0:00 but like like like I'm like oh this guy was drunk just running down the hallway butt naked just jacking off in front of everybody like what's guys my wife has to hear about like okay you I was out so I couldn't jack off yeah but you were there still naked who else was [Music] there welcome to another episode of careful boys today we have men wom with us today all question time what is a massive failure that you experienced that you were able to flip into a success wow any moments for Something Completely my my marriage actually flipped into a success uh we were we had a bad marriage and you know it's like I walked into money too early and being Asian and having friends that doing
0:51 Asian things they always have cash available and you have cash like they love gambling and coffee shop partying and going to Vegas got what's so intriguing about the coffee shops their espressos are so good smoothies the avocado smoo make it really the roundness of their beans you think about at 30 I you know I found the woman my dreams I'm I love her but then like you never walked into all that type of money before the coffee shop and then you go to veg you can fly to Vegas like that you can go to Cobo like that so Vegas huh it was uh like our marriage was turn like our relation was like turned upside down she couldn't trust me I didn't care care and then I did care but I didn't care cuz I knew like it's like you have a good investment but right now do you really want to go all in on this investment or there's like other Investments that you might see and at the coffee
1:41 shop well that's where my friends were scouting out Investments I'm like you know what I'm belong for the ride I'm not drinking I'll bring my own coffee I got coffee at home my own espresso machine but you know what if we're out here we're hanging out I'll check out the the expresso machine there's a bunch of alt coins over there so he's got his Bitcoin but it's too B in 2017 when we lost it all I felt like I had a second chance at life like you know what I'm like God if you like just like everyone right when you lose up God if you get me out of this I promise I will turn my ████ around and I had my son I remember I was carrying upstairs one time we were still together like I started kind you have this Montage of like what you shouldn't have done and should have done and then like y let me give my a second I remember I was coming home I was coked out and I was telling my son I fell on the ground and my son he was like two or three like think about this I'm a fat kid I'm like
2:31 falling on my ground with my kid and I feel like all those mistakes I made if I get this chance to turn around I did so like when I got my ████ together you know we we had to sell our house we like pretty much liquidated everything and when I got my ████ together I turned it all around like all right cool like I had to make a list of things I cannot do cuz I feel like I'm like party boy I'm like no coke maybe no Coke but the big one that she would wanted was like No Coke with women in the bathroom that was like a no wow she wow so you could do Coke just women with the boys you could do women outside of the bathroom just so though these are the things are like these are the No No lists so like I literally had to ostracize myself from a lot of my friends and okay because like Frank the Tank right like you put yourself in that position once it hits the lips it's too good I think that's in every Asian man's blood like most right like you can stay
3:23 away from it but once yes I'll say it yes it's in some of our blood I know think about you see Asian people partying in the 40 and 50s you don't see that you know randomly you'll see a random Caucasian but most of the time is this Asian person like oh yeah just star in the that's true I'll be out a out of out a rave and you see a Asian Uncle that's like bro you're like 65 why the ████ are you on Ecstasy but they're there but you see a lot of but a lot of them are there so like to turn like I made a list of things I couldn't I stopped doing and then through that I restored my marriage I feel like uh the success of my marriage like even though something started out people say like it's how you build something in the beginning we decide how it's going to be like later on if I went off of that our marriage would have been destroyed but I changed my ways built a New Foundation even though it was jacked up and like we we have we have a successful marage that's a great example actually nice you're
4:14 able to redeem yourself H that's good have ever have you ever done coke with your wife in the bathroom yes but in the earlier years the earlier years that must have been fun but she just stopped her partying ways yeah like when we had our kid or before we had our kid I think before she got pregnant she stopped and I don't think she ever turned back for me it's like okay I'm about to have again let me turn it up before before last chance man and then I think once you then it's just in you I think but I said I think it's an Asian thing I'm almost like I know more Asian people in their 40s still like still like how are you still partying how you still going to Raves how you still going to like Avalon how you like I Avalon still exists like how do you go to D like how do you still do all these things it's mostly you know and now like the the Asian people are good Hustlers so they figure out how to make money and be crackheads at the same time that's true they're
5:04 like the most responsible crackheads pretty good man yeah so like so like to get out of all that to being an Asian being successful and not be a crackhead that's like a testament of itself the hard part is not being crack when you started as a CRA if you weren't a crackhead in the beginning it's easy but when you were a crackhead to convert not to no crackhead it's hard especially if you've ever had some success while on crack it's hard to not do the crack correct like I'm unstoppable baby I just need a little more cracken think about there's hella Asian business guys that are in their 70s still going to casinos till like 400 in the morning and drunk with their friends and then they go right into their company the next day and I'm like where where do you have this energy the red line that's where the cocaine com the co or the Asian youth that could be it and it's true from being a cook or a restaurant
