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Off The Record: Is Flirting Through Text Considered Cheating?

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0:00 everybody shut up and let him speak I need to know no we need to open up too we no no no I didn't like anony for a long time even though we've been on so many shows tours whatever together okay like disliked or just didn't like he ████ hated you [Music] dude welcome back to careful boys where we are scared of literally everything and today we're talking about is flirting and texts cheating oo flirting what constitutes yeah what cons SL you tell me boys it's a dangerous world out there you could send an emoji too many emojis you could emphasize it better not be that one with the little squirty water what's flirting to you guys eggplant eggplant it's flirting Peach is it it's flirting when you feel something toward them and you enjoy

0:50 their attention and affection I think I think it has to do with intention too cuz like let's say you have a friend that's a chick I I think there's a difference between messing around like she's your sister and just like goofing around sending text back and forth you guys don't flirt with your sisters versus like texting with like um a different type of like romantic messing around you know cuz there's to me there's like flirting like that was funny trying to F and then there's like there's like flirting like that's a flirt that's a little flirt that's like you're so funny so funny let's uh you just open up I'm a little flirty or how about when you're you're texting this person in mind you're like smiling all time and then you keep like deleting the text again and rewriting it that that that's you're flirting flirting for because you're putting too much thought into it you're like and

1:41 you're nervous yeah you're nervous dude that's I think that's what about being like ha gotcha funny jokes time you want ████ want to ████ yeah if you say like like want to ████ ha funny jokes time then it's all good all right what about what about this what about like what about somebody from like way the like way back hitting you up going like how come we never like you know how come we never had a thing me you how come we never like got it done yeah how you harass me out are you allowed to even engage I'll be like my dick was busy elsewhere you know what you do good question you hit him with the thumbs up you just hit him with the thumbs up that's bad English or you go Shaka no that's bad English or you just like you like the comment it's bad English because they asked a how come question which requires a description but that's

2:33 how you get out but it also depends on your intention after that it's like are you trying to like talk to figure it out because cuz let's say let's say somebody did do that to me right and I'd be like okay I I wouldn't feel bad answering this and having that conversation if I didn't feel bad like showing my partner and being like look this person hit me up blah blah blah like how much you want to cover it up yeah but if it's like uh I want to have this conversation but I don't want to like I'm afraid to then I think that's that's the weird L what you like the Spider-Man pointing me I'm like you're like Spider-Man's pointing at Spider-Man and it's like it's like that that is ████ up that might be your flirting though that's that's what I'm think I do think sharing that affection that's supposed to be for your significant other and you don't want them to know and you know that that will hurt them that's kind of flirting and that is cheating yeah ████ damn you just

3:24 went like you did both wait wait wait give him a second to go want a ████ all right got CU if my wife saw me texting somebody and she thought it was flirting she'd be like that's cheating she would just immediately ████ go there cuz and she kick my ass laughing together kick your ass can easily lead to a 69 easily easily said what laughing together can be like that can happen wait which rooll were you I heard a oh like like your mouth went around something I was I was the girl that was sucking my dick okay Ryan you got good babe I was the girl I was the girl dude babe I was the girl I was the girl babe you're not even ████ listening to me actually you're just you're not listening to what I'm saying you know what what what about

4:14 this there's some people that think that like sending memes is like flirting what's the memes I don't know about that just funny ████ if you're doing it all day yeah it is yeah it is I I like Anthony's gauge cuz it's like let's say you are sending memes back and forth right but then you can show your like look we send like me and Sarah been sending mes back and forth if it's all good then it's all good but then if it's like like scrolling like dude you guys been sending memes for like ████ two three days straight and then there's like all the other your eyes are red and you're just like yeah like if they feel uncomfortable then it is uncomfortable yeah that's true cuz you're breaching your own set rules yeah or if yeah or if you start questioning it like oh should I like yeah yeah yeah too deep then that's too far right I like Anthony's Gage too cuz he cuz he's like babe look I I do it with everybody look it's everybody and it's like 15 girls oh yeah

