0:00 So, I know you guys think I'm a stone coldhearted unromantic human being, but in high school I had a insane heartbreak and I think that level of simpery that I went through afterwards >> never made me want to be that kind of guy ever again. So, like, you know, we get a lot of questions on our Patreon or Discord. Thank you for our Patreons. And you know, there's a lot of young people out there that are like, "How do you ever get over a heartbreak?" And I know what they're going through because it's like a nightmare. Your brain is like saying, "I want them back so bad." And then you're just like, "But the facts are facts. Like, let it go, bro." And then they're just they can't deal with it. It hurts. And I know that cuz like it took me like a year to get over my
0:51 high school sweetheart. >> What was your hardest ser moment? So we we we got um we we uh we were we lost our virginity together. So it was like a really big deal, right? But later things just didn't work out. And I was like thought I'd accepted it, but then I was like, you know what? I don't even know the words to tell her. So let me let Brian Mcnite tell her. >> Hell yeah. What song was it? >> ████ anytime, dog. My bad. My bad. My bad. My ████ you anytime, dog. >> Here's a here's [laughter] a here's a wide collection of songs. >> Oh, I was like, "All right, SHE AIN'T PICKING UP MY ████ CALLS ANYMORE." Cuz I I was calling her like 15 times a day. >> Oh, >> ████ Yeah, but it went straight to voicemail. >> Flip phone days, too, probably. Huh? Or even before? Oh. >> Oh, yeah. No, no, no, no. This is No,
1:41 this is high school. This We had We had cell phones, we had pagers, we had voicemails. >> This is like you got a packet in the mail once a month and you could see the records of your text messages and your and your phone calls, right? Yeah, bro. >> So then like she could send me straight to like voicemail. >> Yeah. >> So I called and I was like, I'm getting sent to voicemail. She don't want to talk to me no more. So I was like, all right, I'm going to let Brian Mcnite do it. So then as soon as, you know, the voicemail turns out, I just ████ have Brian Mcnite. And by the time we had computers back back then, like we we used MP3s, right? So thankfully I could just start it where I wanted it to start. So I I hit that. Do I ever cross your mind? And then I was like that. Now she knows I miss her. >> Yeah. Yeah. I miss you. [laughter] >> Yeah. >> I didn't get a call back or nothing. I was like, "Oh man, she must be busy."
2:31 >> ████ ████ She must be busy. >> Every day after school, I just wait there. I was like, "Man, I think um she's so busy today. She's probably doing homework." And I just kept thinking, right? And then I didn't have nobody to really like talk to to break like to break me out of this head cycle. And then so my friends were like, "Dude, you haven't ████ left the house like in a week. Like, we need to just go kick it." So I was like, "Oh ████ you guys are cool. Let's I think I'm ready to like leave the house, right?" So we go. >> Did you jack off during this heartbreak? >> Probably. >> You did? >> I tried to do everything to keep my mind off of it. >> Didn't work though. >> No, I remember I I got high. I smoked weed and it was the worst thing because I just cried my eyes out cuz I I wish she would come back. >> Oh, you were listening to like ████ slow music and ████ No, I was trying to listen to like EDM and I was ████ crying. >> EDM is emotional as ████ dude. >> You think you're better off alone. I'M
3:22 LIKE, "NO, [laughter] I DON'T." >> Those words hit different. Those words hit different when you're in that head space. >> N when you're at that age and you listen to a song that says the same line >> that hits what you're feeling >> and you've done ecstasy to that song before. >> Oh, there. When you're at that, you're so emotional, dude. You just start crying. >> Cry. [screaming] Oh no. Maybe I'll find some girls on Find the Pics. I went on Find the Pics and I was like, "I like you. I don't like you." And I was like, "It's not the same. They don't know me like she does. >> She knows my penis." [laughter] I would call her friends and ████ and I'll just be like, "Hey, have you hung out with her?" And they're like, "Joe, I know you're trying to get through her from me. Stop." And I'm all like, "F███." Okay. [laughter] They know my tricks, you know? And then
