0:00 You know the phrase too much of a good thing is a bad thing? >> I guess it can. >> Is that Is that the whole phrase? >> Too much of a good thing, that's all. >> Is a too much is a good is a too bad? >> Yeah, that's the >> Okay. But like I guess the expression of it um you know like when when nice stuff can become bad uh because you do them too much, is there anything in a relationship that you think is a good thing, but if they're doing it too much, it becomes bad? >> You got to ask a woman. >> Yeah. >> Cuz I feel like women are the most confused people. Cuz they'll tell you one thing and then you do that one thing and you ████ up. >> never do that then. >> I don't think you did do it like that. It wasn't like that. >> Like for instance, here's some examples. Like uh like calling. You know like how in the beginning it's like you you never call. How come you never call me? And then like you could call too much and it could become bad. Texting too much uh
0:52 Is it Is it uh >> I don't think you could call or text too much. >> Wow, really? >> calls you every hour, it's not too much? See see see see see? It's already changing. >> But But it's also why they're calling. Cuz like I have friends that they'll they'll be so frustrated because their guy only calls to be like, "When are you coming home? Where are you? Where are you Where are you going? What are you doing?" >> even need to do that if you have their location. >> Yeah, that's true. >> They're stupid. >> I know. That's I like do That's why I like sharing my location cuz you don't have to have that. >> Never have to call. >> What about um by like surprise visits at work? >> Supplies. >> I think that's cute every once in a while, but there is too much of that cuz I would feel more like you're watching me or something. I don't know. I think that's weird. But if you're always bringing lunch or something, I think that's really thoughtful.
1:43 >> Maybe you could help me cuz this is the one that I'm trying to work on. So, in the beginning of our relationship, Geo says like I'm not very emotional. But she doesn't know like the real me, whatever the ████ that means. So, she wants me to be more vulnerable so I can share my ████ >> you say it like normal? I'm trying to be vulnerable. So, there's like the the the insides, right? She wants to know my insides. And then um and then I like I'll come home, whatever, from doing something and I'm like, "Babe." She's like, "Let me guess, you're tired. You're going to take a nap." And I was like Yeah, I was about to be emotional with you and that I thought that's what you wanted. And then she goes, "No, you're just complaining." And I'm like, "Well, what's the difference between being emotional and complaining?" And she's
2:33 like, "Ugh, you just don't don't get it." Can you help me? >> So, what I'm hearing is you saying you were going to say, "I'm tired and I'm going to take a nap." And that's you being emotional to her? >> Yeah. >> When you hear me say it, does that do any >> Well, because before I wouldn't even share any of that and she'll be like, "I don't even know what you're feeling on the inside." So, now I go, "Well, what I'm feeling is I'm tired." >> Maybe she just wants you to Maybe she just wants you to dig deeper than that? >> Yeah, tell her about your day. >> Like like what? How do you dig deeper? >> I JK for 8 hours. I don't know. Maybe she just wants to hear something introspective. Like um
3:23 >> Oh, she wants me to ████ ENTERTAIN HER ASS? OR WRITE A MOVIE? Do you have emotional problems with your husband? Or she he's good at expressing his emotions? >> No, he's not. >> He's not good? >> No. I always have to say, "Can you talk to me more?" >> And then does he tell you something and then you go, "Shut the ████ up." >> That's how it happens in your house? >> something wrong. Yeah. >> Oh man. So what am I supposed to do? What am I supposed to do to get the emotions out? What am I supposed like >> I >> For emotions. What are you feeling? I have to give my feelings and then she's like close the door. >> Do you know how to name any feelings other than tired? Do you know any other feelings?
4:13 >> I'm worried. >> Worried? Okay. Do you know how to build on that? Why are you worried? >> Because I'm going >> Maybe she really wants you to do some gay ass ████ You know, like walk like walk >> it that. >> Like walk in the door and be like you know, I was thinking today like how far WE'VE COME. >> OH, SHE WOULD BE DRIPPING. >> You She would? >> Oh yeah. For that, yeah. She'd be like, "Wow, tell me more." >> You know Honestly, that is kind of like It's the thing of like, "You know what I saw today? Like you know, I I saw this old couple at Albertsons and I'm just like that's going to be us someday, you know?" >> You know what I >> Like GAY ASS ████ LIKE THAT, BRO.
