0:00 They're going to be like, they're going to be like, "You need to find some uh young young teens or whatever that have a good look." But they're not saying you need to be attracted to them. They're saying you need to be able to tell an ugly kid. I was like, "Wait, I need to find out." No. [Music] Welcome back to another episode of Careful Boys, where we are lucky enough to have the opinion of a woman here today. Y woman. We need one. We've been struggling all day. You have five though. We've been struggling. What? Huh? You have to check yourself. Yeah. Be be feminine. Be more feminine. Dude, I am I am feminine. But then like all the girls that do come hang out with us, they're not like girls. So then like they also get uh cancelled by girls cuz they're like, "Oh, you're a pick me." See? Oh,
0:50 no. So that's why. Yeah. What makes you think I'm a girls girl? Cuz you were here before and you're not. You're not a girls girl. No, I wasn't saying I wasn't. I just want to know what you thought. I'm I'm feminine cuz my mom I'm a product of a single mom. Yeah. You're raised by a Chinese mom. So that makes you feel I'm a massive feminist. Feminist? Yep. In what way? Because um my last name is my mother is my mom. Oh, that's right. Wa. That's true. And I took on the family name cuz that's almost as gay as if I were to take on my wife's name. Okay. But I didn't do that. No way. No. That's good. Yeah. Yeah. That's what threw me off. And I thought you were a different guy. I took on the family name because there were no uh men. Like it's just two daughters. So
1:41 then that it would have died with my mom and my aunt. You sound so calm. Like your stepdad who would pitch these like investment opportunities. Just chilling. Wait, that's really sweet though. Was that your idea? Yeah, cuz I didn't like my dad and I didn't want his name. Okay. Also very sweet. Yeah. More of a spite move, right? And then so my grandma did raise me so she she uh so I feel like well, you know, but the funny part is it's not even her last name cuz she had a divorce and I didn't know that. Oh, so he messed up. And then so what should it be? Whose name is this? So you want like a like your grandfather who's like not in the family anymore. That's it's his last name. Yep. Some other guy. Yeah. Some other random guy. Someone else's grandpa. My mom loved her
2:33 dad. So it it it was it's okay. Oh, okay. But the funny thing is I'm trying to honor my grandma, right? But instead of have So her last name is Itto, but instead of taking that line, I took her husband's line that she divorced, which is my grandpa. But my mom was like, "Don't worry about it. I love my dad. So, so it's good that because he would have not had his name carry on. Oh, that is nice. I never met the dude. What's What's Hannah's last name if you don't mind? Hodge. So, Jitakawa now. But Joe Hodge is kind of fire. Joe Hodge is tight. Haj does sound kind of cool. But that name isn't even like ████ Blinders. How about just Joe Haj? Jitskawa, dude. It's like a whole phrase. Hajikawa. Throw it in there. Hajikawa is cool. Is that even a Japanese word? Hajikawa. Japanese word for real. It's not Hajikawa. No, it sounds like I'm sure. I'm sure it is. ████ Kawa. It's
3:23 electronic store. It makes him laugh. Yo, Joa, it's a word. You're laughing. I think it's growing on him. Yeah, I think you like it. Haj we we we combine it. Mhm. Yeah. Have you ever done that? Nah. Okay. Well, Dad, um, for those of you who don't know, this is Melissa Boss. She's a Welcome back, Melissa. She's one of my best friends through life. I've known her for like what 11 years or something like that. So there can be platonic friends. Close to 20. Yeah. 20 years. You can have platonic friends. So there can be platonics. Okay. So like this is my exhibit A for like arguing with people when they say that guys can't do it. I like you can. How many years? But you also like dated your cousin so you're different. Excuse me. That was a choice I made. Yeah. Yeah. You put I was talking about like I I my one of my first girlfriends in high school was your cousin um ended up being my cousin. I didn't know. Wait, that's this is for
4:14 real? I thought I was kidding. No, it's for real. She's disgusted, dude. Look. Did you guys make out? Yeah. Oh, ████ But she wasn't my first cousin. No, she's like I'm cousins with her through marriage. That's not that close. But it's But it did make you get the X. Yeah, it makes you go by everybody. Well, tell her about how you made out with your mom. What? What? Just testing the wall. Hey, but you were so creative. Hey, Jon Snow and Daenerius to Gary. Oh, you know her. You know who I'm talking about. My first girlfriend was was Kathy Aino. I didn't know that she was your girlfriend, but I also didn't know she was your cousin. Well, the either so like my dad was mad at me for like when I told him that I was, "Oh, I think I have a girlfriend, this girl." And he got pissed and I was like, "Don't you know that your cousin?" Well, he didn't say that at first. He just he said his first he was trying to
