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How to Make Short Guys More Confident

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0:05 Welcome back to a very helpful episode of Careful Boys. Today we have the Outcasts with us. Is there anything at all that any of you guys could say to help a short guy feel more confident? Good luck. Dude, that's a bad start. What's considered short? I don't know. Maybe like a guy who's 5'5". Size don't matter. Yeah? Something that's That's That's a sincere sentiment What's from you? What's so Like under 5'5" is short? I don't know. I just Ask them. Yeah, what's a guy who feels What's short to you? You're going to make him feel worse by naming their height. If it's shorter than yourself, then I guess short kings do. I guess so.

0:57 But y'all are like We're petite. Yeah, so it's So they're smaller than you, then that's like than you, they're midgets. Yeah, exactly. I had a Filipino boyfriend once who was my height, you know? Like it was like Yeah. It's I didn't know it was a thing like girls preferred taller men. That's not something that you heard a lot. You don't see a TALL GUY GO SO TALL. WHY? I can't talk to him. So I didn't know, yeah. But my husband's quite tall and I I sometimes forget about that. Like But yeah, maybe like pure, I guess. Right? That height maybe short, but You be like you can be rich and That's probably the realist I love how That's how I could know That's how I

1:47 know you're from Asia. Cuz we were just talking about this. Like all my friends from Asia, like they have no ████ shame when it comes to like What's the What's the qual What qualities you want in a husband? ████ rich. ████ It's like just straight up Being practical, yeah. Super practical. Cuz in America, it's like I think they they do this thing where it's like Ah, you know, I really just want love and I just want to find someone that I can love forever. But they're really saying that. Yeah. Do you think they're lying when they say that though? Cuz I feel like there's a good group of ladies that actually they're lying cuz if you're talking to them only because only because this is like when you talk to your friends one-to-one, they tell you the real thing. When a bunch of people are listening, that's the answer they give. Yeah, that's true. Like they give you the They're two-signal answers. answer that everyone

2:38 wants to hear. a lot of people are very specific about their want when they say Or it might also depend on like what they experienced with their parents. Slash like if your parents are like rich, but like they ████ hate each other, you might never think about needing a rich person cuz you're like you've been taken care of, but you're just like I just want love. Yeah, that is a blind spot almost, yeah. But really you still want the rich. still want that. Like cuz if you're like if you're ████ flying economy, you're like nah nah nah nah, ████ love. Have you seen those videos though where girls now are more like oh, they need to make six figures, they need to be six feet, they need to be like bad examples on purpose though. Like I mean cuz they're all club scenes, yes, but out to like the main street where the clubs are and then if you ask them that, then that's who you're going to find. But I feel like that wasn't a thing until like recently.

3:29 They're probably also like hurt. I feel like those are those are people that got hurt love. Yeah. They gave a chance to that wasn't that attractive. Or something. So like now my standards are high, okay? I'm going to get someone that's at least making this much. But they're like spiraling and like do they really want that? Who knows? Spiraling, yeah. And it's also like it's a thing too with like a lot of times when you're asking a girl on the spot with a bunch of and she knows it's going to go online or whatever. That answer's not just for guys, it's also for other girls. It's for them to be like oh, she knows what she wants. She like You know what I mean? Like not everything is for guys to hear. And cuz there's no way that all these girls that say that, there's not enough guys for them to date that are that guy. It's a very tiny pool. Remember that we were talking about like the that top percent? There's not enough guys for all these girls. So there's no way they're all going to end up with them. And that also like those girls probably haven't

4:20 been through much. Cuz you know, I think when you haven't been through much, then you kind of you you build like the dream cake. Like what's your favorite cake? Ooh, I want icing, whatever, whatever. But when you've been through a bunch of ████ before, you're like I just want my cake to not give me diarrhea. Basic. Yeah, you start thinking about the other way. What? That was the answer. No, I didn't ask that, but okay. I just don't want my cake to give me diarrhea. Cuz they're building they're building the Lambo. You know, they're building like my Lambo's going to have this, it's going to be six feet tall, makes 300 grand ████ a year, blah blah blah blah blah blah blah. And then you're like if you actually drove to work all the time, you just want a car that won't break down. Well, it costs a lot to fix. Yeah, exactly. You're like if you actually use this car, you just want all air in the tires, awesome. And also like

5:11 on top of that, I feel like the older people get and the more experience they hear from people, they're like okay, I don't want my guy to be like this. I want this, this, this. Like hearing from experience so like like with less experience and getting older, like maybe they become more picky like into what type of guy they want. Yeah, that's true. Cuz I know some girls that are like they've been through the dating circuit for so long, they're like I just want someone I could talk to. Like the bar becomes so low, you're like Someone that's not lactose intolerant would be cool. Go out for some ice cream together. Someone's going to treat me nice. You're like oh ████ all right. Did you happen to see that Anna Kendrick movie about the the serial killer? Yeah. Remember how the when she's talking to makeup artists, she's like it really all just comes down to the same thing. You just want a person that won't hurt you. That's really what it ends up being.

