0:00 a lot of guys would like oh that's my dream she was hot and he was very uninhibited and stuff anal all day anal anal yes I I I admit that guilty as charge don't have give away the key we can edit that out I'm telling I'm telling [Music] you lieutenant Aram Cho how did you get to be Lieutenant what did you do why you out of all the people did you take tests yeah I mean I asked myself that too I mean really a right place right time good timing you know it wasn't just getting it overnight right I've been a cop for 25 years and I made lieutenant in my 24th year right so it took a long time to get there would you say you're average or faster or slower to get to Lieutenant I would say average um
0:50 there's some Superstars there some studs that make lieutenant in 10 13 years wow but you know like it's a it's timing at an agency my size where there's only six lieutenants somebody has to vacate that position for me to get there whether that's a promotion and from the lieutenant the next rank is Captain and there's only two captains at my agency so you got six guys vying for two spots when I made lieutenant I I performed really well I I you have to take a an exam process there's an oral interview and then you know there's some there's qualifications you have to have an education you have to have so much experience and then the oral panel is the most difficult thing cuz the people sitting on the panel are captains from outside of your agency so there's no no bias on the inside and these are people that don't know you at all and then there's people that just candidates that become try to test for lieutenant that don't know how to talk like subin yeah
1:40 yeah have to he'll never beeen no never but um he's just barely trying to make officer oh oh Tink Tink Tink you know there's so there you got to work your strengths right for me I'm a good communicator so I I take exploit that but but that's only one inside of it that's only a certain amount of points and then what you've done in your career and then your education and all that stuff matters so I it was really there was four spots this time around so all the sergeants put in for it right and it was highly competitive and how many sergeants is that there's 14 sergeants oh ████ just timing man I the people that made the decision it was tight at the top the what separated the top three lieutenants were uh that got selected were half a point wow so I was the third one so close yeah he luckily they needed to
2:30 fill three spots right away and uh I was the third spot wow what do you do when you get it what do you do oh man I was so happy cuz it's it was a huge pay jump It's the largest pay jump at my department what were the other two lieutenants that were ahead of you what do you think they like like edged you out on so one of them uh good buddy of mine he was a SWAT Commander so he had a lot and he and he was born and raised and still lives on the same street in in the city wow so he has a lot of Community Support um you know when you talk about like who the next chief should be he's always in the conversation because he's so invested in the city he still lives in the city right so how how much more invested can you be than someone that was born raised and still lives in the same street he was born on so you'd vote for that guy too I support him I don't want that job that's his City holy ████ support him 100% for that position that's cool and then the other guy he's just been a cop
3:20 a lot longer he was in his 50s he had a lot of it was like third fourth time testing so he he edged me out from experience and that was only my second time testing so you made lieutenant we we all seen the movies that's so sick what do you do um well not a lot of police work you know uh when you the joke is when you get your bars you kind of lose your your spine a little bit you have to make the difficult decisions and sometimes are the unpopular ones um you know people think police are so rambunctious and we don't police our own but we do police our own I mean I've had to I've had to discipline people um that takes away their livelihood that takes away their paychecks um puts a lot of stress on their homes but if I ignored it and didn't do it then now I'm culpable for a mistake somebody else did right what does that mean like you have to discipline them and it affects a p so so we're governed by not just the law and the penal code but we have internal
4:10 policy too and I mentioned earlier that we don't do anything around the neck that's not now it is a law but some agencies before it became a law was a policy you didn't do any kind of neck restraints yeah and so someone let's just say someone did that it's a violation of policy well we have to determine now there's an investigation and during that time they're investigated they're they're off work sometimes they get paid and sometimes we're unpaid leave and you know we have to make that it's a tough especially when you have a relationship with these guys they've got they're the only bread winner in the family and they got kids for me to be the bad guy and but I've got to follow follow protocol and do it the right thing sometimes but yeah that that's the not fun part and when people see what I do they're like that you're not a cop anymore but I look at it this way I've had 25 years of experience I worked a lot of different units uh had a lot of personal stuff happen to me if I was a police officer you would want me as a