5:05 do other things to dissuade me from it without having to say that. What did he say? He said his guess what was that I shouldn't date her because she has too many homeboys. No, no, no, no. Too many homeboys she has. Wait, but I don't understand the logic. If he wanted you to not date her, the easiest thing would have been that is your cousin. Yeah. Yeah. He's probably too embarrassed. That is your cousin, Ryan. Or maybe he would think that wouldn't stop me. And then he'd be grossed out. Oh, my son. Like he was going to be like, I love her anyway. Yeah. She's not the virgin. Why is he a Filipino robot? He's a gender. And that would happen too. He would say he's for like you know like Filipinos always mix up the gender thing. Would it be like Yeah. And then um and then my cousin Chad who I'm related to by blood. Um
5:57 he's he is a virgin. Yeah. He was a virgin at the time. He's the cousin that we're related through. And then he was the one that was like, "Dude, that's he's all Kathy's my cousin. That means she's your cousin." Oh, that's how you found out. Oh ████ Yeah. I was like, "No." And then like, "Can we make out one more time?" I told the guys at school. I was like telling them like, "Yo, I think Chad's cousins with her. So, does that make me her cousin?" And all the guys were like, "Yo, what, bro? That means you're gay." Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. I was basically gay. That's the math. But I mean, did you did you like her? I did, but I mean it it didn't work out for other reasons. But then that was like, you know. Yeah, she was fine. She was good girl. But yeah, great great person to have in the family. Definitely weird. Yeah. How long have you two known each other? 20 20 years.
6:48 Yeah, that's a long time. Was it high school? Yeah. And there was never a spark. No. God. Weird. It's like so the thing like the best way to describe it when people are like, "No, it can't happen." It's like you have to develop like almost a paternal connection with someone where it feels more sibling. Yeah. But doesn't like in in Bart's words, all guys want a homeboy with a ████ Oh my gosh. Yeah. What do you think? What do you think of that? This must be a different experience than last time you came on the show. Huh? Yeah. Um I I Wait, what? Explain the concept. What are some of your husband's hobbies? One of my husband's hobbies. Yeah. One of your husband's hobbies. Which which husband? Yeah. What are some of your husband's hobbies? Yeah. What do you like? Um he likes to play basketball,
7:38 watch sports. Okay. Um be with our kid. Do you like to play basketball? Does he like ask you to play basketball with him? He would. I wouldn't be very good at it. Okay. What's another hobby that you could have potential to be good at? Does he that he makes you do or wants you to do or wishes you could do? Um, I don't think we do that much. Eat. Yeah. So, he wants to eat food with you. Yeah. And then have sex with you. Okay. That's homeboy with the ████ Nailed it. Wait. Nailed it. What? Not him. He's not the homeboy. No. No. You are. So, what are you trying to say about My theory is He has a different theory. My theory is all dudes at the end of the day just wants a homeboy with a ████ They want they
8:28 want to have sex with their best friend. They want Yeah. They want to have a best friend that they they get to do all the fun stuff with. Okay. But then have a wet hole at the end of the night. Wet hole. Why can't you have that and also friends? What do you mean? Like why can't you have your wet hole and then other holes that you don't touch? Dry holes. Yeah. Oh, I'm not even talking about I'm just talking about the guys and the girl and their wife or their girlfriend. They want their girlfriend or wife to be to be their best friend. Best friend. Like they want to be like if I'm a Chicago Bull, you're a Chicago Bull. But you have a hole in your jersey that leads to wetness. And now that we explain Bart's analogy, okay, and and his now we now we understand Bart, right? So, if that is true, then if you are both single and you both are
9:19 homeboys and you're just of the other gender, doesn't that make it that much more attractive? That you nailed that. You nailed that. Like, what if it doesn't what if there's just no like spark of that nature? Spark matters. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. I think that's what it is. Cuz sometimes you can have a spark for someone that doesn't fit you. But you know what the difference is? I think for why and and you see this in a lot of guys where like when they do find a girl that they can hang out with that isn't unattractive. Yeah. Most guys don't get that. So in their mind they're on a date. Yeah, I guess so. That's true. And then so maybe you never built the attraction because you don't thirst so hard easily where most guys I think like in general first off they don't have female friends and when they do get any attention from
10:10 a woman oh scarcity mindset. I think it's a potential opportunity to date them. Okay. It's funny cuz he has no neck. It's just getting lower sinking. I got turtle wisdom, bro. Yeah. Yeah. You're very wise. Has that happened to you in life often, do you think? Or like someone that you thought was a friend like me? Like where she's thinking of 50 in her head right now. What up, guys? Come join our Patreon because there's hundreds of videos dating all the way back to 2019. That's right. If you click on the link down below, you can join our Patreon, join us on the Discord, come chat with us directly, have a fun conversation, and this will help support the channel's growth and new ideas, and also tap into our closer community by joining our Discord and get the opportunity to suggest video ideas like the ones you've seen. Thank you guys.
