0:00 [Music] welcome back to JK out of the closet today we're talking about a life-changing moment for Bart this is number this is part five of his life-changing moments and today we're talking about bart becoming a father yay y Daddy so this is our last uh and final episode of this out of the closet series we're going to do on everyone else with you it's the last one with you with me and we're going to continue with everybody else so let us know in the comments who you guys want to see next last one with you we're going to continue with everybody else everybody else is going everybody we're going to have Nick do five of these in a row they're going to be five minutes long each and if you like these more in-depth type of videos let us know in the comments below too we'll do we'll do more of them but yeah so one of the most um uh biggest moments in my life is
0:51 becoming a dad um one of my friends told me I was like what is it like being a dad or like that moment that you become a father and he told me if you've never uh felt love at first sight he goes you'll feel that and I was okay so I was just kind of like waiting for that moment and so literally the moment that taica came out of Gio's ████ yeah and that fool was like in the doctor's hands it's the most ugliest thing you've ever seen cuz they're cuz the ████ squishes the head so the head's all cone shaped you got ████ placenta and ████ like ████ marks ████ marks you know like when you crack crack open a crab head you got white you got that all that Seafood Gunk all over
1:41 MH but despite all of that you you just fall in love immediately and you're like oh my God you're mine that's crazy so they do that whole like golden hour thing right where it's supposed to have skin on skin contact so so uh they take taica put it on her and I'm like ████ that me too so I took off my shirt in the hospital and I went and I hugged both of them and like from that moment on I was like damn I don't think I give a ████ about myself anymore there was that one comic that was talking about how like when you first when you have a boy he's like oh I ████ love you you know and then the second if you have a daughter though it's like I'll ████ kill everybody for you and then the the love for a daughter it's crazier it's even crazier holy ████ yeah for me it was um
2:31 she don't even love Tek that much is is what what he thought you did when you thought you did just wait 2024 taica could end up being taesa oh that's true and then I might love her more that's so true ta I think ta is also a girl name can be interchangeable maybe hiy all names are could be girl names Anthony yeah including Bob wow and Richard remember how we're not supposed to derail these two open can we just can we just bring it back to the focus here we do a little bit so Tess yeah he comes out smelling like ████ take it away no so like you know how I was saying like the first part of my life it felt like I was living my life for someone else and then for JK in um we started in 2007 and Tao was born in 2017
3:23 for like a good 10 years I felt like I really lived life for myself every decision I made was for me and it was and it was ████ awesome and it's crazy that now I feel like I'm living my life for someone else again but it feels really good because it's voluntary and you want to and it almost feels like anything that you've ever done in the past all your struggles or any of your achievements it's meant so that you can pass it on and then they can actually like benefit from it D it's deep as hell was TAA uh intentional yeah like you guys were working on it like there was the whole like tracking ovulations like like how much how much time did it take we didn't have to do that yet cuz I don't think I would I don't think I had low I don't think I had low tea at that time I think low tea came later I think
4:15 at uh we were we were pretty intentional like when we wanted to actually start trying and then when we started trying it was like 3 weeks so G was like Hey baby no anal today and you're like oh oh yeah that's how adults do it yeah and so I was like 3 weeks got the pregnancy and theme oh ████ that's what was what was like your your reaction when you found out it was a boy thank ████ God I don't know what to do with a daughter I was like yes yes cuz I feel like I'm like I'm already a ████ ████ right grow growing up like my normal isn't other people's normal I'm ████ I make stupid ass ████ decisions um that's how you got ████ hard I'm like yeah how do I I'm like if I have a daughter I'm not the right person to raise a daughter I don't know what the ████ to do but then if if you have a
