0:00 Or maybe you're just out with the boys and you're like, "Oh, yeah, that chick's that chick's hot." And then your friend's like, "You ain't never seen a real hot chick, brother." Not the way I have. >> No, your your friend goes, "That is not ████ hot." >> "SHE'S NOT HOT. I I WAS banging hot chicks when you were 12 years old." And you're like, "All right, dude. Just chill out. Chill out." Okay, this is a a a topic. The question is, is this a dealbreaker? Okay. So, I'm going to read this uh this post. "Found out my girlfriend was {quote} dickmatized by her ex What the ████ >> Yeah. And has never felt that way about me. WHY WOULD SHE SAY THAT? ████ Get ready. Get ready. Am I wrong for no longer wanting to propose to her and marry her? So, I Yeah, dude.
0:51 I 26 male have been dating my girlfriend 26 female for 4 years. We've met each other's families, and she really wants to marry me, and I've even gone ring shopping. I have a close friend 25 female who's like a sister to me. I've known her since kindergarten, and we're always super honest with one another. Marry her. Yeah. This friend has also been super close friends with my girlfriend for years, so there you go. Last week I spoke to my friend and asked her to be honest with me about any red flags for my girlfriend before I choose to marry her and spend the rest of my life with her. My friend seemed a bit nervous, and I asked her to be honest. So, my friend told me the one red flag is my girlfriend might want to be with me for my {quote} marriage potential and my nice job and house, and that's why she wants to marry quick. She said my girlfriend's ex was physically and emotionally abusive to her, but my girlfriend stayed in that relationship because she was {quote} dickmatized by him. Oh, this is a red flag, dude. >> Right? You know what it reminds me of?
1:42 You know that that that one simp that goes like um he he he always he always starts his videos, "What's the word?" You know what I'm talking about? What's the word? And then he and he's like he goes, "Check out check out my life um from a uh a 21 29-year-old like uh what does he call himself? 29-year-old single dad or some ████ with a hot wife or some ████ like he's and he has he has his wife. >> Oh, I know I know who you're talking about. >> every the comments is all like I know who you're talking about. When you look at it, it's a sweet situation where he stepped up to be a stepfather. And then like he's got with this girl, and then the girl's like got this biracial kid. >> It's the one where all of his content he's like doing housework and ████ Oh, that guy. Yeah, yeah, yeah. The white
2:32 guy that's just doing all the like women's work and ████ >> his his wife is like not doing anything in his videos. >> an influencer doing Yeah. That's sick. So, it it just reminds me of those situations where like it just looks like all he's doing is she wants him for basically a house slave. I don't know if they actually she loves him like that, you know? Yeah. But she's going to go out there and ████ do a Cancun trip and get ████ railed by so many dudes. Can we like can I ask you guys to uh do you like this idea when do you like the idea of dating somebody and then asking for intel from a friend on that person you're dating? >> It's a little sus. >> like that never ends well. I don't think it's good to do that. >> I think that should already be a red
3:22 flag. You know what I mean? >> That you're asking? Like you should it's a self red flag. If you already have doubt like if you already have doubt in your own relationship cuz that relationship it's yours. Your parents are going to die. Everyone's going to die. It's yours to deal with, so I think you should keep it that way. And if you already need a second opinion then that's all like if you already have doubts, it's already a red flag. >> that really really bad to do. I I have something that's kind of similar. I want to hear you guys' take on this. So, Hannah brought up something that I actually think is really good. Um where she thinks that siblings of a different gender should also screen and give you the approval of who you're going to marry. So, she's like, "Women see ████ that guys just don't about red flags." And she goes like
4:13 they if you have a sister or like a female in your family and like they will give you their take. Right? And then so in this situation, if she's like friends with him since kindergarten, I guess if he doesn't have that like that's the closest thing he's got as someone that could co-sign the relationship. And then so like I don't know. I feel like in that situation it might be like that cuz I think also on the flip side, too, if I had a sister, I would be the guy that like screens the guy, and I'm like, "Nah, I don't like this ████ I think something's off with them. Like I think he just wants you for sex or whatever." >> Yeah, like someone on your team. Yeah. I think that's it's okay to have someone on your team. But I also think that's like you got to do that way early on. Not 4 years in, and then you're like, "I think I have doubts now." Like I feel like it should be a stronger and
5:03 stronger. It's like before you take it a year two, maybe do your whole screening or whatever. Yeah. But in this case, he actually considers her the girl that he's friends with as marriage material, right? Like, "Oh, we've been friends since kindergarten." Is that I don't know. I I don't know He's just saying I've known her since kindergarten, she's like a sister to me. Oh, so his his lady uh thinks he's marriage material, but she's dickmatized by the ex. And by the way, that means she's telling people she was dickmatized by the ex, which is kind of messed up, too. >> Oh, wait, wait, wait. That is weird, yeah. >> that she leaked to him or his girlfriend told him directly. >> She She told the best friend, "I was dickmatized by my ex and my but he was a he was abusive, but his dick was so ████ good." >> up. Actually, I think if she didn't tell
5:54 him it's it's ████ up. >> Yeah. So, like that information was never meant to be for him. Right. And I think girls could talk about this ████ together. Guys would talk like imagine like guys talk about ████ like, "Oh, she gave ████ head like no tomorrow, right? But ████ that ████ I'm with her now." And then she could have missed hella information. Like I don't know, man. Yeah, I don't know about that. That that sounds that sounds weird to me. >> movie, I think that chick actually has had a secret crush on this guy the whole time, and which is why which is why she revealed it, yeah. >> That's true. That would be the movie plot. Yeah. Right. It's hard to say, man, cuz >> though. I agree though. from this perspective, it does sound like she's a wild wild hoe, and she just wants so much more dick. If she's walking around If she's walking around being like, "Hey, psst. Like this guy put me in a ████ ████ trance."
