0:00 why do they make up the three-day rule what the text her every minute what are you doing right now we don't need I want to go see her oh I know where she works I'm go drive her to go see her right out you [Music] know okay Aaron and Jess you're going to be giving guys some helpful advice here oh yes let's just imagine that there's a guy that you like okay and then you know he likes you back so it's going pretty well okay but then he starts doing too much what is doing too much what's too much well I I I don't do enough why do you guys look at each other I don't do enough that's why I got married that's good I love you want to go first but you you you've been in a situation where you're like this gu like just coming on too strong too fast and being too nice at the beginning
0:51 well it makes me feel like I don't believe you then like almost like love bombing then well it's just like like if you're doing that then like my brain goes but what if they just like you so much they can't they can't contain their excitement I mean but do I believe you oh then it makes me feel like that I'm better than them like or like do you not have anything else with your day their league if they're being too nice yeah I don't so much they never had someone like you before so then so they're so thirsty well then they see that that would make me nervous cuz like I don't want to be your like yeah I don't want to be your whole thing like you need to have like your own life and your own stuff cuz if not then like this is never going to work yeah it doesn't work out to put somebody on a pedestal either yeah makes me it would probably make you feel un comfy like you know like you could even fart in front of them like then what do you do so then so then that's why that's why you go for the really s█████ ████ boy guys because they don't they care they act like they don't care about you and you're like ooh
1:42 you're mysterious yeah they're like oh you're playing games they're like no I actually don't want a relationship they're like oh but are you sure that makes sense though like where you feel like you're it's like a really sensitive like House of Cards kind of deal where you're like you can topple it over and it'll break his world yeah but I I think if you find that person that is like that then and you don't mind that then that's your person it's like if you like them that much back that's totally cool but to write away it's like you do you even know their last name like like what's my middle name do you know my favorite color do you know what car you like yeah like Aaron and I were hanging out and one of my guy friends was coming on super strong to Aaron and I was like what do you like about her and he's like she's just so beautiful and I really feel like we have a lot in common I was like tell tell me three things about her
2:32 he's like well you know she's just so beautiful and she was like no not not physical things tell me something yeah I was like yelling at him I was like no say something say something else I was like that's boring say something else I'm just hor me he's like I want to be with her I'm like no no he wanted to he actually legitimately felt like he wanted yeah I was like dude you just met her and it's a lot he's like is it okay if we go on a date I was like why are you asking me I'm like sitting right there it's not okay do you're not allowed to date my friends cuz it doesn't work out more than it does he not hot though he's fine I guess he's he's all right she's like cuz that makes all the difference right if like a really like hot guy friends who have done that and I've still been like girl can it's so annoying like whenever I'm dating
3:23 somebody their friends are always I'm just like please stop hitting on Aaron cuz it's just really really frustrating like my fiance all of his friends hit on her and I'm like stop cuz she's not going anywhere she's always going to be around I was like please stop being creepy cuz it's not you're you're not going to be around then cuz you don't want the drama and exactly I used to be that guy what do you mean what do you mean you hit on everyone's friends no no no like you know like um when you're when you're doing too much yeah oh super simp Bart was super simp you don't know until after yeah that's true when you're when you're that person you're like why do they make up the 3-day rule what the ████ I'm going to ████ text her every minute what are you doing right now we don't need I want to go see her oh I know where she works I'm go drive her to go see her right you know it's like you're like that you have that kind of energy stalker but then if someone asks you like yo chill out like what are you
4:13 talking about I just like her man what and then it's like you don't know that you're all hella desperate and so I used to be the guy where I'm like oh who's that open you know cuz because like it's it's easier Super S it's easier to go fishing if the fish like swim across across you versus like trying to meet someone somewhere else yeah absolutely yeah so I I totally get that feeling but then when you're in that when you are it if someone checks you you don't know oh for sure I've been there too yeah I understand that I think that's the problem that like when I'm asking them that I'm trying to talk to the guys that finish with this whole thing and they still don't know that they're the person that's at fault yeah and they do it again and then they blame the girl that's like oh she just don't she just wants an ████ exactly yeah yeah understand a being with a nice guy is what she deserves they could just smell
