← back to the archive // episode file

When Friendships Need a HARD OUT

#coconutwireless#believegod#dudesmom#homie#homies
the transcript auto-captions · entered into evidence

0:00 [Music] Have you guys ever had uh a heart out from a friendship? Oh, >> yeah, dude. >> Cuz you know, like it's it's one thing for to naturally stop being friends or lose touch, but have you ever had like a straight up real like we are not friends tomorrow? >> Yeah. >> Oh, yeah. From zero to 100 so quick. >> What happened? Like what's what's uh what caused that? uh a friend that I had six, seven years ago. She got into a relationship with a guy who is very religious and then just out of the blue one day she calls me. She goes, "Colleen, I don't think we should be friends anymore because you don't believe in God." >> Whoa. Peace. >> That's very Christian-like. >> Hold on. I didn't know you don't believe in God. >> I don't believe in God. >> You don't believe in God?

0:53 >> Guys, I don't think we can spiritual than I believe in. Like, >> but that's like >> the opposite of being Christian. >> Yeah. >> Like that's not what they teach. >> Yeah. That's not what God is supposed to tell you to do. >> You don'ting say everyone that isn't Christian, you ostracize. You're supposed to actually do the opposite. >> Yeah. It was just be a good example. >> Be a good example so you can recruit for God. Like the are you? >> It sounds extreme and it sounds made up, but it was literally verbatim like that simple. >> What you expecting? >> And it was so crazy that I was on the phone with her. I was like, "This is wild." I'm like, "All right, cool. Later." >> Were you guys super tight? >> We were cool. Yeah, we were cool. >> And was it did you feel like she was saying that to get a specific kind of resp like like were what were you supposed to say or was she really just like there's nothing you can do about

1:43 it? We're not friends. In my mind, I think it was just there's nothing that I could say or could do. I think she was just going through some crazy situation. >> What if I feel what I feel like? I'm ready to be Christian right now. You think that's what I'm thinking? >> You know what? You convinced me. >> You think this this 3minut phone call of you, you know, threatening our friendship convinced me that God's >> Yeah, I feel the Holy Spirit now. >> Yeah, I feel. >> Colleen, you think it was menopause or something like that? >> At 23. How old is that person? Exactly. I think at 23 that's >> a old ass ████ >> You think you talking like that? >> You think it's Crohn's disease? Maybe. >> I think it's ALS. >> You think it's rabies? >> You think she was on a period or something? >> Probably. >> It was I mean there were some things like leading up that was just getting a little like >> you know who this is too.

2:34 >> Was it a part with the dance with the devil peoples? Yeah, >> she is a She was a dancer at the time. Or >> remember that that documentary? I didn't really watch it yet, but everyone talks about it. It's called Dancing with the Devils. >> Oh, no. I don't know that one. >> Oh, ████ Watch that ████ >> That's not the Korean dancing one, right? >> Yeah, we're friends with the with the guy that made that documentary. >> Well, >> I had one, >> Ryan. I have one and you were there. >> What you mean? >> You were there. Remember? >> Are you talking about in the group chat? >> No. Come on. That That's light work. I was thinking of there's a really funny thing where one of our friends um during CO when people had different opinions that were like clashing >> he had uh he was he was mad at him because he was giving haircuts still during co when people were not supposed to be spreading. >> What kind of carrot ass friend is that?

