0:00 thank you [Music] welcome back to a very special careful boys where we are very careful boys what's up today we have an a question is cheating a deal breaker no matter what Oh you mean like cheating well in your in the relationship in your relationship I think it depends on so many different factors because for some it's like part like boom yeah yeah like how many years you've been together how old you are you have kids together yeah do you have kids how fresh is the relationship you know we're talking about strictly sex or is it like emotional cheese what's cheating you that's true that's true well I just I just know that there have been completely different conversations right whatever you said has cheating again yeah yeah and if that happens you know what's funny Hannah Hannah said that
0:52 um she's like if you do cheat she goes I think you're gonna cheat accidentally and I'm like how do you accidentally ████ with someone and she's like no I think you're gonna have a girlfriend accidentally like you're gonna get into a relationship like you're gonna put a ring on it accidentally and I'm like how do how does one get into it accidentally you know it's kind of like how you always end up with ████ up your ass you know she's like you always like falling on your child what's going on flashlights and stuff so she's like so she's like no no she goes like prom photo because you're very friendly so you're gonna just talk to a bunch of people and then before you know it you're gonna be in a relationship with the girl because you're enjoying that conversation but you don't talk like that but who knows she goes you're gonna you might have attraction that that's gonna and for like it's like one of those things where like I might be friend zoning them but they're on to me and then just sucking oh so you won't
1:42 know that you're like leading a girl on yeah because we're just having a blast okay guys like peoples or whatever right and then yeah like she's sucking my dick and I can't resist and I'm like I guess I got a girlfriend now so but then stuff she's saying if she knows it's accidental already isn't it okay it was an accident I guess so maybe that's got your back kind of saying like you can't ████ other girls if you want because I know you're an idiot and you'll have an accident God is that kind of like a light Hall Pass I don't think so it was a different the context was different but it sounds like low expectations I think she was just saying you're an impulsive idiot but it sounded like you're just you're so naive that you would accidentally get into a situation that you can't get out of yeah because it wasn't intentional and I'm like okay okay I I really do see that because I
2:32 don't ever think about like cheating on her you guys are unique yeah yeah meant to be you're like oh oh I'm sleeping with a girl and I'm like that felt real good but I think that was a big mistake like she's not even like you're gonna accidentally cheat it's like you're gonna accidentally be in a relationship with another human being for a long time long-term relationship yeah and I'm clueless about it like hey we're just friends we're ████ but we're friends yeah I mean that's very hard to do considering you you talk about Hannah like pretty often so a girl would have to have a game dude that's game it's this on-camera live present yeah yeah I wonder how many other things she thinks she'll accidentally do like accidentally buy a car sign a like seven year the lease to somewhere like what other apps you guys gotta ask maybe you gotta ask her because I try to fir I try to understand it because I'm like how do
3:22 you accidentally get into a cheating situation but it made sense after she just explained it yeah maybe because it's like she goes yeah you'll know that you're like in love but you'll accidentally fall in love because you didn't create barriers to be careful you're just like in the moment having a blast I can understand that being like needing to be risk-averse because nobody or I don't want to say nobody but it's not like people who like uh find themselves in cheating situations are like I'm gonna go cheat today you know what I'm saying they but they just don't make the right risk-averse choices yeah they haven't put the precautions yeah now they're in a circumstance yeah it's like Congressman Anthony Weiner is what you're saying yeah yeah he's like too close how am I on this with the phone with a 16 year old girl sitting on my dick this is weird because I can't believe it what am I doing how the heck am I what an accident I know what you're
4:12 saying Anthony oh there's foot sprays in my ████ how did it happen watch this video for reference that's not linked yeah do you think that happens whatever parameters you set with Nina about what cheating is is it a deal breaker for you like if she were to do it if she were to do the thing that you said cheating is yeah and she's sorry I mean short answer yes long answer I think context comes into like so much you know what I mean yeah like I I think so short answer you would forgive her no short answer it is cheating short answer it's like it's a deal breaker you know what I mean but like long answer like the circumstance the context like was I doing something that ████ up for like like the last year and I was was I pushing you know what I mean like I I think that there might just be I think the answer is it's wrong to do it absolutely I think that's like a a very
5:03 like having been through and lots of experience type of answer but in your younger because I feel like you know when you're younger things are way more black and white oh dude yeah I think I think when um I was younger I had way more um absolutes yeah yeah yeah yeah and the reason why I had more absolutes is because it was so much more simple like you didn't have a whole entire like life and career maybe with your partner you know what my deal breaker was like can like maybe early High School it was like if you cheat on me we're breaking up if you don't give ████ or Break It was like I was like those deal breakers you guys don't leave me hanging it's funny because it's you know what I mean stand up when you're a 17 year old boy and you