4:12 like no one's there to snap you out of it. Like quit being a ████ s you ████ dumbass. There's like it's done. Go find the next one. I wish I had that. >> Do you feel like if somebody was telling you that you think you would have actually stopped though? >> I needed someone to snap me out of it. I didn't have no friends. Well, also I would hide it. So like >> that's the other thing. >> Gangster, you know? Like I was like I don't give a ████ And then like >> ████ anytime, dog. >> Not venting to nobody. Wait, at at any point would you be like out in the public and then you're trying to be hard and then you think about it and you start like tearing up while you're like shopping? >> No. You know, this is even more embarrassing. Um, so like back then you're you're ████ tough gangster. You don't cry. >> Yeah. Hell no. >> They got good internal rotation, dude. [laughter] >> Your shoulder this guy's shoulders
5:02 crunch. >> Oh, I can't even do [clears throat] like his internal [laughter] rotation. Hell good. I did all my crying at home. All right. But when you go out, you hide your pain with anger. >> Hell yeah. >> You're just mad all the time. >> Just mad. You're fighting and ████ And then >> you're lashing out. >> Yeah. I remember I ████ I was smoking a cigarette and I pretended like one of my friends got me mad and I just and I took out the cigarette in my ████ hand just to show him how crazy I am. But in my heart it was because this pain feels better than the one that's in my heart. >> Yeah. For real. For real. For real. That's Hey, that's true. That's true, bro. ████ 15year-old, right? >> Dude, it is your whole world, >> bro. I was like, "Okay, where the ████ is it?" I still got a cigarette burn somewhere. Like, I did right there. >> What was her name? >> I ain't telling you ████ [laughter] >> I tell you ████ >> ████ bro.
5:53 My friends knew about it, right? Just make it real. >> No, my friends knew about it. >> What are you What are you afraid of? >> Guess what? Guess what? >> My friends knew about it, so they laughed. They're just like later, they were just like, "Oh, do you guys see that bird?" He wasn't really mad at him. He was mad because his heart hurts. [laughter] >> Jessica. >> All right, so let me tell you the funniest thing. I look back, I ████ cringe at this moment, >> Esther. >> My friends were like, "Hey, uh, >> Christine, [laughter] >> my friends were like, "Hey, let me take you out. Like, you guys, you got to get out of the house, right, >> Christina? >> All right, let's go. Shut up. Let's go." And [laughter] so we're going So we're going and then um they don't know where she lives, right? So, but they're just like, "Let's go to the movie." So, there's the ████ the Main Street one. So, >> you know, Hamra. >> Yeah. Yeah. So, like
6:43 >> Renaissance. >> Yeah. The Renaissance. So, they take So, so let's just go ████ kick it over there, get a burger or whatever, watch some stuff. >> Johnny Rockets. >> Hell yeah. [laughter] >> Or the Applebees or whatever. >> Yeah. And then there's this ████ Q ball down there. We could play pool or whatever. Yeah. >> There's some Indonesian called across the street. >> I didn't know about that till later. Borneo Kalimantan. Yeah, >> dude. That's when you got to get your locka fixed. Anyways, that place was my first Indonesian. >> Yeah, the place is fire. >> But we Okay, sid track. Side track. Okay. >> Haven't been there. >> We're hungry. We're hungry. [laughter] >> You guys miss it. Admit it. >> No, but this this is worth it. All right. So So, so check this out. We're driving and then um they don't know where she lives and then like I was like, "Oh my god, our house is like a block away." And I was like, "Guys," I was like, "Take this route. just go the other way. They're like, "Why?" And I
