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Off The Record: Why Do Asians Keep to Themselves So Much?

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0:00 you look like you can fight you what I'm saying if I saw I'm like going I was like a buck 20 back then and I didn't know how to fight but n of those big clothes I'll tell you what dude you're a ████ piece I'll tell you that God damn he look you look strapped up like if you lift it up their shirt there's like four [Music] pist welcome back to another essential episode of careful boys today we got Jesus with us Jes we got the Jesus back uh just a moment ago Jesus had a really good question and I was like all right don't say anything cuz we should just record it cuz I I want to know the answer I said why do Asians hate black people and then you wait wait which one no not that one that's because every time they leave the store something's missing Ah that's what it was Sor sorry about that that's

0:50 not what it was I'm pretty sure it was you would have brought it up you had a list but no kidding it's a joke it's a joke it's a joke his question was how come all you Ching chongs always stick together yeah dude but you know what the funny thing he's trying to keep the Japanese part out yeah that's what it was huh that's what I thought about that's what I thought about Mexicans wait let him ask the real question the real question is I've noticed that Asians just hang out with Asians why are you guys always hang out with each other and just not like let other groups you talking about kids or adults or in general when I was in high school I remember having like the Asian friends and I was like that they're cool but then they'll go do fun ████ and I was never invited to it and I was be like hey dude I'm down to like they're like oh yeah for sure never invited me hey were they all Kore were they all Koreans they some of them are Koreans but but the whole group I don't know most of

1:40 them were Koreans I don't know I can't really I want be racist I can't tell you but within Asians within Asians especially in Southern California Koreans just stick together okay yeah okay like they won't Koreans wouldn't invite me up no well I mean you are confusing cuz what are you yeah Indian uhhuh that's why I'll take right now dude you're making me nervous sitting next to you no but um I can see how they just yeah is it why why is it though what is it what's going on that's what I thought about Mexicans though yeah and I was like man all of you guys there's so many Mexicans that it's hard to find new friends I think cuz you have nothing but Mexicans in your neighborhood that's true cuz we like to I guess we like to like listen to Mexican music we just like to absorb our culture and you know people that can relate to us are Mexicans you know what I mean so like

2:30 think other nties are not having fun cuz they're like I don't I do remember as a kid uh when I was like in elementary school there wasn't a lot of Asians compared to white boys and Mexicans and stuff like that so I always felt like odd one out trying to hang out with other clicks so you would only I would only have the perspective that like white people hung out with white people or Mexican people hung out with Mexicans so if I found another agent that transferred into our school you just as your go-to I'm going to ████ hang out with that person I'm going to see if they're going to hang out with me every day you know what I mean cuz I was always an accessory to some other click that would like let me hang out temporarily but not accept me into that group oh God you know what I'm saying so maybe and then when I eventually ended up going to a school that had like hella Asians you like then I found my place yeah it it just felt right M I'm similar too like in the beginning it was mostly

3:21 black and Mexicans cuz there weren't that many Asians in the neighborhood I grew up with then I moved here and there's nothing but Asians there's nothing but Asian and Mexicans actually in the sgv so then that was most of my friends San Gabriel Valley oh so most of my friends were Asians and Mexicans cuz it's like you got to go out of your way to make white friends like you got to drive all the way to the beach to become friends with Chad right or like you got to go to Inland Empire to be with sker right right right the meth version but I feel like yeah I feel like at all of us I feel like you have the most white friends maybe you got white energy I got all kinds man white energy Japanese imperialism and colonization he just he's very like he thinks outside the box he's he's not your normal Asian you know what I mean he's got like s fun this guy uh you know does Motocross right right

4:12 right right so like you would think you'll catch him like meditating or something in the roof but he's like playing the guitar just like singing a ████ song or some ████ he's one of those guys he's just different different guy right a lot of hobbies I think there's it's pretty true what you're saying though cuz I now that I think about it I remembered that like when I was in high school we did just hang out mostly Asians but it was also because we were so focused on being the coolest Asians that I don't think I stopped to like think like diversify my friends I was just trying to compete with other Asian guys all the time got you that's so interesting I did notice that my Asian friends I like their hang better cuz it was never like uh it wasn't too crazy and it was always like fun you guys CU were like such a click that and just like a the friendship was different that I just felt like it was a little bit more fun there was no like talking

