0:00 thank you [Music] so welcome back to careful boys we're very careful boys we're currently off the Record today we're talking about guys and the dating World keep on letting them ████ down ████ are hard to please what can I say yeah they are hard to please tell me about it as an owner of one almost impossible ████ owner yeah I'm gonna take some out I've owned a few ████ and they're really hard own and operate owner operator owner and operator wow you got your Supra ring for your engagement yeah refurbished uh every three years okay or the wear and tear gets messes with their brain you gotta put freon in it what was the question the real question uh guys just keep on letting all the ████ down anymore yeah yeah and I think it's something might come um dating is more difficult now yeah
0:54 difficult as in like it's changing it's the the way that it's been done just even pre-covered I feel like it's changed post covered how to change the postcode in your observations because you were actually I dated during covet which was that was already a ████ huge one because even if you're on dating apps or anything like it's like now you're like well should we you know meet up during this time because it's also it was it it depends if it's like fresh lockdown right no one's actually meeting no yes that's socially accepted yeah but toward the end like everybody was just breaking rules yeah yeah but in the very beginning it was just like people were just chatting online or whatever and then like I think people had to be good DM game and then you had long conversations long talks whatever and then like toward the end it was it
1:45 just seemed like everybody was just hooking up yeah but I don't know I definitely feel like it changed from like pre where people did the whole like let's meet up let's talk let's hang out let's have a good time let's date I mean people still hooked up but it seemed like more people were having relationships what did you do in how did you ████ up do you think in your your time dating ████ during covet I don't know I didn't maybe wasn't the mentality that I had the I I do think I had a more uh Hot Boy Summer mentality okay I think I think you're International too you're going ████ worldwide dude sorry [Laughter]
2:48 it's a veteran I I say yes we do ████ these hoes no um maybe more people were just like I see all these failed relationships around me what's the point so you you have a bunch of guys that are either just not trying at all like apathy or guys that are just like I just want the ████ maybe I think it's also I think it's more so that either they don't know what they want or they just want to hook up and very very few people are intentionally dating to marry or division really yeah find their match yeah and by the way look we titled this video in a juicy way about guys letting ████ down but it's both people you know it's both yeah yeah yeah we know we got to use the
3:40 click bait yeah but no so so your experience has been similar to that like our guys not trying or what what yeah I think guys I think a majority of them I think are more in like the hookup mindset um and I think there are very few select people I haven't met them yet that are intentionally dating with the purpose of truly trying to find their match do you and getting to know someone do you think these guys they all fit in in a certain age group or like maybe even phase in their life like have you noticed I mean I don't know Filipino or just like Filipino boys Filipinos they're all Chinese they're all Asian really no no I can only speak on my experience yeah um but I mean I date between
4:30 my agent up but it's usually I stay a little bit older like at least three four years older um and they seem like they don't or it looks just crazy like yeah that's crazy there's there's men out there who are 35 36 37 who are I think have either given up um they have lost all sense of like what it means to be a man how to like plan a date how to like like jaded somebody be intentional with their time um are you looking for that like traditional kind of like chivalrous dude that like yeah like the dude that plans the day opens the door shows up on time well it sounds like it's like traditional bare minimum upstairs yeah yeah show up that's crazy the guy I'm
5:20 wondering what like just the standard it's just like that's not even it moves anymore when you talk to your your other girlfriends are they all experienced it's like across the board a lot of dudes are just not even upholding the standard for like 10 years I mean the people that I do know are in relationships oh I see so like but they've been in relationships for years it's like you guys you guys have been in a relationship forever you know seven eight plus years so it's a little bit different I wonder if the guys act like that because they can like they're still getting dates they're still getting girls and then so they don't have to try so that they do act like well it's also the girls fault too and I also think it's maybe a big city thing I think it's also like partly the Women's Hall big city mentality and social media has a big aspect to do with
6:11 that as well is that these girls are now getting uh more attention than ever through social media so they feel like they have more leverage to just go out with these guys get a free meal do this take advantage of them and now guys are feeling taken advantage of so they're like why the ████ am I gonna plan ████ for these girls who are just taking advantage of me how do I know you're worthy yeah then why go out on a date right but it's just like because he's hoping that you're different but it's like you have to prove it to him I mean my my rule of thumb is like if if you're searching if you're intentional and you know what you want you're searching for that thing just be that thing regardless of what you that's really good advice yeah it is yeah so it's like don't let the world change who you are because you're reacting to well all the girls are going to be like this well I'm not going to be like myself anymore and don't front because they can smell it bro but if
7:02 you're genuinely a kind person that wants to just continuously give and doing that then it's like who cares then you're not getting burnt if that's who you are pretty hard though too because like man you can get defeated really quickly yeah you know being that person and just being take it for granted over and over yeah every letdown is another you know it's just like well damn like what am I even doing this build a jaded defense mechanism and then you then it's just a bunch of jaded people dating other jaded people right so it's just like a big ████ up ecosystem and you're just trying to pick through the trash and red flag at that point you're not good for anything else yeah I think they're not in a mindset of like intentionally getting to know somebody because you're just like trying to pick out the red flag yes I've seen that so much it's called Toluca Lake there's a I do I do remember the reason
