0:00 [Music] welcome back everybody to another amazing amazing episode of the careful boys all right it's very affectionate episode don't touch my can like that bro it's yours let them go what we talk about like he got here first I did get her first it's that thing fight for me come on you you stay in your seat you're in frame okay can't work hard to keep you in frame you ████ stay there I can't leave what we talk about today Joe suggested we talk about this oh I like this Joe go ahead and suggest we're going to talk about dating oh yeah what about dating specifically what goes on in the DMS and I am so curious who is hitting on who I think Anthony's hitting on me yeah he is I think you can stop making this about you right now specifically NPR recently
0:52 came out with this article showing the frequency of who be hitting up who in the DMS and who respond resp to who in the DMS but they categorize through ethnicity pull out the data pull the data bu if really just Joe or Anthony P the who likes let's talk about how the odds favor white men and Asian women on dating apps okay but the category is we got white we got the black we got the Asian and we got the Latino okay so wait before we give the data let's guess okay what's your yes as far as who gets the most attention on the male Spectrum yeah I would probably say you said white black Asian and Hispanic yep I would probably say white
1:42 first okay rank them it's not in uh is it in ranking for this is men this is men ranking so so so women talking to men correct okay so probably white white dudes get the most is that what you're saying black black dudes get the second spanic Asian is that pretty good mhm well it seems like women on this list the way that they have this graph the way you the way that it's done it's not like ranking okay but it's like the way that it's like what the ████ is that give me the math man I was right well it just it shows the highest likelihood so it's like if you're Asian if you're an Asian guy you're likely hitting on okay so if you're a black dude if you're a black dude you're likely hitting on this type of so are white guys primar
2:34 responses it's response so like let's say someone shoots the shot or they respond to you at like the frequency of responses so if a white guy hits up x amount of people in the DMS their Primary Response is from Asian women that's what it is they're show them the graph so they know I thought it was just very simple like who's who's trying to get with who make it simpler for us I got preference yeah let's just make it up let's make assumptions who would be hit up the most out of okay so out of the 2.4 million heterosexual interactions researchers review the finding right women get three times the interactions men do I think we all could have said yeah that's ████ I like all men seem to be more interested in people outside of their
3:25 race wow interesting that's cool um black men and women get the lowest response rates to their messages all women except black women are are most drawn to white men and men of all Races with one notable exception prefer Asian women who is the notable exception Asian men Asian men Asian men yeah probably cuz Asian cuz it's like they're going outside going outside yeah which is interesting I didn't know that's pretty most people are shooting their shots outside of their race that's cool hey guys we defeated racism good job good job everybody can't believe I just everybody's just trying to she watches her hands in this chart it's except for black women black women respond to black
4:17 men but black men don't respond to black women black men respond to Asian women in terms of the highest black men are not yeah they're not like hitting up black women as much so the Okay Cupid data I have no idea OK Cupid data said black women respond the most to their DMS white men get more replies from almost every group white women prefer white men Asian and Latina women prefer them even more exclusively I don't know what that means Asian and Latino women like white men more the most they respond to them more exclusively got it got got got it so then the graph looks like this flip it around and show them it's a big it's like a
5:07 web all right there it is there it is Boom screenshot that has been flipped and shown black women to black men Asian oh see I knew it as white to white all white B everybody want to B an Asian girl and every guy yeah wants to B A Asian girl all the girls want to talk to a white guy except for black women they want to talk to black men that's interesting are you guys surprised by any of any of these no I mean that's kind of what's already been going around it's funny because it's kind of confirming stereotypes it is yeah it is and it's it's funny too because nobody can see your mess these are all Anonymous results out of 2.4 million I think it's a good sample size if more
5:57 authentic preference it's more authentic you're not being judged by now let's make our clear assumptions on ha okay this is the oh but you know what's also interesting aside from this is that these are digital like interactions I wonder if the results are the same out in the world like who do you feel more comfortable approaching you know cuz you could just DM anybody but then you can't really walk up to just about anybody and like feel the same comfortability off the the theory of these are more authentic preferences then wouldn't you gauge that these people would want to meet up with them yeah but but I don't know if it's like the same in terms of if you were like in a bar do you have the uh does an Asian guy have the you know at least the courage to walk up to someone outside is