5:56 manager to a corporate guy you just see all of that yeah it's in the genetics and next day they go to work Michelin star meal bam nothing happen a really a very cut and dry one for you that's very obvious go go for it because we we beat them at this dance show on TV his team the prize was $100,000 and they were like oh we can't open our studio now and then they did a Gund me and made more money than that oh wow is that sick and they open up their studio and they open up the studio first runner up has its perks and then we got taxed and it only came out to like 65 Grand well they split it with like 50 members that was probably the only like true like uh we didn't accomplish something we wanted to and then something came out of it cuz I can't
6:46 think of any other thing that's similar to that really all other things are like you like fully closed one door through something like a failure and because that door was closed you could walk through a different one oh yeah you know what I mean like I feel like this question is like really really interesting and cool like when you talk about your marriage that it's like it's it's you're failing in one part of it and then you turn it around and like Salvage it and that's that's the only thing that I have that's like close to it that's the only thing yeah because I feel like you know when you go on a mission on even like a TV show to win it and then you don't win it like you you think that's your failure but like through that exact thing like you find some sort of like salvation like like that's really really interesting any other thing like I feel like my favorite moments where I was like dang I failed at that it like was the right way for
7:37 like lesson life lessons to be like you weren't meant to do that you're actually maybe meant to go do this but that is a win too right or no it doesn't feel like a yeah but like I feel like it doesn't as as more uniquely answer the question as all cuz like closed doors you know like opening other ones is like really that that happens all every day right like when something's not meant to go it's like a relationship it's like you broke up with that girl and then now you made space to find other fish in the sea find another girl it's rare that redeemed it yeah we had a failure in was like all work yeah yeah instead of going like it wasn't meant to be yeah that's why I enjoy that story because I'm like dang that's that's crazy like when you really think like that was kind of an end but then you turned it around and you're like I'm going to follow these rules I'm going to do these things cuz I care about and I'm going to change that's like a really beautiful story
8:28 thank you thank you that's so good I feel like do you ever feel like that like with with business or you guys try things like I think the hardest thing is like when is the failure time to like move on or when's the failor time to turn it around I think that's the the hard thing I think in in business where I think I that's constant that's just business do you turn it around or you you go on the next thing no that's I think that's the constant question in business like no one questions it while you're making hella money and everything is moving forward but you question it when it's difficult or you don't even want to do it anymore yeah yeah or when you get things like in abundance and things are successful and moving quickly you're like okay with all the flaws cuz you're still just moving forward so quickly yeah and you can sometimes buy off the flaws too yeah somehow you can make it go away cuz you can hire someone or
9:18 whatever ironically actually with even with our kindas Dojo the name of the studio that we open for like losing the the the dance show crowdfunding opening the studio it's through the pandemic we had to close all the studios and that was like another huge moment where I was like dang like I I could make myself feel better and be like the global pandemic was not my doing and responding to it you know what I mean like I I can't be like I failed but no matter what when you're an entrepreneur and you created something and a part of it dies you do feel like you failed it it has no idea it's not about the bearings of like the situation that you can't control in your mind and in your heart you're like what did I do wrong or what could I have done better ironically though uh if it wasn't for that we wouldn't have created the online tutorial platform for KRA Dojo which I say ironically because I don't think
10:08 that that's like this giant success by any means but because of like where we're at in life our age and where we want priorities for like having our time back and our space to do other things that makes the same amount of money from a net profit sboy as our like first smaller Studio but in terms of the liability we're like we don't have a physical spot we don't have people walk to our space every single day we don't have to have operations upkeep managers like interns and everything and you're not tied to to a location people clogging and breaking bathrooms absolutely dude some people take some pretty big ████ and they don't even clean up after themselves or they PE all over the scat they're like now you got to get in there and you girls yeah they're disgusting and so and we we go in and it's very very low cost and operation both in time and effort and energy for actually the same amount of outcome in terms of net
