0:00 [Music] welcome back to another great episode of careful boys today we have cleen with us over here the only one that matters yeah um here's a question how has your type changed between childhood teenhood and adulthood that's my type well I like more than boys what was your type as a kid abgs probably fellow kids as a kid oh no not a kid oh there's a kid great set up Rock washers kid like what what did you think your type was cuz you're an idiot you don't really know you just kind of think okay but like that's I you know what like I didn't have a preference of like I remember there was I don't even know if this girl
0:51 was Filipino or white or Mexican but she had those kind of Vibes uhhuh and and she was like the Kelly Kapowski of our class wow cool that's a big deal she was the same age as you when you were a kid yeah I had a crush on her and you what did she think of you we kissed oh that's what you thought yeah in the sandbox okay and did it ever amount to anything after that we played the jungle bar the jungle thingy and then we wrapped our legs like that and then that was it oh uh and then um a guy a I remember I remember we were playing outside and then this boy grabbed her and then when he grabbed her his hand went to her boobies like that and then I looked and
1:41 I was like oh now he now she's with her cuz he touched her boobies yeah that's how kids would think man so when I was really young right I remember like kid kid I just wanted somebody nice and pretty as they're nice to me that's all it took and if they were like I thought they were a pretty girl but kid idea pretty so different huh that's what I'm saying as long as to me and then when I got into high school I wanted nice and pretty and then I think I started learning this concept of values through all like the teen shows that we were watching so at that time I was down for somebody who was like good with their family or even Christian or something cuz they were just like a certain type of way and then I got to college and I just was like you need to be hot and fiery you never wanted a pretty like goodlooking girl
2:31 that switch yeah who hurt you exactly I just feel like I got a little hurt through something and then I just figure I want hot and fire because that's like what the cool kids should be doing and I'm late to the cool kid okay cuz you're dating nerds kind of you don't burn your knife that's your it's not burning it's a prise possession no no no no no I'm not burning it I'm not burning it okay I'm covering it in Candle I'm waxing it I'm waxing you're waxing it the way I wax myself that's a new level dud and then and then when I got older I I just wanted somebody who was fun okay and was just into me for who what I was and I was like oh this is starting to be more right and then I thought that was going to be the one and then things didn't work out so then I wanted everything opposite which ended up being kind of
3:22 like super fine and but really nice but like available and easy and all these other things that still didn't work out seesaw method until started it like it like seesaws but like kind of Curves around so I'm never like off the track that I'm meant to be on even though it feels like things backtrack you're narrowing it down okay and then she just you know had to be Filipina that was the secret all along that was the one thing that needed to be different right no but she just ended up being like the it's like a converge what were Nina's traits like upon first impression I should ask first impression yeah like when when you're like I mean if we're going to be very very honest I think at this point I
4:12 think I was so like maybe I was just dating enough for like all this stuff that I stopped thinking that I needed the perfect and right girl I think I was always trying to find the right person and then by the time I'm be honest and I've told Nina this before too me and Nina actually we we dated for like 5 6 months broke up for like a month got back together and it wasn't until like 8 months that I finally was like all right you're my girlfriend wow and the entire time and even in after that year when she was my girlfriend and whatnot the entire time I didn't force myself to be like she's the one I was like even if I have doubts I'd be like hey man are you still having a good time is everything still cool is there any real issue vers before I would trick myself into thinking there
5:02 were issues cuz it wasn't like she's not I don't know if I'm supposed to marry her and be perfect I like I was like am I having a good time because I I did that for all my other relationships so I like am I having a good time yeah I'm having a good time cool just Coast out do what you need to do focus on your ████ she's still focusing on hers when you get back with her cuz I'm traveling or whatever what your criteria for having a good time and would you give any leniency to what that criteria was that's true is it party time or what I think I think was it still like you guys had conflict but maybe there was it wasn't that's the thing it's not to say I was having conflict with her it's that uh in previous relationships sometimes I would be like but is she the one and like you second guessing yourself I put this pressure because if like you know if she wasn't bad in this category or whatever stupid checklist that I had or