6:48 race just cold talk the same way that you could just digitally go hey what's up you know and there's no skin off your back it's always going to be a little bit more comfortable regardless but maybe that's the truest like what their really truly desired it's Anonymous and it's just easy accessibility wise it's a lot easier well it's definitely not Anonymous but it is easier oh yeah well as far as the static it depends on the country you're in too yeah that's true cuz if you're in America um most Asian like people in general they're not always doing the stuff that other ethn ethnicities are doing you know what do you mean what the ████ is that supposed to be like yeah we go to bars but most of my Asian friends don't go like as frequently as like other ethnicities do as at least from my friend group oh really so what ethnicity drinks I take offense of it what the ████ well I mean
7:38 in America just by like whatever I think everyone drinks but then by population like all the Asians are at the all activities are different you know what I mean so like meeting girls for Asian guys versus a white dude meeting girls it's like different just because of where we're at but if you go to a different country it's probably like flipped or something you know that's true cuz we have to take that into account the culture the whatever the whatever and yeah that's pretty much like probably why it's certain a certain way you know also I like to think though like pre- dating apps right it's like it's kind of the luck of the draw with life when you meet somebody you never know when you're going to like meet somebody in some way or they're going to like kind of grab your attention where it might be whereas you go on to a dating app and then suddenly you have like your pick of the litter you get to make preference choices that weren't available exactly that's true yeah it's
8:29 not something you can do I was looking through his hinge and I was like dude why are all these girls Asian and he goes oh there's like preferences and I looked at him and I was like what the ████ dud he's a Filipino man though well he can't have preferences nope cuz I got mad cuz I was like you're being racist yeah people get mad over everything these days yeah I was I don't think you can you can really win I was stewing over it for like a while the biggest I think the the interesting part about that statistic in dating is I knew for a fact that um so uh White husband black wife couple in interracial marriage is a pretty high stat there's like right now I think 390 no no no um that's wrong there
9:20 is son of a ████ black husband white wife is 390,000 couples um what is that like Rel in the relative that's the second biggest the first biggest would be uh asian wife white husband knew it so that's second biggest yeah wow it's big so then so then that's so then that stat it shows that black husband white wife isn't even in that you know what I mean like like according to that the higher probability is a black couple or um a a black wife white husband oh so like when you think of like a black dude and a white girl that's actually not as common as as you would assume no in that
10:11 stat so like but if if we're going based on assuming that current CPL will turn into marriages that one says dating apps yeah the dating app says that uh so the first point will be true right cuz then it's Asian uh girl responding to white guy so that would be a high probability which is the big relationship intercial marriage so that one translates yeah but the second one is actually black husband white wife black husband as far as marriages oh but the dating app doesn't ref the dating app doesn't reflect that interesting they just want to date Asian oh that is interesting but they don't want to the long-term result doesn't technically reflect the shortterm the short term little wewa y yeah wewa and then so yeah the the biggest would yeah and then so the Third I think might be
11:01 black white the black wife white husband okay that's the SEC that's the third one so I think yeah uh well there might be another they they don't have Hispanic in here so that might actually be a higher demographic of white Latino like marriages but all I see is white black and Asian and then other so that's why I don't know the other other might be Latino in there Burmese yeah but as as of this figure it shows that I think black and white couples are in total I think they're bigger than Asian white couples what about Asian male Latin female bam there's no Latin in here God damn but in here Asian M wait wait wait that actually works for the daating though cuz it's yeah Asian males are
11:52 hitting up the Latin females the most at me and they're responding to women the when it says men responding to women that means if girls are reaching out to Asian men their response is highest but that's actually statistically kind of right in our circle of friends kind of are they ASI man and Latin Brown woman there it is what if the response is stop talking to me yeah yeah yeah that changes the whole dynamic that doesn't stop me dude you know how many times Tiff said that to me good amount I keep talking I don't stop dude I mean we've touched upon this before too right like Asian women um finding white male counterparts I think there really is like a a weird ass Vibe with like when Asian dudes hear that like Asian girls attract so much white guys like they hate that yeah I get pissed I find it really ████ ████ mad why is why is
