then I changed it to being as a friend and then she would get like really like hurt and upset about it and
15:09 then it got to the point where eventually like this one night some other girl I was making out with a different girl on a night that I invited her outy and and then she saw it her friend saw it and I felt like yeah that's what you get isn't that weird oh ████ because I was so mad so you're making out with it but you're looking up that's what you get like it just kind of happened I just like ran into like a a friend that was like really crazy and then it happened and then she saw and it was at the club and ████ and everyone was were like crying in the par think it showed you to like what type of people she's surrounding herself with but it's funny that it made me be have an animosity of like it's funny because you proved them right yeah you proved them wrong in which is funny that I was like oh but cuz I was mad that I was really trying and they were just like oh it's not he's not for real then I was like okay if that's how you feel like this is going to go you know when accuse you of
16:00 cheating and you haven't cheated you're just like oh well then ████ it why are we even doing this it was that and it never it it was always at a very early point we never got serious at all but then uh I don't think it could have gotten serious because our friends are too stupid too yeah cuz even if you got over that hump with that kind of insecurity and judgment yeah later on it's just every single thing is going to be going to be working uphill even at that point when that when that happened like her best friend or whatever went up to me and was like ████ and like walked away and I was like yeah that's you called me that before I did anything like that's not I don't know what you want to make out too come here baby it's crazy like I didn't and plus like I didn't know that at the time that I had met her and this kind of brings more like context to the situation I didn't know that she was with the same dude for like most of her life they broke up in that window she met me and her friends were not a fan of
16:50 her not being with that guy and then as soon as I showed that I was an ████ and then we we stopped seeing each other she got back with that dude and they're married with kids today oh ████ so it's like I I get it it's like they probably had something very healthy and then me coming in the middle of it they they just didn't like it yeah I mean could have gone around I ████ the EOS system yeah but I never felt that before where I wanted to like ████ up because I was so mad about that I remember getting turned off by girls because I met their friends or the type of advice they listen to from their friend or whatever and I'm like you're that ████ dumb Y and I'm like oh ████ yeah I got to get away from you and your whole group you know yeah yeah I think when you're young too like you take the stupidest ████ advice from people cuz you just think they know from guys and girls right like
17:40 guys would tell you some stupid ████ like yeah man like oh you got her number you got to wait at least 3 days you can't just call her right away and there's some guys that would tell you that a girl's not worth it and she's whack and then they'll hit her up on yeah cuz they're manipulating the situation so they can take the girl genius that's a total thing yeah look how triggered I don't like that dude ████ happens all the time even now and like even the guys I go dates with and they're like almost 40 like between 30 to 40 years old it's the same ████ yeah and the guy will tell me like oh um I can't see you the boys want to go out I'm like really like you guys went out last weekend like we already planned something oh you know I can't say no is he's on a date yeah okay whatever I'm out is he really with the boys or is he on a date who knows that's
18:30 what mean who knows I can't you know I can't send no to the boys and then it'll be like 8:00 a.m. he's like oh I'm still up I'm like okay bye I just I want to talk to you let's just be your life together my yeah got stop dating powerlifters I think he wasn't he's skinny oh ████ he has no ex stop dating Ice Climbers then I don't know what this I just imagine I've tried everything ████ boy rock climbers you know same ████ what about you perfect Anthony Lee have you any no problem any group of friends ever not like you or were they always or did all your girlfriends friends they all had a crush on you too yeah yeah and then Cosmo the mom the mom's just like moms do love me but um of course they do I've definitely been I've definitely been cussed out once by like my ex's friends that sounds like a Korean that sounds like UCI ████ it was Korean I knew it dude he Nails it every
19:22 time I've had enough Korean girlfriends to know how the ████ when I was in high school it's like one of my first girlfriends ever uh like like met her at summer camp ████ amazing right we dat for like a month and then she's like oh I can only see you as a friend I'm like a whatever makes you happy I'm like a s right yeah and then a year later we're like Staffing summer camp and then like the feelings catch again we started dating again two months says the same ████ to me right I can only see you as a friend breaks my heart so young it's my first time I ever felt like depression or whatever we should have pushed her down a hill later on like first year of college like the very very beginning of it for some reason she like she she used to I went to U but she used to live in Iran like grew up so we somehow reconnected and then I don't know if she for a lack of options or just suddenly started liking me again this is
20:13 like 2 years later just friends no she like comes over and she like wants to hang out with me and connect and there's I don't know if like it's chemistry cuz I always wanteded there to be chemistry or if it wasn't chemistry but it was like I don't ████ know but like we were very like you know chummy um but by the end of it like there was handh holding movie watching like like whatever but by the end of it like I didn't really feel anything so it was like all right cool like we're good and then so next thing you know I get a call and get cussed out by her best friend who's saying that like like if you weren't going to want to be with her why'd you lead her on hold her hand and do all this stuff and I was like and again I'll take you should have been like you know she did that to me twice throughout my life and I'll I'll take the blame for it cuz maybe maybe there was some sort of weird like learning curve for me to just be like like hey um
21:04 I want to see how this feels even though I'm not committed to it you know what I mean so may maybe it was very assholish I really don't know but I just remember getting cussed out being like what the ████ like yo like can ask you a stupid ass question you're a bad guy dude obviously was she a Pisces shut the ████ up she might have been a Virgo I think she been I think she was a Pisces sounds more like a Scorpio thing sound like she cried to her friend of course like straight up cry to broke my heart probably what a Gemini thing to do but I did learn from it you know what I mean what did you learn exact Hearts I just feel like GH as as weird as it is it's like there there's that intimacy that I won't Edge towards that intimacy for a while I I can like more easily get like physical in like a lustful way than
21:55 like an intimacy like maybe there's a chemistry and relationship way because like ████ with that realm you need to be ████ sure whereas the other that's actually a really good lesson yeah whatever you know yeah never had to deal with those two scenarios so I wouldn't really know thanks for giving me some advice you must be a Libra hey watch your ████ mouth dude
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