0:00 thank you [Music] I wanted to talk about this because it's going around on Reddit and I wondered if you guys have experienced a similar situation um people are kind of talking about situations where they go and eat at a restaurant with friends or just with people they know um and then once the bill comes certain people start having to go to the bathroom or they walk outside go for smoke do little things that gets them away from the bill so that someone else kind of gets stuck having to figure it out has that ever happened to any of you guys really that's no some I mean like in high school the thing I liked about hanging out with Asian gangs is that they were just like their parents where they would always try to pay for the bill it was a sign of like it was like a
0:50 power move you know like hey I'm gonna so it was nice but at the same time it taught you a lot because like if you do those things they're gonna confront you and they might even be aggressive toward you because they're like why the ████ you never paint or like you know so then so then it was like a more in your face approach to it and then after a while I was like oh yeah but people also also take care of each other because like let's say someone just got out of jail and then they can't go back home and they just take care of them and you take care of them until like they take care of you so the I guess that system in high school that I learned like up until College I didn't mind if people did that but it was also a good way to see someone's character so let's all go out to eat and if someone keeps doing that then I take note of it in my head and I know what kind of person they are but what about all the viewers that don't have prison friends I
1:42 [Laughter] cons a lot although like everybody that's what I was thinking too like as Asians like growing up I always remembered all my Asian friends would always want to pay I didn't have to worry about that yeah but then when it came to non-aging friends they were a little more like how do you want to do this yeah not that they were trying to skip out on the bill but I have had that happen one time oddly that we went to go eat at at The Loft uh in in uh in Lakewood and then um this one girl she was like this one white girl from my uh Community College came with us and then when the bill came she just kept like kind of like zoning out and like kind of doing her own thing and then eventually I was like what's the deal like what are you doing and then she was like oh I only have two bucks oh ████ then why'd you come why
2:32 did you ████ order it that's her nickname was Deuce we used to call her deuce because oh what's up deuce what's a lop which is like in dollar plate is she about two bucks yeah it was a heavy taxes just to have a nickname for the rest of it I think there's some people that literally will go eat with you with the assumption that you will pay and they don't even come prepared it's it's weird when they do that when like most people are just up front you know they're like oh ████ but hey can you cover me like oh yeah yeah but then when it's afterwards and you're like I'd be more embarrassed to try to hide it like to me it's it's it's less embarrassing to be like I really did forget my wallet or like let me try to
3:22 venmo you or like I would tell people straight up back in the day when I was broke I'd just be like I'm broke man I can't go eat with you like that yeah like dude you could afford a ████ 15 meals like I'm out here trying to get Costco hot dogs for a buck 50 and then and then they'll be like I'll take care of you you know you guys go to Costco no we go to Taco Bell well meet in the middle you know yeah but that's the other thing right it's like if you say hey let's go here and then the homie goes ah I'm broke bro I can't go there then it's either I'll cover you or we'll find a cheaper place yeah that's the way it should be and I think when you were younger that was a lot more casual and easy to say yeah I think when you were in high school like at least when I was I would very easily go I don't got the money for Denny's like we gotta go to Jack you know like stuff like that you were just very open you know what I would do this is what I would do when I
4:12 was in college when I was with like a you know like a your hyung figure you're older you know and they oftentimes do take care of it so you get into this like you hope you know what I mean okay you like hope yeah I'll just slowly take care of you know take out my wallet or slowly take just see if they already do this move you go oh where's my wallet no oh man oh I don't know where it is but if it's like a young like I I feel like I just try to thank them before the bill even come like sincerely because hey thank you for paying for me man thanks for covering this man I appreciate that it means so much that you take me out to lunch when I cannot afford it yeah if they're young somebody's younger and then they pay for yours not like that though
5:02 thank you foreign or like a thing the older brother will pay for you it's nice sometimes uh even if you're older person you want to pay for a younger person it's really nice you feel good too and they feel good then and I think if you thank them that's really nice do you think there's something that ties like all Asian culture together in this like exchange mentality stupid pride no like um I think it's more being a group being like a harmonious group I think I was chilling with some Armenians or Eastern Europeans one day at the old restaurant I used to work at and I was like oh this is very similar to Asian culture the way that they were like they do it exactly and no one was like oh we gotta do it 50 50. no it's like the older guy was
5:53 taking yeah this time next time I do it yeah yeah yeah and then I was like there's there's a lot of cultures like that but it's different from like maybe it's like cultures that are more collectivist versus individual you know what I heard in Germany everybody pays their own meal nobody goes paid for me or or I'll pay for it never happened no but really everybody's like half half no yeah just I'm gonna pay for my shoes that's crazy Los Angeles Asians it's like it's like hey I'll I'll pay for the bill I'll pay for the bill because I want the points on my credit card but just venmo music that's a great move Doug you win this time next time is my credit card you venmo me yeah yeah yeah but also like I think and um like the way I saw it was like okay I might pay for the bill but then