7:52 why I didn't like dating that much in La was there was already like this auditioning feeling of hey I'm cool you're cool we're normal that you know that feeling of like don't worry like you gotta pass that phase of like oh I'm not gonna ████ you over of like and it if you're already coming at that it's not a playful environment it's more like what do you got for me that's the feeling you got yeah what can I get okay yeah it's like are you are you worthy of me but then at the same time I think like um maybe that type of person is just not attracted to me in general because then I'm really quick to decide whether I can have fun with this person or not and if they're not interesting immediately I'm just like okay I see where you're at where your mind is at and I can smell
8:43 the insecurity or whatever is going on whereas other people might be more patient right where they're going through these activities and then maybe she'll be like can you buy me dinner and then he's like yeah sure and then he's like wait I thought we had a relationship going on she goes no I just wanted dinner and he's like oh ████ you then right really like there's situations like that where yeah I've seen straight up right in front of me and this has in on a smaller scale has happened to me but with my friends we're we're just in a group like maybe double dating or whatever and the new girl that they're with they'll see something and be like oh that's so cool you're gonna buy that for me someday just straight up really yeah and I'm like oh but they're acting like that because Sims do buy ████ for them so that's not her fault either replacing expectations yeah and you're just looking at it or operating it from a different angle right so I
9:33 don't know I think I think for those who actually want to find somebody and build a life with somebody and be intentional I think it's really hard right now to do that I think there's a lot of people who are in the um convenience what can I get out of this what can you do for me and um to fill a void too A lot of people are just feeling voids so if you wanted a long-term relationship you never tried that in a small town [Laughter] but the funny thing is like I feel like small country small town not major city people are getting married in their early 20s yeah that's true it's just it's just different right that that's a
10:23 different lifestyle most of my friends and even if they are long-term relationship friends like they don't get married until they're mid to late 30s they don't start popping trying to have kids until they're mid to late 30s like and these are from people who are relationship type people I just think the big city you kind of push it off I think there's a process to it too I think people also go into we're dating as soon as we start talking we're dating I think there's a there's a talking phase of like who are you do I even like you as a person before I even want to consider dating you let alone then getting into a relationship with you then getting serious with you right I think people just go just because we're talking or you know we ate somewhere one time and we split the bill or something we're dating it's just like no yeah yeah that's just not what it is there's also a stigma against like uh
11:14 going into the Friendship phase because I think it's immediately friend zone but my opinion is you actually have to become friends first that's true before you categorize you have so much more possibility yeah because it's like okay first we're friends like we're people that just are enjoyable together before we figure out if we're best friends or if we're gonna be romantic or if we're gonna just be oh we're just rock climbing buddies or like you know like I feel like the people they're so scared of that they're like I just want to get to the ████ and then they want to like just skip like this whole like get into no no buy a house you through it first right yeah you want to walk through them girls you imagine yourself there yeah ████ the couch yeah same ████ Anthony this is a four bedroom but that goes back to dating with intention right dating with the fact of like I know what I want I know what I'm
12:04 looking for in somebody and I'm willing to play the long game and in hopes of finding something substantial yeah one of my buddies he was on the apps and he was saying on his side it just feels like because you could just find another date to go through [Music] um it's like when you watch Netflix and you're just like I don't know what to watch you're like oh that's a good movie that's good and you just keep going and you just never find anything you know like it's because it's so like it's almost too accessible to the point where it doesn't really mean anything if you go on a date with somebody and be like well I don't really like them oh well I have three other days it's like hitting a buzzer and it's like okay next more like disagreements now or Now red flags which I think that's like a problem too because then it's like okay well now we're disagreeing okay therefore it's a red flag we're gonna toss this person out yeah and I'm just gonna go find the next person so now you're not even getting through the process of truly knowing this person oh they're toxic
12:54 because they don't agree with everything right well now yeah your partner is not going to agree with everything especially now that politics are so ingrained 20 years later yeah yeah serious people are just like there's a lack of standard of of chivalry of being a gentleman of being a lady um and then also just basic communication skills just basic skills of getting to know somebody friendship skills I think like honestly the people in general have kind of lost their mind which in turn turned the dating pool into kind of a ████ well honestly to like sometimes people just don't realize like women I think do such a good job of being a mommy for me that like me yeah that I get you know I get excited about it yeah [Laughter]
