0:01 And then it made me go, "F███, am I the I'm like, like, am I that whack that that's the only girl I can get to like me? >> SO UP, >> RIGHT? What's ████ up?" Welcome back to another episode of Careful Boys. Today we have um confidence expert, Mr. Nick Dunn. Yep. >> Hey, you should teach a men's confidence class. >> The ████ am I What am I going to teach him? >> Is that a crew neck over a brown hoodie or is that a brown hoodie? >> It's a one piece. >> Wow. The confidence to rock that. >> Thank you. >> The confidence. >> What the hell is that supposed to mean? >> It's really cool. I like it.
0:51 >> Honestly, I love it. >> From our sponsor, dude. Albino Pretto. >> So cool. >> You look like a fighter now. >> Yeah, you look like a fighter. >> How come you don't wear that? Oh, nah. You not a nerd. I'm a trainer. Okay. You >> look like a fighter who wins fights. Put that Put that back on. >> Yeah. >> What the hell is that? >> You look like a fighter who's done like four or five fights. >> Yeah. You look like a fighter that won. Now you got Now I'm not very feeling very confident. >> Okay. Sorry. Sorry. Sorry. Sorry. Okay. >> You guys are ruining my You were plummeting. She said I look homeless outside earlier. >> He did though. >> Very complex question that might be kind of fun depending on uh I know what you're going to say. So you don't have >> Yeah. Yeah. Start with someone else. Start with Bonos since she wants to ████ light me on fire. Think back to uh the worst phase of your life when you were probably the worst version of yourself. Like the most loserous, not confident, not sexy, not good-looking, you you don't have uh Oh, yeah. Or this. And just think to that point who
1:43 actually liked you, >> who wanted to date you even at that level? >> Um wait, date? >> Like did you did you have a girl that still liked you even at your least? >> Yeah, she was so busted, too. >> That's what WE WANT TO KNOW. FOR SURE. I was like, >> "So tell us about that person that liked the busted version of you. What was she like?" >> Oh, she must have been a loser. >> Must have. >> Describe. >> Okay. So, at this point in my life, I was um so I changed schools a bunch, right? So, every time you change schools, I feel like it takes some time to build momentum, to build friends, kind of build your your your group or whatever. I changed schools. first grade, then second grade, and then uh finished fourth through sixth at a certain elementary school. All those kids at that elementary school go to this middle school. Yeah. >> You know how that that thing works.
2:34 >> But because I actually went to this school, but I just got kicked out a bunch. So, I went to here >> by the time it was time to go back to middle school, I had to go back to my original middle school. I go to the original middle school and it's all the people I went to kindergarten with, but now they're like all old and big. So, I know them, but not really know them. And then I got into so much trouble that um my my dad was like, I know school uniforms are uh voluntary. It's going to be mandatory for you. So, I'm the only in school. Just cuz you whispered the beast. >> You still got to ████ edit it out. >> You whispered it into the microphone. >> Oh, sorry. >> It's louder.
3:25 >> I was the only one that had to wear the school uniform white polo >> ████ navy like dockers or whatever. >> And I'm wearing that to school. And then my hair I couldn't control. And my dad's like, "I'm just going to give you like a uh Chinese military like buzz cut from like a ch like it's like it's like you can tell it's a Chinese style like hair salon." So, I just don't even fit. Everyone else is wearing their normal cools, right? Like clothes like skaters look like skaters. >> Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Everybody's in their respective groups. >> Hip-hop people wearing foo or whatever. And I'm like this dude that's trying to fit in. >> Yeah. Who the hell is hanging out with that dude? >> Nobody. And then uh for some reason >> was your shirt tucked in? >> I don't know. I must have probably left the house with it tucked in and when I got to school
4:15 probably something like that. And I don't know why but in uh in band this girl named Esther we started talking and she was busted. >> That was Korean. >> Yes. I don't even know why we started talking or whatever. And then um we were talking on the phone and for some reason like crushes came up whatever. This is after maybe a long time of talking in junior high you time. It might have been like a week or two. >> And then I'm like, "Oh, so who is it?" And then she says, "You." And then she hung up. And when she said you, I'M LIKE, "OH, WHY? WHY would you do that?" And then it made me go, "F███. Am I the I'm like like am I that whack that that's the only girl I can get to like me?" That's so up,
5:05 >> right? What's ████ up? >> Ew. >> Those are his feelings. >> What's Esther's deal? Like, what does she look like? >> That's his opinion. >> She's Korean. >> I bet she's super hot now. >> Korean for sure, right? >> Esther is a Korean name. >> I bet she's super hot now. >> Let's look her up. >> She's one of those chicks that like don't do hairstyles that accentuate her head. >> Why are you an expert of that? But but you were talking to her so she probably felt interested. >> How do you know? >> Like why were you giving her attention and talking her head? It was like this kind of shape. >> What is that? Like a toe blurrone >> like like >> hard quarters >> like so that her face if you look at her directly >> it's like more like a over. >> Oh like the like the Chicago bean. >> Yeah. So front and back look like that