11:00 Join our Patreon, help us out. Thanks. See you guys there. Say hi to me. But isn't Yeah, there's it has happened. It's more likely, right? It has happened, but that doesn't mean that it's not possible. I'll say this. I think in most people's eyes, for a lady to have a bunch of guy friends and for all those guys to not want to shoot their shot at this chick is very rare. Oh, even I don't believe all of them don't. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. We're just We're just trying to argue that it's possible. Oh, yeah. Yeah. Sure. That the majority and I also don't think you have to try very hard. Like I think people are like, "Yes, I can do it." And then it's like, "Dude, I don't think you're doing it." I think it just happens and you just naturally are like cool with it. I think it takes a level of maturity, too, right? I I think this sounds like from the guy side, it sounds like you would just dip your penis in anything that would be interested in you. So that's what it sounds like when you're telling me that you can't be friends with girls. Desperation. Why are you looking at me? I'm just talking about I thought she was looking at both
11:50 of us. Honestly, I didn't realize I was only looking at you. It just it felt really natural. I think Bart I'm just talking about husband and wives. That's at Chicago Bulls. That's just his theory. That's just his theory. I'm just talking about Pippen and Jordan. I think it's difficult for the guy to not get attracted if there is an opportunity for a girl that they can hang out with all the time and then they're attractive. Yeah, I think if they already have that and I'm only saying this cuz most guys don't even have that opportunity to hang out with girls one-on-one. I also think that chemistry over a period of time can be confused and blurred with like a certain version of attraction. Yeah. Yeah. Like just getting along with somebody really comfortably, just that comfort alone. vulnerable maybe for a point. Blur the lines sometimes. Yeah. Like if you get really lonely or something. All you need
12:40 is like 5 minutes. But there are still people who I feel like I'll have a really strong connection with, but it's not romantic. Like I don't want to make out with you, but I'll talk to you all day. Yeah. What's the difference? What's the cuz I feel like maybe maybe chicks have more of a emotional maturity with that where they can kind of feel like oh yeah I would love to talk to you all day and then I don't want to like have to match our generals together. Whereas I think for dudes it was like the minute you have good conversation it's like oh we got to ████ make some procreate like what we got to make some protein powder. How do you how do you how do you differentiate different differentiate the two of like chemistry and then like platonic chemistry and then romantic chemistry? That's a good question. I might not know how to answer. Um I think the initial like we talked
13:30 about the initial level of attraction has to be there. So then if you start connecting then it becomes romantic or can become romantic. But I feel like if I initially just saw you as a friend from the very get-go, I don't know if it could really And that initial feeling as a friend, is it more of like uh just like a kind of like a instinctual gut thing that's hard to put to words or is it like a more like cerebral thing like could you like for me I can go oh yeah I want to have sex with her cuz she has big titties so I can easily articulate what I'm feeling. Yeah. Yeah. Put in words. Yeah. Could Could you put it into words? It's kind of like that. Could you do it like that? Yeah. You just try. Can you do it better than that, though? Is the question. Well, the big titties don't really work for me. Yeah. Okay. Yeah. So, what's your version of big titties
14:20 when you see it on on another man? Like, wow, that is an extremely black credit card. Like something like that. What are those good ones? Yeah. Especially with their heads. Well, black means overdrawn. It's a lot of debt. I actually think women are probably more like they can be more than guys can be. I think so, too. Yeah. Yeah. I think they got more options. I think they're better at that. And then the reason why is um it's because guys are the ones that fall in most cases. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. I think the guy usually they're the ones that the girls can friend zone real easily. Yeah. Because if you look at how guy friendships are and girl friendships are like girl friendships are already kind of gay like to each other like they get I've been saying that for years dude they're f███████ gay like like they like
15:12 they're possessive and then they're like they treat their girlfriend like a girlfriend like can we not say they when I'm sitting right here her. Okay, Melissa does that. Melissa, this is what makes it special or like confusing for the platonic stuff is because the way guys have friendships, it's typically around an activity or an external thing. You don't even know who this person is really, but you like this hobby together. The way that female friendships are, they get deep. They get really deep and you know everything about this person and it's like guys don't even have those conversations. So, when you have a platonic situation and the girl's used to having like, "Oh, tell me about your family and all these things." And then the guy's like, "She's really into me. Like, this is so cool." To know my life. That's just the dynamic