5:52 whatever if she wasn't bad at it but maybe she didn't check it off perfectly I'd be like oh am I going to live with that back then I'd be like but am I going to live with that for the the rest oh my gosh you're so tough overall score was I'm having a good time therefore I should keep going dude regardless of any little problems that you guys may have because because I guess I started maturing enough to think that like when you really love somebody that feeling chemistry and connection supersedes like checklist qualities of things that you thought you wanted but you can't get to that point unless you allow yourself to get there it's not like because they hit the checklist you fall in love with them or not necessarily for everybody you could be with someone that has all the checklists and it just goes terrible exactly which was even a previous girlfriend that I had so that's why I was like dude stop ████ with your checklist if I want to even fall in love with this person I just got to give it space to grow into something versus
6:43 judging it because I don't feel all of these things perfectly the way I envisioned my lifelong love to be that's very mature oh okay but it took it took a lot of like you know sure how did this period line up with her realization that you once told us about where she believed you to be the perfect guy yeah she thought I was a perfect guy for like 3 years and then she realized Who I Really Am is that what she told you she did tell me that wow so when the glass shattered what was the moment yeah when it sh when it shattered she didn't leave you though I think I left you she saw you party then she was like damn this demon she parted too so don't don't even get out me don't get me it's not it's not like I thought you perfect and then you're now you're really a ████ up I think it was just more in the beginning uh and granted like she she is from like the dance world too she doesn't do that anymore or anything like that but like I
7:34 think I was just I was just constantly on TV and I started like doing a bunch of ████ and it's like I get it like the Optics of maybe what I was participating in was like pretty crazy so I didn't even have time to show her how much of like kind of a regular insecure per like human I actually am in different places so you're a rockstar in her eyes and then she realized you're just a nerd and she goes oh I could be with you yeah I think the deeper we actually got the more she saw like my actual flaw but it wasn't a fly that turned her away it was just like oh you're not perfect but like you're somebody that like together like you know it's whether it was endearing for her whether it was like honest for her and authentic whether seeing my vulnerabilities made it so that she actually got closer to me versus thinking it was like a farther being right I think all of that just worked out in a way that like made sense for us it's pretty good man that's really cool that's nice man yeah she's
8:24 like you used to make me so wet cuz you're like a hardcore rock star but then now you're just like a full on S and I I can work with that hey Honestly though in TR and fashion like in the beginning it probably was like man I am honestly honestly I I did have thoughts I was like is this the right person for me like can I do better you ask yourself that sometimes when you're like you know first dating when you're not like committed she's she makes me better dude that's so nice that's what ladies and gentlemen that's what you need okay that's what you need you're right you're right who is that person that can improve you in many ways okay stop ████ around ████ looking for caus how how have you how have you been improved being with Sasha oh just the
9:15 simple things like stop chewing so ████ loud when you eat okay eat like a gentleman just just stop sling she tell you how does she tell you hey shut the ████ up no I'm eating noodles you know when you eat noodles but that's Asian style it's Korean Asian style Japanese like they they love that I know I get it I get it you know I'm just but she would stop and just be like it's muscle memory wait Russia don't even have noodles like that I know that's why she' be like you got to educate her whether they're present or not slur quieter or you could just eat the noodles instead of slurping and I was like that's my ████ culture what you talking about ████ all that and she was just like and I was just like a compliment when you slurp yes in Asian culture but you know in some certain spots if you like what I notic some
10:06 think you're an animal some people are eating quieter yeah so I was just like okay let's just eat quieter and just doing he had Italian restaurant it's my culture the chicken fetuccini please thank you you know hey that full busts Chopsticks from his home ████ kit yeah acting like it's a fine dining she help help me stop smoking oh that's nice she even simply just goes with the whole you don't need to smoke every time you're pissed off like chill out yeah you're just like you're right maybe I just want to do this and then you throw it away I feel like sometimes women are on this Earth to civilize a dude I think no that's why I believe it should be a a woman and a man not a man and a man how we're getting there that's how we're good this is perfect not a man and a man we got 10 minutes man and a