13:46 and you tell me how where to get you out of town what it says 204 0 I'm not used this kind of delay it smells like me dude oh he's showing her who's the Boss what is he German oh you know they don't ████ around with time though when you're four minutes late on the German that's like being two hours that's a good accent but also like what is running a few minutes late four minutes late like four minutes late that's that's ridiculous a lot of late four but you don't understand Germans though four times four four minutes late to them is it's so bad it's so bad imagine being on a date with this chicky like what the
14:37 ████ is wrong with you it's four bit four man are you stupid do you not know how to tell time time during their lunch he's just talking about that for the next 30. exactly and then he's like so we doing this again what's going on yeah yeah you didn't text me back really great time so you know the the statistic about um 50 of marriages turn into divorces right it's actually not true the way that you see it it's not brand new marriages first time marriages it's people been married really most of that is people on their second or third or it's multiple so yeah so it's actually I I it I was losing hope because I was thinking damn so many divorces every year but what it is is it's people that constantly fail in marriages that are constantly divorced there's like one like one guy
15:27 can have five divorces this is a poll on people who are constantly being failed marriages no no they're just saying a divorce rate they're saying that the divorce rate is 50 right so they're just looking at the number of them look a little bit deeper you're like this guy deeper you break it down there's so many more new jobs people that are like okay this is a vast majority of that the data is deeper yeah so it's like if you if you think about the first time people are divorced and it's actually very very small and out of that group if they're remarrying they add to the divorce rate yeah because they're just looking at how many divorces happen every year yeah and then so like that made me go wait so actually so the majority is still relationships that work out yeah and so I had this whole mentality of like well if half of
16:17 the uh statistics is everyone ends up in divorce and that means like it's really hard well I mean it is hard but then it's like that just tells me that where's the Hope in marriage and things like that when you hear stupid stats like that but it's actually not the majority you could look at that camera and just talk to 10 of the last dudes you dated what's some advice you would give them oh yeah what would you tell them uh consistency and effort that makes it's a huge thing help like consistency as in hell like um like your word is your bond right at least mine is that's like one of my principles so um don't be four minutes late um ever in just even the smallest things like it doesn't mean need to be like a
17:08 gift-giving situation it just needs to be like you remembered I said something I show that you care you know that you're listening you listened um and then consistency in your character like don't let that switch up too much over time so you think they're playing like a role that they think you would I think a lot of people in the dating pool really good First Act they yeah they put on an impression or they morph into a person that they think that you like oh geez and that's really easy to sniff I've seen that yeah and it's like you're more agreeable but now you're just unsexy now yeah versus I'd rather you'd rather be someone that's slightly more disagreeable but this guy has cajones and I'm actually this is different opinions have a take don't suck but yeah have a ████ opinion a good take yeah true yeah you know what's you know what's an interesting feeling too you
17:58 know like the uh you know this game shows where they go hey you can win this or you can have what's behind door number two like door number two dating now like because like you know the feeling when you go to a new school or you're in a new improv group it's like everyone's dateable and then you start to get to know people you're like actually no I wouldn't date you I wouldn't date you and then you figure out like which ones are kind of your thing now it's like you'll you're perpetually out of ████ Buffet yeah because everything's literally Within Reach and it must be kind of like overwhelming yeah because everyone you date is like like commit with her that I'm gonna I might miss out on some other ████ you look at all the negatives before also I think people know how to deal with challenges or problems anymore it's all red flags that's a red flag or you're you're you have a lot of trauma or like you're projecting it's like yeah everybody does everybody everybody we're all human we
18:49 all have then once you and once you've actually been in a long-term relationship you realize that some of the biggest maybe disagreements that you're able to fix and heal has not become one of the biggest like backbones the depth that you can build is unbelievable if you give yourself the chance but yeah so many people just can't wait for door number two yeah yeah but yeah that's what I'm waiting for somebody who's in the same place mentally and is willing to put in the effort and consistency to find that and they got that good dick huh yeah [Music] the other parts I'm working on but the
19:40 good dig part I kind of I kind of got it dig and everything else kind of was like mid and I was like all right I'm out good dick and good mouth yeah yeah all the central crisis he's like I thought my dick was good and I was like wow what if the subject line says it says good dick but with 27 u's 27 years between G and D there's 27 years do you open it or do you skip if he doesn't put three eyes in dick then I'll I will go that's how I know you'll take the guy with floss maybe you can't read or write listen I
20:31 did I have signs and a big D at the end fresh fish at least five hundred thousand dollars a year let's go and um what else he needs to be like an alpha yeah and he likes design high value man it needs to be at least six nine and he has to play you know what's funny is like I see them on social media I never ████ run into these people where do they exist yeah they're the crazy like people that speak crazy like that yeah like where are these ████ the girls that ask for that the standards like I don't hear of girls at like I don't know the gym ████ going at the ████ club where's the six nines that that make half a million dollars a year I knew an
21:21 actor chick like that but it was just one chick but she was definitely like that yeah yeah I don't know in energy yeah if you if you really ask them but the ones who really feel that way are afraid to say it too
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