6:01 And then she gets murdered at the end. she gets murdered and then it's there's like a rock AND ROLL SONG. SO YEAH, FOR A GUY WHO THINKS HE'S SHORT, he feel He doesn't matter what his height is, but he feels short. People tell him he's short. What's something that'll help get his spirit up so he doesn't have to like let that affect his decisions where he just doesn't even want to bother trying, you know? I think he needs to uncover other parts of him that he can be proud of that overshadows like his physical stature. Like you know, like Tim is a prime example. Yeah. Oh dude, He's funny, he's charming, like he's a great person. Yeah, yeah. He's like he has all these other like buckets that are filled the ████ up. Doesn't even matter how tall he is. I know a lot of short guys that have dated beautiful women and all that. And I mean like Prince is a great example.

6:51 He looks like a drag queen. But cool. He's a very cool drag queen. Prince is like damn, I got some street But he looks He's like a skinny, scrawny, short, petite petite guy that wears heels. Very soft-spoken. And he had Carmen Electra. But then like isn't that a lot for a guy to go So I should have to be Prince. You're like start there. Start with Prince and work your way up. What it is is he's got so much going for him. Like he's mu- he's musically talented, he's like there's just so much creativity and artistry and I don't know. I think if all you have going for you is like you think your height and that's what you identify with, and you have nothing else, like that to me You're just a height. You're just a height? Like all you can identify with

7:42 is like I am short, therefore I can never amount to anything. It's like that's sad. That's really sad. feeling like that when that's always what comes to them. Oh, like you're so short. disqualified where it's like oh okay, I need a guy that's 5'8" and above and they're just always not part of the dating pool because of that. They need to get off Instagram reels, dude. That's what they do, yeah. They just stop watching that kind of stuff. But they're they're also not running into that like so directly, right? It's not like somebody's like oh, I'm not going to date you because you're a short. Like they're not getting that verbal confirmation. They're probably just like saying that to themselves. is that over time, what no matter what the reason becomes, they think it's still that. Yeah. Yeah, cuz there are mean girls out there that are like ew, she's short. But I think it's cuz they fixate on it. It's like when you're not thinking about filling up all your other buckets and not being well-rounded and you only focus on like the only reason why you're doomed to not having a partner is cuz

8:33 you're short, you're going to believe that anywhere you go. Yeah, you're going to be like oh, it's cuz I'm short, huh? You're wearing those glasses. Exactly. Cuz if that dude is 5'3" and he starts hitting up clubs with a big red nose, he's going to start hearing oh, I have like a big red nose. Maybe he should do that for a couple months and then it and it and it dis- it distracts him He's like it was my nose this whole time. I just take this off. Yeah, what a big brown nose. I should just take this off and get taller. I'll get HEIGHT SURGERY. SO I'LL BE IN 5'3", I'll be 5'5" now. Cuz like growing up, I was always one of the smallest ones in class, but I never even knew how tall or short I was cuz I always got like the most talkative or most uh class clown or whatever. Hottest kid. You won that five years in a row, isn't that crazy? Yeah. Teacher decides.

9:24 The staff does. Damn, THAT KID'S HOT. IT'S AN AMERICAN TRADITION. THE STAFF VOTES ON IT. BYE. BARKING QUAD. Voted on by the staff. Don't get too old, you're going TO GET DETHRONED. LITTLE Timmy's catching up. Oh that is so disturbing. The hot kid wars. So do you guys know any hot kids? I think What? Hot. That's a trap answer. Don't answer. That makes sense. If you have any insecurities about you, right? So, like let's say you are short or you are like not attractive or whatever it is. I think you can let other parts of you

10:14 shine so hard that that just overshadows. That's actually one. Or smelling good. I think smelling good. Sometimes I'm like What if you're What if you're so short they can't catch the whiff? They got to They got to bend down and sniff you. Like the top OF YOUR HEAD. THAT'S CHANEL BLUE. I FEEL WHO SMELLS GOOD? NO, OH WAIT. WHEN I WALK PAST SOMEONE and they smell good, I always look back. Really? Yeah. Oh, wow. Smell is Smell is I feel like a good strong Yeah. Oh, there you go. That's it. Not too much. Not too much. Not too much. Not overwhelming, but like Axe body spray. That's a great one. Yeah. Hey, high school Axe body spray was easy.

11:06 Behind the ears. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. Oh, yeah. Being like the funny guy when you are shorter is actually you get a leg up on them. It's helpful. It's true. Cuz your delivery and everything looks cooler and funnier when you're shorter. But like developing those other aspects of yourself is what is confident. Like when you build a skill Whether you're short or tall or whatever height you are. That's the thing. That's what I was going to say. Even if you're extremely tall, you can have the same insecurity. Yeah. Like you still have to build your character outside of being tall. Yeah, cuz if you're tall, you're a freak show. Yeah. You're a ████ freak. And that's all people say, "Oh, you're so tall." Your clothes don't fit, you ████ weirdo. You don't even fit the airplane seat, MAN. BEDS YOU DON'T FIT. Like If you don't call shotgun, you're screwed. You got to duck your head everywhere. You can't sit in the middle, loser. The first thing people will say when you said like, "Oh, you're tall." Right?

