0:00 what's he want to happen he just like busted into his mom's roommate Martin Luther King so Jordan truth parrot be in the Tubman like when you want from these moves [Music] there's a father white guy 39 he wants to know if he's the ████ in this situation yes all right this one's a little I don't know I like saying yesterday he's got a 17 year old son who has a lovely and delightful new girlfriend that everybody Danny Boulder no sorry I killed him his new girlfriend she comes over a lot they have a great time no problems with her at all however she is black which is not a problem except that father has his mother visiting because
0:50 she's staying there because she's had surgery so he's got to have her come over so this is this kid's grandmother she's a classic old-timey racist okay so classic racist she doesn't want to see this black girlfriend in the house when she's there got it so let's already put out that request hey I'm gonna come over I don't want to see this yeah she put the request out that she does not want that girl coming to the house while she's there the father he doesn't have the option of putting her in a home or nothing that's his mom he there's just nothing else he doesn't have the money to house or somewhere else he's like she's gotta stay so he's sorry my mom's a racist yeah he makes a deal with his son he says I hate that we have to do this but your girlfriend just cannot come over she's kind of Uninvited from all the holiday things that are coming up while mom is here just wait for gam
1:41 gam to die yeah exactly that's his attitude about it wow but his son of course like he's in love he's not gonna understand that the same way my dick's so hard dad his son is calling him a complacent racist oh that's some whack ████ right there a complacent race how old is the sun 17. that's why here's here's the thing with that right this is what I dislike about me as a young person too and just younger people in general right there are things that you want to try to do that will never ████ happen yeah that old person will never change their perspective you will waste your ████ breath to the day they die wait till they die wait till they ████ die you are the Next Generation that's going to set a positive example you're not going to change her it's not going to ████ happen right and she's not gatekeeping anything she has no power exact sense if she actually held a position where she can affect the lives of people and she's saying don't bring your black friends
2:32 around and I'm never gonna give them a job or some ████ like that you know where she can hold them from anything it's just she has a stupid opinion and imagine this too right so like the dad comes and he goes I got you he starts screaming at his mom who's on the verge of ████ death right what happens here nothing ████ changes the only thing that really happens is that your whole life the whole family Dynamic is going to be ████ up yeah your father's gonna be the person that got to yell at his ████ dying ████ mom mom's gonna hate them the the daughter's not gonna have a great time being there watching the dad ████ yell at the grandma the son's in a weird awkward position bring his ████ girlfriend over to get ████ hated on vocally girlfriend might break up with him just because she's like yo you're a ████ Grandma's racist think with the with with the lofty idea of what is right right but necessarily what is right doesn't mean that it's best for the situation right and the situation dictates that if she
3:23 did come over and your dad took a stance how awkward is that for her how terrible would that Grandma make her feel how bad do you think that situation is going to be here's the hard thing everybody who's like a new ████ adult like 17 18 in their 20s remember that feeling your 20s you're like I'm Gonna Change the World right and then you're ████ in your 30s and you're like I'm hoping that my world is good yeah yeah yeah yeah yeah yeah that's all when you're in your 30s you pick and choose your battle yeah right you gotta assess every single situation and then you go is it really worth the fight and does the fight produce an actual result that does anything good in this situation I don't think it does anything I also think the father is actually like super nice yeah because he agrees with the kids consider the kids feelings because ultimately he pays the bills his
4:14 rules right his house his rules yeah if you want your girl to come over go get your own place get a job and she can come over whenever she wants I think the dad actually has a duty to his mom so it's his house his rules and look look at this too like look how great your father was that even though his mom is a blatant racist he isn't right that's pretty ████ good he got better from the generation before yeah he could have been taught that racism and held on to it but he was like nah like I'm gonna accept that my son can have you know what I mean this black girlfriend but it's just I understand there's a point of friction here that does no good for anybody so I'm gonna like ask that you like not do this like like the idea that he went out he's like oh you're a complacent racist like what does that do for your relationship with your father right makes it real good what does that do right like your dad is trying to think about the best scenario for the best situation right to avoid conflict
5:04 as a whole well he probably just wants his like he's thinking immediate because he's at my airport I want my dad to have my back and fight my grandma and we should get rid of all racism in this household like that's the ideology of a 17 year old who wants things fixed immediately yeah and I'm like if this ████ has been thinking like this for 80 years what makes you think one conversation is gonna change at all right it's just not going to happen right and and I think like a lot of people will hear this especially if you're really young and you go well does that make it right no it doesn't ████ make it we're not talking we all disagree that yeah we all think that racism is ████ horrible and that ████ but we also are realistic of this old ████ being so ████ set in their ways that's probably why the path of least resistance here and to keep the
5:55 most peace is the is what the dad did because it's going to cause problems for everybody yeah and the end result is great the changes already happened racist Mom has a son who isn't racist so the positive change is already there so right so if your father was blatantly racist and he is just a chip off the old block then there's like a an issue for you to stand up right but the changes already happened like it's already good minus this old person who's literally like five six years away from passing away her opinion and the movements that she's going to make is not going to have a ripple effect on anybody it's done it died with her son yep yeah so it's great you know what I mean but I understand because when you're young too like your parents don't like your girlfriend you're gonna lash out you don't ████ know her at all you don't know what I'm going that's what makes it hard to say like what do