10:59 in come and it's like way stressfree so there there's kind of a a cool like oh like we couldn't take the K do where we were originally planed we were trying to open up hella Studios so like that concept of the the dream failed in a sense but like now what it's giving us all back in terms of our time and when you're older when you're young you're like yeah dude dance dream I want to open up a studio we had that dream then when you do it and then it closes you don't have that dream anymore you're like it's all good that was that was tight while it lasted but now we can still like have it have a connection to our students but not have the same like stress and liability now all my dreams are what's the most stressfree dreams cuz if if like pandemic didn't have we might still just be running a bunch of studios and like just going down that whole path I'm not saying that's a bad one but I'm like there's
11:50 kind of a win in like you know figuring it out a m yeah that's huge damn I'm trying to think like if you have some dumb luck ones that counts too like if you got a TI and then you couldn't make it to a building and it exploded it doesn't all have to be real cool like men's it's ████ dope though you're not going to beat that already so you might as well give us the dumb ones well the fact that your wife didn't even leave you that's also dumb luck so in so when we sold we sold our house in 2018 she uh she moved to rent this house I moved back to my parents house cuz she told me like hey you know you ████ up but I'm going to go live here but I think stressing you out about being a father and a husband you're not going to be able to pay off all this
12:41 debt I could have filed BK but because you know during that time my brother I leveraged my brother's credit to do a lot of things I'm like dude I cannot let my brother go down with the ship like so I moved back to my parents so I can focus on work I saw my kid once a month after the first couple months of like trying to get my uh you my bearings back and she just waited but I know she's like I asked her she had a deadline she like she didn't have a deadline but she wasn't going to wait forever so it was like March 2018 till November I I was negative like I was negative 1.1 I being negative 660 once I liquidated everything I paid it all back in November and then you know near the tail end before that we could start hanging out again but I had to like earn her trust again like kind of pretty much romance her again be like we were married but not we were kind of living separate lives and then it took a while you but you cleared all debt Within like wow months yeah8 months yeah cuz I lived
13:32 at home with my parents so dude yeah yeah live at home with the parents so when you live home with your parents like okay okay like and then you like the Montage every time I'm sleeping at my parents house like my old bedroom which was pink like my mom I don't know D was thinking what I'm sitting there in a pink bedroom right look at the skies when I'm like dude I'm in all this dead I'm like in my looking at the pained clouds and I'm like I'm in my I'm like I'm in my uh at that point like you was it like two um I'm 37 or 38 I'm here at my parents house like what the f happened to my life I saw the Montage of like I had it all I had a beautiful wife I had a beautiful kid I had all this money I blew it all like what have could have should have but didn't and that like being there kind like okay you're going to turn around so we separated in a sense where she was doing her thing but she let me you know build my time and like get my ████ together so that's why like nowadays like she does like if
14:22 she doesn't work she doesn't do anything I don't even care cuz like she waited it out for me was your did you have to downgrade her house like crazy like were you balling out in your house dude we were balling out like dude we had people help out like we I had my own like our house wasn't that big it was like probably four a little over 4,000 foot I had my that's big as ████ I had my I had my I had a I had I had a I had a handyman you had handyman so I could ground keeper I had a handy man in my house like if to hang up walls to put together toys to do whatever like you know put up Christmas like like I had a a full-time handyman like those so those things I kind of went away and did he have a green card yes yes yes yes he actually was serving in the military so he like Serv in the military he was just he hurt himself he just needs stuff to do uh but yeah like it like downsizing was hard but overall it was the best thing now like I don't what lesson I
15:13 learned the most I will not spend money or put energy into it unless it made me taller made me skinnier made my dick bigger or make me ████ harder if it doesn't do any of that stuff I'm not invested in it's a good Compass honestly so like what okay if I'm not going to be taller if I be skinnier I won't make my dick bigger or ████ hard oh no mind that's tight at what point did you give up the lambo uh 2018 when we were losing everything I sold we had to get rid of everything that'd be pretty fun if you hung on to it that whole time I no like dude the car no don't make me I think the one thing is like one thing I forced myself not to do which will bring like say once it hits the tongue the lip I don't skip lines anymore skipping lines to me all of a sudden you're like oh yeah yeah DN ████ I don't got to wait for anyone I'm like Beyond ████ so now when
16:03 I go like I'll purposely wait in line to get served or like we'll go to Disneyland I'll wait in line or before I would pay someone hey go get in line for me I'd pay them I'd bring someone to Disneyland to go wait in line for me and then I'll just jump the line and then hey they took my spot so now it's like I'll wait in line before they came out with the whole fast pass and all the other stuff so now it's like I I want to live the normal life cuz I want to be able to cuz once it once it gets in you again dude you're like ████ Mike Tyson you know cuz Mike Tyson would be like I can't on a treadmill cuz then the warrior ████ F coming out he's like then I want to eat the world and then so that's why Mike Tyson Joe was asking like do you train at all he goes I can't even train one bit the minute I go on the treadmill I just want to kill everybody so he just didn't even like open the animal he's like just this passive tiger and I feel like that's you like the minute you start delegating they're like ████ men Rises oh yeah that's