7:33 was just, "Just listen to me. Just believe me." And they're like, "This is the quicker way to get to the movies." And then I'm like, "No, no, no. Go right. Go right. Go." Cuz I didn't want them to pass by her house and ████ Cuz then my heart the closer it got to her house started pounding harder. Oh, it's like when you need to take a ████ and like regionally when you get closer to [laughter] your home, >> it just like it's going to explode. >> He's having a physiological response. >> And then I I didn't want to tell him, you know, like you're getting too close to her house, dog. Like just drive the other way. >> What if you just close your eyes in the back seat? [laughter] >> And by the way, >> just say your name. >> No. Shut up, stupid. [laughter] >> I'm trying to tell a ████ funny story. You're like throwing me off. Okay. Okay. All right. Check this out. So, I'm we're we're ████ Okay. I want you to picture a guy the the guy's in
8:23 the car, right? The guy that's sitting in front has a gun on his lap. >> Oh [laughter] ████ It's It >> to the movies. Bro, you guys are crazy. >> We're in it. It sound like this innocent heartbreak in high school. But what makes it even funnier is you have three thugs like juvenile delinquents and I'm experiencing this teenage heartbreak with these and I can't I can't tell these guys this cuz they'll call me gay. >> Yeah, for sure. >> That's what made it 10 times funnier and cringe is like I'm just ████ sitting there. I'm I'm like about to start crying in front of them over a girl. They knew I went through a bad breakup. So the guy sitting here uh you know they're all gangstered out m Tupac playing all that stuff and I'm just trying to tell him like go this way dog like that. No that's not the right way. They're like no I know the right way. It's it's it's close whatever. And then
9:15 um I couldn't take it anymore and I was like it's cuz it's too close to our house and it is we got to go man. WE GOT TO GO. [laughter] >> So you fin it finally just came out. >> Oh ████ And what do they say? >> I thought they were going to ████ make fun of me >> and all he said was, "I got you, dog." >> And he just busted a U-turn. >> Wow. He's like, "That's all you had to say, homie. >> That was it. >> They didn't give me ████ for it, dude." >> They probably looked at each other's like, "He's not gay. Thank God." [laughter] >> We was about to go blast him at the theater right now. Like, oh, I got to kill you for being gay. No. like and then I was just like they are my homies. >> That's how true homies are. >> You feel like that helps you get over that chick at that moment? >> Hell no. I still was madly in love. I
10:06 was so sprung I didn't know. And then I was one of those like annoying like guys that wouldn't let go. And he's like, "Come on, baby. You said um you need some time. You have enough time now." You know, like I'm still trying to get her back and ████ >> ████ right? So then and then like it was just like difficult to shake that thought. And then what ended up happening is like I got closer with the guys cuz they're like, "Yo man, we all been there." Like they're just like it's it's they just know that like that ████ could drive you crazy. Like they know like they go crazy. Like some of these guys they'll like they did some ████ up ████ to their own exes cuz they couldn't let go. Like they'll go they they'll beat the ████ out of them, whatever. Like there's they're these guys are crazy. >> Or jump the new boyfriend or whatever. Yeah, >> but the thing is they didn't make fun of me for my ████ simpness cuz they know what that feels like. And I was like, "F███, that's that's so cool." But when
10:57 I look back, man, I was like, "Man, you're a ████ ████ I wish one of them were like, "You little ████ There's more fish in the sea." >> What What if like you told him that and then like, you know, he thought about his girl too and he was all >> Yeah, man. I got you, little boy. >> You know what I mean? Just hit him hard. Maybe maybe they lived on the same street. His ex-girlfriend, you know, >> one of them was like 19, so like I was like 15. Maybe he just he was like it just felt like big bro vibes. >> What if he hands you the gun? He's like, "Dude, just end it, man. You don't want to live through that." >> Holy [laughter] smokes. >> He puts on your lap. >> Yo, >> I've been there. Don't ever want to be back. [laughter] >> That's why I chose this life. Little brother, >> what would you guys tell S Joe at that age, though? Like, I was doing some How old were you? I was like, no, 15 or 17.
