0:00 [Music] welcome to another unexpectedly awesome episode of careful boys today we have Gucci with us and look who just dropped in dad daddy David So [Applause] father now dude so father sucks okay no great I love it I love it it we were talking about you earlier we did an episode about how you missed your live stream dude 3:30 a.m. in the morning man I slept a half hour and then I actually tried I was like I'm going to do this and then Mariel saw me like fade away as I was holding the baby she was like okay cuz what we do is this so during the daytime my job is to just facilitate everything that she needs so
0:50 what we what we decided that works best is for us to sleep separately so we both can get a collective hour of about 5 to 6 hours of sleep so when I'm on duty she her goal is just to breastfeed and sleep in so she gets a total of about 6 hours and then I'll get a total of about 4 to 5 is this throughout the night or just throughout the whole 24 hours so my shift starts from 9: to 3:00 a.m. oh okay okay okay okay and so the daytime we're kind of just like doing it together but then she kind of handles mainly everything and she also enjoys it too so like that pre he he just went through a growth spr but I didn't know so I texted our friend Anna and was like he's probably going through a growth SP because the doctor kind of gives you a general idea of what their feeding schedule is so it's like every three hours at this point but when they're in the gross bird it's like every 45 minutes damn so he went literally overnight he grew like an inch and a half so I woke up the next day I was like who the is this I was like what is
1:42 it and so we found out that he's uncomfortable because I go through the checklist diaper clean he slept he ate I rocked him pacifier nothing's working most likely he's hungry again but he was eating every hour and the next day he grew like an inch and a half I was like holy are wild dude yeah you're also like 65 yeah yeah it's going to be aall so the boy you know nice and healthy and super strong and like it's so funny cuz I was telling these guys like when I was in the hospital uh you know I was getting super emotional and it was not for me it was for other PE other dads cuz Francis and ganu I cried for an MMA fighter cuz he lost his son and I had to go into the bathroom and just go like that super loud crying so Mario thought I'd hurt myself just Bing my eyes out for some not even my own kid it was for somebody else's son and so I just kept thinking about that then I thought about single moms single dads then now now my
2:33 Instagram is just kids dying of cancer 2 oh my God a good Al that you got that's a hard one again from like down syndrome kids to just kids with cancer so Mariel just sees me crying all day she goes why are you crying I was like this kid died of cancer I just can't stop watching it you know you know kids ████ lower your tea really maybe that's why I got low tea it was pretty low reasons it definitely like softens you up in a good way but it also hardens you in a different way way too right like you empathize a lot more but then you know you guys know me my my tolerance for ████ is already this big now it's like ████ here it's kind of like unreal like it's kind of like unreal how mean I am to people who I really really dislike but I'm actually a lot nicer to the people I like so it's like prioritized my emotions now so it's like the people I enjoy I'm like excessively
3:23 nice to the people I hate I could kill them and wake up tomorrow perfectly fine maybe it's like protector mode of like this is my tribe I must protect ████ you you know what I did in South Pasadena there was um a a a farmers market that happens and this kind of just goes to show like how how so many people in this city alone are so scared to get cancelled because they just always want to do the nice right thing but sometimes that is the wrong thing so there's a a farmers market in South Pasadena that happens every Thursday me and my buddy Ray are walking there's a person smoking crack at a farmers market with bunch of kids around just like straight up and you know like you know you you're you know the smell of crack right and I'm like is that crack and I'm walking by and I'm like kind of in disbelief I'm like that's not ████ crack and then me and my buddy R walking and we're like that's ████ crack dude and so we're
4:14 like kind of shocked that there was parents there's like kids playing around these guys and they're not saying anything so the next week doing the same walk now this one crackhead has two more crackhead buddies and they're smoking in front of these kids so I'm now at like you know I'm about to be a dad I wasn't a Dad yet I just walked up I was like hey are you ████ smoking crack just like that and you know they're all cracked out they don't know they're like ████ and then finally one of the parents goes yeah activated his yeah and then I got mad at the dad cuz I was like this how long were they ████ smoking crack here for you none of you said anything right like cuz they had been doing it for a long there's three of them they might have just been jaded living out here what if what if they're like but you saw them weet that one dad that went yeah threw
