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How Long is Too Long to Respond to a Flirty Text?

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0:00 How long is too long to wait before you text a chick back or dude back, right? So, this happened the other day. This has 5 million views circulating. This is a screenshot of a chick saying, "I responded after 2 days and he's no longer interested. Like, what the heck?" >> Uh. >> So, he's he um He says, "Hello beautiful." This is on Monday. "Hello beautiful. Jay here. You gave me your number at the event hours ago." She says, "Hi. Good morning. Sorry for the late replies. I've been so busy." And then he So, I think that's missed several days later. He says, "Hey, you took so long to reply that I forgot why I was interested in the first place. You're attractive, but that's clearly not enough. Take care." >> Okay, let's get the obvious out of the way first. That's performative. You know when people are like he's not actually upset. He's just trying to like down her. >> You think he's >> Negging her out? >> He's negging her out.

0:50 >> Well, no, no, no. I think he's pissy about it, but I think like if You know those people that that really want you to know they don't care anymore. >> Yeah. >> So, that therefore they care. That's what that is. >> you anyway, ████ >> Like, if you did if you really felt that way, you just don't respond. You literally look at it and you can't even remember you saw it. But instead, he's doing the exact opposite. It's so ████ performative. >> Got it. I didn't even pick up on that. >> Attention to me and how I feel about what you did, please. >> Cuz I'm a ████ >> I'm guilty of >> It's peck peck work, dude. >> that response. So, I'm guilty of like Like, let's You know when you're dating, right? You just hit up a lot of girls. And then the one that gives you the attention, it's like Well, I'm going to talk to her. And then the girl that's kind of lagging you just like But you're But you're right. It's like why even respond? >> Yeah, you wouldn't even have time to respond. You'd be talking to another chick. >> what happened? I thought we were into each other, but it's like, well, you took too long and I like this one now.

1:40 But like, I don't tell her that. It's just You just stop talking. >> Do you think that he was I think obviously he maybe thought the interaction went pretty well and he was way excited to talk to her. And then I think the longer it went, the more he got mad and like into some of his incel feelings, maybe. >> Yeah, I think so. I think he he he thought he deserved better than that. >> Yeah. But imagine what the relationship's going to be like this fool >> He's like thinking what the ████ 48 hours you ████ >> Shut up dude. Shut up. >> Plus some people like myself treat text like emails. Like I don't >> Like take forever. >> Yeah. I don't just respond right away cuz like I got >> Or respond at all. >> I I always respond but like it takes a while yeah. >> Eventually. >> Cuz they're emails to me. >> But I still don't even think that's that bad. Two days? It's not that bad. >> Two days not bad. >> I don't know I don't think it We don't know exactly how long >> That's a merit the double diss dude.

2:30 Like he's got Look, he's got a triple diss in there. You took so long. Then he goes forgot why I was interested. And then he goes clearly not enough. That's ████ crazy. >> attracted to that >> It says I responded after two days. >> Nobody's attracted to that attitude. Like that's so stupid. >> Yeah. >> Do you think he knows that he's doing this as a haha ████ ████ you? Or you think it's a subconscious thing? >> in his like child like brain he just wants her to feel bad and he wants to be above her on the totem and leave it at that. He probably blocked her after that. >> So she can't even >> Yeah, she didn't get a rebuttal. What a ████ move. That is ████ >> Peck peck. >> He would have wanted her to beg for the attention back. >> Yeah, for sure. Some kind of apology. Something to like to some type of way to concede defeat in this stupid moment he made up.