5:05 so basically if you're flirting with somebody you just have to do that with all your boys too everybody see I do it every single see that's true what's the big deal like I send this sperman meme to everybody I think I think there's a lot of levels of I think there's different levels of it yeah cuz there's like quick little cuz I I think there's no harm in quick little flirting with strangers cheating oh cuz like okay like if Hannah here's a drink sexy can I buy you a drink but that's it thanks for coming to June so if like let's say Hannah's like at Starbucks and ████ right and then like somebody like he I just want to let you know you're like ████ cute as ████ and then she's like oh my God that's so funny thank you like you made my day and ████ she doesn't say that but she'll just be like oh not not not I don't want y I don't want y you

5:57 know say'll say holy ████ was that Hannah yeah holy ████ I don't want you I don't want you sound just like her yeah it does sound like her so close and then um what if she at Starbucks right she sees the the the guy at the Brie it's like she's like wow you're very handsome and fit that's it your fit night that well that pissed me off that made me mad she she she she could like that o I think o you got a license a playful exchange for a quick moment boys where two adults are appreciating how hot they are real quick or whatever or if it's a joke cuz it could be a playful joke right where it's kind of like not joke serious like not even about your looks like in flirting it can be just like you're clearly like oh this person's hot there you think they think you're hot whatever and then

6:47 you joke and you have a little like banter or whatever right and then you're like all right I'm keep it right there or something like that but you're you're you have like a little more cuck Vibes than I think we do but I do it too so I'm allowing it cuz I like that makes sense but that's what I'm saying is like you know what I'm talking about it's like it's not full on like but saying that someone's ████ cute is kind of like pretty direct yeah but I'm not doing that ████ yeah yeah yeah but your chick is no okay okay but if she was if someone were to do that to her so this is the point I'm trying to make okay if someone took it gave it to her and she was like oh you made my day ego flexx but I don't want you I don't know if that's actually fully flirting but she got to receive the flirt she's

7:37 actually just playing it cool honestly like cuz sometimes you have she didn't reciprocate you have to take a compliment from a guy sometimes just to make cool thanks you made my day she didn't reciprocate I wouldn't consider that flirting oh cuz like so let's say old lady flirt with me right she goes oh are you going to be the guy helping me out today and I'm like yeah ooh it's my lucky day or whatever right right and then I'll flirt with a old ████ cuz start grabbing her by the hips you know what I mean but it doesn't mean anything Joe's like yeah but I do I do try to imagine her when she was 27 and I'm like one day you 80-year-old ████ I wish I was back to the future with you you know and then like old lady has something in her hair you just go oh let me just get that out of your eye for you you know that's cute you know I mean so I do think it's a lot of it is intention because in your mind you know you're not going to ████ the 80-year-old but I wish I did she but then if she was super hot

8:29 and she was then it's because now are you are you scared of your own self in that you know then I think that's where it get start to get fish the thing is we all know if we're being sus yeah we all know in our deepest darkest moments if we're being sus yeah and so only you can regulate what you're texting and why you're texting it being honest with yourself yes you know what's funny too though is like even without the like flirting aspect if a girl was to just start talking to me about something she like a sexual experience with another person not me and just was telling me about it I think that's considered flirting to smack she doesn't like that ████ you say one more time like let's say that when girls be talking about how they were sucking a ████ out let's say you just hanging out with some girl you guys are not flirting at all and she's like she's like oh my God this guy made me suck his

9:19 dick last night it was ████ horrible oh my God the veins the sex was whack blah blah BL I think my gagy fck is ████ broken yeah like even that ra you we're not actually even flirt we're not talking about our own intentions or nothing she just tell me a story just her opening up the Pandora's Box that's already a breach because it's like why you getting that familiar to ████ talking smack smart cuz that's that's yeah then you go H I have a girlfriend um um cuz of her girlfriend whatever cuz that's something that that happens sometimes where it's like oh she's not flirting with me she's not like ████ you know yeah yeah but why are you guys talking about that subject exactly yeah why do why am I even enter or when she says that you go okay and you walk away that's good I think it's the best when they end it with oh if there was only a guy that can ████ me right and in that moment you're

