0:00 I think there was one that really hit me where we were like having a conversation like not even a conversation argument >> and it was something along the lines of this isn't the type of person I would have wanted to marry. >> Oh, this a real [Music] >> What's the biggest thing you've ever had to forgive him for? >> Oh my god. >> I've had to forgive him for too many things. >> That's a deep one. She forgives me like every day. Really? >> That's a deep one. >> I'm glad she has good uh >> memory loss. >> Good Jesus traits. >> Good memory loss. >> Good memory. >> Sing. >> She doesn't hold grudges. That's why she doesn't have to. She does have to remember. >> You know, you're doing a lot of talking. Joe, >> have you ever had to forgive him for something that was like like not easy to
0:53 do? Like where where it took a little bit of work to forgive him or is it always just automatic for you? I think we've had like arguments where we both crossed a line. You know, when you're just mad and you just start saying mean ████ that's like not even to do with the argument. And I think I'm quicker to forgive and let you go. >> Especially cuz when we first got married, we were like we got married and then moved in together, bought a house, and then went to Hawaii to do June. >> So there were times >> in a row >> all in a row. >> All the same year within six months. >> So it was a lot. And we went from like long distance to not just living together, but working together. >> So, we were still working out >> what this person was thinking or meaning or whatever. >> Yeah. >> And I think a lot of it was also like mixed in with our own insecurities that
1:43 were coming out and it's like >> Yeah. >> Yeah. We said some horrible each other. >> Yeah. >> What were some things you said? >> Yeah. What' you say? >> I'm trying to remember. That's why it's difficult cuz so much of it is like so far gone. >> Yeah. I don't remember either. I remember just blaming each other. >> Did you ever say anything racist >> all the time? >> Did you Did you say how did you say how small it was? >> She drew how small it was. >> That wasn't to scale. Okay. >> Oh, that's normal. Wow. >> I can't remember like specifics, but I remember used to like >> go off at each other and it would get personal. >> Yeah. >> But like I think that was like the first year that would happen. >> Like you like called him a ████ or something. >> Yeah. No, just like >> she would do this. She would do this to me all the time. >> Yeah, >> I'm a goop. >> I don't know. >> That's a That's a
2:33 >> I know. But it's funny to call him the wrong one. >> I know. I think there was one that really hit me where we were like having a conversation like not even a conversation argument. And it was something along the lines of this isn't the type of person I would have wanted to marry. >> Oh ████ This some real ████ No, but we were like, this is the ████ we were saying to each other, >> but it wasn't based on like anything. >> That's a real ████ >> Yeah, we were saying ████ like that to each other. And it was about petty stuff. It was about like he forgot to do something. >> Oh, yeah. >> And then I'm like, "This isn't what I thought it was going to be." And ████ like that. But I only feel like the first >> Oh, you said that or >> It's hard to live together. Those first few like months is hard. >> Did you say that in Hawaii or Vegas or where? Why does that matter? >> Cuz the human cuz if it was Hawaii, he would have been like, "See, you guys got
3:23 to move to Vegas." >> Cuz he's a bacon. >> But then as soon as it comes out your mouth, you immediately feel terrible and then you're like, "Okay, I'm sorry. I'm sorry. I'm sorry." And then the argument's kind of over cuz you know you've kind of crossed the line. >> Damn. >> That's a deep one though. >> I think I said No, I said some mean ████ I was like not in the mood to be honest with you. I was saying some >> Oh, you never called him any racist stuff. It's always there. >> When it when it got that crazy, how come or maybe you did, but like did you ever have the feeling of like, ████ I'm just going to pack my bags and go back? >> Oh, never. It was never real. It was just like >> So, you couldn't be You're aware that it was just a fleeting emotion or >> It was just trying to It wasn't even like I meant it. I just wanted to find mean things to say. >> You know what I mean? You know, when you're like >> the heat of the moment. >> Yeah. >> Yeah. And I think I was the same way where it just doesn't like it's not even her trait and I'm just making ████ up
4:14 and then I'm just saying ████ like you short ████ You ████ short dark ████ >> It would be ████ like that. >> Yeah. It would just be like short dark ████ You like >> who are you talking to? >> Yeah. You're just like it's so obscure. You're like where did that come from? Like I didn't do that. Like is that some ex that you're getting mad at? >> No. Honestly, yeah. Like it would be like that. Like I'd be like, >> that's why after a while I just felt like it was just she's just like in pain. She's just saying random ████ and it's just like and I'm just going over my head. >> But then I think that's why it was forgivable cuz I was like, "Oh, we're just ████ so stressed out too, taking ████ out on each other." >> Did you tell him your views don't match your subscriber count? >> Every go, how do you have that many ████ followers and your likes are like super small? Are you Do you buy followers, you ████