5:57 >> and >> front. >> And for some reason she'd really like to do the uh like the Harley Quinn pigtails. >> So on the back is on your side. >> So the back the back >> the back just looks like a butt crack cuz you know you have to take the hair and part it both sides. It just looks like a butt crack. And I'm like why the ████ do you keep doing it like that? Maybe she's never seen the bag. Meanwhile, you're just talking on the phone with her every day. >> Yeah, she's like, "He likes me. I don't got no other friends." >> Dude, you lost her a ponytail, dude. Double ponytail. She's done. >> Yo, the whole time Bonos was like, "That's ████ up, Bart. That's ████ up." And he said she had the Harley Quinn pigtail. She goes, "OH,
6:48 >> see how mean girls are. If she had if she was Margot Robbie, she'd pull it off. But like your head will pull it off. >> Your head shave. Don't do that. >> You got me. You got me. You got me. >> Hey, what's a better hairstyle for a girl with a oblong face? What was it? >> Yeah. >> What was it? >> I'm not a hair like headshape X. >> Come on, help us out. Like if you had >> Yeah, it looks like a blobfish. What do you do with the hair? >> Maybe I just have it down, you know, down. Cover some. >> Was she fat width? >> No, it wasn't fat. It was just her head was like >> round like a this kind of shape >> like hey Arnold. >> Oh like a football >> not that extreme but yeah. >> Oh man like Bobby's world. >> I think it's funny that you would even know that like to think about that detail cuz I don't feel like you guys focus on things like that.
7:39 >> Such a funny I'm also autistic so I pay attention to really weird things. >> Yeah, he's artistic >> things that don't matter to other people. Like it stands out like crazy to me. So that's who liked you and then did >> and it made me go, "Oh, what the f███?" >> And you never gave her a response about any of that. >> You never were like, "Hey, >> you weren't like grateful that >> I don't remember what >> what the >> I don't remember what I don't remember what happened, but I don't I don't remember us being FRIENDS IN EIGHTH GRADE. >> It might have freaked me out." I don't want to also continue talking on the phone with someone that's like >> trying to like pursue something and I don't want to like make her feel like I'm leading her on, you know? >> So, you just stopped talking to her, right? >> I think so. >> That's the right thing. >> That's a long time ago. I don't remember, but I think I did. >> Well, that's very innocent. I understand
8:29 that that part of high school or or junior high or whatever. It's like if somebody's not talking to you, you're talking to them and then in your mind you're like, "Dude, I got nobody to talk to. I'll just talk to this person." in their mind they're like >> he likes me, >> you know, and it's like >> Well, I love I love the context that he gave us though by showing how much of a dork he was first. >> That's very important. >> Like the only kid in a uniform that where it's not mandatory. >> Yeah. And so it doesn't even ████ matter how cool I think I am. I'm just the everyone looks cool cuz they're expressing their style >> and that's so important back then. >> And I'm the only guy wearing the school shirt. >> No one else is wearing school clothes. And Esther looked past that and liked who you were. >> Did she wear school clothes, too? Like the uniform? >> No. >> So, so she's a notch above you. >> She was dressed as Harley Quinn.
9:20 >> Even Esther didn't wear the uniform. >> Yeah. She's like, "Bart, your parents must be really strict. See you later." >> She's like, "Let me help this dude out." >> That's hilarious. >> Your parents make you wear the uniform? He's like, "Yeah." >> Wow. >> That's That's probably the best. I I can't top that with anything >> really. >> No. >> So, you don't even think you were as much of a loser as I was? >> I was way I was way worse of a loser, but in a different way >> because I was given the right to wear whatever one and I still ████ up. >> Still dropped the ball. >> You had Didn't you have a thing like that when you were I remember you being a little chubster. Some some girl liked you. >> Oh my goodness. I' I've been a chubster twice. Um, so I I felt like a very big loser because I was a chubster and I had transferred from my junior high to go to the school that my sister was going to,
10:10 uh, Sunny Hills in Fullerton. So that >> How come how come you went to that one? >> Well, I was at Oxford Academy in Cyber. So you know how to get, uh, you had to get tested into that school at that time cuz it just opened up. But then my sister and all my cousins went to Sunny Hills in Fullerton. So for my parents to go drop drop her off at school and then take me to Cypress, it was just like, yo, you just need to test into and we we didn't live in that zip code area. So they're like, "You need to make it to IB." I tested I made it to IB so I could transfer to that school. >> Wait, you got to test into Sunny Hills. >> Yeah. Well, because I wasn't living in that zone. >> Oh. >> So I had to test to make the IB program. >> Damn, that's so competitive. Holy ████ >> So So I made it into that school, but then when I showed up for 9th grade, that also meant that all the new ninth graders, they all went to like park, they all went to the same junior high. >> Yeah. They don't know you. >> Everyone had friends and stuff like that. And I had nobody. Yeah. >> Right. So the point of this context is that like because I was such a loser at that time, didn't have any friends. I I was very heavily involved in like other