5:53 find out she doesn't give head you're like what because if you cheat on me you don't love me if you don't blow me you don't love me either yeah yeah for real wow that's that's real ████ affection bro I mean it's kind of a good absolute you know what I mean at that age it's acceptable not even that age I was like 20 ████ four and I was dating this girl who like told me she doesn't get blow jobs and I started cheating on her immediately with my ex I'm not kidding I fully got that guy he's like you ████ cheers I fully got a blowy oh wait I'm a cheater now Advanced experience it's so funny because that's really like one of the biggest goals of guys is like is like sexual things yeah yeah when
6:44 you're young it's like you just want to know what everything's like yeah I want to know what the inside of your mouth like your mouth because that's the peak of it all right like you're not thinking about building a family you're not thinking about all the adult ████ you're just thinking about she looks good and I want to feel her short-term or release and skills it's skill development B and B dude I don't even that's a long term for me yeah you know what's also really ████ up um you're like uh discovering your own ego at that age too oh yeah so like when you you didn't know you could get some right and then you get some and then you're like the second somebody else may be hotter or whatever that you knew was out of your league suddenly shows interest you're like oh you didn't know that you could even get into that place of interest and you you kind of start climbing this weird Eagle ladder but you don't you don't know that it's like this
7:34 is my ego you're just like I didn't even know your ego won't admit it's the ego I was climbing that thing one the back of one neck at a time dude like stairs damn stepping on the back of one next step one on the back of another neck next to the top huh you're just pinning chicks down stepping on their ████ heads and just doing your thing [Laughter] I know something kind of weird too is that like so when we're young we have these natural absolutes and it's it feels so strong to be like no I don't care it's gonna be this and like of course I had those growing up and then as I'm maturing I'm starting to get more like leeway and be less absolute but at the same time it backfired because when you're not as absolute in One Direction
8:24 you're also not absolute in the other and I ended up having the problem of girls I dated feeling like I also could leave at any moment whoa and because they they they thought it was too indifferent yeah because you didn't care enough yeah because they're like oh wow like I grew into this space of like no I think if no matter what happens like it's open for discussion like I'm not absolutely Gonna Leave You but they wanted something and I'm also not jealousy stay right because they almost feel like it's either both sides of commitment you're either commit or you're not coming what is it but it's like but it means so much though so transitioning away from like the young mentality of like absolutes if you skip that part and you just get rid of the attitude as a whole you're gonna lose both ends so it's more like oh let's just fix one side through experience and then not necessarily do this you know
9:16 it's hard to remember that yeah yeah it's not easy to be dumb around you is it no because I want to just take a stand and just like make a hot take and then you're gonna bring all this Nuance I'm like oh ████ yeah I didn't think about it that way too much critical thinking ████ that ████ it's easy to look why are you so thoughtful dude because everyone hey um eye-opening moments was uh like my parents obviously got divorced when I was like six so I never really had that like wholesome a couple role model or like how people show affection and
10:07 affectionate not people like they they they usually have some sort of role model that they naturally like okay that's what love is or whatever that was it for my grandparents that was my my uh my mom's side where every time I went back to Taiwan like they're like the cutest little couple and they would like take walks in the park and you would see like my grandma holding my grandpa and like looking at birds and talking and like the way my grandpa like uh was such a gentleman was my grandma like I was just like oh ████ I think that's like how it's supposed to be and it's very like almost Disney and chivalrous and I was like I'm a spider to be that and then so I thought they were the perfect couple then when my grandma got Alzheimer's she started saying crazy ████ because um and Things From the Past would come out and then so she would just like
10:57 randomly come out of her bedroom and be like yes and all my grandpa was trying to do was like hey my grandma would have an episode you didn't ████ me enough and then one of the times like you ████ cheated on me oh my God damn [Music] my grandpa did work on a boat and she would go off to like she was a player sea man yeah and he was like you weren't on those ████ boats yet and I was like oh ████ and I think I was maybe like late teens early 20s but then you start to see like what was so beautiful like what it took I guess to become such a beautiful picture and how everything is oh isn't always like what it seems and people have their own struggles and yeah I don't put things on a pedestal because who knows what the real story was like Will and Jada exactly I was