3:24 I know. But but the funny part is that he in our group chat he lectured him and like wrote this long like super long like thing about how he's inconsiderate and then we're I see that he's going to respond and I'm like oh ████ here it comes to going to say something and he just he just writes lol. >> Yeah. >> And then the guy leaves the chat like right after that. I thought you were talking about that cuz that's pretty funny. >> No, it was the other one. Remember uh this the dude that names starts with the F. Oh yeah, you should tell that story. That's a good one, >> man. So, no. >> Fernando. Fernando. No, it's not. >> I had this dude come, you know, my my boy Brownie, he was in Hawaii. Uh, he moved to LA at that time. You know what I'm saying? Blah blah blah blah. The lady his his his ex at that time was moved in and everything, too. So, we're

4:14 all chilling. I brought I brought my homie over and the name starts with F. We're just trying to help him out, man. I couldn't help him out with a place because he didn't want to be there. Blah blah blah. So Brandon was just like, "Yeah, I'll take you in." I was just like, "You sure, bro?" Because that's that's that's the homie I brought, you know? He's just, "Yeah, I got it." Some weird ████ happened down the line, you know? We're tight. We're hanging out every ████ day. We were super tight. All three of us all the ████ time, right? One day, he gets a call. something about the homie with the F was trying to do some weird funky stuff with his ex at that time. >> What's the weird funky stuff? >> The R the R word stuff. >> No way. >> Yeah, I guess they're trying to almost like >> stuff. >> No

5:06 >> grape juice stuff. >> Grape grape juice. >> Got it. >> Something about the the homie with the >> For a second I was really confused. the the homie with the F tried to grape Brown's ex at that time. >> Whoa. >> I was just like, "What?" So, obviously, he call Brownie calls me and tells me what what happened and I'm just like, "Yo, >> how did he know the ex reached out to him?" >> Yeah. >> Like, "Help, I need help." >> Or something like, but it was such a gray area. Like, there's like really It was so confusing for me. And but I at the end of the day I listened to Brown cuz I know Brown is a trustworthy guy. So I just listened to him. So immediately I just said, "No, ████ that. We're done." You know what I mean? Like immediately I just cut him off. And he tried call me multiple times. >> Tried texting me like, "Listen, I'm just I didn't even bother looking at his text

5:58 once." >> Oh, you just need to hear one side and that's it. >> I just want to hear one side and I already knew what side to pick and that's my, you know, I just know Brownie so well. Like I I'm going to listen to him. That was a big deal because we only knew that dude because of him. Like he brought that guy everywhere and like set him up. So like the fact that like he just flat out was like, "No, I don't talk to that dude." >> Did you guys find out if he was really into grapes or No, >> we had to go over there. I I remember like me and Dietrix and we all like went to confront him about it. >> I couldn't go because I was so like >> like I was, >> you know, I brought him over to the homie. I try to set them up for the best type of friends to meet for the best guidance to like if you want to make it out here, this is what this is. This is the homie. >> Set them up pretty much. >> And to hear that kind of ████ I was just like, "Bro, I'm going completely ghost you."

6:48 >> Yeah. >> 1,000%. I don't give a ████ what type of memories we had, but I'm a 1,000% you're nobody now. >> Yeah. >> I can easily cut you out like that. You know, >> if you saw him on the street, what would happen? Would you just walk away? >> I just drive. I'm just like, "Oh, that guy here." M >> that's it. But never ever again speak to him. Never ever again. >> Cuz he's still around Hawaii, right? >> Yeah, he's still around Hawaii. >> Oh, maybe I'll run into him for you. >> Yeah, you might. But you know, I see I my homies called me to this day like, "Yo, I seen this guy, this guy." And I'm just like, "Oh, that's cool." >> But Word probably got around about what he did. >> It did cuz all I had to do is call one of my homie. My homie told everybody in Hawaii. >> And then now they're like, "We don't like this guy." >> Yeah. Everybody in Hawaii knows now. Like all my boys know what he got. >> Coconut wireless is strong, bro. Like coconut wireless. >> That's funny. >> Yeah, >> I'm telling you, man. >> Coconut wireless. So,

