0:00 So I was like, "Can you maybe jump us off cuz like you're a homie and everyone knows you on the channel and stuff like that?" He's like, "Okay, but like why?" And like I'm trying to watch Drinking with Nikki and like Nikki Nikki keeps on being like, "Why are you sighing?" And I'm like, [Music] "Okay, so welcome back to Careful Boys. They Anthony Lee is getting so much unsolicited dad advice. >> Oh, nice. >> Yeah, it's actually kind of crazy. So, here comes the first little sliver. >> What the? >> Um, first of all, congrats. This is a type of love no one can experience.
0:50 It's like a new love has been unlocked. Please remember it's okay to sacrifice few things and time. Please remember it's okay to sacrifice few things. >> He edited that. He ████ up his own edit. I wanted to leave it in >> jobs. Maybe a change of a lifestyle, but it will be for the best. >> I feel like he wrote this out. >> Your sleep schedule ████ No more sleep. It's just seconds. Okay, from now on out it's going to be about three of y'all. Okay, it's very important. Do your best to remember that. Your toys, your clothes. Forget it. I don't care what you want to wear. Put on some ████ Get to work, baby. Your
1:40 haircut every two weeks. You look like that one week type of guy. Forget it. Put it aside. Diapers, toys for him, not you. milk. Get ready, bro. It's some serious ████ Your car, that fancy color and the rainbow color stuff. Get rid of it. It's time for a heating bath. Your cologne. >> Rainbow color. >> Why? Kids smelling that all the time is not going to be good. Gives him a headache. >> All right. >> His baby in the back crying. The baby's crying. >> ████ You hear that? He's awake. I got to go. >> Worth it.
2:30 >> Subie. Subie. Subie. >> That was ████ awesome. Credit to Subie. I hit Subie up last night at like 11 and I was like, "Hey, can you film something for Aunt cuz yeah, recent dad stuff." And yeah, he's the man. Thank you, Subie. >> Thank you. That was ████ awesome. >> Well done, dude. Dude, you know you're going to get unsolicited data advice from everybody, so it might as well start from Subie. >> That's a good That's a good jump off. Yeah. >> How do you feel? Do you feel more prepared now that Subie got got your back and he's guiding you through this process? >> Honestly, that was that was really good. I I I genuinely take everything that he actually said to heart. Your sleep schedule. Bang. Bang. Ah. Your car. Take that rainbow ████ off. >> Cologne. What? What are you doing? >> Forget about it. Give him a headache,
3:20 >> dude. That's all That's all good stuff. That's It really is. >> He's like hamburgers. You're not eating them anymore. >> What? The best, Subie. Thank you. Thank you, brother. Thank you. >> That's so good. >> Awesome. >> That's so good. >> All that's legit, though. >> Yeah, I know. I know. I I hear none of that sounds like a joke. It's just funny coming from him, but that sounds all real. You know what the real part that really hit me too is just like just like your your toys, your your clothes, your things. Forget about it. I'm >> like, "Oh s███." He's like, "Put on some stuff. Get to work." >> Yeah, man. >> Cuz you do try to like do like we'll try to dress nice, try to take a family portrait or whatever. And then Ty goes like ████ ████ I just throw just whatever you can know you don't expect happens. >> Yeah. Um,
4:10 >> I find I find joy in that a little bit, you know, just like the idea of like um not my choice conveniently, not needing to care about certain things as much and just kind of like really just being bare bones. >> Yeah. >> Um, one of my uh one of my big bro figures in Kinjas, his name's Lej, shout out. He's got two kids and and I was just like talking to him about, you know, the journey and stuff and then he's a really eloquent dude and he said something along the lines of like let this be the beginning of your mourning of your independent self. And I was like the mourning like m o r? >> Yeah. Like mourning like like your independent life is is going to die once this kid comes through. So like begin your your morning now. >> Begin that now. Wow. You know, and it's like
