0:00 [Music] welcome back to careful boys today we're talking about a specific instance of one of our one of our people who watches the show is going through a family issue and we are going to fix it for them I kind of told you that in private but so my wife's godmother is a baker always makes cakes for her and her family speci occasions she has never acknowledged me not when we got married announced our pregnancy baby shower and the last straw was when she met my baby and just walked past me like I didn't exist W not sure why she's like that I've never done anything to her so I told my wife I don't want her at my baby's first birthday party and even less even making
0:52 the cake she's saying I should be the bigger man and just let it go but I'm like ████ that she's going to respect me or not be involved in my kids life am I the ████ and you guys should join our patreon and be a part of our Discord and then you will know that we have the inside stories like these here M inside scoop that's what I'm talking about do we know whether or not this person has tried to talk to the said godmother about it or is it just like passive aggressive it's passive aggressive is that a godmother or stepm godmother it sounds like the Godmother is a ████ and she's not going to take she doesn't care about changing it's the Godmother of the child wife's godmother wife's godmother wife's godmother so it's like the god grandmother yeah of the child yep and she doesn't even care about ackowledge the guy I already know the problem the
1:43 problem is the Godmother is ████ she has the hots for this guy she too horny she's too horny so she's trying to be respectful and avoid eye contct I like it cuz that's what happened with you and your your mother-in-law right oh it's private that's not true is fine I have a great relationship with my mother-in-law uhh a more great relationship oh yeah yeah yeah when the Well's been dry though and they get that gushers around you I think that's dangerous gushers it's probably that she's just horny for him yeah this is good and that's respectful I think she's doing a respectful job trying to avoid icons um yeah dude what should he do pal I feel like he should probably try to I look when when a guy goes into um when he gets married into his his wife's family I think it's on the guy to uh
2:35 break bread with everybody that's not technically family Godmother's not yeah still though if she's always around though that's family that's family bro that's AIA how does he know she's a ████ she never acknowledges him but but that's his assumption no no no like she walks right past the ████ D she's invisible well maybe you're actually a dead ghost and you you died maybe you died this is great stuff you think you're alive it's like Bruce Willis genius you're either dead or she's got the hots for you yeah you think you're alive she doesn't see you yeah yeah yeah because you're a ████ ghost right and you don't realize that you don't know that you're I'm I'm with Nick though I think like I don't know if I'm assuming he didn't do this that's why he's asking but I feel like a lot of people's problems these days is they don't like to communicate and confront
3:25 so something will happen instead of talking it out they just make a decision yeah and then this decision now has even bigger consequences so instead of going yo like what's going on how come you always ignore me or whatever whatever like open that box it's just don't invite to the kid's birthday and then now boom explode on the other end where so many of this could be prevented by just talking it but don't you think but he's he's saying this too remember he's saying my my wife is saying I should be the bigger man to Let It Go but I'm like ████ that she's going to respect me or not be involved in my kid's life so a key piece of info this is this is this is this is the prevent preventative part that I don't understand if you think someone's ignoring you why don't you say hi to them why do they have to acknowledge you is he saying hi and they're not responding like I want to be ████ sure before I come out and say
4:17 she's ignoring let me ask you this though if it's your wedding if it's your wedding and this ████ is not coming up to you saying hi that's kind of weird for sure it's weird how do you not take that as a slight because some people people are shy and socially awkward and some people no excuse for disrespect some people a lot of people with resting ████ faces a lot of people with bad social skills they're not intending to be that stupid they just don't know how to act they're in their own world sometimes also also it could be disrespectful but there's also still room for forgiveness with a certain amount of strikes you know what I mean so like you got to also be willing to you got to ████ grow some balls and go up to her and be like hey listen there's a I don't know if there's a disconnect or what's going on but every time you come around you don't say hi let's just can we start at a different foot from this moment on I
