0:05 Welcome back to another episode of Careful Boys, where we have child psychology expert Anthony Lee with us today. >> Farthest off of all of them. >> Is it child psychology expert? >> I feel like you're really good at getting I think you're good at kids. Get in touch with your inner child. Yeah, >> kids and he's really close to them. >> Okay, maybe maybe closer than I thought. Okay, answer this. If you found out that you were adopted this whole time, would anything change in your life? Yeah. Wow. I think a a flurry of questions comes to my mind like why would you wait until I was like 39 to say it? Why not like 18 or something? Why didn't you did you wait for my like actual parents to die off before giving me a chance to go find them? >> Wow. What What was the What was the history? What's the relationship with like the you're the first anal birth? >> [laughter] >> Come on. This is straight out the gate.
0:57 >> But the good news is that you're first. You're the first anal birth. >> First anal. >> But the [laughter] second one is they threw your ass away cuz they thought you're a piece of ████ >> Let's say that. Let's say that your parents didn't tell you because your your real parents are in prison. >> Wow. >> Whoa. >> So that could mess you up. >> Yep. >> Yeah. So they're trying to they're trying to have give you a fair chance at development. >> And it wasn't even a cool crime. It's like a crime cuz you know if they were like oh my [laughter] >> Yeah. It's like it's like they shoved a baby up somebody's somebody's poor ████ >> Something [laughter] fatal. >> Yep. >> So they went to jail for that. [laughter] >> Yeah. It's not like bank robber. >> They did 25 to life. >> Yeah. They shove some poor baby up somebody's ████ and made them give birth to it. [laughter] Would that even
1:49 be would I even count as birth just cuz it came back out? >> Yeah, that's what they said. That's what doctor said. >> Is there Is there anything in your life that we're not me? >> Is there anything in your life if your parents told you that now hypothetically that you would be like, "Oh ████ that explains like these things." 1 2 3. >> Damn. No, because I feel like I feel like having like lived long enough, you're so like developed into what what the ████ you've accepted so much of what your life is, >> all the good, all the bad, >> you know, like versus being like like 18 and finding out now that you're a brand you're an adult for the first time. The the world is still your oyster at that age, >> right? It's like >> everything would change. But now it's like I feel like nothing would change. >> Oh, I see. you know, outside of just
2:40 like a genuine like, well, I'm so confused as to why I was like not previewed to this information. And now I just randomly have like a whole side adventure of life that I'm supposed to go play. I'm supposed to go discover. Let's say that. >> What if take a bite out of the real life cookie? Your dad, >> you know how like he doesn't say I love you. Maybe it's cuz you're adopted. >> Oh, >> now you kind of filled in that. >> You know how I feel about father son stuff. [laughter] >> That's what I'm saying. Yeah. >> So now that gets a little bit real now. >> Then that's even weirder. It's like why did you adopt me if you weren't going to love me? >> That's true. >> Because [laughter] it was crazy. It wasn't financially helpful for you at all. >> Cuz it was your mom that convinced him >> and mom ever told you she loved you. >> Then the only Yeah. All the time. Then the only thing that I I would really understand like man
3:30 loves my mom and that's nice. [laughter] >> What if you find out? >> Or my my adopted parents. So they're not so they end up not your real parents, right? These strangers in your home. >> They they end up telling you, "Hey, so like the truth is that you know your real parents, you're actually your mom. >> I'm a completely different nationality." >> Yeah. You're not even Chinese Vietnamese. You're monk. >> That's crazy. That That's even more confusion. How would that >> You can start going to the Mong uh festival and fight. [laughter] Yeah. >> I'm Mong. I need to go to Mong NEW AND ████ START FIGHTING OTHER MONGS. the yearly Royal Rumble. [laughter] >> I would hit up >> the twins right away, the mang guys in our crew. >> Yeah. >> And I would try to learn all about my history and my culture and my true identity. >> Would you want to shed your current current? Cuz that was all BS facade.