3:20 >> So he thinks that she's big timing them kind of and he's playing a game. >> But even the text back two days later is not big timing. >> It's not. I agree. >> I don't think it is at all. >> So yeah, he snapped back too hard. >> But I think I understand though that if you're texting cuz he said at the he got her number at the event hours ago. So I'm sure like in his mind he thought they would have this ongoing thing from right away. You know, like so to have just seen somebody text them and they don't text you right away either. I mean, if that's weird then let it be weird and move on. >> He was hyped though. >> Yeah, he was probably over zealous about it. >> He couldn't contain how he was feeling about her anymore, so he self-sabotaged cuz he doesn't like how much he like wanted her. >> I think he was doing what guys do sometimes, like Ryan's talked about before, where we imagine a whole life with this ████ that we just met. And I

4:10 think he like already is like ████ having imaginations about the wedding and ████ And like she did not like it. >> And then so he had to divorce, too. >> Her not going back is her not showing up >> to the altar. >> Exactly. >> Yeah, he's doing it to himself. >> The magic did not happen on her side, I guess. >> And it'll never be magic then. >> Why do you think some guys like put a girl on a crazy pedestal when they they just barely met? >> Cuz they need it. >> You think they have no other choices? >> that we're animals sometimes, and like I've done this before, for sure. >> But how old were you? >> I was definitely younger, but but I have to say like when me and Nikki got together, I really thought that immediately. Like So, that was a lucky >> But it was reciprocated. >> reciprocated. Lucky swing. >> I feel like that for everybody. >> Yeah. >> That's nuts. It's just delulu. Some people are like >> When you're a sixth grader, it's kind of

5:00 normal. >> No, some people it's like their kryptonite, though, you know? You could be like almost like a high-functioning like autist, but then the second it comes to like a whiff of game or the opposite sex, you become just >> Yo, I know someone like this. You're You just reminded me of someone. He keeps asking me and a couple guys like for advice, right? And he's like, I don't know how you guys do it, man. I want to I want a wife. I want to get married and all this stuff. And once in a while, he'll come. At this point, I'm ████ tired of his ████ because he does that. And he just falls in love with girls. He thinks he's on a date with them. And he's like, do I have a chance? And I'm all like, why are you asking me? Ask the girl. He goes, wait, wait, wait, wait, but we go on dates. And I'm like, "What do you mean dates?" He goes, "No, we go hang

5:50 out." And then I find out later it's a platonic, either business or skill-based hangout. If I say what skill it is, I'm going to ████ burn him out. So, it's a thing that's like he's a master at pack openings. And and like yo-yo, let's just call him a yo-yo god, right? He's a yo-yo god. And he has uh he's he's a master. And he does a lot for you. So, like a lot of people that want to learn yo-yoing would go to this >> Sure, yeah. >> So, he thinks spending time in training someone through yo-yoing is a date. And I told him, "We go yo-yoing all the ████ time." >> That's like if Nick's hitting on his clients cuz he's like you they just keep coming out and hanging out. >> Yes, and I was like, "What makes it different?" >> Right. >> And then he goes, "Well, >> It's actually highly inappropriate. >> Yeah. But it's But in his mind they're

6:41 flirting. And I was like, "What did you say?" No, it's like he wants them so bad. He wants that to be real. >> It's one-sided. >> And then he he was like, "Oh, but she uh she told me like she just got out of a relationship and she's like, 'It's so refreshing to be in an environment where she doesn't feel like a guy's hitting on her.' So, like I I'm just giving her that time, but I know that like she's ready for me when she's ready." >> She's saying, "Leave me alone." >> Bingo. >> Jesus, dude. >> We all know that. >> You know that. This is the same guy, by the way. This is the same guy. He's asking Bart and Joe for help all this ████ He's probably all about the boys and wants to hang with the boys. And as soon as he gets with a chick actually, he'll never see the boys again. >> Yeah, for real. >> Well, he never got with a girl cuz he doesn't listen. I'm like, this is why at this point I'm like, I'm not ████ listening to this guy cuz he's just what do you call it? Like an ass hole. He just wants me to confirm his delusion. So, his delusion