11:00 extracurricular things where I joined different clubs to try and meet people. I ended up going to like a summer camp thing. I met like my first girlfriends which um >> just busted. >> They were No, they were honestly very cute. Very cute. To this day, >> I stand on business. My first my first girlfriends I think were very very attractive. >> Lucky. >> That's lucky. >> Even now I I would look back and be like cute. Different but cute. Um, but then when I got my heart broken, like I think I just went into a very uh like like the prompt is asking what one of the worst phases of ourselves was. >> Uh, and so I think I I don't know subconsciously started just giving my energy off to anybody who would receive it from a women's point of view >> and not thinking like I'm trying to get with you or anything. I was just trying to like be the funny guy. Yeah. get
11:51 attention >> and and naturally it's really really easy when you're not a very attractive person yourself to get attention from other very attractive people. >> Yeah. >> Yeah. Other busted people. >> You called you call them ugos off camera, right? >> I didn't I said f█████████ from Cybertron. He >> says it with no emotion. >> Yeah. >> And I I just remember um I remember even my cousin one time, oh you hanging out with uh this person. I'll be like no, dude. We just have class together, whatever. you know, and and you're just getting like chummy randomly. You don't know how far the chummy goes. Uh cuz you know, you're just making them laugh or you're like doing stupid things and it's like they're the only ones that are talking to you or whatever. >> So, you were funny. >> And uh but we had this >> you guys hugging at the lockers though. >> We had this No, we had this thing called like girl date which is basically Shady Hawkins where like the girls ask you. >> Oh ████ >> And that's when the rumor mill starts
12:41 flying around of different stuff. And now I remember uh my cousin told me that he heard that this one girl uh wanted to ask me and that's when it changes cuz you think you're just like >> Yeah. >> You know you you're just like >> you think you're working the room. Yeah. >> And then but you realize you just been giving energy to somebody so they're just innocently like dude I think he likes you. >> What you mean by giving energy bro? Is that a euphemism or something? >> No. No. He knows >> he's leading a girl on. >> Yeah. Huh? What does that even mean? >> He got her all wet and ████ She goes, "What? You don't you can do all this and not ████ me. >> Oh my god. >> Did she say that? >> Did she say that word for word? >> Must have been something similar. I don't know. >> He just calls it an energy. >> So, so you find out that she's plotting to ask you out to this thing >> and then that's when my whole world view shifted. >> Yeah. >> It's similar to him. It's like he's like
13:32 fully on the phone like laughing with this chick as something and then the second she's like you. HE'S LIKE WHAT? NO. LIKE THE WHOLE WORLD JUST >> BREAKS HIS phone >> just suddenly >> cuz you're just waiting for her to say that and you got to refuse. >> Well, that's the thing. The second I had heard even just a rumor, that's when I completely ignored and like did not want to like communicate, make eye contact, like anything, >> bro. >> And then I And then I heard that it like made her really really sad. >> Yeah, I bet. You piece of ████ dude. That's ████ up. >> Taller than me. Uh was like, you know, slouched over. uh had a lot of acne and braces, wore glasses, like uh it was just one of those. >> She was probably slouchy cuz she was she hated being taller than everyone. >> You're like, "Why don't you stand up straight?" >> She was insecure about it.
14:23 >> What's that face? >> Sorry, I wasn't thinking about it when I was going like this talking to her. >> Oh my. >> Yeah, man. >> Hey. Hey. We were our worst selves at the time. That's the whole >> It is. It's true. Yeah. Yeah, >> but I but I learned a thing or two, you know. So, >> you learned what was the one most valuable lesson? >> Well, you get what you receive. You put out a certain type of energy, then you just got to understand that like you might receive it, too. You can't just be like arbitrarily throwing out >> spitting mad game. >> Yeah. >> You can't be, you know, >> be rising girls up. >> Yeah. Yeah. You can't be getting everyone wet and then not ████ everybody. Like, don't be doing that ████ >> Anony's a sex. >> You know what's that? You don't like blue balls, so why would you do that to others? >> Yeah, man. You ever thought about that? Why would you do that to all those those young ████ out there? >> And also also something to learn. >> Don't whatever you just said. >> I would do that. Also something to learn is that you could be the same person on
15:14 the other side of that situation. >> You know, you think somebody's giving you energy, so you like hella fall for them, but no, they just work in the room. >> Yeah, >> Anthony, I didn't hear anything you just said because of what atrocious ████ Bart just said. >> Just repeat it. Just repeat. literally cannot focus.
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