5:04 the desperation that's why I think um absolutely yeah it's the also the words that are confusing so like when someone says like um they don't like a nice guy right I think it also takes a little bit of self-awareness to know that you're not actually being nice you're trying to manipulate someone to love you that's like the nice guy thing right love bombing right cuz you're like you're not really that nice but you're trying to convince her and win her so hard that she could see through your fake niess yes so then that is dope so then I think yeah like it takes that time to kind of go oh wait like I'm I'm trying so hard to immediately get her and lock her in that I'm doing these things cuz I'm intensely feeling these things but I got to have
5:54 self-control and I think that like crazy lack of self-control is what is a big turn off mhm but then it's like yeah it's not real niess it's not kindness you know mhm it's not genuine Oh I thought nice guy was just like you too soft no are you ████ petting a dog right now like that's so nice all the dog a dog right now like you want to pet my dog get the but if you think about it right like think about no how differently we see each like guys and girls just see things so differently right like when guys see a girl it's like oh I want to ████ marry her she's hot I'm ready to go but he could be getting into a big ████ trouble he's like he doesn't care if she's a psychopath he doesn't care if she's a loser he just goes she's hot I want to be with her for the rest of my life a
6:44 lot of guys are like that until you actually date women and be with them and spend like be in long-term relationships with them and you're like I just want someone chill right but I think on the flip side women get way more experience with that type of like area and they're like let's get to know each other first where guys are just like no we got to be together right now I'm never going to be able to have another girl like you right like Full Speed Ahead Full Speed Ahead I do think it's a different experience cuz I think girls one are always getting hit on but also I think y'all are wired to like see through the ████ in a in a in a little way we have a good ████ detector yeah right like BS protector and I think it's like a what do you call it like a maybe like a evolutionary protector ction thing where like young girls will get with that psychopath
7:34 right and then they'll they'll learn when they get a little bit older but then everyone gets kind of fooled in the beginning and then as you wise up you're like okay this guy's acting a little weird I don't know what it is but you have the Spidey senses and guys are just like I don't know why she doesn't like me yeah I've had to I've gotten messages a lot on the JK about like from guys that are just like here's my situation you know I'm doing everything for this girl I'm like going out of my way to be there for you still like don't do that just like focus on yourself have your own thing going on that's the nice guy thing yeah it's like obsessive too yeah it's obsessive it's obsessive yeah cuz then that makes me feel like if we start dating and you're already like this before we are and you're obsessed like that then like what are you going to be like if like we go out to lunch like is that going to be a problem it's like don't you have your own life yeah exactly like don't you have your own things we just me again like I should be like your side quest and your bonus points that's where you
8:24 get all the points I shouldn't be like your end goal I should be like your side quest until when you go I'm your man you my my me ████ is that I was supposed to say focus on me but totally came out wrong I thought you were being like weird Asian I thought he was doing like a Yoshi voice I thought so what the ████ am I saying but no but seriously I was like what agent is that no okay so I I I think it should be like that always I feel like if like you're dating someone like they should always be like the bonus like you should be happy with you happy with your life that should be your thing because again like the side quest where you get all the points yeah so like they should be like that beautiful side quest that is just with you for the end and your end goal should be like your thing you should be able to like be and there's like I feel like when they're being like when guys come on too strong too in the beginning are being too nice there you don't get the like
9:14 authenticity and then also it's like if they're not going to be able to give you ████ and that's such an important part of about being in a relationship is just giving your partner just a hard time about certain things and being able to make fun of them and yeah that dynamic yeah it's important you know what I think it is it's um most guys actually don't get much attention from women so they don't have much experience in general cuz and then when they finally get someone to kind of be interested back they're like oh ████ I don't know if I'm going to have this chance ever again oh so I I think in general like if you're like you know fairly attractive or even just like average like I think girls are always getting hit on so you you get that you could you can have
10:04 the experience like if you wanted to you could probably go on a date every single day and you'll have the social experience and then you'll get these things right where most guys I think they probably will get one date every year or something and if they don't try it'll be years of no dating seriously so they have to go out and do it right so that's that's the hard part is you have to go out and you have to get rejected you have to get the miles in and then you have to have the experience of like long-term relationships to even get to that point where you understand how to like work you know complexity of it yeah so I think a lot of the desperation comes from like I don't even know if I'm going to have another chance with another girl that's true especially in the early years like I feel like it was default that most guys have that sense of I'm going to blow up I'm going to blow it