5:00 >> he likes his kids. >> He loves his kids. He loves it. But but he's he's just such a poetic guy if you know him. >> Yeah. That's deep though. >> He's giving you perspective. >> Yeah. And I think that that's like a beautiful thing like to cuz you either one you are down to just like be ignorant all the way up to it and just like run into like all the changes and just get like hit by a train. >> Or two, you you hear as much as you can. You try to take to heart as much advice from people who have been through that as you can and then you try to like just find your best journey towards it that eventuality and the idea that like everybody always you know the the honestly it's not cliche the the honest lesson that it's like once you have a kid it ain't about you at all anymore like your whole life is dedicated to a whole other entity you know marriage is already like a part of that but >> for sure >> a kid is I'm sure a whole other level
5:51 that I'll never understand until the kid gets here >> no matter It's your marriage times like a 100. >> That's what I'm saying. Like I I >> you'll kill your spouse for your kid. >> That That is >> If you find like let's say you find out your spouse has been diddling the kid, you're like your life is over like immediately. It's so that's how crazy it is. It's like >> great example >> you to your spouse marriage and then when you have a kid it's like >> it's crazy. >> Yeah. >> Cool. >> So cuz it happens you know people that was >> Yeah. And I think for a guy like me, I think, and he knows me, I think that's why he chose those words, too. The idea of morning your independent life. I've been such an independent person for so long, like to the point where I've had like my own brand and t-shirts with my name and logo and stuff, you know? Like that's how far down the the the
6:41 ego of my existence has actually gone. >> Yeah. Uh so the idea of needing to like mourn like and understand that that and the whole point of like you know uh mortality is so that we can enjoy it for what it is while we have it type stuff. I I think that hit really hard because I was like oh man uh my life is not about my life anymore. And so I better like start getting ready for that now and be excited for it too, you know. Um, which is why I've been enjoying myself indulging in certain things, trying to say yes to like having certain funds and stuff like that because once the no sleep thing happens, >> oh man, I'm no matter how mentally ready I am, I'm not ready. I'll never be ready for that. >> By the way, I love Suben. I love you so much. Um, I I had to text Subin like probably 14 times for him to understand that Anony's having a kid. >> Huh? >> Like, what do you mean? >> I was just like, "Hey, can you um So,
7:32 like, yeah, big news today." Obviously, I was like, "Big news today." I didn't really I didn't make it sound like he wasn't in the room. I was just like big dude today. Yeah. Like um we're trying to I'm trying to put together a video tomorrow like for Anthony. It's like unsolicited dad advice cuz he's probably going to get that up and out the ████ So I was like can you maybe jump us off cuz like you're a homie and everyone knows you on the channel and stuff like that. He's like okay but like why? And like I'm trying to watch shrinking with Nikki and like Nikki Nikki keeps on being like why are you sighing? And I'm like I >> I'm like hey I just I'm trying to Yeah. I'm trying to talk >> trying to find other words. >> Yeah. Other words to say like how this Anony's having a b. So eventually I was just like Anthony and Nina are Anthony ████ inside of Nah's ████ and they're having a baby. >> Okay. Cuz her eggs are good.