5:06 me off like that he wanted to say something for the longest time but he was just like so scared to but it's like what are you is the crackhead going to beat you up they're ████ cracked out so they were just like M it was like if it was like PCP or something maybe something else like a superpower Dr but he they were just like cracked the ████ out and I'm just kind of like shocked like what the ████ is this ████ and I think like before I had kid I probably wouldn't have said anything I mean like not my problem but then I see like kids literally coloring their books next to them a whiff of crack smoke goes by so he just like getting more creative the kids are all cracked out Pi go are harder the best drawings ever dud it starts as flowers in Sunset but then it turns into monsters ████ me and Nick when we went to the UFC event
5:56 we were driving back there was a freeway fire somebody lit the freeway on fire wait of the freeway this was off the 105 off the 105 what what was actually burning though it was off to the side right yeah it was just a bunch of brambling bushes but some ████ probably the same crackhead just Fu there they told me not to smoke anymore you know when when you look at stuff is social media you don't know if it's like people exaggerating things but when you see it for yourself especially when you don't go out that much like what was the chances I was going to see that that was the one time I went out in a month and then you just see the freeway on fire it's like what the ████ is this ████ dude and then we have another fire again uh by Magic Mountain right now yeah it's ████ huge yeah we're not going to have ████ City anymore like at the end of this well they're just burning around La right now we can't go hiking right now what a bummer all the hikers are like
6:48 man no when Rion went up I was like oh where will all the bad ████ go oh no Canyon is such a fun little hike but there's like always like these random influencers that are there were you there when that one girl was trying to strip naked no oh wait at the waterfall and she kept looking around to see if it was okay like and there's like kids and there was a field trip there dude and there was like somebody that kind of like told her like don't do it there's like little kids you're going to get arrested are you ████ she had like a Tren coat and like underneath like she was the crackhead ████ do that K is Eaten Canyon accessible or no no I mean it is but it's burnt to a burnt you mean that whole hike that whole you know when we do the hike and there's that up area with that bridge that bridge is burnt down no way so you can kind of go through there but what do you look all
7:38 those houses are burned down too huh yeah it's like whoever whoever had a house that survived is very very fortunate right because when I went there just to kind of see this is before they blocked it off I just wanted this it's ████ bad dude like it is the most depressing thing I've ever seen in my life and that's literally you know it's like right in our neck of the woods yeah you were so close to the fire though did it smell oh it was bad dude we had to turn on so if we didn't turn on all three of our air filters it just smelled like an ashtray in our house you know we have a newborn too we had to like do all that type of stuff we didn't have powers for for 2 and 1 half days which was like kind of rough but other than that we I just got to see like from our window I just it looked like ████ Mordor like Lord of the Rings type of ████ yeah and I'm just like observing it and then the farm that we're at too it was right around the corner you could just it it was ████ nuts it looked like I was in a movie
8:28 yeah you I mean so like when you kind of like see that type of Devastation you I thought about Lina like that and then I saw the aerial show it looks exactly the same yeah it's crazy it's ████ nuts man damn so uh other than that you know being a parent is pretty cool how does it balance out with like all the responsibilities you have with J be like when he's out getting like 70 gallons of milk like all the work so me I do customer service in the morning that's the first thing I do in the morning so I'm dealing with like people b███████ complaining moaning which understandably so there's like people who vacation who just want to be treated like kings and queens so I just have to just the amount of emails that I have to write and like messages like in the DMS where I'm just like what can I do besides apologize like even though it's not our fault I just want them to feel good so oh you're the one that's actually talking to for the bad ones yeah so it's like there's a lot of
9:18 people so he runs the Yelp account and then well it's my face but I don't I don't really do nothing on it is just that's my morning routine I have to wake up with the negativity every morning have to like quell what you really want to say yeah there's some people you ████ there there are some people that are so like rude it's kind of like unreal it's like what what I'll kill you like if we met in person I could literally kill you what's some stuff that people have said that was like dude somebody told me to go kill myself once you or the ji page what's up careful everybody today's video is brought to you by Factor okay I know what it's like these days you just don't have time to go to the grocery store H what do I want to eat
