0:06 Welcome back to another episode of Care for Boys. Uh today we're going to discuss this uh young man that Joseph Jitskawa sent me. He was very interested in this guy because of his chosen lifestyle. And um what it is is he is a young I believe he's like 25 20 something something in his uh early 20s and he is the stepfather of a uh >> we got to watch the video and then the surprise is the funny part. Yeah >> already. Holy ████ >> So here >> I think it was like Tom Sigur. He did a video on this too or he was reacting to it with his wife. >> Oh he's 29. 9-year-old stay alive with a high crazy wife.
0:56 >> Probably can't have the music playing. >> Yeah. >> So, yeah, he's just taking care of his family, >> cooking. >> Yeah. Making dinner >> and uh using a new air fryer his wife bought him, I guess. Is that what it said? >> Air fryers are pretty sweet. >> Yeah. Air fryers are cool. >> Oh, two compartment. Is that a Ninja? >> Wow. >> It's a new one. >> Is this looks like a brand deal or something? >> Probably a brand deal. >> Probably is. Taking out the trash. Cool, man. >> Yep. So, he worked all day, came home. >> Okay. >> Uh he's doing all the cooking. >> Cooked up a storm. >> Let's um let's see some comments. >> Yep. >> Ray together and eat. >> She made you wear an apron and bought you stuff to cook with. No amount of money could make me humiliate myself like this. >> It's always like, I don't wish this upon
1:47 my worst enemy. >> I never thought I would say this, but maybe these toxic masculinity guys can help you. >> My two-month old daughter has a higher testosterone level. >> Damn, they're just straight roasting him, huh? >> Yeah, I saw >> I feel like he roast himself. >> Look at this one. I cook for my wife because I enjoy cooking. You cook for yours because you have to. So like this guy on all of his like posts, >> everything that he posts, that's what the comments are. They're just like >> totally humiliate him for like choosing this life like where he's this like stepdad. >> Is he Is his life >> addicting? Is his life like >> he just does everything and his wife doesn't do anything. >> Okay, I I'll give you I'll give you a background on it. It's ████ addicting. >> Yeah, >> I know so much about this couple. >> Does your wife work?
2:37 >> I don't know. She don't work. >> She works. >> Oh, she says he's getting for ready for work, right? >> She She uh She has like a a wedding comp something related to weddings. >> Yeah, wedding planning thing. >> Damn. He takes the kid to school, too. >> Yep. >> Wait, what's the Yeah, that's a lot, though. And he has to make this content. >> He's doing everything. >> H how much is he sleeping? >> So, he works and then >> Oh, but like didn't he say that he started making content cuz his wife like told him to or like >> they're trying to make content but has a couple. Well, here's the thing. Okay, so there's a lot of fishy things that legitimately makes people question these things. Like you guys saw you guys saw things like, "Yeah, why is he doing all the work, right?" So he'll >> these guys are new influencers, so they'll go in the comments and ████ viciously fight everybody and back.
3:27 He'll he'll like defend his wife. >> Yeah. He comments back in everybody's things. Yeah. So, one of the things he claims is that like, well, he's just showing his part of the day, so he's recording all of his content, right? So, then like, but he I'm like, ████ you set it up for yourself. Like, okay, he shows himself coming back from work, unloading the dish rack, cleaning the house, cooking, and then people are questioning like, "Well, what does your wife do then if she was home all day?" And you go, "She's been running the ████ online business." But like you don't know what the ████ that is, right? And then everyone's like, "Yeah, but she's been in a bathrobe all day long." So like it's like you're not also you're not doing any favors for the family by recording her actually doing her thing. Like she literally shows up in a bathrobe. So what the ████ is she doing? >> It says he someone says, "This is
4:18 embarrassing content. You are baited to the core." He said, "Thanks for taking the time to comment. >> Thanks for the algo." >> A lot of fishy ████ right? So, like also people go on they'll go on her page. >> Let's go to her page cuz it seems like he's doing everything. Like he's doing uh the guy chores and the girl chores. >> So like also people people were saying that like that's messed up that he's barely on her page. >> I guess like there is. >> That's another thing too. They're like, "Okay, she barely posts you. She she's like a single she's like a single influencer showing her world, right?" Like >> Yeah. If they're doing it together, where's her day in the life? >> Like his life is all around her. Girls trip to Miami, right? So he's at home taking care of the kid, everything while she goes on a girls trip. Yeah. Morning
