0:00 thank you [Music] welcome back to an interesting episode of careful boys where today we have geoquan yeah I I would like to settle this thing because let's settle the score guys because we we mentioned something a while back and we got a really weird response and now I'm seeing content everywhere where it kind of addresses the same thing and I don't think we necessarily agree with it so um here it is why do some people believe that dating outside of your race or having preferences outside of your race counts as self-hating internalizers are we in 1932 what the ████ the thing around where like someone who says like oh you know I like Puerto Ricans like why do you hate yourself why
0:50 do you hate Chinese people well that's already going in with the assumption that you're specifically seeking out another race yeah it's because they're cherry picking because they do exist like these people do exist right like there are people that have some kind of trauma with their you know same with gender then no with their own ethnicity so like girls that might grow up with the abusive father or whatever and then they they have this weird trigger when it comes to let's say Asian girls that grew up with you know bad Asian men around them right so they have this trigger with whenever they see Asian men and then so then they go oh I only like black guys or I only like white guys or whatever and also I seen this same case in uh like either adoptees or someone that grew up in an all-white neighborhood or something like that where they're so accustomed to
1:41 seeing like the popular kid the hot guy is this one One race whatever and then they just have a taste for that and they can't see themselves doing other ████ the inverse happens where you don't you're let's say you're just amongst nothing but like white people right and then now you're out of your race and now you travel the world and you're an Asian you're like ████ Asians are Doper I don't know but I'm talking about the people specifically who are looking at the negative aspects of what exists and how they create this bias so it may create this bias because of these examples of self-hate which it does it does happen but then the blanket statement that they create where every interracial mixed couple is self-hate that's ridiculous you're talking about ████ maybe billions of people yeah that's racist right because I'm also thinking like okay let's say it is self
2:31 hey who cares like why like yeah how does it affect you the people that that judge and they go oh this is ████ self-hate that's right I actually think because they want the ████ themselves but they can't get it that's the thing that I think that's the that's the biggest reason they're like she should be with me because if you hear a lot of the the Asian guys that think like this they're claiming the women as if that's they're the entitled to them like oh they're taking our girls right so in their head it's like That was supposed to be my potential mate that you took away from me right so then the psychology behind it was like a projection it is it is it's like why does he get to have my woman and that's their explanation to to make sense of the situation too I think I think they just go there but when guys are like you know what like there are actual girls that harmfully will say I only date white
3:24 guys as a method of like feeling like that makes them better that's also true that's true that is true deny that that exists that exists all the time yeah I think when a guy responds to even that by saying like oh you just hate your own race a lot I also think there's parts of that where both of them are weird they should get married yeah there is that too because I always I thought it was really weird that uh when certain like even when I was saying like oh yeah when I date a Filipino girl I felt odd uncomfortable feelings of a pattern final thing yeah like that I felt that way growing up like familial like it felt like I was like uh too close to home a little bit yeah but then dating your sister but then people were like for me really yeah what but you know what but you know what Iran was
4:15 dating his cousins that's different yeah I was doing that yeah but then but I figured it out what what made me feel that did you really forget we're not ████ moving I did but then no that's a that's a that's a difference my first cousin second cousin no it was not like that it was just a not like subscribe to the channel but I realized why I developed that feeling why and it's this very specific thing so this is my history of ex-girlfriends it goes Filipino Filipino Korean Filipino Chinese Chinese Filipino white white white white white okay and the reason for that is because you have ten girls that's 25 years of dating and then my current I don't know my current girl now is like eight of those years but up until then I was just an idiot I don't think it's cool that you date a lot of people that's dumb but there's nothing
5:05 wrong with dating a lot of people what happened to me is that what I realized through dating Filipino people is that um I I am not the Orthodox dream of a Filipino parent that their daughter is dating me like I'm not the first pick I have a weird ████ life I'm not I wasn't getting good grades he's not a nurse not the traditional exactly so you know my my thing that I dealt with a lot of the time either dancing or play basketball or something but they want the medical thing they don't want that yeah they want to x-ray Filipino they want a ████ pharmacist Filipino they want a nurse Filipino so what I dealt with even when I was dating you know Chinese girls or Korean like what happened to me every time in those early years was I would have to feel like I'm doing parental approval all over again