6:43 they'll give me something else like either in value or like or like I don't know they'll be thoughtful about something yeah yeah and then we all kind of wire to do that like yeah like where it's like yeah someone's covering it because they have the most money but then I I'm gonna help them out some other will go to work yeah it feels it's just it's like a potluck like you just bring different dishes but if you're the guy that always brings ████ napkins then everyone's like the ████ is wrong with you dude they have kids when I started hanging out with other cultures it was interesting I remember uh remember those two twins that were at College the roller skaters yeah yeah they um who are these people that's what what character they're like they're like professional rollerbladers or some ████ like these two twin are they Jewish yeah two twin hot juice studs yeah so imagine
7:34 two dudes that look like straight up models um and they both like rollerblade and ████ grind on ████ and the amount of each other's dicks yeah the amount of nickel and diming they had between each other was crazy wow yeah yeah they're like I only have this well then you're not I guess you're not gonna get the nachos I'm like you don't just cover the brother like a dollar no remember that one guy in uh he used to he used to work for barbell and it was so funny because he was like he when when the bill came he was like no no no no no this is I'm Jewish I have to do it this way we have to do it oh they can't post it out a calculator yeah yeah and then he's like and then I think we'll tear them apart yeah one of the guys were like no no I'll cover you don't worry he goes no I have to pay my way in and he's like everyone pays their own
8:24 way really similar to what you see your parents do yeah I've always seen my dad fight to pay the bill or just like pay for it before anybody can yeah so then I thought I could ████ do the same ████ whether I had money or not I was just trying to do that but I feel like because that's what's right in your mind yeah Anthony was saying earlier that I feel like some people do it because of love but some people I think do it because of Pride yeah Pride's a big thing yeah yeah I had another Homie we had a bat and the bat was so so something so stupid it was just a like a one dollar iced tea I lost my coolest go to McDonald's to get you like a sweet tea goes no no we're going to Ralph's I'm like what and then he went inside and bought the gallon Arizona Iced Tea and I was like I guess some cultures really want to maximize the win I was like all right I was like really I know it's Pride let's collect I know it's pride and I know I'm
9:14 guilty of it because sometimes I think that I'm supposed to like cover the bill because it's respectful even if they're like Elders or something like you know you go to the business meeting or somebody like no let me take care of the bill but even in that business meeting it's like I know you're so much richer and more yeah yeah but I have to do this yeah you know what I mean and and that's like uh one of those funny faults you know that it's like you're you for sure can pay for this and I am like I need your business but I'm still gonna do this because for some reason I would subconsciously taught this yeah yeah there was a time where uh so when we used to go out with Redfoo all the time and uh he would always just pay the bill for the bottle service the table service everywhere we went right and then towards the end we just assumed like no one would ever even gesture oh I'll pay two or yeah a lot of people we would just not make a thing out of it and then
10:04 uh eventually once he went like solo and then we were kind of just like we went to Toca Madera all the time right oh and then we would go at night before the clubs but then we would have a bunch of girls that would just join our table and start ordering ████ and he didn't like that because that's kind of rude to just do that right you're not sucking nobody's dick and you don't even know anybody that's not a proper thing to do like you don't just go like go Sonos table I'll have the ████ stake in this and order all this ████ so then um one night he was like I'm not gonna pay this bill oh and then so the bill came and that uh and then I thought it was really smart I'm like yeah what are these girls gonna do like these like three girls they just started doing that and then the bill came and then we all like gave them their separate bills and then all of a sudden they freaked and these are like girls that look they're dressed in like Rich ass ████ yeah and they look like a
10:55 million bucks and they turned into the most peasant ████ villagers you could ever they went oh God I don't um Can someone else like cover this because I'm I'm still waiting on like a check and I don't really have yeah so funny three of them were giving different excuses all what was each person's bill um it was like about a meal like you don't have to talk about their prices there's like about a meal big yeah but they weren't eating with us they just came to sit with us to like flirt and then ordered food so we were like oh here's your bill I don't even know your name here's your and then some other guy had to pay for them because he yeah some other dude was just like you know what I don't want to like hear this anymore so I'll just pay there's always a sip that's ready to go did he get did he go home with them that night no they did he just we just wanted to go home ourselves so we're like rather than just
11:46 sit here and talk because it was kind of like an experiment we were like it was red tear laughing just so yeah we were just like dude this is so crazy that how many times could this have happened in the past yeah because we that was happening all the time I think it's nice that he did it once so that to check everybody yeah don't do this because they weren't friends of ours they were just like kind of hanging and then uh that's the same thing with that they call them bottle rats when you go to the club and you get a table and then all of a sudden all these girls come to your table and they start drinking your alcohol and then they scatter when the lights turn on like roaches yeah exactly and when the last one on too they're butt ass ugly but you thought they were fine yeah yeah let me ask you guys do do you guys like the gesture though like of pulling out the wallet I I would say this the empty gesture I appreciate that though I don't want the empty gesture like I I personally yes no uh you are you saying when you gesture or when someone gestures when somebody he's just sharing when you're paying I don't know