5:08 vlog. >> Okay. Mom to a third grader. >> Okay. >> Cool. >> Cool. All right, cool. Get ready. >> Well, yeah. I guess this is her. >> It just looks like a get ready with I I actually think if you just if you just saw her page, >> you wouldn't think anything, but the combination of his and hers is what makes it super funny. >> Oh, 20. >> Hi. Hello. I'm Courtney or Cini depending on the vibe. >> So, Cini is actually my altra ego came from other people. They don't like it already. >> I like that. I don't like any alter ego ████ dude. >> If if uh Tiff made content like this, >> if she said her altra ego was a name that no one calls her, I'd be like,
5:58 "Yeah." >> What about Sasha Fierce? You don't think Sasha Beyonce Sasha Fierce? >> That's Beyonce. It's different. >> But do you guys think that there's Do you guys think there's some kind of like subhatred for this because the kid looks mixed race? >> Probably. So, they know it's not his kid, right? >> Yeah. >> I think he's being clowned >> already. People think that's beta, right? because it's already a meme. Like it's already a meme right now where white women are having black kids and then their fathers are missing, right? So like people make fun of that all over the internet. >> Yeah, that's like a huge stereotype that people like there's memes daily about that ████ >> But there's a lot of things where I would say are legitimate, right? So number one, they've been together for quite some time and she hasn't given him a ch child. Like they haven't had a kid or anything like that. >> Oh, really?
6:48 Or maybe he doesn't want one. >> Yeah, maybe he doesn't want one. >> Well, I don't know. He got I mean that's to me it's it's odd. Like you're already playing the role of a father, >> but then like you're not Wait, they're married, right? Did he does he call her a wife? >> Well, he says stepdad, so that would be >> Yeah. Then he says hot and crazy wife. He always calls her hot and crazy wife, right? >> Yeah. >> So like I don't know. For me, that just feels like, well, if you're going to start a family with someone, but then she doesn't want to have any more kids with you, like that's weird, right? >> Yeah. >> Especially if you're a young guy and you're and if she's still of a childbearing age, that's weird. >> 29. Yeah. >> Yeah. >> It's not like she's like 45. It's pretty funny that people like just hate watch them all day, right? >> I'm not hate watching. I'm fascinated by the by the whole like comment. He seems
7:39 like such a nice guy, too. And I'm like to at the end of the day, it's like good for him for stepping up. Is it? Well, cuz there, think about the boy. Think about the boy, right? Like you he he he needs a father figure. He need like >> is he learning how to be a man through this? >> I don't know. He might be a s for someone else, right? >> Yeah, he might. >> I think based off the comments, it's like, oh, this guy's going to learn how to be beta. He has a beta example, >> dude. every single post. This guy can't even He can't do one post without the comments being full of this. But dude, you've seen all the videos. It just looks wrong. >> He's just doing chores all day. >> Yeah. Me, my wife, and her boyfriend's child. I'd rather die than have this be my life. Damn, dude. People, it's so cra like what do you think people like this
8:29 think when every post they make, they know it's going to be full? Like do they just go uh hey to hello my haters? Do they just have that attitude or are they just really >> I think the part that stands out it's like um there's generally what the majority is trying to get after in life, right? And so I think he chose us all life. >> Yeah. >> Um and it's it's against what the majority wants. So it's very hard for the majority to understand. Maybe they have some arrangement worked out or works for them. That's cool. But it'd be the same thing as like if I saw someone that like made out with their golden retriever. Like this is my dog. I we can do whatever we want, whatever. But then everyone else is like you don't really treat I don't know anyone else that treats their dog like this. Like like he's like massaging the golden retriever, squeezing the golden
9:19 retriever's nipples and stuff and you're like what the ████ I guess I guess that's okay. But it's weird. red flags because like well for one she doesn't seem like she loves him very much or likes him very much >> because like that's just he doesn't do a good job portray if they are in love he doesn't do a good job portraying that she doesn't do a good job portraying that it doesn't seem like a authentically loving couple it seems like she's kind of just he's conveniently there >> look at this comment someone said Um, >> it does seem like >> when you're unfortunately you're in a situation where your chick had her fun and needed someone to be responsible for her past actions. That is you. For her, her ex was her dream car but was always in the shop. You're the dependable Camry that will always be there. Sad.