5:03 >> How do you know that that's what you're supposed to do? >> I don't know. I just maybe it's like that's just the maximum gay thing I can think of. >> Oh. >> And I think 10 out of 10. >> It's If I see a old couple and the girl's way taller than the guy, I go, "HEY, THAT'S US." >> YOU'RE NOT DUMB. YOU CAN BE LIKE, "OH, I thought that's going to be us one day." We're going to Because we're >> I'm going to put it to the ████ test. I'm going to put it to the ████ test. >> Oh, what are you going to do? Oh my god, dude. Don't forbid him say anything we just said. >> Hello. >> Hey, babe. >> Yes. >> You know what I was just thinking? >> Uh what? >> I was just thinking, look how far we've
5:54 come. >> Wow. Tears in my eyes. >> What about our desert tears in your labias? >> Yep. So much moisture. >> See, I told it'll work. Okay, thanks, babe. You ████ up with the execution. >> Yeah, you sound like a ████ idiot. >> You can't be doing it like a villain. >> I did it exactly the way Ryan did it. >> You didn't. >> You did exactly. >> Can't be that tone deaf. >> Yeah. I did exactly the way Ryan. >> No, dude. Geo's right. >> Did I not do it verbatim? >> No, you did not. >> For real? It sounded like the Mad TV version of what I did. ████ >> You have to get your serious voice. >> Maybe I'm just not even capable. No, it's because you you turn it to
6:44 slapstick comedy. It's entertaining though. >> I know that. >> That same moment when you're saying like when you see the taller, you know, old guy with it and you're you're you're actually imagining something very sweet. You just make it sound really stupid. So if you just TAKE THAT SAME MOMENT AND MAKE IT BETTER. >> You want to know one that'll work 100%? I guaran- I guarantee you. No, this one I guarantee you. So take anything that you heard through the day that was like a problem. Like let's say I vented to you, right? And I vented about how like God, do you mean smack ████ like I'm so frustrated with this blah blah blah and I tell you some problem, right? You go home, you go to Geo and you go man, Ryan was just telling me about this ████ he was going through and blah blah. And just be like we're so lucky that we don't have these things. Like I'm so grateful that we
7:34 don't have that problem. I guarantee you she'll be like wow, like that's like just be like it'll it'll feel like you're really expressing like an appreciation for something. >> I'm going to try my best. >> He's going to come back, "IT DIDN'T WORK!" >> I'M GOING to ████ it up. I'm going to be like >> Oh, I guarantee you'll ████ it up. >> So, Joe told me he's been dealing with this termite problem. I'm so glad we don't have it. We don't GOT ANY TERMITES. AND SHE'S GOING TO BE LIKE, "WHAT THE ████ are you talking about?" I'm like, "I'm just being vulnerable, babe." >> Yeah, that's it. You set You set yourself up to be like, "Thank you for making it so easy on me that I don't
8:24 have to deal with what this guy got to deal with." I swear that goes a long way. >> But also, do you tell her about your day? Tell her about your worries? Do you tell her when you're upset, when you're stressed? Like, do you tell her those things and why? OTHER THAN YOU'RE TIRED. DO you even tell her why you're tired? >> I don't think so. But like >> Do you just use like singular words to speak to her? >> But what if what if what if what if it's just You know, like like some of us just don't got anything really happening. We just It's just we're tired, right? >> Oh, no. No. >> But then like when you But no, seriously, I think girls don't understand how >> Oh, yeah, yeah, yeah. No, you're right. Yeah. >> We can just check out and just chill. OUR BRAINS ARE EMPTY.