5:06 >> No. You know what Hannah said? You talk to your friends nicer than me. >> Oh, I think we did have that one. >> Did we have that one? >> Oh, jeez. Are you baiting me? >> Too real. Too real. >> No, I think like those things. >> No. Listen. Listen, guys. >> You wouldn't cuz you feel like uh Yeah, I would say I was saying ████ to you. I would never say to anyone else. That's true. >> I've never argued with anyone like in that way. The stakes aren't that high. you said I was your first like real boyfriend that you stayed like and then but then on on top of that it's like you're working that out plus the marriage whereas like I've had relationships where I've been in like like lived with like people like my partner passed so I to me it was like >> a normal fight was like oh yeah that just happens but then I think for you were experiencing a long-term living in situation for the first time plus
5:56 >> all that so I was like >> I think in the early days he forgave more than I did. >> Yeah. Cuz I was like, "Oh, it's normal." Like you live with people, you fight. It's just the you just work through that and then you go whatever. >> But then like it was I think it was more intense for you and then there was a pivotal moment where it was more intense for me and you're just like, "Oh, he's just he's I remember you gave me a pass because she would say like there was no one else there. I was just having a bad time. So I was snappy." And then I would take it out. >> But if she wasn't there, I probably wouldn't be taking it out. and there's no one too but the wall. >> So then she gave me a pass there cuz it was she didn't take it personal. Like even though it's like I shouldn't have done that, it was like my annoyance was directed toward her cuz I don't know, you know, like >> Yeah. >> I think we fasttracked like 10 years of marriage in 6 months
6:46 >> cuz with those arguments, we also had like crazy intense conversations about like what relationships were, about what we wanted out of it. And we were supposed to do that before we got married, but that's the funny thing that we just >> cuz we got married so quick. Like we weren't planning it. We just kind of like did it. So all of that happened afterwards. And >> so what kind of person are you really? >> Who are you? >> Did you know that your VPN can still track your internet history? Mhm. You'll be browsing around and you're like going into naughty sites and guess what? Your mom is using the same family computer and she's like, "What?" You'd be looking at thyhotties.com. Naughty boy. You think they can't see you, but they're encrypting your traffic and routing it to their servers. So, your internet service provider can't see, but your VPN can. If you want true
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8:30 lingering unresolved pain for like a long time. It's usually >> res or like >> if not resolved, there's like a peace treaty the day of. So, like it's like, okay, well, we probably got to work out some ████ but then like there's a baseline that we go back to where the next thing can't set me off because I'm not >> adding on to lingering ████ It's more like, all right, peace treaty. We're going to work on this thing. So, like there's a reset and we can still go to the beach, have fun, whatever, and then maybe when we process it, we can like have a talk about it. But in the past, it was always like, >> well, ████ you, ████ you then. and there's like a stalemate and then it might add on to another thing and another thing and then there's like a you know straw that breaks the camel's back and it blows up and then that doesn't get resolved and I think there's just like too much of that but then
9:22 what's I think different in this relationship is how quickly things like go back to a normal >> Yeah. >> But I think it's easier for me to remember things I've done rather than him. It's hard to think about >> Yeah. Cuz I feel guilt like I would feel guiltier Yeah. for calling him gay. >> Yeah. Call every day. >> Call him goo. Gay or or sometimes both. Gay goo. >> He's a double G. >> Can you imagine accidentally in the next argument that slips? >> Keep that one in your back pocket. >> Yeah. Just going to tuck that away. Tuck that away. >> But how long you How Wait, how long have you guys been married for now? >> Three years. >> Yeah. Three. >> Wow. >> Been together. >> 3 years. >> Oh, you guys been together for three and a half? That's That's Wow. Very fresh. >> We got married like really quick. >> Very fresh. >> When you know, you know.
10:12 >> Yeah. I have a forget and forget, but mostly forget. >> Maybe that's why you're so happy. >> Yeah. >> Yeah. But that whole time period too was so intense. I don't remember like >> so much of it. >> But I think we test, you know. Good thing the test came really early. What am I doing? But you know what I'm saying? Like good thing it came out really early. I think it >> Yeah, cuz we don't argue like that much now. Maybe once like every 3 months, four months. >> No, we argue about like work differences, how a problem should be solved. Like, I want to solve it this way. She wants to solve it this way. And it's like, no, you're not ████ listening. This is the right way. And then if you would listen, you would know that this is the right way. And then it's like technically there is no ████ right way. It's how you want to solve it. Who usually folds? Who usually folds?