5:55 because your own parents already yeah dealing with that in my own family and I already coped with it I already said all right I'm the black sheep I suck ass I'm I'm okay with that yeah and then I go to my you know Partners family and they feel the same way about me oh that's and it's hard it's like oh ████ like I have to like and and they're even more predisposed to not like me because they have to protect their daughter yeah and I can understand that and then later on as I started dating outside of Asians I found that when I dated and and these aren't just like California white uh Partners I had it was it was Nashville white Tampa white uh Denver Tampa white is this Swedish white and now Australian white and every one of those things the the parental feelings were more like they wanted me to feel good about myself that's more open and I really understood
6:47 that like in my particular situation where there are qualities about me that I appreciate and I enjoy about myself and they'll they'll never be appreciated by certain uh parents and that's totally understandable but I won't ever be able to impress them enough because I don't feel confident in myself with them and and I want them to get the the dream son in law that they want yeah so it never worked out for me dating Asians for that reason specifically and I think because of my unique experience I took with me an odd trauma and like an odd Taste of like oh God dating a Filipino girl makes me feel like I have to fight this battle all over again yeah dating Asians to me felt like dating outside of my race because I'm Japanese yeah like in America everything is like Asian is it's like you're grouped up into one group but we're not the ████ same dude like
7:39 Anthony has the best ████ reactions yeah I mean Japanese is Asian right but then the the when you're in Asia they don't ████ see it that way they're like I'm ████ Chinese what are you talking about like that we're so different like it's it's a different world completely a different world so then like I never even saw it as like I'm dating my own kind but how do you respond to someone that's calling you self-hating internalized racist because you're dating Hannah like that's your problem yeah it sounds like a person or because you're with because you're with them I think where they are so stupid and inexperienced is it's hard enough to keep any relationship period it's hard enough to have someone love you and want to be with you and stay
8:29 with you you just gotta hope that the person that you're with will tolerate your ████ and stay with you as long as possible so most people that are making these claims they're in Loveless worlds like they don't know what it's like to try to hold on to something I think that's the explanation though the guys that's the people that say that about like oh you hate this race or you're not gonna date this race because you're self-hating I think it's a over simplification I think the more likely answers that they have racist too right it's so racist it's like okay yeah that could be a potential but more likely it's what Joe's saying it's like that's hard to be in a relationship perspective is so surface that they think that that's the only like determining factor that a couple stays together yeah and all it's a big it can
9:20 be a big talk like it can be a big part of a relationship and I think before people think of like oh when you date outside your race it is a big deal especially in Asian communities but I don't know and like to your point Joe where you're saying that just to be in a relationship in general is really difficult because you're bringing two separate people that have separate worlds now combining these separate worlds and kind of combing through all that and then when you're dating outside of your race there's this other added layer of like you're not dating someone that grew up in a sort of similar cultural background yeah why would you want to make it harder on yourself you're not trying to make it really it does add another layer of complexity now that like there's two cultures kind of coming together so yeah I don't think people want to make it harder for themselves on purpose but we're all an interracial mixed
10:10 except that guy but I would considered according to him us Asians are not the same it's not the same you are I think the only thing that brings Asians together is the ground Foundation of um Confucianism that's it there's that's we have a hierarchy and vital like ████ piety ████ where it's like uh your your government parents all that like the structure is the same so you bring a bunch of Asians together then you can like assemble and work yeah I also think it's like a highly um I think the more you get into relationships and understand how people work in society it becomes a highly individualistic and I think people that have those blanket statements they're still stuck in that phase where they
11:00 just see like all zebras are zebras you know what I mean like when you have when you go to like a dog breeder if I'm not in a ████ golden retriever world yeah they all look like golden retrievers but they can tell oh yeah like Sammy likes to ████ chews on her foot ████ Timmy likes to ████ on the floor yeah like and like they look at Alex Asians retrievers and they can tell all the individualistic things about each other because that's what they're looking at they're not looking at the surface like looks and skin color or whatever right you got ████ you know like also I like to think that like let's say um you go to a like Japan or China or any of these they're predominantly one ethnic group One race so it's like you come to a place like America that's like a Melting Pot of a lot of different people you're gonna have people that marry different people it happens you