7:39 >> that's really the term. >> Yeah, they call it coconut wireless. >> That's a great funny thing to say. >> Dude, Hawaii is so small. You call one guy, everybody know. >> Everybody knows. Like, it's >> before Instagram news pops it up. >> Yeah. >> That's all I had to do is call one homie from Hawaii and the whole squad knew. That's a val very valid reason to cut off a friendship though. >> Yeah, man. >> So is not believing in God, >> bro. >> That's That's crazy. But yeah, >> believe I have a blasphemous friend. >> That's way worse. >> That that that was crazy. That was like the craziest time. That was the first time I ever had to >> I thought you were I really thought you were going to kill that guy. >> No, I was just like so devastated cuz I wanted to hear like what everyone else had to say like when you guys went like what is the story? And it was still unclear. Yeah, he uh he he obviously denied it. Um but still we were just

8:29 like it doesn't matter what what you have to say about it. We just were like, >> "Yeah, why were you guys even in that?" Like why? >> It's it's enough that like oh if you even got to that spot to where it's disputable at all, then you you messed up. So it doesn't matter. We were like >> regardless it was her fault or regardless it was him, I don't care. Like the fact that it was even there was just like >> too close. >> Too like too much. >> Yeah. Right. Right. [Music] >> Anybody else not believe in God? >> Yeah. >> I'm not trying to go to hell. >> I had a really weird situation till this day. I don't know what the ████ happened, but um I had really close homies. Like the kind where like if you ran away from home, you crash there and you're tight with your parents and all that. Right. This is like my sophomore year. in high school are really really

9:21 tight. I end up getting kicked out of school so I moved out over here and then you know when you're like at that age all you care about is like girls or whatever and um so I started going to school here and then they're like oh like a lot of the chicks are over there and I'm like oh you know what they have this thing called um I forgot what what the first dance was um but apparently Mark Keell had more dances than Critos. >> Oh like a homecoming dance >> something like that. No it wasn't even homecoming. It was like a small casual one cuz I remember at Critos most of them were like more formal looking. >> Kemple had a bunch of like just cas like people just wear flannels and jeans like type ████ you know? >> So I was like, "Oh, it's like a casual thing." >> And then um so all the homies were like, "Oh, hook me up." I'm like, "Okay, I'm going to try to." So I'm try to like um >> I met a girl and then I through her I met another girl and I started pairing up like three or four of my homies with

10:11 other girls. So, they don't even know who they are. But I would just get, you know, like those pictures that people take at the ████ studio. I'm take a picture. How about her? How about her? How about her? So, I was going to set it up where like four of my homies were going to come to this dance and then we were all going to have dates already, >> right? >> And uh one of the girls I met, she came over and we started talking to kind of like plan this whole thing. And then me and her hit it off. So, I let my homie Sam know, "Hey, this chick, we actually started hitting it off. So, I think I'm going to be with her." And then he just exploded for some reason. And that girl wasn't even going to be Sam's girl. It was going to be this other guy named Mike's girl. And for some reason, he got pissed for Mike. And I don't quite understand what happened. And then, man, ████ you. Blah blah blah blah blah blah blah. Like ████ backside, whatever. I'm like, what the ████ I'm like, you

11:01 don't even know these chicks. What the ████ going on? So, I'm still living my >> He got mad from a picture hookup. >> I don't know. It could be meth. So his brain's like all >> Okay. I didn't know me was a variable. >> But his like his ████ brain is all rewired. >> Yeah. Could be. Yeah. >> And then so I'm like I don't know what is happening on the weekend. I'm going to go back to real and kick it with the homies and see what happens. I go back um uh I I show up at his house I believe and he want to ████ see you. And I try to text the other homies and all of them just ghost me. And then I'm like I don't even know what happened. >> What the heck? Till this day, I don't even know. >> What a weird mystery. >> Messages. >> And then like 2 years later, cuz every time I would like drive cuz that's how comfortable we were. And back then, we don't really have phones. You just visit homies. So, it's normal. >> I remember like 2 or 3 years into my 626