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10:59 off off your first box plus free shipping that's called off the Record 50 off Factor meals.com SL off theeere 50 off to get 50% off plus free shipping on your first box on your first box yeah dude it's my picture cuz on the Yelp it's like owner and it's me holding like a drinking ████ but it's all David responding back and he'll say some snarky ████ sometimes and I'm laughing it's so it's like a business professional ████ you but they don't know it's a ████ you so they they think it's very nice but I'm basically telling them they're stupid because you can't one of the things I I won't stand for is like you can't attack our employees right it's like they're just doing their job so when they go to that route it's like where do they live like I I
11:49 literally think about that type of stuff but then my my main goal is just to make sure that they have a good time cuz it's customer service so it doesn't matter how I feel but I that's what I have to do in like the morning when we had this the the collab jie with um it was the best like it was great right everybody had a good time but there's always going to be like the 1% of crazy people dude those crazy people were nuts crazy like I'm talking about like 70-year-olds that wanted to get like the mythy stuff well they're complaining about it not being there yeah cuz it ran out and they were just like saying crazy ████ to me and I just I actually had a fever the next day cuz like I was so angry all day cuz i' never been spoken to like that by like you know like 50 60 people so it was just like I don't know what you want me to do I'm apologizing I'm telling them that you can come get a free drink we could comp you whatever one guy called me a ████ and I was like and I was like kind of shocked email they're looking at his picture was like a
12:39 40-year-old woman oh what the ████ they just think photo though we not getting something it's just him if someone wants to fight me I'm not going to know where where that's going to come from all I all I had to doize so J over here apologizing because the person calls him a ████ and I'm just like what the heck I mean what I'm not get mad at them I just got to let just a lot of it nothing happens like when I'm there but the way they treat some of our employees is horrible I don't like that and then what sucks is like a lot of them are teenagers so they're like first job sweet that's what we were talking about earlier grown men screaming at them and ████ I never get any attitude and like I'm just like I'm like Delirious I'm like I mean like what the ████ this is crazy but I said I'm gonna get a taser
13:30 for them so then when they come by you ████ tase them you ████ electrocute them there's some wild stuff dude like especially because like why keik you know at night time you don't know what's going to people are drunk it it's you know it's like a little party little area right so I I don't know what it is but I feel like when people spend a certain amount of money that they've been saving they expected an x amount of treatment like almost like their royalty okay it'll be like on some ████ of like I didn't like the drink I want my money back and I would write back are you still there go get your money back right like you didn't why did you leave and they'll send me a photo of the drink it's gone and I'm like well you drank a lot of something you hated dude like that doesn't make any sense and I was right back you could they're like well I drank it all and I just WR back you could still get your money I'm getting seconds just to make sure I hate it that much I just want them to walk away happy I don't I don't care right so it's like but that's just the stuff that I have to deal with in the morning and they never
14:20 come back even after that oh they come back oh with the empty drink and got if you're nice to somebody they will come back wow right I think kindness always works it's just like you have to be the person willing to kind of get the result that you want and that's some ████ I learned from him cuz I always like oh my initial thing is to just you know find where they live but now it's like oh if the end goal is we want this store to be successful we want them to be happy then I have to bite the bullet and then you know treat them with kindness so I just had to do that you could still deliver kindness to where they live I know 100 100% there was one person that was like you know 400 lb or something and they're like I stood in line for like 20 minutes and I'm like you should stand for another few hours I say but I don't but I don't right right delete delete delete delete delete and also your fat little ████ kids too but I didn't say that you type it out and you know what's funny some people were so entitled they're like I've been waiting in line since 9:00 a.m. and I'm