5:08 would like to you know have a better relationship because obviously I'm going to be around my my son or my daughter or whatever and then I don't want any problems now moving forward if you still have an issue then I'm going to have to separate myself from you and then there won't be go there going to be some distance now I don't want that but if that's what you want that's what's going to happen like I want us to all be cool yeah so if you don't want it then we're not going to be cool that's be level two for some people cuz level one might just be like all right let me test this level one might still be like let me test this at the next event just being like hi and if they really you know then if they give you the energy then it's like okay it is confirmed then you have that conversation some people don't want to do that confrontation too you know if they don't have to I would go up to him I would go up to her and be like what's the matter you don't like black people and then that confuses her yeah whoa she's like wait what the ████ you're white guy now she's like she's really confused
5:58 doesn't know she thinks you have something in common now yeah yeah just like actually I don't WoW connect him with Steve today Steve is really cool wish said hi earlier it always feels like in these situations that the the wife said something that he did to her godmother and now she knows and is mad at him on her behalf could be there's a lot of things going on like never ever ever tell your family about a fight you're having with exactly that's what your ████ relationship don't never apology so they're not going to be part of it you guys make up you guys don't rebrief everyone don't rebrief family ████ hates their guts hates them not going to be mad over nothing but they'll over inflate something that that was bad ████ ████ go like that be talking oh yeah it's like when you meet like a
6:49 your wife's coworker that she complains about all day you're not going to be like the warmest person cuz you know she's done a lot of ████ that you know she can't stand up too I feel like as a guy dealing with an probably an older lady you got to extend the Olive Branch you got to kind of probably an older lady you got to you got to charm them you got to charm them you can't like charm the snake you got to be nice you got to be like hey can I get you something to like when she comes over the house can I get you something inure depends are you regular wait wait why you here's some fiber supplements if you need some why you being a ████ you why don't you have a seat on a plastic couch we wrapped it today for you oh ████ that's what it that's what it feels like I got you really Gody necklace you love it it distracts away from your rickly ass face cuz guys are pretty dumb when they go like I don't
7:39 know why she's being a ████ it's like no there's a little reason that you're not party dude at the party be the Grill Master and then when you see her come up for her ████ you know for her food you just burned that ████ oh sorry here you go well done right ah you like black tortillas I do feel like a a little extending of the olive goes a long way yeah and and you could even do a win-win situation what if the cakes that she makes are good yeah cuz cuz then she's just bringing good cake you and then you take it you eat it you go up to her and you go like hey this is really good thank you for doing this but if she ignores you you spit it in her face and go this was ████ disgusting pois punt it or what you do you go who made this cake you make a big scene about it you go oh your godom made it she was like compliments to the chef her hand wow
8:30 this is a wonderful cake this is the best cake I've ever had fed yeah yeah yeah yeah yeah you're like wait a second who made the cake everybody's like oh my God my godmother you know what that's oh my God tastic lady the vanilla bean cream is delicious for 30 minutes oh M cuz on the flip side what if what if she's going I always bake a ████ cake for this ████ he never says thank you he never ████ yeah cuz people Harbor resentments and you don't even ████ know dude yeah I do too too all the time maybe she yeah he didn't give her a com I think maybe he said oh I can't I'm on a diet right now I'm doing this fing thing e almonds yeah imagine and it's also maybe maybe the cake is not big so he's like saving the cake for everybody else cuz he thinks he's hosting you know what I mean but
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11:55 and then walked away and I was like very insecure man yeah dude I would have been like yeah but yeah dude I get it like some people take things as disrespect you have no idea for me first of all B layer your wife has to have your ████ back your chick has to have your ████ back no matter what Bas layer no matter what right so like even if even that's true that's true right and then after that you have to demand respect from people around you I would pull her aside and I'd say hey look you don't have to like me but you do have to respect me because I'm part of this family obviously I'm more part of this family than you are CT so blood blood you grab you grab her like here and you go look here you Filipino ████ have you guys is she Filipino have you guys ever had to deal with something like that in your own family that you like ever you never dealt with that like your girlfriend's family that you had to like all right you got to clear your out it's already getting Rocky you didn't drop her off