11:48 like that I do a couple crazy dude damn yeah I just think for me trust is just so ████ wild like trust is the base layer to any relationship and if I lose that it's done like I can't get that back I feel like that's how I am that's the fire gone poof and I'm like oh I gotta I can't I can't be here anymore because I think the reason why somebody would cheat or something like that would be understandable and you could take fault and be like yeah for sure but you still went out of your way to hide and and not be truthful so like at a certain point in time it's hard for at least for me to be like I I can't ignore that no like I kind of look at people differently like I respect I've had friends who like cheated on their girls and then I'd be like bro I can't even look at you the same same bro like to the poor to the point high-fiving them it's like yeah yeah you're talking about yeah I never talked to him again I I distance myself and just like I mean
12:39 like I said the the wife probably thinks I'm the biggest ████ ever because there's ghosted them but I didn't know what else to do I couldn't be a liar to her yeah because she was my friend too yeah guilty like a like a cooperator yeah and I was I was a total accomplice like he was doing it in my place and I was like what the ████ do I do yeah it was like you're an accomplished yeah but I didn't I thought it was a bit like I thought it was a bit like the way he talked about it I saw it crazy this dude was just gonna bring a chick over from Craigslist I was like yeah of course you are that's funny because he would do those lines with his wife in the room all the ████ time yeah they were real yeah he's a guilty he's ████ saying it out loud constantly just like taking some of the pressure out or whatever but yeah I couldn't deal with it wow sometimes when we're watching movies or like TV shows and I'm watching with my girl she's always like and if like the character is like cheating or doing something sneaky she was like if you ever do some ████ like that and you'll find out what happens
13:30 she just always says that but it's like she's like it's like a we do it's like I get threatened all the time too it's dancer that's a live side sexy to hear sometimes it is she's right and you keep ████ around you you ever do some ████ like that you're gonna see what happens to your sleep trying to find out she's like she's like I'm gonna get you I never even see you ████ around nah bro I've seen you ████ around I ████ around with boys hey low-key low-key there was a there's a point in time oh this is gonna sound super susque so the kids would say but yeah there's a certain point inside yeah there's a certain point time where Tiff was actually worried that like I would cheat on her with a dude she's like I see you spending all those hours at Jiu Jitsu rolling around with men nah
14:20 I was like for real that was crazy she thought you were a gay boy Nick's like for real I know how'd you know that that was uh like sort of likely you step on that neck step on that neck give me a little bit step you're gonna cheat with a man it was more of like a bit more than anything it was like an ongoing Oh I thought it was real what I wish it was real it was it was like serious enough where at certain points I didn't know if she was serious or not you know she was on to you and she's ████ I was playing mind games with you yeah yeah exactly like they have an Alabama straight back and only use it once yeah she's good at that happen bro there's a ghost in this ████ ████ bottle just ████ went down by itself and it spinning I saw a movement but I don't know where
15:11 did you bump the table bro I saw a replay on the live it's it just fell on its own you bumped the table down there I did yeah the energy is too good ghost of ████ water bottle because the Kiev dude but yeah tip always gives me reminders she goes in your sleep she's like I'm gonna get you in your sleep if you keep ████ I was like yeah she counted and you should say you're accidental let me ask you this is the the history of cheating affect you your trust currently it's hard to ignore maybe like let's say you never knew a story that your girl told you and she just goes like oh yeah I cheated on like three exes oh yeah that would be interesting but former relationship yeah yeah does that affect today's trust nah I think a giant bomb secret like you might be like whoa but you know a ████ I knew from a jump when you were young and it's something that wasn't a bomb but it was like oh that was a poor
16:02 choice uh-huh I don't think it's good like if she cheated on her ex with her ex's brother that's kind of a bomb dude I did I don't so I had a similar thing with Nikki like straight man wise Nikki was straight man to me because I told her all the stories about me getting revenge on like on like people who wronged me like my ex-friend and ████ like that yeah people who have wronged yeah how dare they how dare they exactly just make a whole list like the hardcore Revenge though right so um she actually like was pretty um in the early early months of our relationship she was like she's like you know there is a part of me that just thinks like are you getting revenge on your ex because she really didn't want you to to hook up with me you know like yeah yeah yeah I don't think she really like a phantom motivation yeah but she played it
16:52 straight enough like for a couple for a couple weeks that you had to address it yeah I was like wait is this real hey what's going on here and then yeah so no it's all good she played it straight for weeks yeah well she kept she kept hitting me with like a little bit about it like little playful pokes you know and I was like but it's not my game for you because you're like wait do you really think that though yeah exactly because you're like whoa I really love you though this is crazy like no no it's not like that but like our relationship was so hot and heavy and so quick like it was like I was already like inside making like nine days later let's go let's go [Applause] JK was ████ crazy like I could see it from the side and in the bottle just fall by itself it's because he hit the table he said no dude it just went like this it felt slow
17:44 motion though it's still slow motion look it felt slow motion that was so weird I couldn't do it again that one's almost falling over thank you guys for joining us thank you for joining us [Applause] bye-bye everything [Music]
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