10:10 >> Exactly. >> And this this person said bro found out rock bottom has a basement. Oh, >> dude. We all see it. >> Probably grains of truth to that. >> We all see it. If they had a kid that was his, I think it would even it out. I think right now it's an unequal investment in the thing. >> Yeah. >> You know what I mean? It's like it's like I invest in this family and then you also invest in this family, but the ROI is all on the the girl. It's all on the girl. >> Look at this one. This is actually not a mean one, but it is like pretty interesting. It says, "I mean this genuinely. While some of the comments are hateful, I think a lot of them have your best interest in mind, and you are arrogantly dismissing them. My dad became a stepdad of three at 26 years old before having me. He hustled through school and worked to provide for three kids that have nothing to do with him anymore. He says it wasn't worth it. I
11:00 hope it ends up being worth it for you. >> Wow. >> That's a that's actually a mindful comment. >> That's very nice. >> It's like a lot of comments are either roasting him or or tough loving him >> like that. I think people are like, "Dude, this happened to me. >> Like don't do it." Like I see the same ████ like happening, you know? fun stuff, bro. Cuz it's all him just at the dish rack, >> bro. The dish rack every time, >> dude. >> You go to work, dish rack. >> He said, "Never stop posting. Your videos make me so grateful for my life." >> But what if what if this are brutal, bro? >> What if this is a little bit of a uh like a see like people think my life is crazy to for his wife right now? >> Like I told you I'm doing too much. And she's like, "No." >> Oh, like he's trying to show her like >> Yeah. Do you know what I mean,
11:50 >> bro? >> Like, this is not normal, babe. She's like, it is. >> So, maybe he did this just to like get some support on his side >> for his argument. >> Cuz she's like, no, this is totally natural. It's fine. And he's like, I don't know if it is. >> Well, let me think about on this girl trip. I'll come back and let you know. >> Let me let let me become an influencer and get back to you and give you something to see. Right. >> You know, you know what's funny is um our friend was was telling us his like daily routine. >> So he was like he's like a stepdad, too. So he was like, "Yeah, I um you know, so in the morning I make food, I uh get ready um to take him to school. We go to school. I drop him off. I come back. Um I do this. I clean that. I I work out on and then then my buddy was turning around to his to his wife and he was
12:41 like, "So what do you do?" It was just a genuine question, right? And she took that as you don't do ████ and she got really mad. And then we're like, >> "What the heck? >> Wait a minute. That's cuz she doesn't do s███." She got mad >> cuz she got called out for her ████ ████ cuz she sleeps in all day. So then the rest of us were like, >> "That wasn't even meant to be like offensive. It was meant to be curious." Like, "Oh, cool." >> That's a normal question. Yeah, >> he he's just telling us his routine and it seems like he's got everything handled and your kids stuff. So, I was just like, "Oh, f███." Like, what if they've never even listed out like this is all the ████ I do? This is the ████ Like, he's already just giving her the benefit of the doubt. What a good guy. Oh, she's working on her business all day. And she could be, right? But like,
13:31 >> damn. You can't throw some chicken breast in the air fryer. >> Exactly, dude. >> It's easy. You got a mixing bowl, throw this. Yo, he comes home, unrackcks the ████ dishwasher, ████ preps, cooks, cleans, takes out the trash, >> and she's in a ████ bathrobe. I would be pissed. >> I think they she needs to do her own content. That's That's the only way to solve this. >> Yeah, but her content is her pampering himself. >> Yeah, right. That's why >> they're not doing a good job. >> Seems he does seem like a really nice guy, sadly. Um, but yeah, these comments, everyone's just trying to save him. Seems like >> What do you What did you What are your guys' take? Do you think Do you think this is like a like a he should leave? >> But what if he can't have a kid and he's just trying to be a father? >> Oh man, that's the biggest reveal would make us all ████ But he didn't say that though >> cuz he's embarrassed. >> Imagine that. They come out with that