5:06 rascal at the end of the day like I think it's easy for two Rascals to figure it out be like oh you know what ████ it like well let's go move to ████ Tennessee in the woods or some ████ and we'll be Rascals together it's like you have a car and you know how to fix it whereas that's a better example I think yeah I like the Rascals do more Rascals yeah so I was really happy and the moment that we found out she was pregnant you get as much happiness as you do fear cuz you're also like ████ I hope I don't ████ this up what does this mean like I know my whole life's about to be changed my time isn't my time anymore I can't just do anything I want so it's like as much excitement and happiness is fear did like uh did you and Gio have like talks or did she go through any like loss of self identity type moments or anything like that oh for sure she I think like when because
5:58 the babies and the moms body her identity is a mom you know like I think as dads were like there's not nothing much changes you're a sperm donor I'm a sper exactly you're a sperm donor that decided to stick around moms have the baby and when the baby and then everything's so focused on having a healthy pregnancy when the baby comes out and the baby starts to become its own thing mom's kind of go like oh ████ do I'm not pregnant anymore do I go back to what am I do I do I go back or am I now moving forward a different thing so there's kind of there's for sure like about a year or two where she was trying to like did she go through postpartum I don't know if she did but it's highly possible that she did she definitely went through some sort of like what am I who am I like what what am I supposed to do postpartum probably
6:51 yeah that's post partum could be I mean we don't know yeah yeah could be I just think it's good it happens to basically everybody in some way and I think it's it's always was good to talk about that happens to men too in certain ways I feel like it I mean even if you ████ had your leg in a cast right and then now you're a cast boy for ████ you get come in free to dve Busters cast boy and in the minute like you ████ take your cast off that's a good promotion for D blers have entry feed and then now you got to take your cast off and they like all right 20 bucks you're like I got to pay now what the ████ who earlier good an yeah I like any type of big identity change when uh ta popped out were you guys like let's make another one or were you like oh that was a lot of ████ work I don't know no the first 9 months because I'm like waking up with Gio and all that stuff like I'm like I don't know how people have more than one this is crazy like people got
7:42 four or five kids this is ████ insane and then once you have like a schedule which for us took 9 months some kids they come out sleep 12 hours took Tao like 9 months to to start sleeping on his own and like go to sleep at night and wake up in the morning I was like oh I can see us having another Now you kind of get like I think your biology gives you this Amnesia so that you can oh but for us it was like Tao was born still like pretty full-fledged like JK and barbell and stuff so it was just kind of like we're were like dude how are we going to even squeeze time to have another one in this crazy schedule and it's not like we had like a any family that was really helping like we don't have like a livein mom or dad or whatever you know we're kind of doing it all on our own and then ████ covid hit so you know when Co hit uh Tao
8:33 was like three so he wasn't old enough to go to school yet and at that time the ones that were the most at risk were grandparents so we told Gio's mom like stay the ████ away we're ████ quarantining or whatever but we still have to do all the stuff that we have to do so uh we would just both wake up at 4:00 a.m. to work be until 7 until he wakes up then we stay with him and then we take turns kind of like working and stuff so it was like really really really hard so it took a so I think like it ended up being like you know what like with our life it just wouldn't be fair to him if we brought in another guy or girl cuz then we already feel like we don't give him enough time if you could turn back the dial and had control over like time would you have made any choice to either like have ta like later or
9:24 earlier oh Dam that's a good question I'm scared I would say I would like to say earlier because then it's nice to have like like one my boss in the military he's only maybe like 3 or 4 years older than me and his youngest kid is going to college now wa so he is like about to be I don't know 43 or 44 heed he has his full life back wow his full life back he has four kids they're all about to go to college so it's him and his wife they go on date nights he doesn't have to worry about a ████ dependent anymore you know whereas I'm just getting started so I would say that but then also if I did have it young tely younger for sure i' would pass on all the same trauma i' would beat the ████ out of him like I don't know how to control myself yeah