6:46 I think that's messed up to like cuz you're you're guy you have a guy. Like why are you why are you talking that way about your ex? >> But then that's it's girls talking though. It's to me it's like it's like when guys talk dumb ████ about their exes or whatever. If that gets out, I mean that's going to sound bad or look bad, but yeah, some stuff's not meant you you I like some stuff that I'm going to say to you about something isn't necessarily how I feel the way that someone else might interpret it. It's just like we're talking. Yeah, it's like we're saying ████ you know? It might just some people do that, too. Like they vent what they don't mean, and it's not supposed to leave that room. But then that I think as the person that doesn't get that, and then they you they ████ tell that person, I'm like, "Now you're just ████ causing issues." >> Plus when it's you say it's like you don't know the tone. You don't know like what was behind it. You just know that like the that person said that. It's
7:37 It's just messy. I just don't think the when it telephones like that, you're just asking for trouble. That's why I don't like the idea of like cuz you can dig as much as you want, you will find something that will make you not want to be with who you're dating if you are that much of a digger because you're just going to hear everything in the wrong context. They're not going to be around to like defend themselves. Plus that's like if you leaked every group chat I had with guys, I will be ████ single for the rest of my life. Cuz I'm a ████ piece of ████ I think it's hilarious the stuff I'm saying, but I don't have like emotional like like gumption behind it. You know what I mean? If we lived in England with our group chat, we're all in jail. Well, well, also it depends like can you live with it? Now now you have this knowledge. I wouldn't be able to live with it. If I had this knowledge and she didn't tell me this I would just be I just like I would be like, "Oh, you know what? Like I I want to be with a person
8:28 where we're sexually compatible, too." And it goes both ways cuz then now I have that in the back of my mind, and I feel like, "Man, how strong was his dick game?" You have two paths to take. Either you break up or you got to go like "What do you mean by dickmatized?" Yeah. And you got to have this hard ass conversation. But from what I know now, like if a girl's choosing you for stability and not because of any like all these other cuz they do do that, right? They're like, "You know what? He's he's good enough and like I can settle here." Like and I don't want that role, and I don't want that relationship. So, I for me I if I knew that information, I'm like, "I know what the outcome will be in this situation where she's settling, and she's always going to feel like she's settling, and she's always wishing for some more
9:18 dick." Yeah. >> Jesus. That's what I mean. It could just be a throwaway comment, and then it just gets it just gets blown up, you know? >> on a girl's trip and they're just drinking at a club and they're like, "So, tell me about your ex. Why didn't it work out? Oh, yeah, blah blah blah blah. She's She sucked me up, but he did dickmatize me." >> Right. And then that context it's like now it's like, "So, are there any like red flags about like your like she did say he was just dickmatized." I know. It's like way different context or everything, and then now it's like >> exactly say like I don't like my dude's dick or anything like that or like or like I he didn't put me under a spell with his dick or anything like that. But what if she's always talking about it? The one that got away. Oh, if he just didn't beat me up, I would have so been with that guy. She just puts her drink next to her nose, and she's like, "Oh my god, I miss his dick. I miss his ████
10:08 dick so much." My p████'s still shaped like his And then she's like, "Oh my god, shut up." She goes, "Oh, I got to tell you." I don't want it to heal. It's funny because like since So, like me and Aris have been friends for ████ ever, right? And like since age 17, we've had this agreement that if one of somebody he's dating comes to me and tries to ask me ████ I have a script. >> Oh, dude, lay it on me. It's nothing. It's one line. It's just you just got to let it be. We just both say that cuz we know what's going to happen, and it's probably happened over a dozen times. We're like somebody he's dating is like, "You need to talk to your boy. What's up with him? Why is he You just got to let it be, you know? Just kind of That's it. We just We just get as vague as possible to just be like, "It's just how it is, you know? Just go with it." Yeah. We both do that
10:59 cuz it's that is inevitably going to happen. Some Girls do it way more than guys. I don't even know if guys do it at all. But, girls will always try to find some way around and be like, "He's not talking to me. What's going on with him? Like Is he even worth it?" And I'm like, "Come on, dude." And I never had that happen to me before. I mean, you got He He's from Montebello. That happens a lot there. I do think having somebody in your life though, like like having asking your mom like that's normal ████ right? Where you're like, "What do you think What do you think of her?" I think that's just normal ████ That's normal ████ yeah. I think you also have to see the relationship they're in. Like if your sister or whatever is only in ████ up relationships, I don't give a ████ what she says. Yeah. That's also It's also weird when when these things happen, it's weird when you you have to assume that like the other person's a perfect angel or what?
11:50 Like that's kind of weird. It's so one-sided when these things happen, you know what I mean? Like And I think you just I just try not to ████ with stuff. I'm just like whatever. If they want to be in a relationship that I I think is bad that I I have no business. I have no like >> Yeah, cuz ultimately it's a dynamic. It's not like, "Hey, I'm perfect. How is she?" Right. >> Yeah. But, if he said a bunch of ████ about like how he got the best head ever when he was ████ 19. Plus the ████ ties or something. Yeah, everyone says stuff like that. Whatever. Just cuz you got caught doesn't mean, you know? Or maybe you're just out with the boys, and you're like, "Oh yeah, that chick's That chick's hot." And then your friend's like, "You've never seen a real hot chick, bro." Not in the way I have. >> No, your your friend goes, "That is not ████ hot. SHE'S NOT HOT. I I WAS banging hot chicks when you were 12 years old." And you're like, "All right, dude. Just chill out. Chill out."
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