11:57 That's to to to to your husband. Yeah. That's always always the first Your husband's tall, too? Very tall. How tall is he? Uh 2 m. 1.96 He's like a freak show. What's that? Do people ask Do people stop him and ask like, "Or do you play in the NBA?" Yeah, all the time. For sure. What's that? The NBA. Convert it to American. 6'5" Holy ████ yeah. If you're 6'5" and above, holy ████ You You have a PICTURE OF HIM? YEAH. CAN I TAKE A SHOT THIS WAY? THIS VIDEO IS NOT HELPING THE SHORT KIDS. WHAT I'M TRYING TO SAY WHAT I'M TRYING TO SAY YOU SAY ONE INSPIRATIONAL THING, BUT AT THE END of the day you're both married to freaking tall dudes.

12:49 Okay, okay. Let me say this. I didn't marry him for the height. All right? You know, it doesn't matter Yeah, but if But IF YOU WERE BUT IF YOU WERE SHORT, you would have skipped him. He's short, too. What money? Okay, here's an Here Here's I think here's a redemption one. Have you ever dated anyone shorter than you? Yeah, like he was like I swear to god like HE EITHER IS TALLER A LITTLE BIT or like like right here. How is that redemption if the relationship ended? No, no. Huh? He got the talent. He was Bruno Mars. Buttercup Build me up, buttercup. Yeah, yeah, that one.

13:40 And also I bet when you're on When you Buttercup Honey, that's good. There's a great equalizer, talent. But also when he's singing on stage, he's looks taller cuz you're sitting down looking up. So, then you go, "Ooh." But you're already in love. Too late. Too late. That's what they have to do. Wow them before they sit down. You know, so they can't tell how short you are. "Come down here, pretty boy." And he's like, "I'MMA STAY UP HERE." WE CAN TALK FROM HERE LIKE THIS. FOR SURE YOU GOT TALENT and they have to be nice. I feel like a lot of short people are super mean. Yeah, cuz they're grumpy. Yeah. Isn't that funny? They're like they have like a weird thing, you know? Like a short temper sometimes. SHORT TEMPER? WE'RE KIND OF SMOKING THEM NOW. OKAY, JAKE. I'M JUST JK.

14:32 NO, YEAH, YEAH. I think some people do confuse is what I meant to say. Some people do compensate by trying to have bigger, yeah, aggression. I've seen that. I remember in all the gyms that I would train at, if there were like a small guy in the room, you would know like he would be have the biggest chip on his shoulder and he would be like kind of like the meanest guy. You're like, "All right, dude. You don't have to ████ kick my ass." But then you just put your hand on his head and you're like Oh, IT'S NOT BLUE. WOW. CHANEL BLUE. PICK HIM UP. PICK HIM UP. YEAH. IT IS ALSO RELATIVE, I think, too. Like if you're in Norway, then Dude, you're Or in you're in a What's it called? Netherlands? You could be 6'3" and short over there. Exactly. Yeah, it's it's relative. I was in Vietnam, I'm a giant. Oh, yeah. So, if you're really short

15:22 here, just go to like the Philippines. That's true. Exactly. Filipinos are tall. My cousins are all like, "Woah." You know, they're really short. My dad is on one now. He's like tall. Yeah. Like my mom is here. But if you're in the Netherlands Sorry, sorry, sorry, sorry, sorry. ZOOM IN ON HER. ENLARGE IT AND THEN ADD SOUND EFFECTS from From Breaking Bad, Walt Jr. MAKE IT LIKE A BOOKMARK. YOU KNOW, WHEN YOU WALK by like a hot girl. And then make it downloadable link FOR THE GIF. YEAH, THE RELA- YEAH, THE RELATIVITY OF IT. LET'S SAY A dude here is like 6' and he feels super tall and then he goes to the Netherlands and then he's like actually he's one of the shorter ones. Yeah. So. It's like beauty standard in my country here, you know? You could be attractive

16:12 here and Beauty standards? Yeah, go where you're loved. I think if you're a short guy, you can't bring up your height all the time. You can't. Cuz some guys they bring it up all the time. Like in conversations? Yeah, yeah. Or like they'll joke about it constantly and you're just like, "All right, dude. Just ████ Or like if you're going to talk about like keep it short. Well, I think we've heard some I think we've heard some pretty detrimental suggestions for all these guys to feel worse. So, uh I'm just kidding. You got to be better every day. That's the whole thing. The whole thing is that they know that uh you know, your personality is going to take it the rest of the way. You know? Whatever Whatever you're missing in height you need 90% of Honestly, yeah. Even if you're the hottest dude in the world and then you don't have a personality Like girls will break up with you after 3 months. They're bored or whatever. And honestly, we've seen time and time again gorgeous

17:02 people, men and women, at at later ages in life having a hard time finding love for whatever reason. It's not just height. None of that just comes into play. But yeah, some people will make it seem like that's the reason. But just don't be an ████ and think it's your height. That's the main lesson. Also, you can still be a gangster in bed. Yeah, because it's that's the different plane. It's on the Y axis or the X axis. Yeah, yeah, yeah. When you're lying down, height ain't a thing. But they have difficulty getting there. Well, you just crawl up.

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