0:00 You know, this is a crazy thing that that like messed with my head real bad in '97. >> 1997. >> Yes. Don't say it like that in bold. >> I was 3 years old. >> Thank you. >> Wait, you're in high school at 97? >> Yeah, dude. I was a freshman. >> You're a baby, dude. You're pooping your pants. >> What else? What else would you like to >> No, I just I just I was just tripping balls. 97. Tripping balls. [Music] You know how like when it's easy to think about friends you've had through the years that have like changed a lot where you just go like damn I knew this person like this for so long and then suddenly they became this like >> what the hell happened? >> You you mean like ugly house to like really nice house? >> I wouldn't slander my own people that
0:50 way, Mr. Lee. But like it's a little harder to find this, but can you tell at any point in life where you were the friend that changed? >> Oh, dude, that's a lot of self-awareness. >> Yeah, when I became a mom. >> Really? >> So, your friends were like, >> you think you changed? Like, do your friends are like, "Oh, you're different with the way that like >> with the way you interact with friends or just like me as a person?" >> Yeah. Just like how I guess like where they Yeah. where they are the ones to tell you like, "Damn, you changed." Whether that's like positive or negative. No, I think it was more of like a natural um transformation because I used to like before being pregnant I used to party and like you know be out late and do all that stuff. >> Do the drug. >> No, >> do the drug. >> Book of sugar man. >> Party and the drug. >> That's like that's like lifestyle change.
1:40 >> Yeah. >> Not so much like you as a person like innately your character and your >> I'm just fishing. I'm I'm asking. I don't think I was as motherly and nurturing then that as I am now. >> So the way I see things and I think my patience is like much better now than it was before >> and everything I do is for is because of somebody else. It's cuz for my son. >> Yeah. >> So I think it is very different. >> Oh yeah. >> Did you do you feel like in your relationship that your husband even would agree that like oh you really changed after the baby? Yeah, I think so. >> Yeah. >> I thought she was about to get hella deep. >> I was just thinking about it. >> You were like ready for like we recup.
2:32 >> I thought she was about to be emotional and like cry and I was just like, "Oh, ████ >> Were you ready to cry?" >> No, not me. You >> He's He's kind of hallucinating at the moment, so he must give him a little bit of grace. You know what's crazy is that in a This is a crazy ass thing that that like messed with my head real bad in 97. But when I got to high school, it's so old. >> When I got >> 1997? >> Yes. Don't say it like that in bold. >> I was 3 years old. >> Thank you. >> Wait, you're in high school at 97? >> Yeah, dude. I was a freshman years old. >> You're a baby, dude. You're pooping your pants. >> What else? What else would you like to >> No, I just I was just I was just tripping balls. 97 ████ >> tripping balls. >> The ████ were you doing in NBA?
3:22 >> Sorry. Go ahead. >> 97 is the first time that like my longtime friends that I've had for like since I was age five were like, "Bro, you changed, man." >> Whoa. >> Yeah. And it's because like I guess I got I got really really interested in girls >> type >> in 97. You're you're a phoenix back in the day when we first saw women's ankles. >> Yeah. And I really was like I think like you know my grades started to drop >> and I wasn't as like I wasn't as nerdy anymore about just like school in a way and I I used to be on par with all of them. we tested into the same classes and and so like it obviously my uh whatever I was in the correct level uh and I just couldn't keep up anymore and I was just thinking about too many things I wanted to do which was like talk to girls or um or break or go to
4:14 parties and uh dude this is real trippy but my principal and my mom and dad they got one of my friends to monitor me and report what I was doing. >> Is that a wow? >> Like with with you knowing or without you knowing? >> Without me knowing. >> Wo, that's crazy. >> Was it like transactional though? Like with your friend? Were they like, "All right, look, we'll give you a little bit of money or like blah blah blah." >> No, they didn't. I don't know if they that they gave him anything. I think like they had like a they had like a you know, we had these parent teacher conference stuff and then uh and then I I remember them like saying that like my parents were just so worried that I was just going to tank all the way down. So they were like, "All right, we'll figure out some kind of solution." And uh I guess first they had to gather like real data about what I was like at school.
