0:00 Welcome back to Careful Boys. Today we're talking about how men are disappearing from dating apps. >> For real? >> I've been seeing this lately. >> Are you on dating apps right now? >> No, I I read an article. >> He's been seeing on his phone. >> I read Yeah. >> Okay. >> No, but like uh so we already know >> guys than usual. >> We already know that these days uh guys are kind of not really into dating no more. They feel like what's the point, >> right? >> That's called the black pill, right? >> Yeah. But that's like the hardcore version. But I'm talking about like the gateway to that. So like it's already dating's expensive >> also. Like even in LA, remember when we had the ATI boys here? They're just like, I ain't even going to talk to you until you put 200 bucks in my cash app. >> Yeah. >> So like >> the dating scene is so different. >> Yeah. So, like a lot of dudes are just opting out and they're like, and then there's the other layer too where
0:50 they're like, I want to talk to her, but I'm so afraid about like being rejected and like being the laughingtock of social media because someone's recording my like rejection or like I get accused of being a creep and then like people are like coming like so there's just so many more consequences to it. >> Uphill battle. >> Yeah. So, but then there's another layer too where the dating sites now like or the the the apps hella bots hella ████ only fans trap. Oh yeah. >> Not authentic girls on there. Nobody like even using it anymore. So like a lot of dudes are just like, "F███ this." So like before I was like, "Man, y'all stupid." But now I'm starting to really understand their gen because also I employ a lot of that generation. >> You're closer to it. >> And there's there's generally like still relationships and all that, right? But
1:40 it's not like when we grew up where everybody was dating. Some people had >> everybody knew everybody. >> Yeah. Like some people were like had three four girlfriends, you know, and then like some girls had five boyfriends and then like whatever, but someone was in a relationship >> all the time. >> Yeah. Yeah. And then like you were single but you you took a small break. But even if you're single, you were ████ so like they're not ████ they're staying single for a long time. Yeah. So I don't know. What do What do you guys think it is? What age group are you talking talking about? High school. Is talking about like early college or like >> young men. So like under 30. >> I would say from teenagers all the way to like >> I would say it's it's frustration from having ████ constantly cancel on you is what I would guess. And you rage quit. >> I think for me I would uh if I was in
2:30 that age group, I would honestly probably move out of the big city cuz I feel like it's a big city problem. like having that cash that's that's so sophisticated where the dating dynamics are that crazy already. I would look for like what is a more simple more like traditional scene where it's not so social media based so clout based where if like I met a chick at if I bag groceries at ████ HB or ████ Bies or whatever they're not going to just pop out a phone, you know? It's like everything's still like the olden the olden days, I guess. Do you think you you'd be a passport bro? >> What's a passport bro? >> So that's kind of Oh, international. No. No. So that's the gateway of what you're talking about. A lot of guys feel like man reached out in the classified for him. >> There's no chance. There's no chance. There's no chance for me in America
3:22 because women are gold diggers or whatever. So then they go, I'm going to go to the Philippines. We're still like conservative and like women want to like marry and and and you know, traditional whatever. And then so they they do that. So that's called a passport, bro. >> No, I think for me if it aligned with my goals, like let's say I joined the Navy or something, I was just so be in the Philippines, I probably would. But if not, I would be like, I'm going just venture out to like, I don't know, Tennessee or some other smaller town and and find a job over there or be like, yeah, police officer in a small town or firefighter smaller town and try to meet people like the regular way. In a way, as a tuber, you can be a passport bro, but in the states, cuz you go to Tennessee and you meet some like nobody ████ who like is like an eight for the area and you're like, I could take you away from this. Move to LA. >> But then the aid in Tennessee has social
4:12 media, so she can be a Hollywood star. >> Yeah. >> Now everyone, >> not not a Hollywood star though, cuz let's be real. >> But like that level of fame, >> but eight in Tennessee, we're talking about an LA 6 probably. >> Maybe >> it's not going to be convertible. Hey, there are plenty of fine women that are not on social media like that. >> You think? >> Yes. The ones that like don't ever post selfies. They're like ████ fine, but they only post things like flowers and like check out this vase. But I [snorts] feel like in a big city, it's those are so hard to find cuz everyone's part of the same ecosystem. So when you go when you go to Vegas and you take a picture at EDC, they're not going to tag the flower girl. They're like, "Yo, just put your picture up so we can tag your ass." And then it ends and you get pulled into the system. You know, >> girl groups too, like even if you're like the the chick that we all love in