12:36 I think either way is kind of weird if I if I genuinely want to cover it then you'll win no it's not even that it's just like it's fine dude like don't worry about it like don't even gesture I'll cover it like when they go hey I'll pay for it and then you look down and it's like a Rite Aid card and then you both laughing idiot and then you pay for it when people pay a receipt yeah anything a driver's license if that's how your relationship is with that person if you consistently go out and then sometimes you pay sometimes they yeah and then it's like okay and they're pulling out it's like that's not a gesture that's like an actual action right okay yeah well you can also figure out little games like what we used to do to figure it out in high school was we would put the card at the edge of the table and then you flick it up and then you try to catch it in your fingers like this and if you can catch it then you get to pay but if you drop it you can't pay then you get to pay then you get to pay
13:26 that's like you literally go like this I couldn't catch ████ oh I suck at this game scissor catch it like that I want to try that yeah they said it's the Korean way to pay really but the fool just ████ made it up so we believed it was Korean for years that's so funny catch and then you can be like that that's Ty that's so cool I got that coordination but the funny thing is I I started doing that with everything right and then I thought it was cool to whenever I checked a new hotel and the lady gave me the key she I would go like this thanks and I'd walk away you're the coolest guy but then one time I I hit it so far it slid under her counter and she was like why would you do that [Laughter]
14:17 let's follow the structure of who should pay like in family so like for us it would be all this uh working all old is working but sometimes so for example my stepfather he was like Hey I want to treat you guys out for dinner if he says that and he goes choose whatever you want then no one's gonna put up a fight oh yeah if he calls it he's retired yeah yeah that's true it's like but I just feel like bad but it's respectful yeah yeah and then um typically like like now I'm at the age where like I can pay my own way and like maybe I might make more or whatever but then I still respect the hierarchy of like if they want to take care of it yeah I'm just going to let them do it but then sometimes I will do it two just to be like hey I'll take some of the
15:09 burden so it's not like the whole day you're paying three meals if we're like on a trip together or whatever right yeah but like I feel like when you're in your 30s and on you should start paying yeah yeah like I think like maybe in your 20s still you could get away but still like I think now like the the power shift will change depending on you if you start becoming like 30 with kids and you're growing then like your your parents you're gonna take care of like you know there's that shift that happens the shift yeah taking care of you because most Asians don't have a a a like like a retirement program like the way that like you know they their retirement program is you letting them move into your house and you take care of them yeah no nurse nothing right yeah it took me a lot to learn
15:59 um and I didn't learn this until much later when you get older and your parents are trying to offer you things or give you things and then you're like I don't need that mom like come on exactly and like it's respect to accept it and just act like oh my God like thank you I can't go straight to a trash can the ████ am I gonna do with this you don't do that though for sure you see a lot of stuff yeah but you know you know the respective if like if the the Elder respect if they tell you hey I'm gonna pay today you order what you want you also have to enjoy it you can't go yeah oh this sucks like yeah like you don't make comments right do you if somebody pays like an elder or whatever do you guys like um order less things hell no I do it to my heart's desire
16:51 dude if I know anyone else is paying yeah in general even if it's a friend I don't order the ████ tomahawks yeah dude I try to for sure I try to get less just because it's you know I just always feel like I'm guilty of like not paying like if I'm going out and someone covers it with family or just in general everybody even when tip is like I want to take you out I feel guilty do you feel guilty when I used to buy you breakfast as a thank you for training me yeah I'd be like no because you're giving me a free service but it's not even that it's just like I feel like I'm cheating you because you should get paid more for the time time that you've been training me and I get away with buying a 15 ████ egg and steak Yeah but it was good steak and eggs uh it's like but it's but that like if you do it a couple times I'll be like oh thanks Joe and then the ████ up thing that I do is like if Joe would be like hey you want
17:41 to go get steak and eggs I'll be like no I'm good bro I'll be back now but I enjoy that or why don't you just say let's go but the new page yeah or something like that I'll try to but then I know sometimes it's like this ████ won't even let like there's certain people that won't let you pay you know what I mean and it's like that ████ bad but I feel like for me though I'm actually getting a bargain like I feel like I'm cheating him because I pay 15 bucks for what should be like a hundred dollar training session hey we should go back to getting steak and eggs though that place is still yeah but then that's how I filmed you that's all I think you felt guilty so you had to hire him full time when he pays you 40. take an extra training are you training him a 15 value just to get breakfast yeah I'm just like yeah dude just do whatever yeah hit the back for an hour yeah yeah you can squat I guess I don't know this guy fights like steak and eggs
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