15:12 like there's been people from like 5:00 a.m. so ████ for the myy merch yeah so it's like what makes you so special when there's people that camped out from 5: 4 in the morning ████ had their like bench ready to go and I'm like they deserve to be in front of the line sure yeah that's how lines work yeah that's exactly how L were I've been here since 9 and it's like yeah but by the time you were there at 9 there was already like 4 500 people so it's like that's your fault how long that the line was on release so the day of I think 700 people came total day full day but the line went all the way wrapped around to the Sheran so in line there there had to be around 300 at least and these kids are hustling too right and it's so funny cuz one person wrote this whole essay about how we should run our business and then I just
16:02 wrot back I was like hey if you're at the store did you know that you could see from the front to the back if you just stare at it from like a foot away like that's how small our store is we can't add more employees it's packed like it's so small like if we add another employee it would get less work would get done cuz it's so prent there there's not even enough room to print that I can't even primp your Yelp review on the wall cuz the whole store would collaps like are you nuts like help us out man but after I wrote that they were just like oh we thought it was bigger in the back I was like NOP what you see in the front is the whole store I don't get people that think that they can run your business better than you I'd be like please take it ████ do it do it let's see you let's see me out me out ████ do it do it ████ do we do that we have we also have like
16:52 the MMA podcast that we uh we do I have like genius Brin I have me and Tim's pod so the only thing that I had to change was is just my free time shifts and then now I'm like um making everything 10 times more efficient because what was that small margin of acceptance for error is now gone you don't have that anymore so it's like I've reorganized the home everything is like kind of like crazy organized like I've never done this before so all the stuff that was like small stuff that you don't really give a ████ about I don't need been for that I'll just leave it there everything has been everything is labeled everything is marked so cool if if I need to get ████ done I have to get it done yeah so that's like the biggest shift uh other than that like I'm a lot more meaner to people so it's like that's cool that also helps a lot too when does Mario go back to work or did she go back to work already uh no she her maternity leave I think she has another like three or four months left
17:43 awesome so like for us too like I'm I'm very like conscious of like how just very fortunate we are right cuz because of how I even though I'm working at home I'm still next to the kid I get to see my kid so that feels really really good like being able to watch him grow up cuz I know my parents didn't have that right cuz they were always working they were we were always gone so my grandparents raised me so my grandparents got to see me grow while my parents had to go ahead and do what they had to do so when I look at that I go that's I think about single moms I think about single dads I think about like people who don't have like the financial means to even get the stuff that we had I got a bunch of stuff from you guys I got a bunch of stuff from Jeremy and Anna I got a bunch of stuff from all of our friends and this is stuff I didn't have so like I got blessed with so many like good people and good friends around me that it's a lot easier for me so when I say like parenting is easy it's because of everybody around me it's not because of anything I'm doing right I've had tips
18:33 from other friends I'm getting good advice I've had like a lot of people who did it before me that allow me to do what I do so that just kind of keeps me in a good mood at all times that's tight you got so much practice and I know who I'm going to abandon my children to bring him over here dude I will say this though it's so funny like the doctors and the nurses every time we went to visit like they kept reminding us make sure you don't shake the baby make sure you don't shake the baby and I'm like what am I ████ stupid why do you keep saying this to me and then was not you look like a Shaker I was like oh yeah they're shaking cuz parents get so frust like you ████ you want them to sleep and so you're like rocking them and so I saw a video instruction of like like there's like a video of a parent trying to shake their baby and they kind of ████ up their brain because it's just Jello-O in there and so they don't know that they're not trying to hurt the baby but the baby's not sleeping and they don't know how to figure it out so out of frustration is sleep de
19:24 preparation they do this like just sleep explains the socially awkward people we're talking about oh yeah yeah so but how did cavan survive so long with a fragile little worm I think they just killed their kids like shut up there the reason why the population much smaller yeah so they're like super fragile so like now like when I look at him like I sometimes like the other night he was like pissing me off because not because something he did but it's just like I haven't slept in so long and I just said out in the air like this ████ I just like I like did I just did I just like Bossip on my ████ like kid my ████ go to sleep mother ████ have you seen that video of that guy picking up the kid and then wrapping him up in a certain way and