10:57 man is different story woman and woman is different story just think it's a better match because of the compliment compatible you know you don't have to be compatible in every ████ way dude that's a ████ that's a lie you have to be opposite with the opposite to make the Common Grounds it's a circle to Circle which what is the common ground if you're opposite with opposite then you just become the same again that's what makes it unique you have your differences and you have your common ground well how did you arrive at the when you were a kid what was the type of girl that you envisioned you would be with no just Asian chick I was just like y I'm down for Asian chick big ass titties bangs golf style you down for that big ass titties golf style like whoever we all know one of those Asian girl who can Rave a little bit and the
11:48 shuffle you know what I mean but something like that but yeah that was it that was that was type number one that's my type how about when you were in like high school did did it change when you moved to Sacramento yeah I was like getting the white girl feel a fever I was like yo what the in sack yeah cuz I saw Asian girls there too and I was just like okay okay what's up and then next thing you know they're white too I was like a ████ wait say that again I don't understand the the Asian girls became White Asian girls were white too Asian girls are Asian girls but they had white features meaning white culture I don't know if you guys say culture or not but it's just very white style Suburban life good family you know but then I just got the fever for white girls I was just like damn like this
12:38 girl got thighs like hold on there's more than titties in here you know what I mean there's more than titties I totally see what Sasha saw on you that's right baby ████ dude and then did you before Sasha right before when you were an adult what was your type of at that point grown adult right before Sasha came along uh was it still that just just party girls baby that was it I love about honesty honestly it was just like party easy party Vibes what you were doing right when she came along right yeah no that's how I met her yeah cuz party she was supposed to be your Old Reliable dude this is how simple it was she's a party girl check this out I
13:28 was looked at her and I was like I don't really see much on Instagram but I was like I do I do know she got a body so I was just like hey you want to help me house sit my friends and she was like down and I was like easy we know where this is going had it in the bag so so okay I I had I had two girls lined up that day listen listen I'm not even being cocky or nothing I had two girls lined up that day the one girl it was supposed to be a Latina chick in the morning and the Sasha was towards the end damn but in the beginning damn you come I was I was tired in the morning because I was going to kick it with my boy Phantom oh okay yeah I was like you know what I got to kick it do some hikes and rocks she's like I ain't ████ ████ tonight no but then and then Sasha was the the night one and then when I met her I was just like this is it I just felt it that's that's so crazy Sasha
14:19 wanted to try that one night stand that night but it turned into turn got stuck in with each other that's how I knew it was the one cuz naturally we got stuck damn of me looking for it instead of her trying to look for yeah it just got stuck That's crazy dude but yeah that was the I like how I like how honest it is what what was it about Sasha when you first saw her that you're like this it wasn't it wasn't even about to look at that point it was something something something felt right and then for me to test what was right was I was like I usually send girls home with Ubers I'm just like y go go go like hey Uber's coming in 5 minutes you should pick up your clothes and then uh damn that's a crazy line that's a coldine but but this one but this one was different I felt something and I
15:10 didn't call it Uber no no so I I called an Uber she was like I'm going to call an Uber and S was like she still she's still Uber no she's like oh I'm going to go home now she she didn't even ask for nothing she was just going to do it on her own so I was just like hold on I felt some energy and you doing this so let me take you home so I took her home but one of the first tests was I looked at and I farted yo what the ████ Legend you're a ████ Legend bro bro Broly ████ Sasha will say the same story this is sucessful I want to hear her point of view no no but listen guy's going to fart in front of you cleen listen it's because I didn't really care you know I was just like if if I you already ████ there testing I already I already ████ I already I already ████ so I was just like that's out the way but let's just let's just see what her humor is or what
16:01 she's like so I just fart that was his lipus test dude that was a straight up ████ yeah it was that's like do you love because if I she fart wait she farted back no here's the thing I felt so if I feel some type of energy I was just like let me really test energ is trapped in your dude R window and I was just I looked at it and I said yo my bad and she was like it's all good everyone does that anyways she just rolls down her window I was just like roll down her window it stin you did find the one for you and I slapped freaking uh just to I was like yeah you turned that song on yeah you got it queued up fart and what how did she respond to the song what the ████ did she respond when you play that damn it's not dude it's chilling dude we're