12:45 too late you didn't ████ yeah not my girlfriend my own family not my current family but my ex-girlfriend's family I had to deal with a lot me too I did the ████ I did the mistake of doing this ████ I was like this I was eating and I came from work and then they invited me to like a party but they having and I ████ went like this and I put my arm like that explaining a story I was like oh no it's cuz I went and the dad walked by and looked like I was like on some like grabbing her ████ he just walked in and just walked into the bathroom came back and I didn't think anything of it and then ████ later dude I went outside and the brother-in-law came in he's like hey can I talk to you real quick and I was like yeah what's up dude like yeah he's like I didn't like the fact my swag doesn't like the fact that you grabbed that your girlfriend or whatever like that in front of his house like that's disrespectful and I'm like bro I didn't do that before I even said anything else she comes out running crying and the dad is just grabbing like
13:35 I don't know like clothes and just throw what him drunk you know and made a scene she's crying I'm like God damn you know we have yet hold on we do though I don't even know if I like this you know what I'm saying so I was just like what that's what he we Haven any ████ yet sure hav't she can't live with me we haven't ████ you know and she ████ made a scene the guy wanted to beat me and then the guy was explaining to me started squaring up hey you want to get down and I'm like Get Down what do you mean you just you're were being cool like kind of and now you want to fight me and the dad wanted to fight me so I both of them beat their asses or what no I pushed out dude I pushed cuz in my mind in my mind I'm like they're drunk they're right now they're just you need to get out of that family no you want to see some gang ████ that I did this is ████ that my dad taught me he's like he said he's like
14:25 you know what you're never going to win this situation walk away walk away some romance ████ is go up there at 7:00 in the morning go back in the house and now sober now what's up if you want to fight we can fight right now outside sober but I don't want to fight somebody when they're drunk he's H over drunk I don't know what that's a che I ████ he holding strategy I see five I got jump you show up the V at no CH it down yeah CH it some electrolytes my ████ I don't even know who you are godamn it no I had a chick that um her family was pissed that I I was staying over and then she was sneaking in the room with me and her dad caught her doing that and and my chick at the time
15:15 raised a huge ████ stink and they were all screaming each other in the hallway and ████ like that I was like this is the ████ worst I was like I have I have to I would have to it's like 2 in the morning I was like I would have to drive to my folks house it's like an hour and a half away this would really suck and I basically just took told pulled the DAT aside and I was like hey man this is your house dude you tell whatever the ████ you want like I respect you I know my chick is freaking the ████ out right now but I have your back and that was big cuz that was early In our relation that was huge that tells a lot he's like okay you go beat her ass that's what you want sir I will beat her ass and then we had a base layer of respect with between each other so that like a couple times like her sister would really ████ like start tearing into her and I would defend her like instantly and the dad liked that ████ and I would pull him aside even afterward and be like listen dude keep
16:05 pulling the dad do it again do it again St can I talk to you in this in the back for a second Steve I keep liking you more and more brother speaker Steve come on it's just so it's just so important to make sure that they're cool with whatever just happened cuz I'm like look I know that's your daughter I don't I'm I'm sorry I yelled at your daughter in front of you and ████ like that but like I was just defending your other daughter and he's like no no no we're cool we're cool he's like nope they're both I love it Steve Steve's a real stand up gu yeah dude Steve is Steve dude that's looking crazy Steve he Li crushes dude this guy crushes all the time yeah dude ████ charmer over here though that it's like while they're yelling at each other in the hallway I'm like this chick just swallow my ████ dude with my ████ breath SW yeah that's a power trip when you
16:55 ever like it's a power trip do you ever like it's a cool Power Trip too like when like in the holidays when you go over to like their family's house and you know you're in their house and stuff and then everybody's just meeting outside like come here how about we go in that room ████ real quick you're ballsy man here oh my gosh stop and then you just ████ just grab it and oh my God Fine hurry I you walk out and they just he just did what you did so they're hugging her dad hi daddy she call me daddy earlier dude hell yeah in the back room getting bugged in your house will you pay your bills it's a
17:46 powerp you just shaking dad's hand that's sh dad's hand dude that's the worst dude I think I I was I was I got this i got this speech from a dad one time who's like hey you know it's my daughter old ████ like you you ever heard of her her ████ pounding brother I ████ her butt yesterday so I heard her pretty good already and you just need to chill out yeah don't say that ████ to me cuz now I want to do it again you need to calm down you guys ever get threatened by anyone you dat's family member that was the I think the most it's always the standard like I got a gun like a real not real though it's always kind of half tongue and cheek well the thing is they actually do have only real ones no I do have you have that ████ cousin like hey D homie like hey treat her good homie and my