7:32 is like, "Yeah, so we're doing this and we're doing that. You know, do you think I got a chance? Do you think she likes me?" I'm like, "First off, have you flirted?" "Well, yeah, we made jokes and she laughed at it." I'm like, "No, like have you touched her? Have you done anything?" >> Yeah. Is she touching your knee or something? >> touching your back? Anything? Oh, [snorts] we hug when we say hi. It's all friend ████ brother. >> Dude, I hug the boys when we see Come on, dude. >> And I'm trying to you know, like you know I'm like I just tell them straight up. I'm like, "Dude, I don't think she likes you at all." He goes, "Are you sure? But we do this." I'm like, "No, don't ████ ask me for an opinion and try to convince me." >> I know. It's weird. >> ████ you, you know? ████ you. >> He He just sounds lonely and he's so >> Well, he's autistic. >> like this, just take it easy out there. >> Cuz he's autistic. Cuz he's a master. He's a master at yo-yo. So, he's very autistic and you clearly

8:23 can tell that he has bad social skills. That's why he's asking of all people Bart for social skills. >> [laughter] >> Yeah. >> You know what I mean? >> That's insane. >> of all people Bart. But then I can see that, right? So, like So, he's >> He's asking Terminator how to write a poem. >> He's always getting into these situations where he's like falling in love. He thinks they're dating. They're not on a date. And you hear these stories from girls, too. Like, "I thought he was my friend. I can't believe he proposed to me." Right? You hear this It's These are the ████ that do it. >> You don't let this fool talk next time you hang out with him. >> We We just talk about the hobby that we >> Just tell him, bro, you can't talk no more. >> Talk about yo-yoing. >> Some of those cats go so hard in the paint when it comes to being a total ████ ████ for these girls that they'll take them like to like NBA games and

9:13 ████ And they really think that the girl they're on a date with this chick, but she's just using him for everything. >> Yeah, or a lot of the time a lot of girls get cornered into saying yes to ████ they didn't want to do. >> Well, don't make it so real and dark. Jesus. >> No, it's not No way. It's an anti-marriage thing. A lot of Some girls just can't ████ say no to ████ that they go go tell their friends, "I don't want to go. I don't want to go." Why the ████ did you say yes, you idiot? >> But the But But I will Okay, I got to run for governor a little bit. >> [laughter] >> feel under threat a little bit. >> Oh, sorry. The ████ autistic weirdo with no social skills is threatening? >> I think those girls are ████ >> I think If you knew who this guy was, you'd be like, "He's harmless." >> Got it. >> saying. Like a lot of the time, it's not that they feel threatened. They just don't want to look mean.

10:04 >> But if you saw a news >> And he's not inviting them like that. >> What do you mean? >> Well, it's like if if we're friends, right? Like and then like I'm into music, you're into music. >> him. >> Yeah. It's like we're clearly into music together and then and then it's like, "Yo, I'll come over and make beats." Whatever. And then like and then you'll do a song for me or whatever. And then you'll take that as a date and I'm all like, "The f███?" >> That's what I mean. We all know girls throughout our lives that have complained about, "Ah, I don't want to see this guy." >> Yeah. >> And they're And you they're out again. >> I think they want to see him. He's a He They want to see him. Like it's more like a gay best friend. >> I think they like sometimes Guys do this a lot too. I did it a ████ load. They like the incoming attention. And then they get mad when the outgoing is being criticized. >> Okay, to flip it up a little bit, how long is too long to respond to a flirty text? Do we Do we game anymore? Do we play the game? You know, it used to be

10:55 like 3 days. >> Bro, you know what it is to be honest, it's just about how desperate you are. Cuz I've been desperate and I've done that and I felt like that because I had nothing else. And I was like, "This is all I want. Come on, man." And then there's times where I forgot I didn't even respond and I run into them and I'm like, "I don't know why I didn't." You know, like it's just It all depends on your drought. Cuz guys, you'll have ████ ups and downs throughout life. Some days you're just god damn lonely for no reason. >> I always need it. Hell yeah, boy. I'm always I'm always in a drought, you know. >> I think he's the one that screams at them if they don't respond in two hours. >> I'm the one I'm the one putting them in the corner and they just feel pressured. >> In the middle of your drought your droughtest days, in the middle of your droughtest days, what was too long to wait? >> Too long to wait for someone to get back to you? >> Yeah, if if they had finally texted you and it was like you're like, "Damn, that was I'm not that interested now." >> In the In the drought days when I'm like seeking, I feel like

