0:00 my Dad or Mom tries to do that where they like be like oh why don't you get a better haircut it's CU of the baggage bro cuz we could have fight back when we're kid I turn into a kid and I start talking back and then it's the same old like damn it took me a long time to just be like why don't you get bare [Laughter] [Music] haircut on another episode of I am the beepo am I the Anthony excuse me don't Anthony okay Susan B Anthony Susan boil Anthony am I the Susan Bo Anthony for flipping out on my mom for talking to my son about becoming a big brother here's a context huh my I am a 38-year-old male and my wife is a 38-year-old female ooh High School
0:51 sweethearts we have one child together a 6-year-old son mhm when we got married we agreed we both only wanted one child a few years AG go my wife got her tubes tied oh I also got a vasectomy last year why doubled it doubled it double double trouble why just to make sure you know if one commits the other one commits in holy matrimony maybe I don't know 100% chance just to cover all why would she have to do that like hers is irreversible does make any sense to me why we got to make it about one person more because it's silly like why are you going to double down on something they just want to double down we're going to respect their which maybe she was like I'm ████ done with this no more okay we didn't announce this to the family but it also wasn't a secret we've had a few people ask if we're having another and that's usually
1:42 when it comes up I am one of six siblings our mother is one of eight kids most of my siblings have had at least three children if not more only my brother is also one and done braa Brer our mother struggles to accept this and has said several times that we'll change our minds even knowing that my wife and I physically cannot have more children She'll always bring up an adoption or say that my procedure but that's just how moms are they're ████ annoying my brother and I always shut it down have told her we're not changing our minds Etc recently she was babysitting my son while my wife and I went out we picked him up after and on the car ride out of nowhere my son started crying and asking if we were having another baby we said no he said that his grandmother kept asking him if
2:32 he wanted a baby sister and saying that we should have another baby he could be a big helper Etc we got home rather quickly consulted him and promised him we weren't having another baby and that his grandmother never should have told him this I called my mom and got on her about this telling her she stooped Low by getting our son involved that's pretty low she said that we're overreacting and him crying over potentially getting another sibling is ridiculous and we're raising a spoiled child I argue no he's a sensitive kid who doesn't do great with change and she scared him I told her that until I can trust that she won't say these things to him her babysitting privileges have been revoked and she'll only be around him if my wife and I are there my brother backs me up on this apparently our mother tried the same thing with his son and it led to a similar argument on their end our sisters think we're overreacting and
3:22 that this is a natural question and my mom is right that it shouldn't have upset my son so much am I this Susan B Anthony hey man one of the leading causes for divorce is metalsome in-laws so I think it's valid M cuz you know like old people dude they just want they just want to give their opinion all the time and they've live so many they've they've had so many kids already so in their mind it's like that's could this is how you feel now it it just sounds like old people trolling you know how like they're teasing you and then you're sick of their ████ cuz they did that to you when you're a kid and then now she's got so many people to be entertained by cuz she's ████ with you and the kid too and it's kind of like low-key bullying right but it's fun mhm I just think it's one of those situations where they're like being annoying and they're being fun and they're just like come on I just ████ around you know sound she's ████ around but she sounds like she's serious like she's trying to plant the seed oh like she's being pushy I
4:13 just accept the fact that moms are Relentless when they want something and they just you tell them to shut up they're not going to listen they're going to keep going man mother-in-laws the the I that St but it's his own mom though not mother-in-law is it it's his own Mom it's his own Mom that's why isn't his wife also pissed about this or just him she probably both is they both are well cuz it seems like it's so it's so not the pattern of the whole family they're the only ones with one child all their other kids have multiple except the brother so so yeah so they're the two odd ones out but it's also their right to make that decision yeah that's what the mom's saying like yeah you're just making the wrong decision you'll change your mind yeah exactly and she has a right opinion but you can't meddle in somebody else's decision you can't well so you made the decision let me see if your kid wants a to be a bigger brother though that's so messed up
5:04 you're planting a seed in a child's mind that has like you know it's going to play a much bigger role into the argument and you can't logically explain it to that kid to calm him down exactly so what are you going to do think you got to well the mom has to respect her boundaries right but she going to do it again yeah that's going to happen again I don't know like how it was said right if it was like she's just playing around and she's just one of those like jok moms that's kind of annoying that you don't think even if she joking there's truth to the joke she knows that we're both tied so it's like you're just she's just being stupid at that point but can't V activ be reversed probably but to tying can't as far as I'm concerned but I think I would have handled it comedically cuz I my mom no matter how much I tell her
5:57 something she always forgets cuz she wants what she wants wants whether it be like when you going to have kids and she always tries to sneak it in like you know I I've um I I read this journal and it says that for her health it has to be done and I'm like sh I already ████ told you like like shut up like that ain't that ain't a part of it but I I've already accepted like I could get my panties in a bunch and scream at her and get mad or I could just be like come on like we already talked about this and then like joke about it and then move on same result yeah I see what you mean yeah move on and then talk about other stuff she just want she doesn't know how to say that I desperately want more grandchildren and it's a selfish thing but she tries to make it about for you and she just can't shut up about it it took me many many years to learn how to have that reflex with my parents though