5:01 lieutenant so traditionally lieutenants were hard asses and iron fists rules with Iron Fist I'm not that guy um I can relate to the guys that are young now CU maybe because I'm on social media or you know I refuse to get old and and be that gruffy grumpy guy so I'm thinking if I'm a cop and I had an opportunity to to be a lieutenant that the cops would rather have I'm going to be that guy how far do you go to try to defend a cup for example the cat who who gets in the back seat with that chick during uh the Stop and he closes the door behind him and he gets caught in there and the Child Safety Lock or whatever you guys do he couldn't get out indefensible right me that's that's a so his story that like he was just checking on her you could never put yourself my kids tell more convinced lies than that guy did right there's no
5:51 way you'd ever get in the back seat with a a female that's not a common thing if there was a legit if there was a legit medical emergency you'd get back there right that was his story that there was some sort of medical emergency but why would you turn off your body cam the policy says while you're in transport of a prisoner you're always going to have your body cam on he fumbled with it he was flirting the audio clearly was he was accepting a you know he has some game though game he he was risen he was Ren he went to like a neighborhood out of his way to like went outside of his City jurisdiction that's why another Police Department had to come let him out oh another police let me ask you this and I mean this in all out of all respect what if she's having a medical emergency and her teas are popping out all over the place what's what I said her what if she's having a medal emergency and her titties are popping out all over the so if both things are true yeah it's happened I mean you got to be mature you got to flip that thing off yeah I mean when you do when when you're got be glasses all this we we responded medical and we were trained in
6:42 first aid and we have to apply the EKGs not EKGs um ad ad um you've got a be chest defibrillator oh right so yeah it's they're coming out they're coming out yeah but for someone that's never seen them before I'm sure it's exciting but he did seem like that kind of guy when someone dying you know it's like oh he did sound like that kind of a dor he did he did back at home or who's a lieutenant at home you or your wife oh so it's not going to be it's not going to be a popular thing to say but I'm a very traditional Korean husband which means my wife Waits on me hand and foot that's tight kid I'm kidding I wish how'd you do it tell me your secrets you almost got us in trouble by Green I going to be better it is running joke with my friends at work though that um
7:32 i' I've kind of assimilated her because um from the very beginning she quit her job before we even had kids she quit her job and um she wanted to be a housewife and the relationship if you looked at the relationship I had prior to my my meeting my wife I was with my girl ex-girlfriend for like four and a half years USC business student you know she wanted to make millions her priority was was money driven and that was very similar to the way my parents were right I was basically raised by TV you know I cook everything was out of a can or out of a box you know I raised myself basically I didn't want that I thought I wanted that cuz my girlfriend at the time was a lot of fun but when it became time to like actually hey I'm kind of mature now I wanted someone that was focused on being a good housewife and a good Homemaker Homemaker right and a good mom and um luckily I found you know
8:25 back then this was 2000 when online dating was not even a thing it was actually you were we were actually embarrassed to tell people we met online like how'd you guys meet oh you know friends I arrested her it's less embarrassing that is less embarrassing arrested her locked in the back seat yeah medical emergency which website did you meet her on it was christiancafe.com I I don't know if it still exists or not I never even heard of it yeah and it wasn't even a dating site right you had a profile but it was basically like an AOL chat room anything a dating side of you try hard no and uh we we were like we were arguing with each other is what it was and there was no photos it was all like what do they call them emo avatars right so you knew somebody was a girl they had a girl avatar or somebody was a guy but that was it you didn't know what they looked like unless he had an account yeah he met his wife on chicks with dicks.com
9:15 that's not a d side either believe it or not I mean the one thing I had going for me was my my email address was Hotmail hotmail.com no I'm kidding I didn't have that I didn't I wish I would have claimed that I might do that now dude I might register that but we so we went out of that chat room dming I know some biblical stuff she was she was she was a bible thumper and I wasn't but I thought because I read a couple of verses I thought I was I knew more than her now did you go there cuz you're like I want this type of person yeah I was always so I was raised in a Christian Home pres I went to a traditional Korean Presbyterian church but not by choice it was just something my family did on Sunday and it was an all day event went not only did you have to get up you had to go to church and sit through a whole sermon that I didn't understand cuz it was all in Korean I had afterwards instead of going home we all ate together as a congregation it was like Korean food just it was great