16:51 having a good night we're there's never a dull moment and that's the key to ████ marriage dude yeah you need entertainment like you don't want a boring guy you farted on night one dude dude but that was that was by farting that was the vibe the whole night was just a good jokes you're having fun and that time I was just just having fun the whole my whole year I was I mean was she yeah I'm sure we did cuz she we hollered at each other the next day yeah she came back that's so cool she just rolled with the punches yeah she rolled with the FL that's part and now we have a kid that's crazy see you guys yeah just chill out you just never know keep it simple baby see you guys see you guys rip a fart from a lady yeah what I what's the takeaway test the waters yeah all the
17:43 single guys out there you too see guys is H follow subin's blueprint y don't follow my blueprint I got Lu you but that's maximum being yourself yeah for real me that's the key to the story she probably wouldn't have been interested if you were doing doing all this careful like little weit thing I didn't want to do in the beginning I stopped I didn't I don't want to be like oh ████ uptight trying hard I was just like you know what she the one she's the one all typical stuff you want be G smooth yeah that's Sasha will say the same story bro that's tight that's a great story her she so funny too oh yeah she would tell great stories about this dude she just clowns on me all the time but yeah always always cing on me we got to bring her around ████ happened oh man you got to have them together though that's what
18:33 I mean that's the best that's the only way so funny dang no we're going to argue at the end really yeah too much CL hold on hold on babe chill when she makes one of you too much you get mad sometimes yeah I'm just like that that didn't need to be said in public that in private what you were saying Joe other than abgs in your teen years what were the other ones my tastes yeah your types man I don't know if I had a pattern but I was thinking about this the other day and most of my most like serious relationships from I would say like college and the ones that you could really count not like the kid ones they were all pretty autistic girls in retrospect so it's just like spectrum that was a common cuz I was like well there's not there's no like real common like yeah there's Asian
19:23 there's white like but they're like What's the most even the girls I dated after like even right before Hannah and all that stuff too the ones that actually seemed like for real for real it all was like well they had some type of they were they were on the smarter end of the spectrum but they're also on the like socially awkward end of the spectrum high functioning aspirers yep I didn't know you were attracted what made them socially awkward yeah I think it's something that I saw the pattern later like okay like they're highly intelligent they like one was like a computer programmer yeah the one um I dated right before Hannah and then before that um you know it was my ex she's um you know highle accountant and
20:14 then before that the one that I was public with she was like musician Music School owner stuff like that but then like all of it was um yeah I I don't think they were like I don't know socially like social skills is the right word but it's kind of like careful treading that must cuz I don't know I don't want to describe it the wrong way cuz even calling someone autistic is kind of ████ up because it's funny I'm just saying it as a joke right but there's like you don't want to call them autistic but there's a stere there's a stereotype there's a stereotype of some people being intelligent but then like not so much
21:05 when it comes to the social stuff spent all their skill points on one side of the tree exactly and I think that is the common denominator oh cuz it's not visually like physically they don't look the same right yeah that's the only thing that I don't think I'm even am aware that I'm attracted to that oh so you you might also be as autistic as them just grab dude look at all my closest friends look at ████ Bart yeah there's suffering there's something there there a pattern there's something there as there's a pattern that's true but like things that I am conscious of of like what am I attracted to physically it varies dude just and it
21:55 even depends on like the season cuz I might be in the season of like giving bam let's go oh [Music] my cuz it's so relatable yeah do you guys have phases of like man I'm just going through a skinny phase yeah I think I'm going through a I'm going through a bigger boob phase yeah that happens sometimes a bigger boob face so I don't have physical preferences in that way cuz sometimes I'm just like today I'm feeling like I really like girls with butts and I think I'm going to talk I want to like I want I want to talk to girls with butts okay
22:45 MH you ever think that way as a girl ago should have ended it yeah yeah
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