11:51 gotta get a mixed bag and it's not good or bad or it doesn't make you better it's just you ████ fell in love with this guy yeah yeah yeah I also have preferences I I also don't like that statement of like your own kind because if we're an American our own kind is like he's American yeah I have way more similarities with like you went outside what am I doing I have more similarities with like let's say my the Mexican kids in my neighborhood that I grew up than Japanese kids in Japan I can see that so I'm like sure why do Asians and other people believe that their their old country because it's Ray racist I don't ████ know man like we're Americans and like it's a very unique experience I also don't think some of these people have dated enough I don't know that's true dated at all it's honestly like that's my I think if you date enough
12:42 diverse people you just figure out like it's just ████ love dude does it have sticking to the rule duh and they're right we all ████ up I do think though from my experience there's way more of a connection through class and maybe time of like shared memories of time era so like let's say you're Millennial with Millennial right and then you have shared memory of Ninja Turtles or something like that or some phenomenon like Saved by the Bell in a western Nation a lot of us watch the same shows right and also like class like if you're rich and you all had Maids you know what that's like you know what it's like to have a servant they're gonna connect like a rich Indonesian is going to connect with the rich British more than you know like maybe a poor Indonesian and a rich
13:32 Indonesian so like maybe the same Foods you might eat but I've had way more of a connection with class than race yeah yeah all right and that's the same thing with me it's like in some relationships I feel like Aladdin and others I feel like Prince Ali foreign either way I'm Indian you should be Aladdin for Halloween one year dude just to see what happens but then it's true like because a lot of these videos are probably neck shark thanks oh gosh thank you for being as a service a lot of these like videos are like guys that are like angry at Asian girls for saying that they're they only date whites but it's like they're you're losing it it's also like also that statement though of someone saying I only date this thing it's also ████ weird it is super weird ████ weird I'd rather say like I only date
14:23 um people with good morals or like people that like I don't know I'd rather go with big butts Hobbies or some ████ then like I only date this like it's weird but if somebody really does look at that like that makes them Elite like I only date white people like let them have that ████ delusion yeah like why does that affect you yeah we don't have a shortage of Purity because she could be dating like kind of white and then she thinks she's prestigious because she's like I'm with a white person and we're just like nope you're with Cletus dude Cletus yeah but that is The Stereotype those like you see some of these like dude like see dork white guys I go to Asia and they think they deserve like the hottest Asian chick yes because they go away Asian girls love us you know like yeah but that's an ecosystem in itself
15:13 it shouldn't affect you it shouldn't make you angry statistically they do have larger penises so I mean I get it sometimes Anthony what team are you on brother oh dude Bieber you want bro I thought the video's over dude you just admitted you have a little dick no I have an average one white guys just have big dick dude you sounds like you want to marry a white guy on average like you are I'm just jealous yeah you're six foot shut up I'm 5 12. this is probably big too basically the point is if you ████ fall in love with someone outside your race don't feel bad about that ████ don't let someone else make you feel bad about that it's fine oh yeah that's our stance but also yeah who yeah like if they do have internalized racism right like what's the outrage toward I feel bad I don't know I guess I actually feel I don't know like when I see someone
16:03 like that that hate themselves maybe their culture or they're embarrassed of it because maybe they grew up in a neighborhood where the kids around them made them feel less than right so then they they develop this internal like to me that makes me feel sorry for them not hate them yeah like I don't get angry at the girl for thinking she's Superior because she's dating only white guys or whatever I feel like damn how much how must that feel you look at yourself in the mirror you ████ hate your ████ ass eyes you ████ you know what I mean like you're like I wish I was white you know and you ████ bleach your hair blonde and ████ and all that that's different if you wish you were wrong and then I'm all like that's a different problem like that's so sad right like that's a mental disability each their own issues you know what I'm saying true everybody's different and it's not to say that we're all supposed to agree
16:53 like unilaterally everybody has to have the exact same idealisms and live by the same principles but I don't love that I don't feel angry at her I went sideways okay I think I think also like how does that affect me and my ability to get women like if she doesn't that's the bigger problem yeah I'm thinking about really cares and do you even want her is she attractive to you in the first place shouldn't it just be her loss then that's how it should be seen yeah but that's why I think you're right when you say some guys have an animosity because they feel like they're entitled to this person's taste or they use it what's preventing you from dating outside like do you only prefer Asian women and you want pure Asian like Superior race children so like is that