5:04 >> So they asked one of my friends who was literally my my every year of my life we were in the same school from age five till high school. >> Were you guys best friends? >> Uh yeah, he's one of my best friends. And they had him uh they literally had him report like periodically about like how I was doing like what what I was doing socially, what I was distracted by. >> Wow. >> And uh >> ████ >> Yeah. And they didn't tell me until like the end of the year. And then and then he told me that it was him cuz I didn't know who it was either. >> They told me at the end of the year that they had somebody like telling them exactly what I was doing and saying and and how I was treating people and how I was talking to teachers, everything. And I was like, who the ████ would report on me? >> Could you be friends with them after you heard that? >> We were friends right after >> because after I was like, who who would do that? And then that summer he told me
5:54 that they asked him to do it and that he said yes because he thought he would be helping me. >> You didn't think like, man, you ████ little snitch. >> I did, but then when he when he talked to me, I understood >> cuz he's like, yeah, man. Like we just used to be like he was he was I was he was right. I did change a lot. Uh, and he he wasn't even into girls at all by that point. So, you could see how different, you know, you and your boy would be if you're just like sound. >> Yeah. Like we were like dorks together, you know, like. And then once I started to try to be cooler, then like we didn't we weren't like a pair anymore in that way. >> Yeah. So, he felt bad too. He's like, "Oh, he doesn't hang out as much. He doesn't want to like come chill with the just the boys." like he always wants to go talk to the girls instead or or or have a girl around when the boys don't want any girls around. You know, that type of ████ I was that guy first. I
6:44 was the guy that's like, "Man, why Ryan got to bring a girl over here? Like, this is where the boys chill." You know, ████ like that. And I was like, "F███, I'm that guy that changed." >> And I was like, damn. And that summer, we really like had a really great talk about it and stuff. And he was just like, I I thought that I was doing the right thing, but I'm not doing it anymore. >> Yeah. >> Could you feel like you could still talk to him after that? like normally or were you always kind of >> all the time? Do I still talk to we have group chat? We're in it all the time with my my same friends from from way back in the day. >> You're very mature. I would have been like you ████ snake and never talk. >> Well, I I think I would have been I would have had more animosity, but then right at that summer is when I had to go to summer school because remember I got kicked out of math. So then I my friend group really expanded for the first time where I I could meet people outside of Christian school and I had to go to summer school with completely different kids and then I met B boys and so I would I didn't feel like lonely or
7:34 betrayed. I was like oh at least I can kind of diversify the people I know so it doesn't feel like people are always >> on me about being different now. >> It's like these guys don't even know me and now they only know me as this. And then, you know, my old friends are still going to say that, you know, like, "Oh, he's just a little horn dog now, or he just wants to go party or he wants to go like, you know, hang out with gangsters or some s███." Like, I just wanted to do cool stuff and they were all very like sheltered. >> Don't you know that girls wear thongs? >> What? >> It took them like >> That was a big deal when you first found that out. >> It took them like maybe >> people we know. It took maybe two to three more years for them to finally get to that same point of like, you know, like girls are not gross. >> That happened to me uh my junior year in high school. I was I didn't have a girlfriend and uh I became really tight
8:26 with these two dudes. One of them is this like Vietnamese refugee guy that I modeled my Uncle Sam accent off of. So this is this is like in the 626 >> appropriation. So his name his name was Hal and uh he brought me into like really understanding the cuz in Critos all the Vietnamese dudes were like third fourth generation. So I didn't realize that there's like a whole refugee like Vietnamese culture. >> Then when I came out here I went to his house and there's like 12 people living in like a two-bedroom house and he sleeps on the couch >> and he would still go raving and then he got a scholarship to UCLA. So I was like this guy's ████ crazy. >> Oh damn cool. He would like do meth at school like all kinds of crazy >> but you have to at that point you got >> so the grades >> so me him and this other dude named Mark that guy's name is how me how Mark we
9:17 became really what >> did you say ni how >> you me and how we uh got really close and we started kicking it and then um over the summer I started seeing this chick and I guess unbeknownst to me, but I became a like hoes over bros type of dude. >> Yeah, it always happened where I was like always kicking it with her and I don't kick it with the boys anymore >> and I prioritize her or I'm always busy or something. So like the ████ three musketeers are no longer the three musketeers. >> One day we had a sleepover at Mark's house and we're just all kicking it and uh one of them was like, "Yo, um someone's calling. they want. They're asking for you. And I thought this part was really cheesy, but also I cared
10:07 about him so much that I just went along with it. And I thought it was cheesy after, but so he was like, "Oh, someone's calling you." And I'm like, "What the ████ At your house?" So I go upstairs, I pick up the phone, and then Mark's on the other line. I'm like, and that's at Mark's house. >> He just picked up his phone on the other room. >> Yeah. And then I'm like, "Okay." And then and Mark's like, "Uh, how's on the other line, too?" And then he's like, "Hello." And then I'm like, "Wait, what the ████ Why don't we just talk downstairs? So, it's being us and I think they wanted to have a intervention, >> but they didn't want it to be too confrontational. >> Oh, that's kind of cute. >> It was like So, I was like, so he was telling So, they pretty much laid it out where like, hey, like, um, yeah, you're not who you were, >> bro. That's so similar to mine, >> right? And I was like, I was like, ████ dude. I'm like And I'm like, dude, I damn I am ████ up. That's ████ up. I can see that. Like, we were all boys
10:57 kicking in. All of a sudden, I am. Yeah, I am priorit prioritizing her over all of you guys. But the funny thing is after we hit a resolution, I'm like, "Okay, cool, cool, cool. Okay, I know what to do. Yeah, I'll change. My bad. My bad." >> Yeah. >> You hang up. Then I go downstairs and then I see them. So, it's like, >> so, hey. Like, uh, good talk. Good talk. >> They didn't They didn't go like this and like you all hugged. >> I thought you were going to say you went to go hang out with your girl. >> We did. I'm sure we did in our own like 626 way, which is we all went to the front and popped the squad and smoked cigarettes together or something. >> Yeah. Uhhuh. >> Yeah. >> But that was the first time where I was like like uh being made aware that I've changed and I didn't know. >> It's so cool that it's so similar. Yeah. When you're the first one that happens to >> Yeah.
11:47 >> What happened? >> He was 2 years old at the time. He just >> You ████ >> Yeah. Where you at? Uh, part was that 95? Cuz I wasn't even born yet. >> What an ████ dude. >> How were you three in 97 and not born in 95? >> Cuz you learned math in ' 84. >> No, I just learned math yesterday >> to pass your exam. >> You got an ASVAB again. >> Perfect score, baby. >> Wings. >> Just enough, baby. Just enough.
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