5:03 the movie who's like not into the social media, blah blah blah, the girl group makes them into social media, you know, cuz if you want to contact these ████ like you got to do what they're doing. >> Cuz I didn't even have a Facebook before and it was my buddy that pulled me in because he's like, "Yo, I want to post these things. Can you just make a ████ Facebook so I could do whatever?" I'm like, "Oh, okay." And this is like 2002 or 2003. So, if you have friends, they will end up pulling you in. >> But I do think the game is different because like, you know, when you're in a big city, people with a thousand followers will pretend like they have a million >> cuz they're they're playing those dynamics. >> They're yelling at ████ Asian ████ restaurant owners being like, you know, do you know who the ████ I am? >> Yeah. like that versus if the person in Tennessee or whatever, they do have social media, but they just they their head is as big as their follower count and they don't play this big city game
5:53 dynamic. >> You know what's crazy to me? Again, zooming out, I think of like 10 years ago, what the dating culture was at that time, it was like revolutionary like dating apps and ████ like that, right? Like >> ████ completely changed the scope of the world on how we do understand dating. And then 10 years before that, >> in like 2006, a loser if you found someone online. >> Yeah, you were a loser if you found somebody online. However, yeah, in aim MySpace area, uh, Facebook, like you suddenly started like we just started social media, so that was a different version. It wasn't direct dating, >> but we were pulling leads, >> but it was a direct version of doing that. Yeah. You would use those ways to like Yeah, exactly. So, so I also assume that 10 years from now, it'll be radically different again. Yeah. >> I'm like this ████ the field changes all
6:44 the time. Like I I don't It's hard to tell anybody like this is the way because like this ████ will change. >> Oh yeah. This is the way forever. It's going to change. >> Yeah. I think the only consistent thing regardless is like the type of partner that you want. Number one, you need to be attractive to them, >> that person. And then number two, like the partner that you want, where would you find them? Like if you want that nice ████ sweet ████ Yeah. Yeah. Go to the bar to find your wife, you know, like that. It's >> I want a southern bell. >> Yeah. Then go to the south. >> Yeah. Or or or go to church if you want that, you know, like you got to find people in like the spaces that they normally would be. Not abnormally would be for a night because they're they're revenge ████ cuz somebody just broke up with them, right? >> You just nailed the the obvious thing that everyone should do, but don't do.
7:34 >> Get attracted to the person you're attracted to, >> bro. That's literally everything. >> And if you're hunting a raccoon, go to raccoon town instead of going in the ocean. >> Where the raccoons at? But I don't know why. Okay, this is like 90 plus% of people are this ████ delusional. So like >> you mean like Big Ed? >> Yeah. >> From 90day. >> Yeah. >> Where he's like, I can't believe I can't ████ get married. This is crazy. >> It's a scam. >> It's all a scam. >> It's the whole entitlement of like people should love me for who I am. There's this whole ████ belief that you don't need to step it up to get the person that you want. >> I genuinely think Mr. Rogers ruined a bunch of people with that ████ Like, everyone's special. I'm like, no, they're not. They're not ████ special, dude. >> Everyone's special when they take care of themselves and present themselves well and know how to recognize that
8:25 specialness and then optimize it. >> You got to know what you're good at. You got to harness what you're good at. >> Yeah. cuz I think everyone is unique, but you it's not it's buried in there and you got to ████ pull it out and ████ polish it and present it to the world. >> It's funny because when people are like, "Man, you should like me for my personality." I'm like, "You have a horrible personality >> and bad breath." >> Yeah. It's like, "What [laughter] the ████ Your personality is so bad. You're not interesting." >> It's like in 2020 when like we we were talking about this earlier, like when Playboy is like they have a trans chick on the cover of the magazine and they're like, "Oh, what? Straight guys? is like, "You can't handle all this." And we're like, "Yeah, we just don't like it. Actually, it's not for me. Thank you. I'm a straight guy." >> Cuz I do think for guys, um, because of the options that women have now, >> um, it's like people used to date within
9:15 their community is what I'm saying. >> Their church, their school proximity, right? But now the Tennessee 8 has access to LA guys, New York guys, you know what I mean? like they they don't they can they can leave they can so like women have access to more more options >> so they're not stuck to like their circle of people and guys do too but I'm just saying like the mid-level range guys or the average guys that used to date girls in their community they don't have access to them anymore. I think that's actually one of the biggest >> those those cats are like hi hello and they get swip swiped left. >> Yep. >> And they're gone. That's it. >> People need to remember like 90 plus% of everybody out there is average or less. That's the whole point of being average.