11:02 >> Whoever's more exhausted. >> Yeah. >> I don't know. >> Or whoever's actually going to deal with it. >> Yeah. >> So, if it's like >> something I'm handling, then it usually just goes, "Well, then just do it however you want to do it." And then if he's going to be the one to handle it, then it's like, "Well, do what the ████ you want to do." Then I'm not like, >> "All right, go ahead. Do it." That makes sense. >> Or if you want it done that way that badly, you now have to take responsibility. >> It's your responsibility. Yeah, that makes sense. >> I think the bulk of our differences are when we get like mad. It's like when we're not in agreement of how to handle something, >> but it's usually like Yeah. workrelated, >> but then other than that, >> I don't know. I'm pretty sure there'll be things in the future that are like >> Yeah. I think it'll swap from arguing about arguing about kids. >> Yeah. How to deal with the Yeah. Whatever. But >> you mean the employees? >> Everything. Yeah. >> Yeah. Like maybe like I want to be
11:52 harder on the on the kids or something. Or maybe And she goes, "No, we should like be this." And I'm like, "No, I'm going to smack that ████ right now." >> Cuz I have to do the hiring. So for me, I'm like, >> and I want to do the firing. >> Yeah. I'm like, if we if I can fix the situation, that's less time than doing five interviews to find one person who then has to go through training. >> It's a longer process. >> And I want to fire every day, every day, like every minute. Like I'm just like, I'm going ████ fire that ████ I'm can't believe this ████ >> You actually want to fire people that often? >> Not that. Not that often, but hey, >> ████ >> I am more impulsive >> in my actions and I just get fed up quicker. So then, you know, I she put she brings me back to a more like sensible place. But when she does that in the moment, I feel like I get
12:42 opposition. So I'm like, don't ████ argue with my ████ you know? But in it's it's really her just trying to reel me back to reality cuz I'll >> I'll do I'll have a tendency of like going hardcore with like I'll just do it the most illegal thing possible cuz it's the most reasonable thing for me or like I would just be like this person's pissing me off because of how much time they're taking away from everybody else. >> So I need to fire that person to save everybody else or whatever. But then she'll be like but like let's play it a little bit more smarter. like she's not she's never against the end goal. Let's say my end goal is like let's this person is terrible to other employees. And for me it's about protecting the other employees, >> not this person's wellbeing. And then for her, she might be like, >> "Well, don't just outright go in there,
13:33 scream at them, and and fire them. Do it smarter." >> Yeah. Don't go in all goofy. >> Yeah. So, she'll never be against my end goal. It's my methods is like too hardcore sometimes >> where it's like, "Okay, maybe don't be so heavy-handed." But in the moment, >> my thing is I want to be >> cuz it's a selfish I just want to go in there scream at the landlord. >> Yeah. Or the supplier or like somebody's consistently showing up late, right? And I'm like, well, we can fix that though. Like they just have to be held accountable. There's like ways and then Yeah. Sometimes they can't be fixed, but when they can, >> I would rather do that than hire. >> In California, it's really hard to fire people now. >> Yeah, >> I heard. So, like you can't just fire them no more. >> Oh, >> you would have to like it was a whole due process to it now. It's going to take a minute. They can sue you now these days. Blah blah if there's written documentation.
14:23 >> Well, that's what I'm saying. It has to be multiple multiple. But then like what? Hawaii Hawaii don't have that, right? >> You're right. We never have to fire someone. >> She always finds a better solution. But my first solution is always to fire people. >> Yeah. >> So it takes more work to do your way sometimes though. >> Yeah. Because it's true. She ends up having to hire new people if I fire them. Yeah. >> Whereas like most people is on like what I realize is most people aren't actually trying to be bad. They just don't know what they're doing that's wrong. >> Yeah. But Hannah Joe don't care about that when you make money. >> But that's how you tell them. You ████ give a ████ what's going on in your life. You came here to work. >> Cuz I would feel bad for someone and train them for like 2 years. So I need the cut off >> and then he needs to like >> Yeah, >> cool. >> What a good balance eventually. Mine was not like that at first.
15:16 >> Evil. >> Very good. Very good. I like it.
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