16:53 why like those things like so that like so when you turn around like you got to like okay your old habits made a listen these are things cannot do like we go to restaurants like tip the the the What's called the the girl like 100 bucks just host host you can sit you right away like I I'll wait it out I'll wait it out wow so wow okay how how hard is it to see that world and then try to unsee it isn't it hard to unsee it you I'm happy now like when you're when you're you're miserable cuz now you're chasing to to keep it you know it's like you're you're playing this game like trying to hold it all together like you have a lot like I just hold one phone happy I can keep going with my life like I'm holding 10 phones together like oh my gosh these are mine oh oh ████ is mine oh I thought was ringing like you don't want to live you know it sounds cool that sounds weird I think I want 10
17:43 phones what's that guy's life the pece of mind huh that gu really important is that all Pokemon go that piece of mind I'm closing the deal here yeah dude that's that's like take the deal take the deal I don't care I wish man I wish we could see that actual list like all those things that you put you can't do see let's just do them oh down the list if I buy a pair of shoes I only I won't buy them in different colors cuz then you now now you have to buy oh no I can buy ████ off 10 colors I mean that's normal that one you could have did not put that on there that's kind of do you do you ever have this urge of like maybe like once a year I'll go to Vegas and live that and then get out of my system or is just out of your system social media like I don't want to show up on the Internet oh like you have to oh it's a guy the what's up orang guy from the like so I don't want any of that and then like I don't want my like my wife
18:33 has loved me so much I don't want her to get embarrassed but they got those VIP rooms No cameras you know but like like like I'm like oh this guy was drunk was running down the hallway butt naked just jacking off in front of everybody like what my wife has to hear about like okay you I wased out so I couldn't jack off yeah but you were there still naked who else was there so the Mike Tyson dude so like so i' rather not cuz like those are things that like they start leading to it like so now if I drink like I don't like I drink uh uh Captain uh Captain diet but I don't go past number seven cuz number seven go to the AG drink all like the tingling Li oh maybe a little little bump's going to like keep the edge going like all right then I can keep going longer you know like oh I just do more cuz if my dick don't work my wife can't say I cheated it I can never cheat so like you start
19:23 justifying like never like you know what keep it drink number seven call it a night Uber home you know was with if I was your dealer I'd be like hey this will make you taller oh yeah so so like I uh I was with my buddy and he was like uh we we're at this event for our work and I got this prize thing and then you go out you're drinking and all of a sudden like we go to this bar and orange dude Orange crry has a tons of them they're like sugar babies like crazy there so I'm there and I'm like at the bar at the bar so like someone knew I used to party during the day so like they like hey I he you used to party I'm going home let me give that I'm like of course as a crackhead and said like no I won't take this like let me put it back in the sock so I put in my sock and I said my sock even though I don't do it anymore like okay it doesn't count as doing it if it seeps through the B it goes in my leg like if my pores open up that doesn't count right what you see that doesn't
20:13 count so like I'm there like so I'm pacing up and down the bar as fast as I can I think I start sweating soon first like sweating goes through the bag goes in my sock so you're there so I'm like I'm sitting there playing this game like an idiot because I went getting close to drink number seven so I get out of the bathroom cuz I'm like all right man like maybe my leg is like too dry let me like like maybe it's not going wet cut my veins like Mormon and then my like but instead of having like logical like you know comments like no I'm not going to do this like that's why when you get past that drink you're like my buddy's there with his wife they meet this girl and they're like oh my God I think it's going to be like this minagi twizzle happening or something and then they're like talking with Snoop and I'm sting there oh my God oh my God and then he's like I'm like you know what I just just gave him the bag and like I left and like I'm sitting there going like all of that played through my head when I
21:03 should have just went home so like that so those are the things why like yeah like the environment the environment don't Don't Dance with the Devil yeah so like when you do like it's like it's already there and you're like playing this game in your head when you should just go home and go to bed yeah you got to get out of that heal Insurance you know get out of Molly Malon in Tustin dude that's like me passing by Del Taco at 2: a.m. yeah why you driving by if you were not a tune you not I loop around the block and go maybe I should just get one case of D it's good protein yeah real similar to putting a bag of Coke in your sock hope that you absorb it everyone has everyone has their own thing right I'm like maybe I could just chew it and then spit it out instead of swallowing it maybe that'll work maybe if I just put it all over my skin it'll come through that's nice for you to be able
21:53 to foresee that and like get yourself out of there man yeah well that was like this was maybe four five months ago so like that was four or five months the last time we saw you yeah that was like okay I'm in the clear you know but then like you're that's why when you start drinking a little bit then like oh yeah right
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