11:52 life. I was like, man, I wonder how Sam's doing. >> And one time I went I went to his house. I rang the doorbell and then I was like, "Oh, is Sam home?" And then his mom's like, "Sam." He comes down and uh he looked at me like everything was cool and we never had any beef. And he was just like like this weird like eerie type of zen like hey what's up bar? How you been? >> I'm like what the ████ The last time I saw you don't want to ████ see me ever again. And we're about to like scrap over it. Like that's how bad it was. >> That sounds like drugs. >> But then he manipulated all the homies or >> Yeah. >> Or the other homies were just like, "Man, ████ you, Bart." They wouldn't talk to you. >> They wouldn't talk to me either. But it's also like at a at a time where the cities are that far apart and then our phones aren't that good where like stories can evolve on its own cuz it's not like right now you can just text.

12:42 Let me clear it up with you. >> Yeah. It's like everyone >> and then people have time to believe. >> Yeah. Everyone had Noas. Everyone had ████ limited minutes. It was like that kind of ████ >> Like I ain't going to talk to you. >> Yeah. And it just evolved into this other ████ thing. And then uh then two years later I tried to visit him just to see what was going on. And then he was just like, "Hey, what's up?" >> He was just kind of cuckoo. >> And I'm like, >> "So he found weed." >> Maybe maybe from meth to weed or something. >> Or God. He found God. >> He found God. >> But Koreans, dude, they're crazy. >> Oh my god, dude. Koreans got a low hit rate in stories here, >> bro. >> Korean crazy. >> ████ you, man. ████ >> there. this when you know like you know Bishop Amat. >> Yeah. >> The I had a really ████ like like close friendship with a girl there that we were just like super cool and then um

13:34 she was dating this guy that I guess their both of their families didn't want them dating. And so like she would always confide in me about it. I was like really uh like supportive and and I would always be up all night with her just talking and ████ I wasn't attracted to her. Nothing like that. Not at all. One day, like I get a call and it's her dude's mom and she's like cussing me out. >> Her dude's mom. >> Her dude's mom who I never met. I don't even know. I don't even really know the guy. >> What's going on? >> His mom just calls me and starts cussing me out about like picking them up, which I didn't do. And I was like, "What?" She's like, she goes, "I know it was you that picked them up." And like I guess cuz their family's refuting or something. And then uh I I kind was just lost. I'm like, "That I don't know what you're talking about. It wasn't me. And I don't even know how she got my number. And then I found out that um >> this is like landline days, too.

14:25 >> Yeah, landline days. This is like 2001. And then I found out that they lied and used me as a cover so they could be together like so they could hang out. >> And I guess they both agreed to say that it was me that >> they threw you under the bus. That ████ sucks. >> Yeah. Majorly threw me under the bus. >> It would have been way different if they asked you for permission. Yeah. You could have covered Yeah. >> And you probably would have done it. >> And then I remember I called her. I was like, "Yo, what the ████ did you guys do?" And she was like, you know, like when you when people start dating, it's like >> they only care about this. >> Like whatever they damage outside of it to make that a thing, like you could just tell like she was just like, "Oh, sorry." Like we had to say something like she just didn't give a ████ about like what I had to go through. Yeah. Not at all. She was just like, "Oh, we're together right now." So, you know, that's all I care about. >> And then obviously like their their ████ fizzled out cuz we're ████ teenagers

15:15 and ████ And then she tried to be friends with me after. To this day, she still like hits me up. >> And I just don't even I just like whatever, bro. Like she hits me up to this day, like still. >> And you just left on red. >> What if she had like a a very sincere apology? Would you be like, "All right, maybe we'll like fix things or something >> or just too >> too deep into your own life." Yeah. >> Yeah. I think it's I think it's just like I never had somebody do that to me before or after that. Like nobody's ever like randomly made up that I did something so that they could like get away with it. >> That's ████ shady. >> Yeah. And it's weird because like I was your friend already. Like you could have set that up. And I like schemes. Like I could have thought of that with you, you know? But the fact that better one >> Yeah. Like I don't like to be pawned like that. Like a man like come on. >> Damn.

// end of tape