20:15 then it stops crying oh they swaddle them or something the swaddle kind of works but it's like the issue with the kid is every kid is different and you don't know what they want in the moment every kid is different they're all old Honda Civics like you got to figure out what what you got to do the thing to make it work right and what I found out is you got to try everything and try it four more times other ways so right now we're in the stage of like unsolicited advice for people who don't have children which is the most annoying hey I got a I got a I got a baby brother and what I used to do go die exactly I have a baby shut the ████ up you don't know anything I remember when I was one yeah know what I used to like um so ta's cousins are twins right uh when they had the twins cuz I was like damnn this is tough and when they had the twins they would put one down wash them okay this
21:05 baby finally goes to sleep and then time to put this baby down to go to sleep you're like okay thank God this baby rolls over whs that like this and then this baby wakes up this baby start the process all over again I'm like damn that's ████ crazy just smacking each like three stoes I'm not trying to be like this is not a lazy thought but like I I was looking at my kid and then you know this is over like a super hard night of him not sleeping which by the way is understandable but I looked at him and I just thought I get why people abandon children cuz it's like you're looking up where's the nearest Firehouse again I never wanted him I get it I understand you're out like those teen parents yeah I never wanted this like I get it but I wouldn't do cuz I love him
21:56 but mommy still trying to go to the club yeah if you're trying to pop ████ you don't want this ████ thing here right it's like a part of your life for the rest of your life so I get it so I get why like parents abandon their kids cuz you don't want it and it's this hard yep ████ it like when I see the guy it's like dude I abandoned my kid when I was 15 I was like ████ all when it was 15 I get it I get it dude I get it it's ████ hard man and this is me with the leg up on things right so it's like right yeah could you imagine a 15-year-old that has nothing they're ████ stupid at 15 yeah and then they're trying to raise a kid oh my God I'm slow I thought you the kid was 15 oh no raise the kid doing the hard part at 15 I'm out when all the job is done you go hey ████ you dude kids like I had three more years Firehouse at
22:46 15 one of the things like marel noticed too is like around the kid like I'm also a lot like uh I'm never myself around the kid cuz I don't want him to pick up my weird habits oh so you don't want him to take the traits that you no he's going to take it though so like lowy that stuff is genetic bro D I like how I speak to him like how I carry myself like there's no anger around like when I'm away then I like this mother ████ God damn it you go in the other room ████ and then I like when I hold him I'm like it's okay BL blah doing like something I would never do it's just like I know he's going to be probably a lot like me but I got to give him a leg up at least you I mean I can't start so I'm trying to be like okay this is what normal people do so let me just try to do nor noral people ████ you don't scream in the baby face and go shut the ████ up now I just like CLE him but he's
23:36 super ████ cute man he's cute man yeah yeah there's like these moments where you look at your kid and just like oh ████ dude like you ████ came from E Yeah like you were literally right here dude and then you passed all the other sperm and you say the ████ out of here and then he just went bam right in it's the ultimate collab yeah D yeah dude it's cool being a dad I like it do you guys okay so like your kid's a little older right so are you and yeah you might not have to think about this yet but like what are your takes on gentle parenting are you Gentle parent ████ that ████ I don't I don't think I'm a gentle no no you're a kind parent I think I think wait he's autistic no no I'm autistic that's for sure autistic I think I'm I think I'm I'm already think I'm a ████ parent you're what I think I'm a ████ parent you're not really I
24:27 feel like I am in what way like you let your kid do whatever like or like do you do does he have consequences for ████ yeah and I feel like but I already feel like I'm not hard enough and I feel like because of where I came from I don't want that uhhuh and then I feel like let's say there's that and then maybe here's what's like balanced and I would like to be here maybe but but I think I'm like like closer to here you know I'm like if daddy tells you one more time and I'll say that like five more times a I'll say this though your kid is different though dude your kid is different like you have to remind him 4,000 times his brain is so fast like his thoughts doesn't catch up to his mouth so he he's like like what the ████ did you just say
25:21 like the kid from The Wild Thor berri he's straight up he's the Tasmanian devil so's crazy I don't know what he's saying but he's having the time of his life yeah so I just have to be like yeah walk off that's just for sure genetic and it comes from Gio it's all Gio yeah
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