16:02 of the friendship is different. And the guy's thinking, "Oh, there's this like mutual attraction. We're dating." And it's in his head, but he he just finds her attractive. And he's like, "Finally, I got attention from a woman." And then they're trying to like he thinks there's a chance, but it's like, "No, we just been friends. What are you What are you talking about?" Yeah. And I think that's the biggest thing is like you have a lot of guys that don't know how to act around women. I never had a sister. I think having a sister helps. So that's the point. Yeah. Good thing you know how to act around monks. Could have been bad for you. Wait, what's the temple? The one in Asian Heights. Hen Shili Shili. You know that one? Yeah. I passed by that uh on my way
16:52 home. They have a picture of Bart up there when he was a little kid. Used to go there so much. Up there for like days. Is that the picture that gets burned every morning? Yeah. When they pray for you. They're just praying for Bart. Pray for the world. Sacrifice this photo of this weird guy, which means they reprint it every day. 8-year-old picture of me. cuz I feel like um yeah, I I I would see dudes with girlfriends. I mean like friends that are girls and I had a hard time understanding unless the chick was busted. I'm like, "Oh yeah, you don't want to ████ her." If just busted them, I can see all the friends. But if I put myself in that situation and I'm like, "So which one of us is busted?" For sure. Let's say I go to like a Let's say I'm at a ████ barbecue festival, right? Yeah. Yeah. ████ barbecue. She
17:43 says the the the ████ the smoker next to me, the chick turns around and she's hot. I immediately don't go, "Oh, we're going to have great conversations." I'm going to be like, "Oh s███." What was the point of the barbecue? Hold on. He's going to It's going to come back. It's going to come back. All right. Just wanted I just thought it was like enthusiastic world building that No, just common. I think for dudes it's like common interest. So, common interest plus plus titties titties and nice face equals love. Okay. But I think for girls, I don't think I think they have more variable. She's there for the barbecue. Yeah. The girl algebra is different, right? Haven't you ever met someone who is objectively
18:34 attractive but is not your style? Does that not exist for you? No. No. Yes. But he just still wants to ████ them. That's the difference. I think I have to have sex with them to find out what he's going to try it out. Like a weird goth crazy girl. You that's hot. Well, she's hot to goths. Yeah. Then I need to have sex to find out. See, that's what's different is that I feel like a guy could do that cuz you could like you have to or you could do it to find out. I could never let anybody touch me that I am not remotely interested in. I could not like find out. I would just decide like no, this is not over. But wait, so you're but you're but you're but you're attracted to them though, right? Or they're attractive to you. No, we're talking about the unsur, right? Like that that they're attractive to other people but not to me. Like they're not my style, not my taste. But she's able
19:24 to acknowledge that that's an attractive person. Yeah. It's just not they build attraction is not immediate like us. It's like we could look at someone and be like, "Yeah, you got to have some immediate circumstance." Cuz remember that I always give him the same analogy where I'm like, "If you were a casting director and a movie was like, I need you to find me the 10 hottest kids in town." Can you not say kids? Well, no, that's it has to be because the thing is you have to know the setup. That is well like let's say that that's part of it's like a teen flick and they're like you have the job of like discerning which kid they're going to be like they're be like you need to find some uh young young teens or whatever that have a good look but they're not saying you need to be attractive to them. They're saying you need to be able to tell an ugly kid. Like wait I need to find out way. Oh no. I need to test first. I
20:14 can't tell. Only one way to cast this movie. I think she's picking up on the game here. Careful, dude. You know how to have a platonic relationship with kids? Oh god. Why are you pranking about that? Oh god. Oh, I'm getting anxious. What's wrong with that statement? You disagree? It's not a criminal statement. That's a good statement. Sounds like a professional to me. That's a good certain words don't need to be constructed together. That's a good oldfashioned statement. It's a good old fashioned American. Good grammar, too. very professional, very white collar. You would not be able to tell a hot kid from an ugly kid. I can easily in a heartbeat. You could easily tell. Yeah. But then you know what? The attraction's not part of that. It's just you could tell, right? I think when it comes to chicks, it's different. Oh my.
21:05 So once they reach 18, he's like, "Oh, I can't figure it out." Oh, happy birthday. A the younger they are and the uglier the kid is, the cuter they can become. Ugly duck. So you're talking about investing. What do we It's not another no more theories. So wise sounding the cuter they become. It's true. You're trying to make a really good movie.
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