10:15 you know what I mean imagine like imagine like a like if I was 27 like when I was like 27 28 or even 33 even when me and Gio had fights I was still punching holes and walls and ████ throwing remote controls across the room and ████ or storming off and slamming doors I don't want him to witness any of that stuff so he has never witnessed any of that stuff that I witnessed with my parents or me and Gio you know like if I were to go like get ████ pissed and slam a door now it' probably be the first time him ever even witnessing wow that's great is that cuz you just have beaded doors yeah we put like Styrofoam P rustling rustling it's like cabinet where you slam them and they just go like this yeah yeah yeah yeah they all have shock absorbers yeah he has never witnessed
11:06 any of that trauma so like that's the kind of give or take where it would be nice but then he would for sure have witnessed like a a way more immature emotional version of myself I've never seen you raise your voice that's because you don't know how to push my buttons the way ████ oh yeah he doesn't yell at fellow men [Laughter] uh so getting into to a little bit of the you know like the systems of having a kid right like you you mentioned to me before that everything you've ever done or ever did is super worth it based on how you can pass it on to your kid or how that how how you can give that to your kid yeah can you explain that a little bit for people yeah so like um
11:58 you realize like what you're proud of now is kind of at the mercy of your kid which is like good and bad so like um I'm I'm proud of being in the military I think it's one of the things that made me and and it's um made me who I am and and I feel like it's something that's really tough that I accomplished but all it takes is for taica to see like my I have like a rotten fun fungus toe on my left foot for him to go I've never joined the military I'm like it's actually really good for you it's like it's like you could take what like whatever if you had like a your own personal Shrine right like let's say oh ████ I ████ want American Idol or whatever whatever you did all this crazy ████ all it takes is little kid to come in there like whack whack whack whack whack all that ████ sucks so and that's
12:49 your kid and you're like ████ like why the ████ did I win American Idol he doesn't give a ████ about it but it it's like it it's um it's it's the things that you did accomplish that he cares about you care about so much more so like me I never would have thought that I was glad I got kicked out of school but I was glad because I was able to actually relate to him and then talk him through and then let him know that like you know sometimes not all teachers there's a lot of adults out there out there and yes you're supposed to respect authority but not all of them are good people and you know like to be able to be really real with them it it was cool that like I was able like some of the stuff that I was ashamed about it I'm glad it happened so that it it could benefit him and then other things that are kind of
13:40 like even in like a riter's room right like you have to be able to kill your own baby like nothing's sacred it's kind of cool that he ████ on me being a marine because it's like cool that doesn't matter to him and uh he's going to make his own choices one day and and um it's just cool that I get I get to kind of like very honestly give everything that I've done and he picks and chooses what he gets to utilize what's what's something you see in him that you're like that's me and something you see in him you go that's you so he's a funloving rascal that's me for sure like he loves to have a good time and he loves to ████ around and he's half Mexican that's Gio and he has an attitude problem and that's Geo love that do you guys ever see relatives in taica not my side cuz my
14:32 side's so weird you know my mom and my dad are both so ████ weird that should stand out huh yeah so like he's not super religious or anything he doesn't see fortune tellers not yet yeah but I see mainly mainly me and and giio what do you think is like the biggest thing that changed like that you didn't expect when becoming a father um this this might sound but I remember having three dogs and going and telling Gio like what if I don't like our kid as much as our dogs and then was like are you ████ stupid I was like well these things are covered in fur so you love them like crazy I'm like this guy's going to have zero fur and uh starting to sound real it's a good point all day never thought of it
15:23 that way got to wait for the hair to grow out but the minute you bring him home you're like you ████ ████ flea bags get the ████ out of here you guys are dirty ass ████ lick your own ass I just didn't realize how deeply in love I would be with something that doesn't even reciprocate it one bit you know cuz like they don't really love you until they're older it's just the first couple months you're just like they're just become like such a sacred thing that you'll like you'll kill anybody for or anything and I didn't realize that I can feel so deeply like in a second was there ever a moment that you felt like inadequate through your I guess fatherly experience um I guess I wish I was better at all the things he likes like what basketball like fortnite like