17:44 what you're trying to do is keep you know like I don't get it like yeah it seems weird you don't get her but what about all the other available women out there that are single lots of ways to you know what there's lots of ways to enrich your own Community without putting your sperm in all of them you don't have to ████ I love how that was a message for the camera like you guys need to understand I do want to talk to these guys with these positions though and and I I actually want to know what their I think a lot of it too is like an excuse it's easier to say that because it's like a bigger problem than you and it kind of takes your own responsibility out of the situation of like oh I can't change yourself and develop it kind of yeah because that's person you want to be for the perfect wife or husband like there has to be an aspect of you to change yourself or to better yourself
18:34 or progress yourself I think people don't I think it's harder to not do that you know but also I think people need to mind their own ████ business you know yeah that's it yeah mind their own ████ business stop worrying about who's dating who ████ hey yeah whoa my sticker man bro you better watch out that's okay I wonder bring that up there's like Asian guys out there in like the Midwest in all white neighborhood and then like these three Asian girls that he went up to were like ew well Asian guys only date white guys and then he's like man ████ this ████ dude I didn't even do anything wrong right and I'm wondering like if I'm just in LA and I don't know these guys lives that's true and that they built this animosity because I think that's fair because that might I
19:24 could imagine that ████ because I'm in La dude and like also it's different right like we can actually get really give a ████ about stuff well I I also I also would like if someone said that to you you probably wouldn't care I would also Imagine a similar scenario let's say as an Asian dude who like grew up in an all-white like neighborhood and like let's say I went to high school right and then some white chick starts dating this Asian dude because he's the one Asian dude there and then other white homies are like dude that's messed up you got to be dating your own kind we would look at that be like that's some pure area and race ████ yeah so if it's going the other way and Asians are complaining about girls dating white dudes isn't that some pure Aryan race type like mentality yeah brother raise that hand up again I've heard the argument of people saying that white people don't say that about other white people where they go oh dating him is like dating my brother I've heard it from a white girl yeah I
20:14 heard that too yeah well I know a couple whites that say the same thing they don't date other whites because it makes them feel like home where they were from in Tampa and like they're just like I I just don't I feel like their experience is so similar to mine yeah I want to date people with different experiences and different cultures people gravitate to the universe and and usually white people it is their sibling and they're with them and then they're just like it is kind of like dating my brother but he is my brother so it's okay but it's also funny that within just whites as a whole there's way more diversity than you know Filipino Americans yeah it's like this guy could be polish or ████ something else like that's pretty white to me [Laughter] I don't know man this is a weird why are we going backwards dude like yeah it's a weird thing we got some real Elementary
21:05 Minds speaking out like I think these dudes are just mad at a very specific type of girl yeah and it's and it's getting kind of bled over to just everyone in interrelation interracial relations they're mad at themselves they're really just mad at them they're empowered by the ████ keyboard yeah that's another thing oh they're simple but these but these kind of thoughts still existed decades I remember when we were coming up in like people still thought this way I think people have always been mad at themselves even like the Stick it to the Man or people getting mad at ████ billionaires it's just people have their own problems and it's just way easier to blame something else than to change yourself change your life man ████ you on that ████ billionaire it's way more comforting you just feel better if I stopped using Amazon then you're like I love Amazon just ████ Bezos these people also just really do not want you to think you're better than
21:56 them yeah but no what I like about that statement is that they think you're even thinking about them in the I ain't thinking about you I'm trying to ████ survive on my own right here I'm trying not to ████ up my own relationship making videos about you that's all we're not thinking about you if you're we're just directly addressing you if you're a guy yeah you don't you're you're sexless you're Loveless you don't have any of that going for you that's your ████ fault like I think that's it so you're talking right at me it's up to you talking to Nick you're looking right at me dude seriously like if you you're not entitled to it you have to earn love you have to earn I'm trying you have to earn it like that has to be yeah it's like you you might think you don't have options you could be bitter so how do I earn love though
22:48 you got to be Rico Suave
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