12:44 that mad I can't be emotional about explain why you're angry it's just all these white men taking our woman he went Latino yeah that's why he went Mexican you know how many Asian girls are out there right now pissed off that altino grabbed you and took you or they're mad I'm not a white male you know they like a I wish Nick was white that's the yeah why because they saw your name and they just miss they Mis rced me Asian girls with you never saw your photos Asian girls are a pretty high uh porn search too oh so it's like it's like both right they're like they're fetish fetishized and sexual but they also want to get married the most what's your porn
13:35 search uh majority definitely Chinese you're a ████ F ████ Chinese I never even seen a Chinese just Chinese just China One China that's my porn Source China the country just Donald Trump saying China China China China China to China just likes that she's like oh this is great you have this on YouTube she's like no I like that ad I like hot Granny's trying to ████ you in your area that is interesting I've always had phases like I never like one ethnic or race or whatever for Like Me growing up it was mainly black and Latino girls Latinas first Mexican girls mhm and then later on it was like maybe Junior High and on it was like more Asian and white and then back to high school was kind of like whoever was the hottest but not
14:26 really I feel like you're bragging and it's making me upset but when I moved to the sgv it was when I went to when I moved to sgv it was all Asian girls yeah yeah because I think it was like the cute like it depends on the population right cuz like when I grew options for sure yeah the hottest girls were black and Mexican cuz the population was the biggest yeah so then the Asian girls there weren't that many and then but when you move to the sgv it's nothing but Asians so wait did you guys marry your preference to give more data to those stats did I marry my preference I mean I Married an Asian girl okay but was that your like would you say that was your preference in your attractive skill I got to say Filipinos hold it down yeah they hold it down they throw it [Laughter]
15:17 back you didn't marry your preference no no I did yeah she's Filipino you know you know what's interesting to me though like is there a difference between a guy who says like I like Filipino girls and he's never been with one and a guy who had a great experience with one and now he likes that yeah that you know what I mean the first guy is weird I'm Kidd it's just like no true that might be it sounds like a porn category the second guy yeah cuz you have white guys that say that about Asian girls they've never had an Asian relationship also too it's like it might just be it's like they don't have access to them maybe they don't have like in their their neighborhood or I don't know man cuz we're visual right so like you you very attracted V like guys could ████ fall madly in lust and love and Confused of a just a look yeah so then you can have a preference yeah right it's like a
16:09 carnal feeling of like oo I like this I don't know why I like this they didn't get a chance to you know see him in person because a preference is just basically you're more drawn to these types of people than you are others but I think I think it's no secret and people love to deny this is not even a thing but it is true that Asian cultures instill certain values and behaviors in asan women that make them kind of likable to other races like it's not a bad thing that's true yeah that's true they do end up a little different than like you know they're more of like the traditional woman in that aspect right they're taught to be like that's like C culturally what's honorable so yeah it will happen it'll just happen that way and if it so happens that white dudes be liking that ████ cuz they're sick of something they've been dealing with and also if it's ever been a problem for why I like that type of woman I blame my father father yeah that's true the daddy
17:00 issues the daddy can't just be as simple as like that face shape I like a lot yeah you know like because they're going to go but not all of us have faces shaped like that but like you but you do but the thing the the misconception is that you think that it'll always be a good ending like I like Asian girls because they're sub submissive whatever okay let's say you do fine you get with an Asian girl and she's not exactly what you thought don't be mad don't be mad bro there is there's an exception to the rule yeah there's an exception yeah for sure cuz I've dated mostly only Asian girls and mixed as well and not like none of them were like the submissive whatever you think an Asian girl should be do that make you pissed huh that make you mad no I I dated I want a ████ refund I I like
17:51 them were they dating you because you're submissive huh no no I don't know I don't I don't even think about those aspects though but the reason why the dating never worked out just cuz we just don't like each other anymore for whatever reason it wasn't because like oh you're not submissive enough or whatever you know that's true you're not Asian enough that's that's why I see there I I see there is a difference in like cuz my preferences are based off my experiences and nobody can change that no matter how much they say I self-hate like it's just that's what I lived if I've never been with him and I'm talking all this ████ then yeah it's weird like what I don't understand is we all grow up in the states right so like you can't kind of control who you grow up around so if you're in a black neighborhood or whatever and then those are the access like those are the that's the dating pool like and then the