6:45 you think would be enough for a person that's on the absolute opposite side of that like like this kid like what would be enough yeah they should just like dies now is that how to suck his mom in the mouth so if I was the girlfriend I'd feel one rejected by the family but if I knew that the father was chill with me yeah and I'd like to have a conversation with him yeah like I I wish I hope the father was talking to him hey like I like you you're a cool ass person I'm in a tough situation yeah this is my way of reasoning of the best result I think this is the way to do it right um and you're welcome to come in for other occasions and when grandma's not around but I have a duty and obligation to the person who raised me yeah like yeah she might be a racist but was she a bad mother was she abusive was she because
7:35 obviously if he's doing his duty as a son I'm thinking she did a decent job to that he's giving her a space you know so like it's really hard to have these absolutes where you're like I won't ████ have any racists in this house but then because what if she's in the house and that's opportunity for dialogue between the son and Grandma and be like you know once in a while they could have conversations about racism and she might come and turn around who knows but it takes more than one conversation it takes a long time dude it takes a long ████ time to change somebody it doesn't want to happen he just like busted into his mom's ████ room hey ████ Martin Luther King so Jordan truth parrot be in the Tubman like what do you want from these moves these are legit moves damn you did three of them George Washington Carver and it's like it's already too late because
8:25 it it's like the girlfriend knows already yeah so it's like it's our yeah she already knows this is happening because she's not allowed at the house so it's already too late like you're not gonna save her from knowing at all but at least you're saving her from what she might never be able to unhear from some old coot that's like having a crazy moment you know there are gonna be so many times when you guys grow up and you realize how much time you ████ wasted over petty ████ man like I ████ you know what I mean like I know younger brother who didn't talk to his mom for eight years because so the mom didn't like the girl eight years you wasted not talking to your mother because she didn't like your girl and by the way they ████ broke up so it's like she ████ dumped him so like you wasted all that time hating on this one person because she had an opinion about the girl that you were with that you weren't engaged to that you didn't even ████ marry like they probably stayed
9:15 together longer to prove a point maybe dude but that's like it's it's such a ████ waste time is so you never get 10 back and I know it'd be impossible for that dude at age 17 to see further than ████ one week but like unless you're Nick done how many people stay with their 17 year old sweetheart you know what I'm saying like you grow you change people learn new things they discover new things they enter new environments like college and they ████ me way more fine chicks and I'm just kidding but the point is you know what I'm saying like when you're so young too that father's also got an obligation that father has an obligation to his own wisdom and experiences yeah to also be like all right look like you're not even a ████ adult yet like I've got to make multi-generational decisions that are so complex you know if one party doesn't understand and then his older his mom also don't understand
10:05 something he's like all right I'm the only one that's got enough capacity to make a decision no matter if it vilifies me for this moment being stuck in the middle is hard yeah he's got a hard situation Yeah by default like you kind of have to be right if I was in the dad situation I actually would tell my mom shut the ████ up and you're living in my house now this is my son this is his girlfriend you're gonna sit here and you're just gonna get to learn how to so he is ████ I don't think he's ████ and this is the reason why I feel this way that I can do it this way because my my relationship with my mom hasn't always been the greatest so I can speak to her in a certain way because she didn't perform her complete duties as a mother sometimes shut up ████ so she has to deal with it
10:55 the situation I don't know I don't know how he grew up with his mom I have no idea right but for me I have no guilt controlling my own household and telling her no you're in my house now you do what I say but that wouldn't necessarily cure her racism it wouldn't cure it but at the same time shut her ass up but that also might cause her to act out you know I mean even more so like but to me that's more of a power of like burn across in the law to prove a point but that to me is like you can have your beliefs but you're not gonna come in and and have power over my household and say like don't bring this person in no ████ that that's my kid and that's his girlfriend and we're gonna have holidays with them yeah you know and then if you have a thing or two about it keep it to yourself that's all I would say and also too like for him as a young person right did you talk to your girlfriend and ask
11:46 her if she wants to bear that burden yeah before coming in and trying to change this old person's mind exactly she has to walk in and and show her this this this multitude of kindness to chair change her mind about how she feels about an ethnicity that she hated her whole life did you ask her if she's willing to bear that cross yeah that's a lot of responsibility on the girlfriend dude yeah and it's it's fair that the Dad should have a say in whether or not that fight even happens he could just be like nah I don't care what you guys think let her die with these expired views yeah because I'm already working my ass off to ████ provide for everyone right now like you know there's enough work like you know what I mean going around that is why I'm conflicted because it's like if you know something might go down and it's going to be awkward during Thanksgiving do you really want that to go down yeah imagine if she was Native American hey how are you hey how are you
12:44 [Music] thank you
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