5:03 ████ to each other there was but not like to make you feel bad like Mexicans we we'll go deep if a group is hanging out one of us is going home cuz they're pissed you know I mean that's a Mexican hang you think Asian groups like Asian groups they don't really roast huh they don't roast as much they're very helpful and you guys are more like uh out to do cool ████ like I remember like you guys were about the cars and all I did was talk about cars and just uh drive around we didn't even go party we just went and drove their cars cuz they had the cool cars dude I showed up I showed up in the car meet with the ████ truck and they were just like nah bro that's not what we're doing they just had their little Nissan gz's and those then they had their ████ integras and just fcking they Honda Civ do you do you see a difference when you kickz I don't know what the ████ they're when you kick it with different like Asian groups do you

5:53 see a difference of like the cultures yeah like so when you chill with like a group of Filipinos versus like a group of Koreans or something uh yeah Koreans are to me this is my uh are the most like wild like them boys are wild boys wild Bo yeah they're wild boys like uh when I party with this is a a friend that's Korean that's of San Diego he's a wild guy this guy is ████ we're going to have a wild night like it's not going to be a normal night and he's very like he does a lot of cigarettes too God damn ████ God I'm like yo guy he's ████ cigarettes knows everybody blah blah blah karaoke bar at 5: in the morning I'm like what the ████ are we doing dude and uh uh I remember my I one thing I did Noti like my Japanese friends like

6:43 they just like to like be at one spot and stay at one spot they didn't like to like move around they just like if they were at a party we're at a party and we're doing all the fun ████ at this party you know what I'm saying they're not going to go and go somewhere else and they're just like nah we're going to kick it here and at their house was like the party and they never like to invite anybody they didn't know it was very weird I was like hey can I bite they no no we're good where we're at and I'm like just seven of us we're having a great time and I'm like well we could have a bigger party but why and I'm like I don't know why it's the Latin in me I kind of l l you just want to invite the whole ████ neighborhood and they like hey we don't know what the ████ you're thinking and bringing I'm like you're right I don't know what is she thinking or what he's bringing like Jesus Christ so I did notice things like that um my friend from Thailand we just love to eat we ate everything we go and eat all

7:33 kinds of food so I don't know if that those are my friends that I hung out with I don't know if it's like that or do you guys see a difference do Vietnamese people do certain things differently yeah I mean I I definitely think that Asians can see the differences in Asians very clearly for sure but also Vietnamese people you guys are angry you guys like to fight is it just me or or am I tripping who are crazy you're not tripping dud but the women are they're kind of crazy they're they like toight they're like they like yeah they are they're very like Snappy and to they're going nuts right now just hearing you say this oh no ████ dude I had a ████ Vietnamese girl who just she never liked me you know what I mean I would just show up to the partner she be like go and they'll talk their language and then how she wants you to leave and I'm like why what the and she just hated me she I got under her skin I don't know why I was

8:24 just like what the ████ did I do to you ████ God damn how many times that happen every time we we I we were seeing each other she just like a I'm like what the ████ did I do maybe she wanted to ████ you yeah I think her language I think it was the ████ she like leave but why'd you leave yeah yeah yeah hey tell him to come over and then we'll tell him to leave Advanced flirting dog yeah that's really that's I I had I've had the group like do the whole like oh we're leaving but they're going to go to another hang spot but everybody's saying that they're leaving and I'm like okay cool and then I'll run into them at a at the f SP that they're hanging out at the parking lot like they guys are leaving oh it's halfway through we decided to come here okay cool I'm going hang and everybody's like ████ and I just like I never caught it onto it and I like oh I think they want me to be here I was like oh I actually got to go yeah you should I'm like I should all

9:15 right then I'm out of here but yeah I couldn't really hang too much cuz I never had a cool car you know you guys always had cool cars I think that's like light in the bottom that's a big part too is that I think growing up back then we when you looked at Asian Hangouts as like a subculture so if I hung out with all white guys I couldn't really identify with like them having motorcross bikes and ████ I just didn't know that world oh they like snowboard they did like active like X Games type ████ and I didn't own any of those things and I in my mind I'm like I couldn't even imagine having that stuff yeah even partying with white guys was was different like I would get like that white boy wasted ████ was real like yeah uh hang out with a white guy is we're showing up to the party we're getting ████ up right away right away we're taking all kinds of ████ and in an hour we're going to see where it took us we're going to what is this d d it's like a m yeah ████ yeah dude drink drink