4:20 >> Yeah. You're like, I'm not Vietnamese. >> No. No. Because like >> BS >> like it's like um it's like the idea of like blood family and like chosen family, right? >> Okay. like you know like there's [snorts] there's a lot of people that I know that like the friends that they chose as like their closest friends are they're closer with them than like their own brothers and sisters sometimes that are estranged or whatever you know and it's like that's when you realize that your your relationships can be >> thicker than blood in that sense. >> So it's not like to say that just because you're something else everything that you grew up as is completely deleted if you if you care about it or if you learned a lot from it or you you became who you are because of it. Yeah, >> there's no way I could delete my like Chinese or Vietnamese heritage. >> I would just be like, "Why the ████ did you keep this from me [laughter] >> my whole life?" All right, let's say what changes now? Like, imagine this. Okay, your your mom and dad, who you
5:12 think are your mom and dad, they're actually not, but it's because they stole the dry cleaning business from your real parents >> and it killed them. >> No, no, I'm not going to add that part. >> You did. [laughter] >> I take it back. and kill him. >> I take it back. I take it back. >> So they they wronged they wronged your real parents >> and then kept you. >> So they stole the dry cleaning business and Anthony. >> Damn. >> I think I would put like my emotional distress on pause and I would have to understand where and what happened to my real parents. If they're like well off and better because of it, >> then I'll be pissed at my parents for not letting me live a better life >> with my real parents. They're more well off. >> They're just in Sacramento. They're mom. They're just chilling. >> But are they like happy and and wealthy?
6:02 >> They they kind of like moved on. They don't even remember you. >> Damn. >> They don't even remember me. Then I'd be [laughter] more mad at them. >> I'd be pissed at my real parents. [laughter] >> Like why the ████ would you just Okay, so that's real life. So, you're saying people stole your business and you left your kid then and moved on? >> Yeah, they they basically gave up. They were like, "We can't defeat them. They're too powerful." >> So, here's my child. Take him and then leave us alone. >> Yeah, exactly. >> They didn't even put up a fight. >> Yeah, they didn't put up a fight. >> ████ you. >> They're very They're like very passive. >> Then it's It's like I'm randomly confused about my my current parents and then I'm pissed off at my original parents. >> I think your original parents are just confused cuz you were anal birth. [laughter] >> We didn't know it was a kid. I thought it was a piece of ████ >> That was so weird. >> That thing. >> We should just move on from this. [laughter]
6:52 >> Be a trip though. >> For the sake of an exciting life. >> Yeah. >> I think that like anything on like the sadness and the anger >> side of things, uh, I think that would be put on pause until I got a chance to learn and discover more. >> Yeah. >> Confusion would be probably the number one thought going through my mind. >> Yeah. at this age. >> Yeah. >> Because like I've I'm I don't I'm not a I don't depend on my parents anymore anyway. >> So it's not like anything would change with different parents. >> Yeah. >> I think I think at the age when you're still like fully reliant on your parents and then you realize that there are other parents. You're just like your whole world changes. I didn't have a fully formed identity. >> Yeah. I think at 18 if you hear that news it's like someone throws it at you. You're like it becomes a part of you and you kind of change like oh ████ But I think when you're like nearing 40, it
7:42 just hits you and bounces off. >> You're like, "Whatever." [laughter] >> All right. Would it change? How how would your life change if >> someday your your mom decides to come out with this truth that like that's not your real dad? Your real dad is this lovely gentleman I met in Torrance many years ago. >> Like was it infidelity? Like adultery? >> Yeah. But it turned out to be >> on my mom's side. Like my mom cheated on my dad. Mom cheated on your dad and made a child with a Mr. Song. >> Don't do that. Don't put Don't put his last name. >> And your brother. >> And your brother. Me and Mike are actual brothers. That's kind of dope. [laughter] >> That's crazy. It's like half dope, half sad, huh? >> Oh, it's probably way less than half dope. It's probably way more sad. >> 5149 dope. [laughter]
8:34 >> It's probably like 10% dope and 90%. So your your best butt is now your real brother blood. >> So like only with Mike would I be like, "Dude, that's a little sick." >> Only with Mike. >> Yeah. But like So does that mean does my dad know my actual current dad? >> She's Your mom at the end goes ████ up. [laughter] >> Don't add me to the lie. >> Yeah, >> she added you to the lie. >> That's ████ Well, I'm not a rat. >> Oh wow. >> So that's that's a burden. An unnecessary burden that my mom put on me. I'd be angry at my mom for putting that on me and doing that to him. >> But like, I'm not going to put that on him. Like, why would why would I just add pain to his near death? >> Would you go up to Mike Song's dad and be like, da da. [laughter] >> Does Mike Song's dad know? [snorts] >> Yeah.