8:25 >> But why? >> It worked out great, >> dude. Thank you, Steve. Oh, >> that's that's so considered and thoughtful and fun, dude. Like that that's crazy. >> Well, I wanted to do it with a bunch of people, but I was like, it doesn't mean anything to the channel if it's a bunch of randos. >> Yeah, >> like for them it's randos, but like for us it would be you would know who they are, but like for them it's randos. So, >> and for the sake of this channel though, for anybody who doesn't have a kid, I would love some unsolicited advice >> who doesn't have a kid. >> Yeah. Yeah. Not you. Not you. I I want dad advice from you three >> in general. Yeah. Well, we're going to get to that, but not here. Uh Bart though I think can help you a lot. I really do. So for the for the next four minutes I need Bart to help you. >> Well I already think Anony's going to be a good dad cuz you're already embracing it. No, I think there are times where like people I think people they think this is their life and that's all they know and you can't blame them because
9:15 that's all they know and then they already have an imagination of what it's going to be like when they have a kid and then they're married to that and then you're just like the people that have been to the other side they're like oh dude this guy's in or this girl is in for a rude awakening. I think for you you're already going into it like I'm not going to know what's going to happen so I'm open to the change. I'm flexible to the change. And I think that's half the battle cuz then I'll have friends that get into it and they're like, "F███, this isn't what I thought. I'm have to give up more than I thought." And then sometimes that's I think that's where a lot of some of that like depression comes from from like the first 6 months, first 12 months cuz it's such a rude awakening that they're like, "Wait, I identified myself as this, but then I now there's this part of me." And then I think from the get- go, they weren't willing to let go what they're already going to have. And I think for you, you're already willing to like like
10:07 roller coaster style, right? Like you just go and I'm just going to go for the ride and I'm going to be completely cool versus someone slam on the brakes. >> Yeah. So, I think that's like the biggest thing is being open-minded to all that, which is cool. And knowing that you don't know. >> I do think Anthony will be a dope dad because he's very attentive and like thoughtful, right? And also cuz Nah keeps Anony's ass in line. You know what I mean? You guys know what I mean? Like Nenah like is dope for Anthony and Anony's dope for Nina but like that perfect synergy yin-yang kind of perfect matching like extrovert introvert like those two working together I think it's just perfect for a kid and like you know she's the right she she like um you know when like somebody gives you notes and you're like I don't respect you or care like thanks
10:58 Nina is the opposite of that like she's such a thoughtful person that I think that she'll just say the right thing and be like, "F███." Right. >> She She's like I I mentioned yesterday, she's going to be like 100% basically like be in the driver's seat because she also just like one, she knows me. Two, she knows herself really well and she like really does research when she tries to understand and discover something. She's like that type of studious person, which is why she like is where she is with her life. And then three, like with her even career and her passions, the idea of like working with children like since since like during school, post school, she's like babysat for friends for a period of time as a side job. She was a preschool teacher. She went into her her graduate uh you know um cohort or school. She went to graduate school
11:48 in order to become an OT or doctor of OT specifically when the emphasis on peds. So it's like her experience with children from literally months year old to 18 and people with kids with disabilities is like is so vast. She's just clocked hours >> that I'm like >> yeah I play I played with like my sister and my cousin's kids a bit you know it's like there's nothing I could say. >> So it's like just and she's like thinking about like diet like nutrition their mental like stimulation. we shouldn't do these certain things because of like blah blah blah recent. I'm like, "Yes." And um >> yeah. So, you know, >> cool. >> So, I just feel like um I trust I've seen her work with people. I trust and I think that gives me a lot of I don't know, maybe that gives me and I'm processing this for the first time. I
12:38 think that gives me a lot of space to like prepare myself, >> you know? >> Totally. >> And and I think that's really helpful for like what I need too. Um so, so yeah, I'm I'm very lucky um that Nina is so so dope with that. >> That's cool, man. 100%. >> You want You want more than one? >> Absolutely. Joe, give it to me. >> How many? >> Maybe just one. >> He Joe's talking about >> How many kids? >> Talking about disses. >> No, no. Joe's talking about disses. >> You want more than one? >> No. No. You want more than one kid? >> Kid. I have no idea. I think in that same that same light, like uh a younger version of me would have been like, "This is how many I could want, blah, blah, blah. Disclaimer, this blah blah." Right now, I'm like >> like I'm lucky. >> Yeah. that I'm on this journey right now as it is. Let's I just pray that the kid comes out healthy and that Nah's healthy, period. I don't care if it's a
13:28 boy or a girl. Like, I'm just I just healthy, please. >> And then we'll see what happens. >> Love that. >> Yeah. >> In my opinion, 9 + 1 + one, >> two. I think you're going to have two. >> That's what I think. >> 911
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