11:47 >> I think that's like the high school's the time to go through that. We all went through that. I feel like you you can get lucky. >> Well, no. Again, you It's cuz you found Tiff in high school. Maybe you did your heartbreak also in high school. But, uh, I'm just saying like I feel like that's the safe space to go through that where you think it's your whole world cuz it is cuz it's either that or homework. >> Yeah, that's true. That's the only safe space where you can actually feel so deeply for something that's actually kind of not that deep. [snorts] >> I'm I'm the worst homie to have because I always feel like it's cuz it's not enough. You didn't do enough. So, you know, our other homie >> should have called 20 times instead of 15. Like that's what you would have done. >> But you know our other homie, you know our homie that told us uh >> mail >> at McDonald's at our first show, he was going through a divorce. >> Yeah. So, in high school, he was going
12:37 through a bad breakup and he was like, "Man, I don't know what to do. What should we do? I already wrote her letters. I texted her, whatever. She's not answering on aim and other stuff anymore." I'm like, "It's because the [clears throat] gesture is not big enough." So, we went to that girl's house and we got rubbing alcohol and uh I think we wrote either I love you or I miss you so we could light it on fire so she could read the flames. >> You're romantic, Doug. >> We just got to make the gesture bigger. And then he was like, "Okay, cool." Yeah. So we did it like with gasoline or whatever when we lit the flames then we're like throw rocks at the window so she could read it but then you can't read flames. So she just opens it and it's just her driveway's on fire. SHE'S LIKE WHAT THE ████ AND [laughter] HE'S LIKE POINTING. >> I love you. I love you. [laughter] >> And then we just bounce and we're just bouncing like ████ That didn't
13:28 [laughter] play out the way we wanted to play out. >> [laughter] >> That's the most bar idea. The most [gasps] 17-year-old bar idea ever. >> He would have ████ me up and ████ them up. >> Cuz for me cuz for me it's always always not enough. If they only knew, you know, for me it's always if they only know the truth. It'd be way different. >> But that's what you got to go through so you can calibrate your uh your attempt. >> That's [laughter] the stupidest ████ I've ever heard. >> Too far. >> And you got a dumbass to believe you. [laughter] My gesture has to be somewhere over here now. >> He had a dumb ass. He is a dumb ████ though. He He I can't believe he WAS LIKE, "YOU'RE RIGHT. I'M NOT ROMANTIC." THEORY, you hear that, you're like, "That's a ████ sick idea." >> He's He's like a hopeless romantic, too. So, he was all over it, you know? >> But honestly, though, at that age, I feel like the '9s [laughter] movies the '9s and '8s movies just ████ with us
14:18 as kids. >> Yeah. Like the like in a limousine and their body's half out the moon roof. >> No, that's still cool. That's still cool in high school. in high school. >> Like, do it cuz when you do it after high school, you're whack. [laughter] >> You're a psychopath. >> You're Wolf of Wall Street. >> It's your first ████ time to live. Stand the ████ outside. It's not harming anybody. >> This is just a long car. >> Toss a ████ empty beer bottle while it's driving and now you're a piece of ████ Like, you know, >> how did you end up snapping out of it? >> Took me over a year to realize I don't know, maybe I got with another girl or something. that see then I feel like at 6 months that's when the homies should come in. >> Yeah. >> You know what I mean? >> It is a long time but I feel like people people kind of need if they need that time that window. I'm not saying everybody needs a 6 month like
15:09 depression. I'm saying you should have a window. Yeah. You get up to 6 months to be a piece of ████ >> Then you got to be like all right bro you got to wrap it up like >> Yeah. Yeah. You know >> someone's got to teach guys though how to manage. Well, no one had dads. That's a thing too. No. Nobody. Nobody have ████ dads to set them straight. >> That's true. Got to get more dads out there, y'all. >> But some Yeah. Somebody's got to mentor these young men. [laughter] Definitely not us.
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