14:21 news. >> Oh damn. That'd be rough. No, I I my take is I I definitely I wouldn't want this life either to be honest. But that's >> But you think he should run? You think he should get out of there? No, I think some people are built for this life though. Like he's meant to be a beta >> for this life, bro. Like I'm not hating on him. I just think like somebody ends up in this position sometimes and he seems to be taking it with a lot of grace. So maybe he likes it, you know? But man, I I >> find he finds this life rewarding. Like that's what he >> maybe or just like maybe he just fell in love with this girl and he's taking what it comes with. I don't know, man. >> Part of his journey, dude. We don't know. >> Yeah, dude. >> He's a he's a giver. He's a service guy. Like if I was in this situation, a couple things to make it right would be we have our own kid. >> If that doesn't happen, that kid has my
15:11 last name. >> Like we I we need to show I need to show like um investment and sacrifice on their end, you know? Like if if you look at their like legal documents, let's say she kept her maiden name and the kid is like the last dad's name or whatever, you're just then you're like, "Oh ████ this is like really bad." Like I would have to see a lot of extra stuff like like does the kid call him dad? >> I don't know. >> Or does he call him Peter or whatever the ████ you know? Like like I got if I had to really ex examine the dynamics like what what is the real dynamic? >> That's true. >> I think it's it's just in this day and age 29 feels young to be doing this. >> You know what I mean? Like cuz it's >> like you have your whole life ahead of you. What the ████ >> People get married to someone who had kids. But you know like that nowadays people just do this stuff later I guess >> cuz if I'm in this situation I'm also
16:02 letting the chick know if I'm going to be the dad this fool ████ up I'm whooping ass. >> Hey look. >> So that's going to be on you >> if that's that post was liked by Ryan Hagawa. >> Hawa. >> So I don't know. I would Yeah. It would be like there'd have to be a lot of further examination and see like if it all pans out 50/50 or >> too happy man. It's It's just hard because the sheer volume of just the posts of him like doing chores because you look at all his posts, bro. >> Yeah. So, but what what do you think the intention is? >> Because you see every chore done by him. What chores are left to be done? >> I think it's it's it's what Bart is saying earlier like where it's like most people >> chores does she do? >> Most people that are watching this, this is not their ideal life. So, when you see a guy who wakes up, goes to work at a desk job, in their mind, they're like already >> home to a meal. >> Yeah. Already in their mind, they're
16:52 like, he already lost, right? Like I think that's what they're coming from at >> and it's just yeah it's it's they're not like you said too they're not doing themselves any favors. Like it is just kind of brutal >> cuz every job to me I mean every chore has the duel right? It's like okay if you cook maybe I wash dishes. >> Yeah. >> Or if someone's mowing the lawn someone's mopping inside. >> He's doing like both of them like everything. >> Yeah. >> Like he's ████ he he's filling up the trash and taking out the trash. You're like dude what is she doing? The sad part is that if it doesn't work out for them, right, he mega loses and she just >> Yeah. He spent all this money and time >> parlay this into something else. >> That's He's like at the disadvantage, I guess. >> Yeah, he is. He is. >> There's women in the comments saying the same exact ████ >> Yeah, >> it's not just guys roasting them. There's women that are >> It's all genders are just like, "Get
17:42 out, bro." >> Yeah. You know what would be crazy? I guess the ultimate one of the ultimate uh ways we find out is if they do break up. >> Yeah. >> If he's still trying to fight for the custody of his stepkid, then you're like, "Dude, you've been sip like sipping the Sim Kool-Aid like crazy." >> I think I think when you live a lifestyle like this, >> eventually it breaks you down if this isn't truly for you. You know what I mean? Like if you are not truly happy with going through his experience over time, resentment's going to build and he's going to just snap at this chick one day and be like, "You know what? >> He seems like a genuinely nice dude." >> Like he should be doing this with a girl that reciprocates in the in the same way. >> Yeah, maybe he does. We just don't we just don't see it. >> Another one more is during like family
18:32 gettogethers. I want to see what his dad how his dad views it. >> When the step kid goes on the dad's lap, is he like, "Oh, this is one of mine." Or is he like, >> "Yeah." >> Like, "F███." All right. If since you call him your son, then it's my grandson. >> Well, good luck, uh, Kennedy. Hope everything works out for you, man. You're a nice guy.
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