10:10 [Laughter] like hold on SEC hold on hold hold on hold on that's another thing where like some things are not necessarily flirting but it's just like the familiarity of the topic is is too danger zone yeah it's danger zone yeah yeah yeah well cuz some people go it's not actually cheating unless you actually have sex so everything before that is okay if that's your rule in the relationship then but that's whack rule just a foreplay yeah some people just have more like like playroom than others but you know just depends I guess I would say if you're sharing intimacy with someone that isn't your significant other whether it's physical or mental or emotional then that can that can that can kind of that's basically cheating yeah there's like otal cheating you and

11:01 you know if you're doing it like my thing like I used to text Nikki right cuz we were both in our comedy troop together and like like our little sketch group and like we would just text each other cuz we had a bit with each other which was like unsubscribed like whatever you say to me I just unsubscribe to you right and then like so like I would be like at that candy store uh like in in that big mall like outside um where the AMC theater is and I saw an unsubscribed like kitchen mag and I ████ texted Nikki that picture but I didn't I and I swear this is true I never had like oh I like this girl or anything I'm like a rider right so I was just riding and riding with my chick but I was just like that's funny Nikki will laugh at that it was like when we're friends but like I know that I didn't send that to be sus but now looking back I'm like wo I married that chick lat but was it subconscious sus I I I don't

11:53 think so but like that does ████ with me a little bit cuz I'm like wow me and Nikki like we used to ████ with each other that way way but I know for a fact I never thought about her like that except for one time but that was like the Friendship though that was like but that was when me and my chicks our relationship started to crumble after I found out she cheated on me and then I had some thoughts about me I think that makes sense cuz even like when me and smack were friends we joked around that was our main Rapport was just jokes and I never one time thought of her like in any other way was just ball busted but what if she saw you you that way I don't think she she dated different dudes too and I met the guys she was dating and it was all like were you dating somebody else at that time yeah I was like would that person have approved of the way that you were joking with smack no there was actually a point in time when uh so

12:44 this is the thing there was a point in time where like I because like I just saw smack like that we went to this like event and then this other girl who I guess like thought was the girl to me was like you just been talking to smack all day like started complaining about it and I was like yeah cuz we're ████ friends and we joke about ████ why is that like weird then I think it's both ways it's not just like you know when you're sus because in that situation or that situation you didn't have the intention and you didn't think you were being sus but the partner the partner thought it was sus so it's not cheating but it is flirting that comes yeah that comes back to the thing of whatever you did and whatever I did we we didn't have the intention but if a person were to point that out and go look at this we also don't have right to be perfectly innocent about no we can you can but you're you're setting the boundary now CU now I understand the boundary and

13:35 before I was like dude we're we're just balling like I didn't know the bumpers were up or whatever now I know where they're at but that wasn't cheating that was just sus suser you know what I mean can't stop connection but yeah exactly that's what I was going to say like connection and chemistry is also hard yeah because sometimes it does just happen then I flirt with guys all the time you sure do honestly I I didn't really like Anthony for a long time tell Stanford same and we've been around each other for a long time it wasn't until the tattoos for me like 48 hours I everybody shut up and let him speak I need to know no we need to open up too we no no no I didn't like Anthony for a long time even though we've been on so many shows tours whatever together like disliked or just didn't like he ████ hated you dude I I also hate a lot of people during that time anyway but

14:26 during Stanford it was like fireworks for some reason I don't know why we we became like good friends he was sus that trip right so but stuff but stuff like that but like that if you put that in a romantic sense I also think that's why it's really important like those conversations you're talking about sometimes chemistry and connection will happen beyond your control so you need to give yourself even more buffer zone away from the danger zone so it's a preemptive act yeah cuz you could put yourself in a bad situation but there's like actual fireworks happen youge and you don't think about it and then later a week later you're like oh ████ I think I caught feelings like after because some ████ happened you know well I didn't like you either yeah n you did n you did we all we all said same at the

15:21 same did you say it you guys said it so many times to make it sound like all of us said it go back to the ████ footage it same sa sa sa same and me and you weren't saying anything I was throwing my voice over there I was like why were there four people made Joe say it dude Tyler said it dude he pops it like yeah yeah yeah none of us like say same like the grill guy comes back he's like yeah yeah yeah yeah fcking hate this place the Postmates guy he's like fantastic yeah can we edit that last part [Music] out [Music]

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