6:47 yeah cuz like I'm I'm so easy going with 99.9% of ████ but if my Dad or Mom tries to do that ████ where they like be like oh why don't you get a better haircut then I'm just like why why do like I get like a ████ kid again it's cuz of the baggage bro cuz we could have fight back when we're kid I turn into a ████ kid and I start talking back and then it's the same old ████ I'm like damn it took me a long time to just be like why don't you get bare haircut and now it's like we push our butt cuz they invented the button bro I couldn't yeah they're the only ones that have the access they got the hot key dude they figured it out they're literally on the ████ nuclear warhead two keys at the same time 321 ████ I don't but then but then I've seen have you heard of the devouring mother concept like where I feel like you said it here like yeah I think it was Jordan Peterson that I heard it from but it's
7:37 it's like um she it's like the umbilical core thingy she doesn't want to let go she wants to be the woman in your life taking over everything right if it was that situation you got to create clear boundaries cuz she doesn't respect the boundaries yeah that's scary when you see other I've never had that but when I see other people with that I don't know the answer there's no hope for them but I kind of feel like it's not because in those situations usually the wife is fed up because the husband's a mama's boy that can't stand up to the mom in this situation he's making a clear boundary with his mom mhm so it doesn't seem like the devouring mother situation yeah they did try to say that they would they wouldn't allow the mom to be alone with the kid which is a pretty that's a but that's kind of like a hard gut punch to the mom right well well I mean they must
8:29 have felt the gut punch and return to like have like something that they've been nagged about for a while suddenly go around behind their back to the kid the child and it's like they got to figure out ways to like you know have this very complex conversation it's like when you're trying to punish your kid but then your parents are like giving them candy and ████ yeah it just undermines like everything there's nothing you could do about it and that was your undermining is yeah that's tough and then also revoking you know solo privileges doesn't mean you can't see the kid there's just like hey me or the wife got to be there you know so it's just it's just a step back in order to check yourself it's not like a one and done you'll never be able to see your grandkid ever get you're exiled from the family ex communic just a checkpoint to make sure this doesn't happen still it's still reasonable to to be like look no more alone time for nown
9:19 we got to trust you again cuz I bet it's hard for some parents too to shut off that part in their brain where they're like I know what's good for my kid like I know what's good for them and i' I live all this life experience so they just need listen to me so I'm just going to keep saying what I need to say and that's part of a broader complex thing that's happening like this generation right because like a lot of like that generation mentality is they hold on to idealisms of that time but they're not like the whole concept of even people wanting only one kid or no kid at all is a very modern thing for us right yeah yeah yeah so like that's of course it's complex for that generation to understand when they were ████ out ████ six or seven children also that generation made so many ████ mistakes and they think that it's the right thing to do yeah and it's like cuz it worked out cuz cuz everybody's still alive in retrospect you know but then like now
10:10 we're talking about like all these exterior things like the cause of a child nowadays is way too much the cost of a house is ballooned 5X the the salary and that hasn't gone you know and so it's like ████ impossible to have the same 12 children that like my parents had or or or like they were a part of they they can't get jobs until they're 18 and ████ too yeah so like everything is way different but it's very complex for somebody who's like living in their generation and saw their own success to see your child be successful if you had multiple kids and then you're like why don't you have more children look at you guys like that's that's a crazy argument cuz you don't win that one either it's rough too cuz it's it's there's a religious backing to it if you've come from a heavily Christian household they always put that thing about God said that we are here to multiply and if you don't do it you're like going against the nature of what
11:01 God intended for you as a human so it gets to that level of guilty at what point do you think parents should just shut the ████ up when they die oh my no I mean like imagine no there's got to be a point when not even then they pass on The Paton no dude that's where in the living trust or or in the trust it's still like you inherit this money when you have your third kid it's stuff like that still got the controlling hand from the gra dude my mom now just listens to us she doesn't say anything she just goes like she doesn't even ask us twice or nothing she just cuz she got her own things to do too though yeah no but back in the day she kept telling us don't tattoo yourself don't ear don't do your gauges don't smoke don't so she gave up is what
11:52 you're saying that's common she knew you were going to do it she listens now she's like okay and then when we come back to it she goes I told you I get I get gages too no my mom she's just she's a super chill like she knows if I'm serious I'm like stop using my credit card then my mom will be like okay oh oh she listens because you pay for stuff no no no no she pays she she pays for everything and she uses my credit card under my name so I told Mom hey stop using credit card if you're not going to pay for it stuff like that that's type that you can say that to her though oh yeah we became more friends older we got see there's there's that age right where they kind of they can't hold back from trying to give you advice but then they they also like relax from
12:43 controlling the ████ out of you you and Sasha's Momo are mad young seeming yeah they're more they're more understanding of the world they're like homies they look like mad his wife's mom looks the same age as her oh ████ yeah they look like sisters M compliment but uh very strict very strict very strict because she's a Russian yeah very strict
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