10:06 drink this this and that and an hour we're going to figure out what kind of mood I'm going to be in and then they'll going to this weird ass trip and I was like wa but like Mexicans we like to take our time like my my uncle they drink so much I'm like hockey K drink so much but then my white friends drink like ████ couple white Claws and they're like throwing up because they're drinking us too fast Mexicans they take their time I try to get ████ up my uncles like that I'm like they look we have all night all night God damn all night to drink day take it easy I remember all my friends not being like a I think that was more of the result of the interests I was in yeah yeah yeah so I remember like on in my street it was pretty diverse and then like in our Squad it was like me uh we had an Indian homie a half white half Chinese homie and the Mexican guy that lived down the street and then a Korean

10:56 homie and then we were just like us five so we're pretty diverse and then I remember getting into like swimming that was like pretty mixed too and then I somehow I think yeah like in junior highish you started to like try to find her little group and then it was either the skaters and I wasn't really good at skating and then all the Filipinos were really good at break dancing it was like they just try the windmill and they just get it the first time they're like yeah ████ yeah I don't I don't relate to that at all and then I'm like oh These Guys these Asians they smoke cigarettes my dad smoked cigarettes I can smoke cigarettes I can smoke cigarettes oh I think I I'm bored to smoke cigarettes cigarettes so you kind of just I would love to see a picture of him in high school yeah you kind of get into that group and then I remember I ended up moving out here and it was crazy Asian but then I end up being on a

11:47 wrestling team and that was super diverse so it was like its own little pocket even though it's like half Mexican half uh Asian but we have like black guys white guys whatever and the wrestling team and then everything was more of a result of the interest rather than like like oh let's cuz like right now I'm super into fitness so in the fitness realm it's like anyone everyone guys girls different ages it's just all the people that like to lift got you yeah cuz when I was growing up for some reason like Latinos like my interest at that time was fighting everything was ████ violent like fighting gangs all this ████ was just it was like hot it was like it was hot right now like we'll go to the basketball courts and it would be like dude on the way to the basketball courts we're talking about like oh if somebody trips I swear to God ready Fu we were like praying a ████ would we're like I wish mother and then some guy's like dude I

12:37 wish somebody just ████ we just wanted ████ to go down bro and then like I had that energy from like Middle School all the way to like the middle of high school and Asian friends other typ white friends and stuff always said like dude why are you so intense like cuz I would be at the the drive like Hangouts and somebody some guy would like come and like tell us to leave and stuff like that and they would just just be like quiet and I'll be like ████ you what's up ████ I would always they like dude you're always going with violence it's like chill dog and I'm over here trying to get a rock and throw at them like hey dog like and they will bring some sense they're like dude if you throw a rock and you hit them then they'll find us and then we all get ████ in trouble cuz maybe you can get away but what if I get caught I was just in the circle I'm going to get in trouble so why would you do that you're my friend right I never thought of it that way I ruins the good time but back then that was the good time the good time is everyone throws a

13:28 rock yeah you're not going to leave empty hand we throw we we throw the Rocks yeah no dude dude tell me that's not him is that really him right there dude get the ████ out of here dude you look like you're why do you have that you look like you're trying to solve a math problem bro what the ████ are you doing wait ho Yen Quan that's your name no they ████ up on my birth certificate so I don't know how but that's how my name ended up being atele only at keple to what no way this is ████ someone has your name then is this your senior photo hey don't try and hide it now dude just be proud of the fact that you're ████ H dude it's not look at his ████ red face right now he's like no no D I swear to god dude it's not my ████ oh you're CH hang dude Chang dude

14:18 Chang's a tight name dude yo Chang how did you find that ████ name dud Google let's find ████ Joe now that we're in it also Joe's just going to have passfire in his mouth bro that haircut is wild I always love how like if you wore glasses for your photo you had to like look like this yeah cuz of the glare the glare yeah they make you go dude I feel like he's listening to ball with the ball the [Laughter] backa push me and then just touch me he's just like you know I do remember there was this one time where um in elementary school I had this uh this white homie who Liv lived in the neighborhood and I was like Mom can I bring my friend over right and he came over and he didn't take his shoes off and then she got mad at me later for it oh yeah yeah yeah she goes you got to