9:24 >> And he's known the whole time. >> He's known the whole time. >> He's known the whole time. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. He's known the whole time. >> Then I'll be like, "Why didn't you treat me different every time I came over?" He's trying to resist the fatherly love. I'd be like, "Good play, dude. It's like how my neighbor got my neighbor's dog died and now he got a new puppy and I don't want to know the new puppy too much cuz I'm so hurt because his dog died. It's like that >> like that. >> Then I I [sighs and gasps] probably at least have at this age when like honestly all the parents are like close to King. You never know anyway. So there's no point in like adding pain. >> But doesn't mean you can't troll him. >> If he knows you troll him. >> Yeah, I think I would troll him. >> What would you do? Like hey we look a little similar, huh? Crazy. Crazy. >> Yeah. I think I would come over [laughter] >> and I'll just be like and I'll just ask random questions. Just be like, "Yo, like you know before Mrs. song, do you ever have any like flings?"
10:16 >> Oh, I like this. >> What if you start liking this or you notice the same things and you're like, "Hey, you like watermelon as much as I like watermelon." >> And then like you know how like father and sons always like have similarity like, "Oh, you like to dance like I like to dance." Oh, you like the details like >> and you keep like bringing up like >> I was stuck in a forest one time. >> None of those details are are dissimilar from what Mike probably has with his dad. Anyways, [laughter] by the way, >> so I'll probably need to find some sort of personal connection like like shake his hand. Whoa, that's a good grip you got there. And then try try to like turn it into like [laughter] >> Why are they the same? >> And then you go like this. >> Yeah. [laughter] >> No, that's gay. I don't like that. >> A little gay. Yeah, papa. >> I guess any either way you look at it, not a whole lot's going to change
11:06 >> really other than >> at this age it's ████ the only thing as shallow and as wonderfully as much as I might dream of this happening as it would be. It's like if my like real parents were rich as ████ >> Oh man. Then I'd be like, >> so you really wouldn't like you really would be Gucci if they were rich as ████ >> No, no, that's what I'm saying. If they were rich as ████ then I'd be like, "hm, what's the what's the what's the way I can then?" >> Well, cuz now it actually affects you. >> Yeah. >> What if it was the other way and then you got adopted by the rich ones and then you see you see that the the real parents were actually poor. >> Then there's no reason to be mad. [laughter] >> You would have you wouldn't BE LIKE, "YOU ROBBED ME FROM MY REAL PARENTS. >> You robbed me from my poor life." [laughter] >> I'd be like, "Good job poor parents for like giving me a better life." Oh, >> okay. Okay. You feel this way? Are we
11:56 Are we ready? >> Yes. >> All right, let's go ahead and bring in our guests. [laughter] >> That'd be so sick right now. We just hired these two ████ Asian actors to come in here and pretend pretend like they're your weeping parents. Oh, my son Anthony. Oh, we missed you. WE LOVE YOU. >> WE'RE VERY RICH. [laughter] We're so rich. >> But we can't give you anything. Can't give me anything. Yeah, cuz they got games that are real
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