11:47 I feel like yeah, dork days. The ball is so in the girl's court to like wait for it is like foolish. You're already trying to find just like the next girl. >> Yeah. So like you might be just trying to hit on a couple people and then if something comes back at you, you're like, "Sure." >> So you're a volume guy. >> Kind of at that era, you know, where when you're getting numbers like this. >> the era he's in. >> See, I was a I was like a the one chick that I'm into is the only chick gay guy. >> Yeah, I get it. I get it. >> think I don't think there's a political office high enough for you right now. >> Think I'm You think? >> Yeah. [laughter] Like you're campaigning with Nick. >> president? I actually I actually think it's sicker to be like what you're saying, but I can't ████ do it because I'm ████ gay is what I'm saying. Like I get obsessed with the chick that >> Uh you get hyperfixated? >> before you're dating? Like cuz you got

12:37 to you're talking to a women. >> No, even in the 40s stage like when we just met and ████ I'll build the life in the castle and the ████ >> So you're this guy, but you get lucky and they respond. >> Yeah, I'm this guy, but I don't give away that I'm a ████ ████ Well, it also in hindsight it's like you were playing the game. In the moment it's like maybe you are also really incredibly insecure, right? [laughter] It's like a It's like a Oh, yeah, it's it's a volume. It's a numbers game, you know, I just wait and see if the next girl hits me up. Really it's because I don't think anybody's ever going to hit me back. So I'm already moving on because I'm like Who's going to hit me back? >> case, you would you would you would have been okay because it's like you already liked them. If you were in his shoes, right? Take She takes two days to respond. What's your response? >> Hey, had a great time meeting you. LFG LFG LFG LFG American flag American flag American flag >> [laughter] >> So like yeah, so she

13:27 cuz in her case she's like, "What happened? I was going to go on a date with them. What's his problem?" So then that's where you get the prize because you don't let your ████ feelings get all ████ >> I felt that way doesn't mean I show her that. >> That's weird. >> That's gay and weird. >> Like that's just a bad move no matter what. >> sucked his dick and he goes, "Dude, you missed out cuz you ████ started crying like a b████." >> Yeah, so she didn't really like, you know, I guess because of the drought reference you guys are saying like he's crawling through the desert looking for water. But that's what it seems like. He's just desperate as ████ >> That's not that is not a man of abundance. >> And he's mad at her for not giving him water sooner. But to But to me I'm like, "We had a good time I had a good time meeting you." She doesn't owe me a quick response. >> owe you anything. >> Or he's a man of extreme abundance. >> [laughter] >> What? >> ████ >> It's the only other one. Now that Now that the video's ending

14:17 though, my actual feeling is that she fabricated this is ████ >> I think you're attractive, but that's clearly not enough. Take care is like put What are you doing? You know what I mean? Like that he went out on like a ████ you like kind of thing. >> But you're hot just in case you want to like tell me something. >> How a lot of people don't realize how many guys still communicate like this to their ████ 30s, 40s. There's still people There's still guys like this that'll tell me ████ like this as if I'm going to big up them on it. And I'm like, "You ████ kidding?" >> I don't got losers around me. >> Are you trying to run for mayor in this room and getting votes? >> Yeah, I'm glad all your friend groups to you guys, but okay. >> Trying to get votes from us. You don't have any losers in your friend group. Cuz usually that means it's [laughter] you. >> Jesus. >> Nice.

15:07 >> Jesus. [laughter] >> Imagine. >> Got him. Cut cut cut. We're cutting that part. I'm just kidding. I'm just kidding.

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