10:54 you know I'm going to mess up but then like that's not really on the girl side in the early years it's like they're just the waiting for you to ████ up and you're like ████ that I got to do this right I got to do this right and all the pressure is like on that end so I can see why they would overshoot okay but I also think that it should be hard for guys I because they need to get over that they need to learn how to be chill and calm and they need to understand like that's a hard thing to learn man yeah to be chill but it's the filtering process don't you want a confident guy that has genuine confidence like he needs to go through all that yeah to deserve a woman like it I don't think it's I don't think he'll appreciate it until he does yeah I feel like all those social dynamics you have to learn not even just in relationships but even like in business or whatever like you ever
11:44 meet like the like like one of your friends like let's say they're getting into a new industry and like a allar in Industry comes in oh my God that's them I got to get their number D we got to start networking and you're like that's the same energy where like they go hey what's up man is this this my business card um I think we should this is for sure cuz like you know we just we got work on something we got to do it it's like the same thing as a chick we like dude I don't even know who the ████ you are you actually don't know who the ████ I am either yeah and you're trying to like get in bed already like this guy's a ████ creep and I feel like you have to learn all those things across across the board I wonder what's the what's the cool version of that do it the cool way cool way the business c yeah dude I'm definitely not cool dude I like like oh ████ is that my business C he dropped it
12:35 oh oh sh I got I got I got two of them you want one that's so that's so wow I got two of them you have two of yours you have two of your what's going on over here dude I would be dude if somebody networked me like that I would be be dying dude yes bro that's funny as ████ oh my God this guy just goes is that my business car is that is that mine is that mine that okay that that would work though we like we have that's a good pickup cuz like we've been places where like some pickup things have been real ████ good and should I I'll please do please do I won't say the name um so we were out and still to this day my favorite pickup like ever by somebody is
13:25 when we were out at um do you know what I'm talking about no come on man you do like like we were out and he came over and he was like Hey so I'm going to talk talking to your friend W come on don't make me say w he was like do you think this is working he's like so hey what's up my name is he's like do you think she likes me cuz like I think she's really cool so like should ask her about like things and he did that like this whole little bit and I was just I was like I already know who you are so this is just hilarious in the beginning but to this day is still my favorite thing it Laural Hardware hard it was so like he literally comes up he like so your friend is really hot um should I just ask her her name and it was so good he's like did I did I mess that up should I try it again hey how's it going but like not in a in like a mean way of like the H but he was like do you think it's working I don't think it's working so do you come here
14:16 often like it it's funny it's okay ENT it was such a funny way and I will still to this day remember that like that was the best way to be picked up and it worked and it was like an interesting way to be vulnerable too where it's like like am I ████ up right now it was the cutest little skit ever and it totally fell for it that's pretty impressive what about just like going around air dropping your number to piece it's like the new way of like airdropping the nudes when you're at that's what I do for work sometimes I'm like what you're like who's going to accept no the the on the plane airdropping dickpics always works send all the nudes at brunch or whatever do you remember nudes yeah do you remember we be at brunch and that was like the thing at that one little brunch are you saying nudes or NS nudes oh nudes like noodles I was like when yeah remember like if you had your air drop on it was like that one just send you it would just send a bunch of ████ it like specific
15:07 spot for like a special usually at the airport though lot lots of nudes lots of dicks at the airport do that to remember I do that to people when they're filming at concerts so that it ████ Cuts their video off and you see how people man whenever I'm at like a work networking event or something I just like airdrop my menu to everybody and see if people will buy oh that's cool oh that's smart actually we there was a um there was a guy at at at our P Rock parties who got banned because he would when girls would go can you take a picture with my phone he would go yeah and while while they're posing he would go through their camera roll and and send himself whatever nudes they had of themselves that's hilarious I would Apple pay myself though it's like know ████ oh are you serious we do no bad
15:57 boy that's crazy that's doing too much that's doing too much I love that it was uh remember Donnie that drummer guy
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