15:09 teach these boys and she's like don't you have any like Asian friends yeah that did the respect is real that's that's a real the respect is real if you disrespect and then also like she doesn't at that time too our parents like they weren't trying to like learn English super super well so like it would be easier to relate to other kids' families that had the same cultural background versus like somebody who was different so I think my parents always like indirectly but like very directly nudge me to try and have like similar culture friends it's easier for them to talk to your friends parents too yeah yeah yeah they kind of wanted in that little dude I didn't want to invite any of my friends over cuz they weren't Asian and they I knew they were going to piss off my mom about some ████ like one time my friend like had something in his hands and he shook my mom's hand with the his left hand and I'm sure it's not an Asian thing but she just was like who the ████ is is your friend like why the

16:00 ████ is he going to come in here shaking my hand with his left hand who the ████ does he think he is and just go off I'll be like yo does that mean something or is it just inconvenient it's just because it's like lack of manners it's that the sincere hand yeah like she would trip on one time one of my sister's friends came over first time her coming over and she was like eating some food and she's like she's going to come to the house and just be eating food eating our food not even her like just she she was she came to the house and she had some chicken from home and she was eating it when she said hi to my mom and my mom was like who the ████ that's who the ████ what the ████ how rude is this and we're like what the ████ is this dude so we wouldn't buy any of our friends over but if they were Asian there would be more likely that she would like them wow dude holy ████ dude you're a ████ culture vulture dude why you being a troller culture vulture culture vulture ████ culture vulture dude who's this lady you're with

16:50 I don't know oh my God bro what what did you I didn't even know you can pull I don't even remember honestly what game fight that what game were you win bro you're the these are the chinos I was afraid of dude are theary exct guy I was afraid of Joe you're wild dude ████ yeah dude that's such a sick ass photo we should get a shirt like that and this is what happens when you grow up in ████ little Mexican neighborhoods right here they ████ just like took on this culture like I don't even remember where we took that do you know who that is at all you don't know what year this was even I don't even dude she's a ████ piece guy you for you she's a pce she look like he dressed you bro she told you like if you can hang out with me if you're going to ████ this agent ████ you got to have a little Mexican danger in you and you're like all right she got you the biggest size jacket Jesus dude

17:40 you you're a gang banger dude what rep were you from ████ I don't know I think I spent those two years on drugs every day so I don't remember a lot oh my God you're scary dude you're a scary guy that's yeah you're a wild boy dude I knew Jo was scary though I think I was only like 17 or something in that you look like you're 30 was like 17 or 16 you look like you're 30 hanging out with your Sona homie yeah bro I never look that old ever in my life yeah you look scary as ████ you look like you can fight that's what I'm saying if I saw I'm like oh going to ████ me up going to ████ me up I was like a buck 20 back then and I didn't know how to fight but not in those big ass clothes you I'll tell you what dude you're a ████ piece I'll tell you that God damn he look you look strapped up yeah you like you're going to stab me in the neck like if you lift up their shirt there's like four pistols

18:30 you're making the face that I would make going to the basketball courts I wish somebody would I wish somebody would that's dope dude that's actually pretty cool you got yourself some ████ I don't know what yeah but that was a different life for me I want that on a shirt bro so that look like such a ████ compared to you in high school dude my ████ high school picture look like a ████ I don't have any pictures like that where I look that cool P up your high school picture dude uh it was so funny like uh going back to what you said uh it triggered me like my dad was so lowkey my dad was racist to like my friends like if I had my black friend over he would be racist cuz but the thing is he's trying to relate but it comes off ████ racist bro oh yeah my dad my white friend my black would come over and I'm like oh I'm going to go grab my my shoes real quick we're going to go B all right for sure and my dad's like sees him and he's just like hold on hey and he'll change you to

19:22 basketball hey you like it B Michael Jordan I was like oh that's Kobe I think like Okay Go Okay like that just knew one basketball player Michael I'm like dude that's that's cool right but then my friend would just be like oh sick all right cool and my white friends will come over we're eating like soran hot dogs and like that's all these fixes and then like ooh is it like the bacon wrap yes and my white with the bell peppers right oh all that dude my white friend would get all excited like oh I'm going to try that my dad bring him a naked dog I know you like nothing nothing boiled it for you I know you like nothing don't don't cook the weenie okay I don't know they don't care their tongues don't work don't I know you're like nothing white people have broken tongues

20:13 know no I know you like nothing I know you like nothing just kidding news careful boys is a brand just kidding news is the man of smart people the people of just kidding news careful boys they are very smart just kiding news the number one podcast in the [Music] world

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