10:06 >> You know what I'm saying? So like when you But nobody follows average people. You don't go online on your Instagram and ████ and start following the average Joe, right? You follow somebody who's ████ fine, mad successful, or just extremely charismatic or whatever, right? So next thing you know, you're inundated in your mind like I'm only seeing like big booty, curvaceious, luscious, big breasted ████ fine everything, damn near AI, right? And it's like suddenly you go out into the real world and everything doesn't make the same sense. >> You so ugly >> or or vice versa, right? These these these ladies who think to themselves or whoever they follow or whoever stories or influencers that they're getting, they're thinking that the right dude is out there. that six ████ pack 6 foot self-employed at home Christian rearing like like that guy's out there and it's like no he's not the 5'4 version of that
10:57 guy's definitely out there for you he's right next to you actually and he's he's been under your nose the whole time he's probably your best friend >> I'm so close to that but it's it's like a it's like a 24 pack >> yeah but hey 5 5'4 >> at 5'4 54 >> I get it but you know okay so at least 56 >> no good 56 Yes. Yes. Yes. Yes. Very good. >> You know what I'm saying? But he's not 6 feet. Like I'm sorry that there's not a bunch of self-employed 6' six pack dudes out there. >> I do see that in both men and women though. Like >> so like my friend's little brother like he's in his 30s, right? And we're like why you know what kind of girls do you like? Cuz you've been single for a minute now. And then um he was showing us and I was like these are like top level streamer e girls that are ████ big tittied. They make seven figures and they're hot as ████ And I'm like, "Okay, so you want a game or
11:47 girlfriend?" And I'm like, "Do you notice that all of these women in their Instagram, they're going to the gym religiously. They care about their body." I'm like, "Why would they date you? Cuz you guys play games a lot together." Like, that's one interest. >> Can I just say maybe he's really good at games? >> It's possible. It's possible. And an anomaly can happen. >> That could be, but he better come at it with a million followers, too. Yeah. >> Like >> you got you got to come equal to the same table though. >> Bar maybe he's really good. >> But it's not ninja. You know what I mean? Like are you ninja? Are you ████ you know what I mean? Like are you >> That's what I'm saying. >> I want to be ninja. >> But I'm that's that's your example of do you ████ are you even on their radar? Are you even in that circle? >> Do you wash your clothes? [laughter] >> That's the first step. >> Sometimes it really is just simple ████ >> Yeah.
12:37 >> Do you shower? Like, let's be real, dude. I pulled ████ Nikki Limo, brother. Like, I think I have I think I should be the only I should be the only person allowed to talk in this ████ room. >> I'll be the second person allowed soon. I'll tell you that. >> Whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa. What? I like it when Nina does this cuz then I want to talk to her a lot. >> I don't even know what you're talking about. We're on the Nikki Limo season. >> Okay, but you know what I'm saying? >> I should have a lot of authority. >> Hey, you can't spell limo without Lee. >> I I do I do I do I do I do feel like you guys got it really hard. And uh I'm really >> ████ I'm so glad I'm not single right now. I'm so ████ glad. Dude, >> before this ends, guys trying to do trying to date these times. Good luck. Good luck. You guys can suck ass. >> That's it. >> Yeah, I said it. >> That's it. >> What? >> That's terrible. [laughter]
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