16:13 basketball I wish I was better at basketball I'm not very good at basketball cuz he'll be like there's a viral video that looks like you're good at it that video bro that video is so fny dude you know what's crazy um there that video has a name I forgot what is it called is it called Diddy basketball or no something yeah and then Tao would I'm like hey did you know that we're in a video called like Diddy basketball I'm like yeah it's not meant to be like that but yeah I wish I was better at back like all the things he likes I wish I was better um at basketball cuz then he'll be like cuz you know I give him all kids I feel like they have Asbergers they're very like literal so I'm like I want to be in the NBA one day I'm like yeah if you work hard you know like you like Kobe he does a, shots before a game a th shots after a game you you can go
17:03 anywhere you want and then he goes how come you're not in the NBA I was like well I didn't do my thousand shots he goes why don't you do your thousand shots he's like why don't you start shooting right now I'm like well there's this thing called like a time limit I'm a little bit too old and he goes but you said you could be anything you want and I was like ████ ████ this kid a hater dude Stone Cold hater and he's just asking innocent questions cuz they're just so like literal with everything that's so funny maybe if you were really good at it he wouldn't be as interested that that yeah that I mean like like Jordan's kid sucks LeBron James kid kind of sucks ass too did you have um ideas and expectations about fatherhood before going becoming an actual father and then once you were you're like oh I was so wrong there was one that my dad told me where he would be like once you become a dad you'll understand everything that I did I was
17:53 like oh ████ okay I remember having a kid and then going like I still don't understand maybe a couple I understand why you did it cuz you had less tools than I do but it wasn't the way he painted it was like you turn the light switch on you know like boom you're going to get everything and I remember having a kid and then like going through the moments with them and then um going like yeah I don't understand did it make you go like kind of like um you stupid dog like or like did it yeah it it was like it's it's like looking back and watching like people riding the bikes where they have one big ass wheel in the front and one small ass one yeah like why the ████ you design it like that it's it's like
18:43 British people are whack as ████ yeah it's like looking back at that where I'm like damn so I did this and that's what you did that was your response you felt like that was supposed to help me like my mom like trying to exercise me to get the demons out oh you know versus just like talking to me and like trying to learn who I am and and seeing why I'm not doing good in school and and I found this finder with like all the awards I got as a kid every year I got either most humorous or like most talkative or something I'm like just looking at that or most improved you know it's like you could go oh ████ maybe this kid likes ████ around what are some things you could ████ but I don't think ████ around is in the Asian language that much at home you're just most likely to be possessed yeah in closing uh you've you've mentioned before that having taica it sort of becomes a measuring
19:33 stick of how you want to live the rest of your life yeah you want to tell people how that works yeah so um kind of like how I said like everything that you've done you're kind of like you just put out the V vulnerably and then it's up to him to go like oh I like this or I don't like this so now like every single other thing that we do um like I honestly don't give a ████ about Mount Rushmore but he really cares about it so we're trying to plan like a he's goingon to be so disappointed it'll look big to him though he's still a kid we try to plan like a a springe break you know where he gets to see it so I feel like now the the rest the rest of my life we're trying to like create things that we feel like will be beneficial to him and kind of support him for who he is versus
20:24 like I think the way we were raised it's like if our dad had a wise idea everyone just jumping along you know they I don't think they ever planned Vacations or anything around what we liked it was just like I want to go to ████ yosity we're going to YY yeah but now it's like oh like I I know he has certain things that he likes like I'm oh he really likes basketball I was even looking up like the you know like Nike B basketball camps over the summer like I'm trying to like nurture him and in his life and really like kind of pour into the things that he's into so um that the the rest of our life is kind of like the measuring stick of if it's good enough or how we can help them get better yeah well thank you so much for sharing Bart thank you aw thank you guys thank you guys for not making fun of me and being a loser and G that's the next video next video yeah we going in
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