18:37 cousin treat her good homie don't do nothing to her that you don't want someone to do to you Golden Rule I ████ and I was like ████ didn't you like just get out of prison you don't even talk to her like you're didn't even cool with her she told me she like we hardly even talk but all of a sudden you want to be this ████ cousin who just wants to like protect the family hey homie I want to break her heart I'm going to break her face homie I don't want to be disrespectful I don't want to be dis this move right here they're nice they're nice to me at the same time I don't disrespectful but I'll ████ crack your face homie right now you know but I'm not going to do it cck your ████ face homie I had uh like all right get the ████ I had a my ex's Dad call me to to help her after we had broken up what oh that's the worst she that's a stand up guy right there
19:27 cuz the next guy she dated scammed her out of like a ton of money oh can you get back with her R she was from Colorado so she didn't have her family here and then uh her dad called me like this is like almost a year later and he was like Hey like I know you guys don't talk and I know like I have no reason to call you but he's like can is there anything you can do to like help her out because she doesn't have anyone right now okay no friends nothing do you guys want to hear something crazy so me this nextg girlfriend of mine that I was dating this is this is wild I've never said this story before and uh she we were breaking up and like she caught me like talking to some girls and I she was like I was talk I was flirting with some other girls I was cheating on her and then I was like whatever didn't be an ████ anyways but I was getting like nudes from this other girl and I was like you know we were sending ████ back I wasn't sending ████ back but anyways the point is I was getting reing news
20:18 and she saw it she went through my phone she screenshotted ████ she passed the screenshots to her phone when I was asleep she was doing all this ████ in the bathroom doing all these ████ like sending me videos so she can be like you see I have proof it was in there and then she left the house for Discovery we're like talking she was at work and I was at work and we're going back and forth talking like and showing me the videos and stuff her ████ iPad is connected to her iCloud and her iPad was at home and she gave that to her mom so her mom is reading all of this chees oh ████ going back and forth dude oh it's over and it was like and then I apologize we we ████ aired it out out and we we were cool we were like all right you know what ████ it you know I'm done she forgive me you know she was like she's young dumb she's like ████ it and I'm like whatever it was a mistake
21:08 the mom calls me and I'm like why is your mom calling me like I don't know and her mom's like can we talk and I was like yeah she like I just want to let you know like stop hurting my daughter and I'm like like what do you want to get back together you know that like and then she's and her daughter's like looking at me he like what the ████ and I'm like your mom like knows and she's like I saw it on the iPad blah blah blah blah please leave her alone just leave her alone she starts crying just leave her alone leave her don't hurt her I'm like ████ dude and I hung up and I'm telling her like dude your mom knows like this is weird I guess we got to break up and she's just like crying no I want to break I'm like God damn dud what the ████ just happened it was a ████ show dude it was a ████ ████ show it was the worst ████ I had to apologize to her and her mom which was ████ weird
21:59 but at least you got to keep the nudes right keep the NES you kept the nudes though right legally those are his nudes come on baby I'm not stupid do I look like a dumb guy to you I'm not an idiot Guy come on tell real quick we the room is he is is this guy an ████ oh real quick conclusions yeah I think you talk he need to open up a conversation open up conversation I think it's a little cuz getting prepared to already have a retaliation when you don't know what the ████ going on a little bits you're already assuming that she has ill intent you're already assuming that she's ignoring you you haven't even made the CH you haven't even tried enough give her a shot yeah give her a to talk to her and said hi or whatever to have enough evidence that she's deliberately ignoring you yeah and he could be assuming part he could be right but he needs to confirm but you need clear evidence the evidence is not oh she walked past me and didn't say hi
22:50 to the baby who the ████ cares talk to her directly and say hi and if she looks at you walks away clear evidence or one day you might actually like hi I'd like to talk to you and she's like oh there you are oh my God I didn't know the whole she's always wearing sunglasses inside like she used mold she doesn't TST s what a Twist and then look in the mirror as well cuz if you don't see your reflection you might be dead even if she yeah you might be a ghost and he's dead even if she is a ████ he still has to integrate her in the probably
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