9:16 NOT ALL THE TIME. NO, NOT ALL THE TIME. I WOULD say it could be even be 90% OF THE TIME. >> NO. IT'S NOT TRUE, DUDE. >> I'm Oh, but but but I I I really need you to understand how empty some of us can be. Like >> Are you really fighting for this? >> Yes, cuz I really don't think girls understand how we could be like in pause screensaver mode. >> Yeah, our screensaver turns on quick. >> That sounds >> you think guys invented >> it sounds avoidant. >> why why do guy What do you think guys invented meditation? Cuz it's one of the dopest things on earth to do. >> I don't think by you just saying I'm tired is you meditating. >> No, no, no, no, no, no. I'm not saying that. I'm not saying that. All I'm saying is we don't Okay, so like think about it this way, a crayon box, right? Girls can have the 100 crayon box
10:07 and identify all the colors and shades. Boys got the six primary colors. When it comes to the emotional experience. Now, I'm not saying this all guys, but I need you to know that there's a lot of guys that exist in that realm where they can only identify the six and they don't know the nuance and they don't know how to go in between if even if it does exist. Like for example, in the past my girlfriends had to tell me I was angry and I wasn't registering that I was upset or whatever. I'm like, "What are you talking about?" And and so like it's not necessarily that we don't go through the experience. We're We don't even know that it's exist it it's happening. >> Yeah. >> like it's like being a ████ alcoholic. You don't know you're drinking 20 beers, but it's in your
10:57 mouth, So there's the unawareness part, but there's also a legitimate like blank mind part. Where you're just breathing and looking into the air and you're just like zoning out. >> Looking into the air. >> What are you thinking about? And then like you You ever have that moment when they're like, "What are you thinking about?" And you're like, you have to make up a story. >> What kind of stories do you make up? >> I just I just I'm good at storytelling. >> How far we've come. >> But I get in trouble I get in trouble if I just if I say nothing. >> actually better somehow. >> Dude, if you responded to Geo with that, if she's like, "What are you thinking?" he said, "How far we've come." That's pretty believable. >> That is so good. >> Until she asks, "Tell me more." >> Yeah, oh ████ yeah. >> You're like, "Oh, but I I don't know, but" >> I I think that recognizing and being
11:47 aware of yourself is a is a an acquired skill. >> Yeah. >> So, it's not something we were necessarily born with either. It's something you have to continuously work on. >> Cultivate. >> So, just because you can't cuz even sometimes I feel like I don't always know what my emotion is. I have to sit with it and figure it out and process it and then I get there. You just maybe don't process it and just wait for someone to tell you that you're pissed off. >> Well, it's not a it's not being reluctant toward it. It's like I think that there's certain skills, like when you watch toddlers, right? >> Mhm. >> Girl toddlers are clearly more self-aware and socially aware. And when you look at boys, and I'm talking and in general, right?
12:38 The way they play is completely different, the way that they treat others and things, it's like entertainment. And in so like in the guys' mind, it's not really second nature to introspect and understand and and all that stuff and and then I think this is why there's a lot of guys out there that just go screensaver mode and they don't know how to actually like, what do you call it? Describe or tell you what's going on. And I I'm not saying that that skill can't be developed. I'm saying like they're like light-years behind to the point where it doesn't even exist. >> Yeah, they have a fair mind. >> But it's not something that you can't you can't get. It's something that you practice. I don't think I was always in tune with my emotions and it takes practice and and repetition to get there. So, if Bart just kept pushing
13:29 past the I'm tired and keep pulling the un- like keep peeling the onions. Like, what's the next step after tired or worried? >> Also, he he did a survey and he's kind of got he's borderline Asperger and he's got autism, so that's why. >> Okay. >> But, I'm I'm pushing But, I'm pushing it though. I'm like trying to >> He did an online survey and he had to put his email in and they gave him a free gift card. >> WHAT? >> YOU KNOW HOW YOU CAN LIKE TAKE like online IQ tests? Well, this one was like an Asperger test or whatever. >> Okay. >> And it said I think I was like pretty have it or something. >> That you pretty have it. >> have it. >> So again, I don't I don't think it's an excuse, but I do think that guys have a really ████ hard time doing what might be like I think for girls it'd be
14:19 like, "Duh, it's ████ obvious." And I And I I just think it's been the whole gender question for millions of years. I'm pretty sure there's cavemen out there that are getting in trouble by their caveman wives cuz they're like, "It's obvious, you ████ buffoon." And the guy's like, "What did I do? I don't know what the ████ I did." >> I love the word buffoon. Have you Have you talked to Geo about this survey and the results and what you think about them? >> No, it's just like I I know you you have Asperger's. It's like, "I could have told you that." You didn't need to go on that site. >> because we've been a couple for so long, so I am pushing, right? So, in the emotional realm, I am pushing, but I think she's also been exercising her Doctor Xavier-ness, so she can like
15:09 she I can give a little bit and she can receive a lot. Because, you know, we're we're still up here. So, it's like instead of going like this and meeting in the middle, over the years it's like it's like meeting meeting the third. >> Yeah, she's trying to meet you where you are, which is very very sweet and romantic. And the best thing you can do is try to push that out further and further, right? So, she doesn't have to work so hard to get you to you.
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