18:41 hottest girl that in school is so so and so or whatever and that's like who you want to date then that's your preference isn't it yeah yeah yeah it's it's your surroundings are very important cuz a lot of cuz the thing about the whole like white and Asian relationship stuff like a lot of them live close by together in the same neighborhoods so it only makes sense yeah yeah that they're dating each other it's like if you're the only Asian kid you got slim pickings and everyone's like telling you you should date your own kind and it's like but where are they if you if your family is the only Chinese restaurant in this hicc ass Town what they're all ugly there's white guys everywhere what if they're just all ugly we can't we can't get rid of the white guys they're everywhere especially in the states that's why they're probably the number one ████ top being in the US is different too because
19:31 like let's say you like Filipino girls right there's a night and day difference between a Carson hood ass Filipino chick and like a diamond not all created equal yeah you can't that's not even the same thing at all I just want the more submissive one to be like people are looking at it the wrong way because like you can have physical preferences right but what will probably give you a better probability of sticking together and relating and getting along is class so like class yeah cuz there's like let's say you're a ████ Rich ass balling Indonesian kid and then like there's this like Rich ass kid from Beverly Hills right you both grew up with Maids you both grew up with hella money you grew up doing shopping and luxury places you have a similar lifestyle and I noticed that like for me I started seeing way more connections and similarities from like like similar
20:25 up upbringing and backgrounds and family Styles and then like it's like if you meet their family and they're like oh it's it reminds me of my family relatability you're way more connected than race mhm true you got to have your whole value system match up too that's hard they got to be ████ hot yeah well I mean like there's times where you can have a preference and then you meet them and either their character their value system their worldview quality of life or how they're upbringing their family the class all those things are going to play a huge role in determining if they even make it to the stats of marriage mhm most of it is just the fact that they don't match up to my stereotype that I had in my head that's Nick Nick found his oh I'm a so sub in a Latina that's that's like a that's a big I ████ wish you was more extion to the rule the biggest
21:16 complaints have you ever heard this how like some Asian guys are like uh like cute Asian girls will go for a mediocre white guy no I haven't it means that like when like a the feel like Asians Asian girls that View getting a a white guy as a prize so now they're higher but it's not a ████ dope ass white gu just like a regular tech nerd dude but they look at it like they got a Tom Brady but it's like they they use that as like a bragging thing which I think obviously someone's doing that but I don't think all of them are doing yeah for sure that's very true that's very true but then I've heard Asian dudes be mad about that yeah you can't get mad at that bro they're mad about like oh like you all you did don't hate the play I hate that game bro but it is funny to just be pissed about that at all it is funny to just be pissed that other people are dating yeah that's weird it's just a
22:07 difficult kind of mindset to for me to get in just let me be mad dude that's why it does sound like some of these a like you said before some of these Asian guys felt entitled for those women like no those are my women you're tooking you're taking mine no we don't ████ have any women the girl like I even know you guys they are our women and you don't know why those girls like those guys anyway they could like them cuz they're just like sweet I I usually don't hear whatever whatever like I don't hear that ever from females so I think it's the way that way guys think guys that are they have no real experience they're not getting enough puss dude no that's not true I think a lot of black women say that um they aren't getting black men yeah oh that's right right right like I've heard of that stereotype complains about men not
22:59 seeking out their own race yeah then maybe it comes from like your like so in in this stat right we've heard the stat where like black women and Asian guys get the least amount of like swipes right that's a stat that's pretty common in a lot of dating apps so maybe it's a mentality of like having a hard time dating so then so then you're you're you're like creating different reasons as to why it's like a frustration yeah or everybody's just into middle-sized dicks that's not it that's definitely not or Asian guys and black girls need to get together because blazian babies are cute and if they're laser babies are dope laser people just look so ████ cool to
23:49 me anything else you want to add Anthony no I forgot to turn on the timer 6 minutes so this is a 23 minute video already
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