10:06 hot yeah that was the best thing and then it turned into like well now we got to go to this person's house and it's like 6:00 you're at home so Sundays were and um when I I mentioned that ex-girlfriend when I was dating her I was living in total sin right like doing anything I wanted and I just didn't feel fulfilled I like like a lot of guys would like oh that's my dream she was hot and he was very uninhibited and stuff an all day an an yes I I admit that guilty is charge you don't have away the key we can edit that out I'm tell I'm telling you I'm just trying to ████ with you this relates to this this relates to that Sund that yeah because I I have a theory he's like anal to [Applause] me oh see see I don't have parents
10:58 watching this so I'm good yeah I don't know if you're going to make Captain anymore like anal guy let's let's make him Captain but like we love anal guy I always said there's two two types of cops right there's cops that have kind of always been you know the athlete at school the popular guy people used to being looked at by other kids you know elevated to that uh leadership position and I played football all four years I was a captain all four years and so I I kind of was used to the attention Okay being an only child too I craved attention so I was used to that and then you have other people that have never EXP experience that never been with a girl never had game or whatever and then all of a sudden when you become a cop you get that attention you can be the ugliest dude in the world that uniform and badge will endear what we call badge bunnies right people cop groupies and so then you have guys like me that have kind of been through that done that it's nothing new that attention's like you know go away and then you got this
11:50 animal that you created that doesn't know how to handle that and like well I didn't get to experience this I'd like to experience what it feels like now and it becomes a drug to them they want more and more and it just becomes they become emboldened and don't want me be a cop dude my body counts low end up in the back seat with that's that that's exactly what happens but um yeah so yeah the question wasn't fully far fish I I did experience a lot and but I did know also that personally I didn't want that in my life it was unfulfilling uh I knew that she may have made somebody the perfect wife for somebody else but for me with what I wanted and I wanted a bigger family she was one of seven kids and I was one of one so we met in the middle we had four kids and uh we've been married this September this October September October will be 21 years holy s█████ what's the secret to 21 years of marriage you seem happy but so so this is a weird thing
12:41 the relationship I had before her I was with her for four and a half years not once that I consider marrying her I went on one date with this girl I came home my roommate said how' to go I said I'm going to marry that girl she went I find this out later on she went home to her sisters and she says I'm marrying that guy wow D that's what happened to me and we had a crappy first date really what' you guys do met at Ontario Mills which is a big Mall Great Mall Great Mall Forest Cafe I don't well we didn't eat there went to the movie theater there wor thing don't spoil on the first date worst thing you can do is go to a movie that so they say it so we went to a movie and it yeah but not only that this movie I forget what it was called but it was um it was a horrible movie we walked out of it and I like oh what do you want to do now and I said well Cheesecake Factory is right here and we can have dessert and that turned into like like we finished our dessert and stayed there for hours hours just talking that's
13:31 awesome stacking chairs around you guys pretty much she's not why we and the weird thing out of the entire parking lot right the the mall is huge where does she park she Parks right behind me wowan that's a big lot too and so you go bye and then you walk all the way to the car no I knew it was her I recognized her by this time we had exchanged photos and stuff and I recognized her um but yeah I it took me 6 months to propose to her I I knew I was going to marry her wow what's the secret um so that that phrase happy wife happy life I me there is some truth to that um when you when you argue you're not having conversations right you're one side's proving their point the other side's proving their point I think it took me about s to 10 years to realize that arguments all end in the same way we you know we we're just going to make up but
14:21 but we're wasting that that half day that we're angry at each other skip it yeah just fast forward and say Hey you know let me let me instead of uh be being condescending and just appeasing them to say okay I agree with you try to understand it like look let me understand your point I'm talking myself and um and then and then experiencing some tough things we we had some crisis in our lives and I knew that my wife knew I would do whatever it takes to dig us out of that crisis and I knew that she would stick by me so there's I I forget where I saw this but there were some psychologists that said um when women look for a mate they look for three things and one of the things is knowing that you don't have to be rich but knowing that you have a drive to be secure that you knowing that if the ████ hits a fan you wouldn't mind flipping burgers for that family if you have to um the other one is knowing that you'll provide by protection so provide
15:12 protect I forget the third one is penis penis pis yes yes provide protected penis actually it is it's procreate that um you you have the ability to make a baby make a baby yes stri yeah that's true okay well that was really good that's really sick I think we uh I think we know why you made lieutenant peee dude I peut carpet bomb that ████ brother ████ go dog
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